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As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please.  |
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Personally as a straight woman with no agenda I think you look great. It's obvious to me from your pictures that you're conscious of your tummy but if it was as big as *you* think it is it would notice in your photos and it genuinely doesn't.
I think that nobody will even notice it at the club and I hope you have a really good time  |
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can’t say we really pay attention to that, somebody is either attractive to us or they’re not and we definitely prefer a curvy figure
We’ve found people at clubs are not judgy at all, there’s every kind of size and shape imaginable too. |
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Wow! Wasn’t expecting that many replies and I really appreciate it, obviously photos can lie alot and my stomach certainly isn’t that flat when I stand up and that is what I worry about! But thank you everyone x |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
Tbf people in Clubs are never judgemental. I've meet and seen women of all shapes and sizes and cannot remember overhearing ant derogatory comments. As other have said you look fantastic and anyone who is that picky your better off rid. I know some people have "types" and that's fair enough but I wouldn't let that stop you enjoying yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get put off by any one particular body part as attraction goes way deeper than that and it's about the whole person - and that includes their personality.
As for you OP, I'd hardly say that you have a tummy. You're hot just as you are.
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"Wow! Wasn’t expecting that many replies and I really appreciate it, obviously photos can lie alot and my stomach certainly isn’t that flat when I stand up and that is what I worry about! But thank you everyone x"
People are telling you you look great but you're still pointing out what you perceive to be your flaws. Until you believe in yourself you're not going to believe anyone else.
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"Wow! Wasn’t expecting that many replies and I really appreciate it, obviously photos can lie alot and my stomach certainly isn’t that flat when I stand up and that is what I worry about! But thank you everyone x"
I'm the same about my stomach, I just wear lingerie that makes it less obvious so I feel comfortable (see pics). It's not been an issue as big an issue as I thought it might be though and clubs are full of different body shapes and sizes. You have some lovely pics. |
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over a year ago
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I am a gym person and I find your figure attractive. Your pictures are amazing. I used to have so many body hang ups until i started swinging. Being around lots of different people naked helps with confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a chunky belly; again after a c section  it sometimes gets me down but I find men (and women) on here who I meet put me at ease and give me more confidence! I'd love to have a flat stomach but it'll never happen lol xx |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"I have a chunky belly; again after a c section it sometimes gets me down but I find men (and women) on here who I meet put me at ease and give me more confidence! I'd love to have a flat stomach but it'll never happen lol xx"
.. trust me you look hot.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel similar, especially as someone who was skinny before kids. However it's never been a problem for me on here with guys I've met/messaged and I've met older, younger, fitter, fatter
You look great |
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You look amazing OP. Also a c section bigger tummy disliker here. But you will find that clubs will make you feel great and give you lots of confidence it’s great. Put on some gorgeous lingerie and enjoy. X |
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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago
High Wycombe |
I think us C section/more than just 2 children mums all feel the same: I hate my stomach after 4 kids, sections etc. As others have said, flattering underwear that hides the bits you don’t like and gives you a boost makes you feel less self conscious in clubs. I have never played completely naked in a club for that reason. |
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Never, it's natural for a woman not to have a flat stomach, the curve of the tum is very sexy.
In the heat of the moment etc a partner is looking at the more obvious parts, I've had a few partners who were worried about showing tums/boobs/bum but in reality it never matters x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My experience has taught me on here that guys don’t care about tummies or any other jiggly bits for that matter x If you’re clean and you’re attracted to each other after conversations then the ‘reveal’ of a mummy tummy won’t break the deal x |
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You look gorgeous. I really wouldn't worry about people's opinions on your tummy. I gave up year's ago wondering if my body put people off. Everyone likes something different but a happy person who is confident and natural is the most fun . Enjoy your time .
Mrs V. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personaly i think you look great and may be overly self conscious? if you go clubs its great as once comfy you see all different shapes and sized people enjoying being around others no matter what shapes or sizes  |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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I don't have a preference in body shape or size. We all change body type as we get older, have kids (even me as a single parent), become intolorent of certain foods, that bloted feeling towards the end of the day, those wierd body noises as you get older which sound like internal farts.
You look fantastic, and I would welcome a message from you..
I'm waiting.....
Still waiting..... |
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In all honesty the size of someone’s tummy is not something that would ever put me off.
On one occasion I found someone’s paranoia/lack of confidence about their tummy off putting as they seemed to spend the entire time playing trying to hide it/cover it and it just took the focus off what we were there for and took all the impetus out of the playing.
Moral of the story is be yourself, love yourself as others don’t worry about your perceived flaws anywhere as much as you do/think they do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people it would, others it wouldn't. You can't control what others think of you but the general rule is, if it's something that really offends someone they just don't approach.
Club environments especially are actually one of the most least judgemental places. Most people embrace all shapes and sizes, confidence in any body type is sexy.
Embrace your body for what it is, flaws and all. I can promise you no one will ever be as unkind to you as you are to yourself. Relax, enjoy yourself and just be you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There will be people with different preferences which I thinks cool.
J is tummy shy as you can see by her pics not including any with her tum in them. She’s had kids and an emergency c section which has given her a mum tum. I love it and do love a curvy/BBW woman with a mum tum .
Im also very glad J is into men of all sizes as I have quite a bit more then a dad bod when we talk stomachs. Im so self conscious it’s unreal and is why up till this point there’s still no pics of me on our profile. There definitely will be but I just hate everyone we take.
J would maybe share pics with her tummy in with friends but definitely don’t think she would want to do public ones. Never say never though. |
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
Mr here. I can't speak for all men but I absolutely love women who are soft and have curves, mum tums the lot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
I love real women and all that life gives them. Bring it on  |
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Mrs has a Mum Tum too. We know it's not for everyone but it's never been a problem for anyone we've met.
You're not far in the scheme of things, get in touch if you'd like to talk more/meet up for a social etc in the future. |
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I have a big tummy…. And it’s taken me many years to realize this is me and be happy with me…. I mean, I could live on a diet and pay for a tummy tuck but I love food and would rather spend my money on other stuff.. like food lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with a mum tum, I think any man who has witnessed a birthing process or woman that has went threw one should look at it as a badge of honor!
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The Mrs is overly body conscious ( imo). It's takes her a cpl of hours sometimes in a club for her to relax.
Me, well I've got what I think they call a dad bod. I just think f""k it and talk to anyone. You will occasionally cum across ppl that turn thier noses up, but at the end of the day they're not the ppl for you.  |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
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"The Mrs is overly body conscious ( imo). It's takes her a cpl of hours sometimes in a club for her to relax.
Me, well I've got what I think they call a dad bod. I just think f""k it and talk to anyone. You will occasionally cum across ppl that turn thier noses up, but at the end of the day they're not the ppl for you. "
Pack in worrying mrs just x |
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Also a mum of 4 and feel conscious of my tummy area but I find that it's definitely MY issue rather than anyone else's. I choose outfits based on hiding what im not particularly fond of so that i feel more confident.
Our 1st club visit I was convinced I'd stand out, but I actually felt quite relaxed when we got there and there were people of all shapes and sizes.
Some people will have preferences on sizes etc which of course they are allowed but I haven't ever experienced a negative response directed at my size (I used to be bigger than I am now)
I guess everyone has insecurities of some degree. |
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When I was self conscious about my stomach I invested in some wide suspender belts that help to suck it all in. It's a good excuse to wear stockings and draw attention to areas you're happier with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ladies are lucky in regard to a range of very sexy outfits which will cover various areas of their body, should they so wish.
Sadly, I won't get away with looking sexy with a t-shirt kept on a little string vest.
Sexiness is a much what you look like to how you act to me though, confidence plays a big part. For what it is worth, I think you look great OP. |
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There is not a person alive that doesn't like something about their body, fat/thin big/small tall/short etc. The key to it is this, its yours, own it with confidence, love it for what it is, scars/lumps/bumps are all what have made you you. |
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By *heswingerMan
over a year ago
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
if this puts ppl off then they’re shallow and don’t deserve to meet you, it’s what’s under the skin that matters so don’t let it put you off, we all have things we don’t like |
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My hubby takes no notice of a woman's size, confidence, personality and connection is what attracts him.
I prefer a guy who looks after himself and state this on our profile, but I'll be honest, this has been overlooked if there is a connection and have had some great fun.
Just be yourself and don't be what you feel you should look like in this lifestyle, I made that mistake but now just think, this is me and if you don't like then, that's their prerogative. It would be a boring world if we all liked the same.
Enjoy and have the best fun ever xxx
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I can understand your apprehension about your larger stomach, OP, as I am also somewhat nervous about my own, mainly as I can get very bloated due to numerous stomach and intestinal ailments. I do try to manage it where I can, but it sure dents my self esteem some days. However, I'm trying to accept myself for ‘what’ I am and focusing more on ‘who’ I am, as that has been giving me more optimism and opportunities for having a good time, especially recently.
Either way, OP, I think you look stunning and I'm sure you're stunning in person too. Hope that helps |
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
There certainly isn't anything wrong with your body you look absolutely stunning.
I have to say congratulations on your kids.
I'm sure they are a credit to you both. |
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By *J nudeCouple
over a year ago
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
Think you have a lovely figure. We have come to the conclusion that alot of people on here put too much on looks and not on the person in side. Don't know what people think but has to be a connection with others and get on socially before anything else. |
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
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We've had great times over the years with a fair few different shapes and sizes. Our desire to have fun with them has little to do with size and shape. First because we are attracted (and likewise not attracted) to people of different builds and mainly our desire stems from the chemistry present when we meet people. And I guess we could say that's probably been the same for the people who've had good times with us, we're not small people.
I think from the things we've seen from other over the years is this is the same for lots of people. Obviously people will only be with people they're attracted to but you find surprising size and shape doesn't seem to be the driving factor in what makes people want to fuck each other on the whole. Character and personality are the King factors.
So our advise would be try to discard your worries and hangups. These are more disadvantageous to you pulling than your belly is. Just concentrate on being confident, owning yourselves and letting your personality shine through unhindered however in shape or not you are. |
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For us it's not about size or shape... although we do like shapes and sizes similar to our own... common ground is more important then visual stuff... we both work hard to stay visually in shape... which gets harder the older we get |
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You have found yourself in one of the most welcoming and accepting communities, where people simply don't care about such things. From my own experience, I can confidently say that women with curves have more fun. |
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I've had 4 sections myself, and have the flap. Nothing I can do about it. I accept it, and so dose my fella. I've not had any issues from playmates. I live the swinging life to the full. It's part of me and my story. |
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"I have a chunky belly; again after a c section it sometimes gets me down but I find men (and women) on here who I meet put me at ease and give me more confidence! I'd love to have a flat stomach but it'll never happen lol xx"
Same here the only people that are bothered about our tummies are us...good lingerie helps to boost your confidence. |
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
Personally it really wouldn’t bother me at all, as for your figure I think you look gorgeous. Beautiful, sensual curves. Embrace them, I’d love to |
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"As the title says really, would a larger stomach put you off someone?
Due to 4 children and all of them c section, I have a tummy and I’m really not happy with it at the min (Working on it, eating well, PT, gym, walking etc but taking its time )
But what I really want to know is whether a larger stomach would put you off someone especially if you’re fit/toned yourself?
We are new to the scene and will be visiting our second club but I worry about how my stomach must look all the time to the point I feel I wouldn’t dare approach/message some people/couples for that reason alone.
I see couples/men on here that we like but i think ‘oh god her/his body is amazing she/he won’t like me I won’t message’
This post isn’t meant to offend anyone and is only about myself. Private message if you’d rather but I’d like honest opinions on it please. "
No it wouldn't |
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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago
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You look great
I really don't like my tummy after having kids (both were big babies) I'm very self conscious of it,but guys I've met are not bothered by it in the slightest
They love curves so know what my body is generally going to be like, just something I'm getting used too and embracing my body shape |
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not at all is it a turn off, to be honest real bodies are more comfortable to be with. Were all shapes and sizes here.
Embrace it for now and enjoy yourself, swinging is about mutual fun, not you being perfect but for you to have as much fun as they are.
Personally seeing someone's face when they are satisfied is the icing on the cake. I love it |
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over a year ago
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I know how you feel, I’ve had four kids and my stomach is not what it used to be, I hate it and I will never get completely naked but I wear underwear that covers it and makes me feel more confident. I warn everyone I meet and they never have issues |
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I have massive fat stomach. Rest of me is big too.
Never stopped me meeting and playing with people. I think that the more attention you draw to it, the more attention it will get. Whether that is in positive or negative manner.
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