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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me 
My question is any other coupes the same? |
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Ours is the exact opposite but yes I understand what you are saying.
Tinder gets a thrill out of seeing me with another woman where I’m very meh about it the other way around.
What matters is that you find the dynamic that works for you and don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong or should be different
Marc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ours is the exact opposite but yes I understand what you are saying.
Tinder gets a thrill out of seeing me with another woman where I’m very meh about it the other way around.
What matters is that you find the dynamic that works for you and don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong or should be different
Marc"
Yeah exactly we are very secure in what we do and so should everyone as we are all on here for different things.
Just more of a curiosity than anything 
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same? "
We are the same! My hubby loves to watch and sometimes join in. I too can feel greedy as I'm having all the fun, but he swears this is, exactly what he wants |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
As long as your hubby is happy playing that way ,thats all that matters.
It wouldn't be for me as i like watching my partner with other women.
Its not antbody elses business how you play ,as long as it works for you both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same?
We are the same! My hubby loves to watch and sometimes join in. I too can feel greedy as I'm having all the fun, but he swears this is, exactly what he wants "
I’m sure he is like mine and absolutely loves it. It’s great though knowing that I’m turning him on turns me on even more |
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We are the same. We found over the years that it was very rare to find a couple where everyone clicked sexually. Much easier to find a single who one of us likes. At the end of the day we both derive immense pleasure from seeing the other sexually satisfied and enjoying different sex to our normal living sex. As it is much easier to find single guys than girls we drifted into meeting guys for 3somes and we so enjoy that. Mr Lux will watch and wank and then join in . He loves it. We are lucky enough to also have a lady we play with who is bi so that works to allow Mr Lux to be naughty as well as me. It’s just so wonderful to see your partner taken to heights of pleasure by an accomplished lover. Mrs L xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We are the same. We found over the years that it was very rare to find a couple where everyone clicked sexually. Much easier to find a single who one of us likes. At the end of the day we both derive immense pleasure from seeing the other sexually satisfied and enjoying different sex to our normal living sex. As it is much easier to find single guys than girls we drifted into meeting guys for 3somes and we so enjoy that. Mr Lux will watch and wank and then join in . He loves it. We are lucky enough to also have a lady we play with who is bi so that works to allow Mr Lux to be naughty as well as me. It’s just so wonderful to see your partner taken to heights of pleasure by an accomplished lover. Mrs L xx"
Sounds brilliant  thanks for your inpute guys xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess if that's what you guys like them it's cool, you do what makes you both happy and if others don't like it they can move on to something they like."
Thanks..he certainly does.
I wouldn’t say they didn’t like it but were kind of shocked that’s what we like. We wouldn’t let anyone sway us but just interested in other people’s thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same? "
Exactly the same as our dynamic. Hubby has joined in in the odd MFM but he gets his kicks from me being promiscuous, and all that’s involved.
We tried a social event and although everyone was lovely, it was pretty pointless as most people lost interest in us immediately when they realised we don’t play as a couple x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same?
Exactly the same as our dynamic. Hubby has joined in in the odd MFM but he gets his kicks from me being promiscuous, and all that’s involved.
We tried a social event and although everyone was lovely, it was pretty pointless as most people lost interest in us immediately when they realised we don’t play as a couple x"
Yeah we got that too..as much as it would be nice to meet couple friends we tend to stick to single men now X |
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same? "
Exactly how we play too.
Mr M |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We’re exactly the same but the other way round! I love seeing T with another woman and it turns me on no end but I’ve got no interest in other men and he has no desire to see me with other men. I think we’re really lucky that what we both want seems to be aligned perfectly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same?
Exactly how we play too.
Mr M"
So it’s not that unusual then lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’re exactly the same but the other way round! I love seeing T with another woman and it turns me on no end but I’ve got no interest in other men and he has no desire to see me with other men. I think we’re really lucky that what we both want seems to be aligned perfectly "
It is great when you are both into the same things |
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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
we are the same as you
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same? "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Kirsty loves to see or hear about me with other women. It's a huge turn on for her"
My husband is the same..and the sex afterwords it’s so intense. Love it |
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What happens if that changes? That he does want other women? Do you accept it and allow it or do you stop going with other men? Desires change and grow and couples in the scene have to know how to change together. Just wondering if that’s something you’ve discussed? |
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"What happens if that changes? That he does want other women? Do you accept it and allow it or do you stop going with other men? Desires change and grow and couples in the scene have to know how to change together. Just wondering if that’s something you’ve discussed? "
Yes we have discussed in depth what we are both wanting out of this and would if one of us ever felt uncomfortable in what we were doing it would stop. We have been with each other for over 20 years so be both know each other very well and have been doing this well before we joined fab.
Our desires have pretty much stayed the same in that time. |
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"Ours is the exact opposite but yes I understand what you are saying.
Tinder gets a thrill out of seeing me with another woman where I’m very meh about it the other way around.
What matters is that you find the dynamic that works for you and don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong or should be different
Marc
Yeah exactly we are very secure in what we do and so should everyone as we are all on here for different things.
Just more of a curiosity than anything
Thanks for your reply "
Used to have lots of people saying why do you share your partner, well, because we enjoyed it a lot and we didn’t care what others thought. We both enjoyed each other having fun so it was equal however many more wanted her than wanted me, that’s life! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ours is the exact opposite but yes I understand what you are saying.
Tinder gets a thrill out of seeing me with another woman where I’m very meh about it the other way around.
What matters is that you find the dynamic that works for you and don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong or should be different
Marc
Yeah exactly we are very secure in what we do and so should everyone as we are all on here for different things.
Just more of a curiosity than anything
Thanks for your reply
Used to have lots of people saying why do you share your partner, well, because we enjoyed it a lot and we didn’t care what others thought. We both enjoyed each other having fun so it was equal however many more wanted her than wanted me, that’s life! "
Exaclty.. as long as you both enjoying it and getting the same pleasure from it that the main thing |
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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago
Romford |
This is us also, I male have no interest in another woman as seeing Rane being pleasured is what does it for me and Rane receives no pleasure in seeing me with a woman so this works perfectly for us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is us also, I male have no interest in another woman as seeing Rane being pleasured is what does it for me and Rane receives no pleasure in seeing me with a woman so this works perfectly for us."
Sounds great |
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A lot of people that don’t really understand the lifestyle assume that it’s just partner swapping and nothing in between.
What we love is the fact theirs hundreds of different dynamics and for us it took us a while and some mistakes along the way to work out what exactly our dynamic was.
As long as your both happy then that’s all that matters. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot of people that don’t really understand the lifestyle assume that it’s just partner swapping and nothing in between.
What we love is the fact theirs hundreds of different dynamics and for us it took us a while and some mistakes along the way to work out what exactly our dynamic was.
As long as your both happy then that’s all that matters."
thank you and very true. We don’t take offence to people questioning us about our lifestyle we actually find it quite amusing if they ask if he feels he’s missing out or if he changes his mind… if only they new how much he enjoys it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have had a few people message us asking why my husband doesn’t like to go with other women and only watch/join in with me. It’s kind like they feel he is losing out somehow. We are very lucky we both are after the same thing on this as we have spoken about it and he said that he just loves seeing me and it really turns him on, especially when he joins in with me.
I get no sexual gratification the thought of him with another women like he does with me with another man.
Maybe I’m being greedy but that’s just the way he likes me
My question is any other coupes the same? "
We are exactly the same.
We always socialise with other couples at clubs but only ever play with single guys.
It’s just our thing and we’re very happy with it |
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