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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.  "
Can you explain what you mean about ur 'deaf person' as it sounds a bit brusqe, As if your saying there is something to fear or weary of ? Very odd post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
Can you explain what you mean about ur 'deaf person' as it sounds a bit brusqe, As if your saying there is something to fear or weary of ? Very odd post."
Not that odd, OP’s profile states that they are deaf and probably just wants to see what’s peoples opinions are on it.
It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest |
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance. "
I don’t think it would make a difference either way. I don’t know sign language but I’m sure I do know the the international signal for FAF? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
Can you explain what you mean about ur 'deaf person' as it sounds a bit brusqe, As if your saying there is something to fear or weary of ? Very odd post.
Not that odd, OP’s profile states that they are deaf and probably just wants to see what’s peoples opinions are on it.
It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest "
Maybe im being touchy then as a deaf person, just the way it comes across as if they have a disease. So its ok to ask " would you be ok with a hearing blind person ?" too. Just asking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe im being touchy then as a deaf person, just the way it comes across as if they have a disease. So its ok to ask " would you be ok with a hearing blind person ?" too. Just asking."
I think it’s probably natural that anyone would want to seek reassurance that something about themselves wouldn’t put other people off whatever that thing might be. I can understand why it might make someone else touchy about him has the same thing and doesn’t see it as an issue for them though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe im being touchy then as a deaf person, just the way it comes across as if they have a disease. So its ok to ask " would you be ok with a hearing blind person ?" too. Just asking.
I think it’s probably natural that anyone would want to seek reassurance that something about themselves wouldn’t put other people off whatever that thing might be. I can understand why it might make someone else touchy about him has the same thing and doesn’t see it as an issue for them though "
Be nice to hear his reply as he was asking and ive given a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"….touchy about him has the same thing and doesn’t see it as an issue for them though "
I really need to proof read messages before posting lol that was meant to be “touchy who has that same thing”
Ignore me, time to close my tired eyes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lets put this into context. There has been an ignorance and stigma of people who are deaf or hard of hearing since the dark ages. However It didnt bother millions Watching Strictly Come dancing and Rose Ayling-Elis actually winning it ! Sad but even though that broke barriers it seems that dancing was ok but now need to ask, sex n swinging with a deaf person, are you ok with that ? Madness !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lets put this into context. There has been an ignorance and stigma of people who are deaf or hard of hearing since the dark ages. However It didnt bother millions Watching Strictly Come dancing and Rose Ayling-Elis actually winning it ! Sad but even though that broke barriers it seems that dancing was ok but now need to ask, sex n swinging with a deaf person, are you ok with that ? Madness !!"
Obviously this thread and question has hit a nerve with you and I can understand why.
But in this case, the question appears to of come from another non hearing person and also seems to be seeking reassurance of something they probably already know.
I totally agree if it came from a hearing person the question wouldn’t be appropriate. Hopefully the answers show so far back up your reasoning that it shouldn’t be an issue though ? |
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"As in sign language, lip reading ect .."
my wife only lip reads and I always tell ppl we are talking to her to talk directly at her but we still get ppl trying to comunicate with her while looking away lol |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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I'll be honest I'd certainly have concerns to discuss, primarily because I sometimes struggle with communication styles because of my Autism and I'm not sure how my issues would impact.
So not a hard no, but I wouldn't meet someone I thought I'd struggle to communicate with because I'm not going to be compatible with someone who exacerbates my own communication issues.
Apologies if that upsets people |
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Wouldn't bother me. We were in the process of arranging for a meet with a deaf lady when she stopped answering us. It was something that she felt awkward about telling us and was worried about. We put her at ease, or so we thought, by messaging her at length to discuss what she was looking for and what we could do to help with her being deaf during our meet.  |
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By *ack2071 OP Man
over a year ago
bromsgrove |
I was asking for myself as do get self conscious about been deaf , yet i think we work harder to please .
Sorry if it sounded abrupt was not my intention but tbh a valid question though . Thanks for replying all of you |
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"I was asking for myself as do get self conscious about been deaf , yet i think we work harder to please .
Sorry if it sounded abrupt was not my intention but tbh a valid question though . Thanks for replying all of you"
Didn't sound abrupt, valid question that I hope people have answered to help ease any concerns you have |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
I can sign BSL to level 3 so communication with profoundly Deaf is no problems...
I do find the OP question slightly offensive as it is just a language and lifestyle to acquire.
You may as well ask "would you have sex / relationship with a Chinese person who didn't speak English?" There is nothing exotic or interesting about that, so why Deaf? |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I can sign BSL to level 3 so communication with profoundly Deaf is no problems...
I do find the OP question slightly offensive as it is just a language and lifestyle to acquire.
You may as well ask "would you have sex / relationship with a Chinese person who didn't speak English?" There is nothing exotic or interesting about that, so why Deaf?"
Oh the OP is Deaf! Ok well why do you ask? If you met someone who has a natural ability with visual (sign) language, then it's just a case of accepting and adjusting to y/our world?
I am 30-40% deaf, so defined as HoH (Hard of Hearing) and every boyfriend I've had, I've taught them basic BSL. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lets put this into context. There has been an ignorance and stigma of people who are deaf or hard of hearing since the dark ages. However It didnt bother millions Watching Strictly Come dancing and Rose Ayling-Elis actually winning it ! Sad but even though that broke barriers it seems that dancing was ok but now need to ask, sex n swinging with a deaf person, are you ok with that ? Madness !!
Obviously this thread and question has hit a nerve with you and I can understand why.
But in this case, the question appears to of come from another non hearing person and also seems to be seeking reassurance of something they probably already know.
I totally agree if it came from a hearing person the question wouldn’t be appropriate. Hopefully the answers show so far back up your reasoning that it shouldn’t be an issue though ?"
You are right and at first i thought it was from a hearing person, however i find it disappointing now i know he'd deaf that he needs that reassurance when it shouldnt be an issue. Hey ho were all made different, and react differently. Thanks for your own input im sure it will reassure him. For me i am what i am, and love being on here.
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"You are right and at first i thought it was from a hearing person, however i find it disappointing now i know he'd deaf that he needs that reassurance when it shouldnt be an issue. Hey ho were all made different, and react differently. Thanks for your own input im sure it will reassure him. For me i am what i am, and love being on here."
Your point made me think about the girly chats I have with my Asian girlfriends. Some girls prefer to date Asian guys (in OP's case another Deaf person) as you share the same language and more importantly... culture.
I prefer to date white guys as that is my physical preference but I also enjoy the cultural learning. This also cuts across gender differences. A lot of my gay male friends never understand women and can be sexist so I pick them up on it.
Some people stick with what they're comfortable with and need reassurance. Others like me enjoy making my life a "little less ordinary" |
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By *hadow_MoonMan
over a year ago
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I'm very hard of hearing and never thought that it may cause an issue. I suppose if I was on a meet and the other person didn't like the fact I wore hearing aids, then that would be disappointing but it wouldn't bother me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance. "
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing |
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Well, it’s not put people off meeting us. Not too sure what you think the problem would be? I can chat, laugh, sing, lip read and do everything else that I need to do in the bedroom, except hear properly. It’s never been an issue for us!  |
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing"
The OP is deaf, that's why he asked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, it’s not put people off meeting us. Not too sure what you think the problem would be? I can chat, laugh, sing, lip read and do everything else that I need to do in the bedroom, except hear properly. It’s never been an issue for us! "
How it should be Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing
The OP is deaf, that's why he asked."
Now who feels a dick.. that will teach me to go off half cooked
Sorry buddy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing"
The Op is deaf, as i am completely deaf too. What disappoints me is he feels he has to ask, which suggests he doesnt feel confident people will accept him ! |
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing
The OP is deaf, that's why he asked.
Now who feels a dick.. that will teach me to go off half cooked
Sorry buddy"
That's a big spoon for a massive slice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing
The OP is deaf, that's why he asked.
Now who feels a dick.. that will teach me to go off half cooked
Sorry buddy
That's a big spoon for a massive slice "
Oh yes I am.eating humble pie big time.
Apologies again OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance.
WTAF.. are you for real. Does being deaf make them a freak.
I have noise induced hearing loss and severe tinnitus that I'm supposed to wear hearing aids for but I don't because eof the stigma of a 40 something man being deaf from people like you. Feel free to DM me
Admin I can't believe this has been allowed to stay up. Disappointing
The OP is deaf, that's why he asked.
Now who feels a dick.. that will teach me to go off half cooked
Sorry buddy
That's a big spoon for a massive slice
Oh yes I am.eating humble pie big time.
Apologies again OP"
Dont feel like that it was easy mistake to make the way he wrote it, i thought the same initially untill i read his profile. |
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I have bad hearing issues, im not deaf yet but it has taken me years to learn not to answer questions during sex as I don't know what I am answering.
I can't say I have had any issues in swinging with it, although other people say I am loud and obnoxious. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Dont feel like that it was easy mistake to make the way he wrote it, i thought the same initially untill i read his profile."
Well as we know in the Deaf (cap D) community is the identity can be proud or blurred. So some call it the BSL community as it's the beautiful language that unites us.
With young people being coerced by hearing parents to undergo cochlear implant surgery...
OP, embrace your deafness as something to be proud of... If people have problems with it, you really don't have the time or energy to deal with their prejudice... |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
do people turn people down for wearing glasses ?? no so the no different with deafness most wear hearing aids and if someone is completely deaf then as long as i knew before hand then it makes no difference ...there a deaf guy who vists a club we use who has speech problems as well as deaf and hes always popular and i dont mean just social hes alway kit off with somebody so no makes no difference |
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As long as the person was what we were interested in it wouldn't matter if they are deaf. It's just being aware and being able to properly communicate our needs and wants and there needs and wants. For example do you have a small whiteboard with pens within reach if something you want more of of something you don't like |
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Yes I would, I have hearing problems myself, I don’t tell anyone as I’m ok if I’m speaking face to face I do struggle if they are facing away or there is a lot of background noise as I chose not to wear my hearing aid. The only time I would mention it is if they are to softly spoken. |
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i have a deaf friend on this site and we have spoke about playing many times but it never happened, her hearing issues were one of the first things i knew about them. It's the brain and interpersonal chemistry i find most important. |
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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago
Hayling Island |
No reason why not. Only thing I'd do differently is spend more time sexting and chatting beforehand, to establish what they want and like and where their limits and red lines are. Unfortunately I cannot sign  so communication before a meet would be even more important than normal... |
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"No reason why not. Only thing I'd do differently is spend more time sexting and chatting beforehand, to establish what they want and like and where their limits and red lines are. Unfortunately I cannot sign so communication before a meet would be even more important than normal..."
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"Basically would any of you swing with a deaf person if you new in advance. "
why not ?? we are are all different and human beings in need of love and companionship,, either long term or short quick meets,,,i know 2 deaf ladies from the non fab world and its just a case of learning to talk to them face to face if they lip read or find another way to chat,,,  they are normal people its all about love and respect,,,  |
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