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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ...  |
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I'm not even a mum and I have silver tiger stripes. I have never once looked at someone's stripes, whether they're discreet silver ones or vibrant purple ones, and thought "Gross." They're just part of the overall rather than a focus.
Some people might find them unattractive, it's all a matter of personal preference and choice. I don't appeal to everyone, and that's okay. I can still feel hot and be attractive to the people who are drawn to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m very self conscious of them. Had a few very harsh comments from people on here we’ve messaged which has knocked my confidence hugely. I try and cover up as much as possible now. Makes me feel more comfortable. |
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"How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ... "
Don't worry about your mum tum you look gorgeous and it's sexy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have the mum tum and silver stripes. They do stress me out because I worry that they're off putting and I'm always conscious of them  But I'm not for everyone and that's ok
Em"
As a man I’d like a six pack all year and at least to be leaned and toned. I work a lot and control what I eat to stay in shape. But regarding mum tums I often see people cover them up or put one hand across to hide them when exposed. I’ve always found them quite sexy and as for the tiger stripes they look pretty cool, but I wouldn’t like them on my own body so get your point. How can I appreciate them on other people but not on myself hhhhmmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ... "
I think most woman has a body issue of some description, boob size, tiger stripes, curved etc.
Granted everyone has preferences for what there attracted to, but for someone to put you down for it says more about that person rather than the person having the tiger stripes or whatever ever there hang up.
Personally I love curves as everyone is different and these sites are about variety and exploring (I love exploring my ladies curves regularly!), And while my lady doesn't like her tiger stripes personally I like it when she doesn't hide them. |
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By *rDxxMan
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me about mum tum and tiger stripes , I have abit of a dad bod and that knocks confidence a little when your seeing ripped guys but at the end of the day no one is perfect and we all have our insecurity,but in the end does it really matter ? As long as you have a good time and the person your playing with makes you feel comfortable thats what's important  |
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"I have the mum tum and silver stripes. They do stress me out because I worry that they're off putting and I'm always conscious of them But I'm not for everyone and that's ok
Em
As a man I’d like a six pack all year and at least to be leaned and toned. I work a lot and control what I eat to stay in shape. But regarding mum tums I often see people cover them up or put one hand across to hide them when exposed. I’ve always found them quite sexy and as for the tiger stripes they look pretty cool, but I wouldn’t like them on my own body so get your point. How can I appreciate them on other people but not on myself hhhhmmmm"
Your worst critic is always yourself |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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My skin is so bad at the moment my stretch marks are the least of my worries.
They've never bothered me anyway as someone who doesn't realise a body growing a human has to stretch isn't someone I'd want to spend time with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have the mum tum and silver stripes. They do stress me out because I worry that they're off putting and I'm always conscious of them But I'm not for everyone and that's ok
Em
As a man I’d like a six pack all year and at least to be leaned and toned. I work a lot and control what I eat to stay in shape. But regarding mum tums I often see people cover them up or put one hand across to hide them when exposed. I’ve always found them quite sexy and as for the tiger stripes they look pretty cool, but I wouldn’t like them on my own body so get your point. How can I appreciate them on other people but not on myself hhhhmmmm
Your worst critic is always yourself "
true for us all, i second you looking amazing there |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't have tiger stripes but my skin is starting to look crepey. It hasn't affected my confidence as such but I'm less willing to show my body to other people nowadays. "
My hands and forearms have started to go crepey since my stomach problems started.
I think I'm dehydrating. |
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"I don't have tiger stripes but my skin is starting to look crepey. It hasn't affected my confidence as such but I'm less willing to show my body to other people nowadays.
My hands and forearms have started to go crepey since my stomach problems started.
I think I'm dehydrating."
I'm just old  . I'm not going to start covering my arms up though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't worry about this stuff - its the media that makes people feel that way, actual human beings don't notice it or care about it because most people are decent and not obsessed with so called beauty & perfection.
None of us live in a glossy magazine, and you're all beautiful. Personally I find things like mum tums, and bodies that have experienced life, really sexy.
I also like very fit, toned etc too so y'know what, it dunt matter! |
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"I don't have tiger stripes but my skin is starting to look crepey. It hasn't affected my confidence as such but I'm less willing to show my body to other people nowadays.
My hands and forearms have started to go crepey since my stomach problems started.
I think I'm dehydrating."
But could dehydration play a part? I never drink water |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't have tiger stripes but my skin is starting to look crepey. It hasn't affected my confidence as such but I'm less willing to show my body to other people nowadays.
My hands and forearms have started to go crepey since my stomach problems started.
I think I'm dehydrating."
easy one to solve! love the username btw
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a BBW, I was extremely body conscious before meeting my partner and soulmate. But he gave me such amazing confidence in the way he loves all my lumps, bumps and wobbly bits even down to a scar left be emergency surgery when I was younger. Since being together and getting into the scene, I have let my inhibitions stay well behind me and I wear the body I carry without my previous doubts in my appearance. I think all women of all shapes, sizes and battle scars should simply be proud of themselves and unique individuality... Disclaimer;..Other options are available elsewhere..etc  |
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"I’m very self conscious of them. Had a few very harsh comments from people on here we’ve messaged which has knocked my confidence hugely. I try and cover up as much as possible now. Makes me feel more comfortable. "
Anyone messaging harsh comments should take a long, hard look at themselves and consider what this lifestyle is about. If your personality involves criticising others then maybe it's not for you.
You shouldn't have to cover up to make yourself more comfortable but equally you shouldn't worry about anything that you do to make yourself feel better. We're all imperfect, some of us more than others, and we're all our worst critics. Some lady friends were commenting the other week at a club how fabulous some of the larger ladies looked in some revealing outfits and wished they had their confidence.
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I'm very fat, with huge tum, smallish boobs and very prominent veins on my legs (which I hate)
But I'm almost 50, and this body has got me all this way. It's got me though manic depression, crash dieting, spinal fusion, kidney and gall bladder surgery, abuse, 14hr shifts,and far too much food and booze.
So, I decided to just give myself a break, love it, accept it and enjoy life.
And it doesn't stop people wanting to meet me either. |
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I'm very self conscious about mine. But when I go for a high-waisted undergarment or easy access bodysuit I try to think of it as enhancing my curves rather than hiding my imperfections. Luckily I haven't had any nasty comments about my body on here, but I'm so terrified of being trolled. That's why I have my clothes size and describe myself as having a mum-bod on our profile - so you know what you're getting with me straight off the bat. My pics are from flattering angles that make me feel good about myself, but without being misleading.
I know I'm not going to be for everyone, and not everyone will be for me. Still learning to embrace what I've got.
Beth x |
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"How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ... "
I'm a bit conscious about mine, although slowly getting better with it, it doesn't bother me on others and I barely notice it either so I'm unsure why I'm so conscious about my own?!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all your lovely messages, it reassuring knowing it’s not just me. Mr L loves every inch of me and that’s tho most important thing to remember . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like the amazing things our bodies can do, and survive, and the visual reminders of those.
With a relaxed person, and in an environment where it's not weird to talk about personal histories, tracing scars and stripes with fingers and tounges while chatting can be lovely.  |
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"I like the amazing things our bodies can do, and survive, and the visual reminders of those.
With a relaxed person, and in an environment where it's not weird to talk about personal histories, tracing scars and stripes with fingers and tounges while chatting can be lovely. "
What a fantastic description |
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No one is perfect. Yes there are men and women with near "perfect" bodies but we all have preferences and beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. And those who have perfect bodies normally have other flaws and it is the whole package that counts long term. My girl friend has double smiley faces from 2 x C-sections that she hates but I honestly have never noticed them.
If someone doesn't like your looks then they should just move on. If they comment on any flaws then they have revealed their own MASSIVE flaw! |
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"My girl friend has double smiley faces from 2 x C-sections"
What a lovely way to describe c-section scars I actually love my cesarean scars and wouldn't mind showing them off. But I got the belly afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no such thing as perfection. And what people find attractive or not differs from person to person. So love yourself and be confident. Nothing sexier than a confident but humble woman. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had you asked that question before me and my partner started on here....I would have been self conscious...however now...my confidence has soared...I'm not perfect, I don't have the perfect body...I have tiger stripes, scars, cellulite....but if people don't like it....don't look...don't comment...what's it going to achieve. I've embraced who I am! |
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I absolutely love a soft tummy on a woman  stretch marks are natural, whether a mum or not.
I really used to dislike mine, but nice lingerie and going to clubs have definitely helped my confidence with it. And to just embrace it!
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"I really used to dislike mine, but nice lingerie and going to clubs have definitely helped my confidence with it.
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Good to hear.
Men get it too, from heavy rucksacks etc. it’s just one of those things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have kids, but I have scars, and blobby bits that I worry about. I once had sex with a woman who had psoriasis and was SO worried about it. It changed nothing for me, I was aware of it, and I would’ve noticed even if she hadn’t mentioned it before we took our clothes off, but she was such a lovely sexy person, it
Just
Didn’t
Matter
I hope other people think like me, but unfortunately that’s not always the case. |
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"How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ... "
I'm self conscious about it, but don't let it stop me. I just flop it out. It's more obvious when I'm sat in my wheelchair, unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Clubs are amazing for body confidence which is why we prefer dress down clubs. The female form is so sexy regardless of shape, stretch marks, wobbly bits, big tits, small tits, large labia, blemishes, scars and gravity challenged parts.
Every single one looks different, feels different, moves different and it's the new experience of each and every body and personality that keeps us coming back.
Stay gorgeous ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, one thing I (Black) learned from my club days was that nobody cares.
There will always be someone bigger or more wobbly than you, and nobody bats an eyelid. Life's too short to worry about what anybody else might think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate my body and not just my stomach.
I do worry that as my photos don't really show it people could be disappointed when they meet me but I'm adamant it's not going to hold me back anymore |
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"How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ... "
I look how I look, I have silver stretch marks, a mum "pouch", some cellulite, wobbly bits and my boobs aren't as perky as they used to be. Tough. |
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"How many of you have worries about your mum tum and not so perfect skin. It's a huge confidence boost to walk Into a club feeling great but sometimes it's quite daunting when you have those tiger stripes etc. Does it bother you if you see it in someone else and would it put you off? ... "
we don't do clubs
we love mum tums and stretch marks, scars, or whatever, they are just all part of being real to us.
Perfect people's bodies don't really do it for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Absolutely despised my body before I joined fab and started going to the clubs. Wouldn’t go as far as to say I like it now but I definitely don’t worry or feel insecure like I used to! I have a mum tum and stretch marks and I get nothing but compliments so pretty sure it’s not a big deal to most. Obviously there’ll be people that don’t like it (personal preference) but so what? Xx |
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I have the tum and the stripes but not a parent. I dislike my stomach and the way it looks so do try to cover it if I can as I feel more confident that way. It's definitely hard not to compare myself to others and feel self conscious about being larger but Mr R finds me sexy. Going to clubs and seeing the different body shapes, ages etc I've realised there's quite the variety out there. I just need to try and worry less about what everyone else thinks. Easier said than done though lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning mummy tummy lover here nothing sexier than seeing a lady showing off her mum tum from small to bigger tums with it without tiger stripes. Can’t wait for the summer to get here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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C worries about her silver stripes and mum tum but there’s nothing to worry about! I couldn’t care less about stretch marks and mum tum, we’ve all got wobbly bits and should embrace them
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This worries me the most, feeling so self-conscious about my tummy. S always tells me not to but mum bods have always been negatively viewed in social media so it's hard to break the conditioning.
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"I'm not even a mum and I have silver tiger stripes. I have never once looked at someone's stripes, whether they're discreet silver ones or vibrant purple ones, and thought "Gross." They're just part of the overall rather than a focus.
Some people might find them unattractive, it's all a matter of personal preference and choice. I don't appeal to everyone, and that's okay. I can still feel hot and be attractive to the people who are drawn to me "
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I think you all look amazing and shouldn't care what others think. I know its not that easy though. I for one wouldn't even notice or care, I'd just be thinking turned on I'd be which all these sexy girls around. X |
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I don't have stripes, but do have the flap, as I've had 4 sections. Theres nothing I can do about it. It's the way my children came into the world. I'm comftable in my own body. If others don't like it, find someone else to play with. |
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over a year ago
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It absolutely doesn't bother me one jot on another woman, I genuinely rarely notice.
On myself, yes I absolutely hate them. My stomach area looks ugly because of an operation scar and stretch marks, and I'm.so self conscious about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But could dehydration play a part? I never drink water "
Oh my goodness 
Please start then. I can’t emphasise enough how important it is to hydrate your body, especially as we get older.
When you say never do you really mean never? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On someone else- love it if it doesn’t look out of place.
Personally for me as I have mum tummy hate it. I’m very jealous on other females they can wear two pieces and not feel ashamed or worried about other people looks,if I would do it..well I would sit in changing room all night..
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"It absolutely doesn't bother me one jot on another woman, I genuinely rarely notice.
On myself, yes I absolutely hate them. My stomach area looks ugly because of an operation scar and stretch marks, and I'm.so self conscious about it."
You look great xx |
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We all have bits we don't like.
Getting naked in public is like public speaking... everyone is there for the same reasons so when someone enters the stage....nobody cares it is what it is chill be happy with your self not what you imagine others may be thinking. I bet it's not about you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got stretchmarks as a teen on my legs and hated them- as a mum now I have them on my belly, hips, boobs.. I don't care
If a man will make you feel uncomfortable because you have tiger stripes or a mum tum, he isn't worth it 
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I have been reading these comments hiding and wincing at the thought, some peoples experiences definitely don't not represent the majority of us guys. I guarantee most of us see nothing wrong with the way a woman looks, everyone has some beauty in them. People are just different and have preferences sure. I know a lot of guys that like the mum tum and tiger stripes as you call them op.
For me it is a perfectly natural look and an attractive one at that |
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