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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Got a party organised for this Saturday, got four genuine fab couples confirmed, one single fab bi girl, and two fab straight guys.
The ladies are here on Fab stating they are looking for party invites/adult parties on their profiles, but still its the age old problem of getting a reply. Thankfully some have restored the faith & replied stating other commitments, but not many takers?
Anyone else been successful in inviting single ladies along to parties? I can appreciate it must be daunting, I only attended my first one on NYE, so I understand it could be nerve racking for a single girl, but why would you put it down as an interest?
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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Because women have to be more cautious? Or feel they do. I wouldn't go to a party or club as a single woman (although I know many do) because I would feel intimidated. I would want someone there I knew to keep an eye on things for me. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I've been to a couple of parties as a single girl, but in the first instance I'd been to the previous party with a friend and in the second instance, the hosts had been at the party I was at as a single (if that makes sense...) I'd def go as single to any friend's party, and I'd poss go to strangers parties if someone I knew was going to be there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because women have to be more cautious? Or feel they do. I wouldn't go to a party or club as a single woman (although I know many do) because I would feel intimidated. I would want someone there I knew to keep an eye on things for me. "
Good points! And safety always has to be the primary concern of course. I guess I just need to find the ones that do attend alone to mix the numbers up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been to a couple of parties as a single girl, but in the first instance I'd been to the previous party with a friend and in the second instance, the hosts had been at the party I was at as a single (if that makes sense...) I'd def go as single to any friend's party, and I'd poss go to strangers parties if someone I knew was going to be there "
Yeah that makes perfect sense of course. I suppose it makes life easier if there's a friendly face or two |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been to a couple of parties as a single girl, but in the first instance I'd been to the previous party with a friend and in the second instance, the hosts had been at the party I was at as a single (if that makes sense...) I'd def go as single to any friend's party, and I'd poss go to strangers parties if someone I knew was going to be there "
She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?
I am in no way saying the OP would do this.
Also not being funny, as I enjoy house parties; but if I want to meet a couple, I'll find a couple, if I want to meet a single bloke I will find a single bloke.
Your idea of 'decent couples and single men' will certainly not match with my idea
sounds very negative, however it is only my pov and meant as food for thought  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect that the majority of single females would not attend a party where they'd not met anyone. To be honest we'd be wary of doing that as a couple.
If you go to clubs and socails and get a reputation for being reliable and trustworthy far more people will be receptive to invites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldnt go to a party on my own, but then i dont say on my profile i will, i cant think of anything worse than walking inot a house full of stranger alone, even more so if its full of other people who all know each other
I get loads of invites but i always send a polite thanks for the offer but no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suspect that the majority of single females would not attend a party where they'd not met anyone. To be honest we'd be wary of doing that as a couple.
If you go to clubs and socails and get a reputation for being reliable and trustworthy far more people will be receptive to invites."
Yeah I suppose attending a party alone could be a strange experience. I guess I just expected more of a response.
And I'm working on building the kudos, great advice on getting known within the scene I reckon, I'm working on that haha
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been to a couple of parties as a single girl, but in the first instance I'd been to the previous party with a friend and in the second instance, the hosts had been at the party I was at as a single (if that makes sense...) I'd def go as single to any friend's party, and I'd poss go to strangers parties if someone I knew was going to be there
She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?
I am in no way saying the OP would do this.
Also not being funny, as I enjoy house parties; but if I want to meet a couple, I'll find a couple, if I want to meet a single bloke I will find a single bloke.
Your idea of 'decent couples and single men' will certainly not match with my idea
sounds very negative, however it is only my pov and meant as food for thought "
And also just because they have parties as an interest it doesn't mean they have to go to every one they are invited to.....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldnt go to a party on my own, but then i dont say on my profile i will, i cant think of anything worse than walking inot a house full of stranger alone, even more so if its full of other people who all know each other
I get loads of invites but i always send a polite thanks for the offer but no thanks"
Glad to hear that you send the polite reply declining the invite though, very refreshing |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Well I have been to and would go to parties on my own, but without a nice selection of single blokes there wouldn't be any point as I am not successful with couples.
Whats wrong with the party just being couples only? I assume there are some bi females in the group. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been to a couple of parties as a single girl, but in the first instance I'd been to the previous party with a friend and in the second instance, the hosts had been at the party I was at as a single (if that makes sense...) I'd def go as single to any friend's party, and I'd poss go to strangers parties if someone I knew was going to be there
She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?
I am in no way saying the OP would do this.
Also not being funny, as I enjoy house parties; but if I want to meet a couple, I'll find a couple, if I want to meet a single bloke I will find a single bloke.
Your idea of 'decent couples and single men' will certainly not match with my idea
sounds very negative, however it is only my pov and meant as food for thought
And also just because they have parties as an interest it doesn't mean they have to go to every one they are invited to.....
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No it doesn't sound negative & I value your point of view, its good to hear & the reason I posted.
Thanks for replying |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not particularly a fan of parties unless I know quite a few people there.
When there's only a few people at a party it's more uncomfortable saying that you don't want to play if you don't fancy anyone...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I have been to and would go to parties on my own, but without a nice selection of single blokes there wouldn't be any point as I am not successful with couples.
Whats wrong with the party just being couples only? I assume there are some bi females in the group."
Yes that's true there will be bi girls as part of the couples there. And I'm sure we'll have a blast. The party actually has some guests who I met at my first party, so I want to repay the kindness they showed me by inviting a single guy.
I just thought it would be nice to have a balanced number. But I'm still looking forward to a great night & sure it will go well regardless. And once again its reassuring to hear that single ladies do attend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I suspect that the majority of single females would not attend a party where they'd not met anyone. To be honest we'd be wary of doing that as a couple.
If you go to clubs and socails and get a reputation for being reliable and trustworthy far more people will be receptive to invites.
Yeah I suppose attending a party alone could be a strange experience. I guess I just expected more of a response.
And I'm working on building the kudos, great advice on getting known within the scene I reckon, I'm working on that haha
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i have no problem going to a club alone as the club is a buisness and most will look after single women, if a guys. and in some cases couples, being a pest i know the staff will sort them out if i mention it, i wouldnt dream of going to someones house and complaining to the host about their other guest, i would just leave, also if a guy pisses me off in a club i will tell him to fuck off, again i wouldnt do that in someone elses house out of respect for the host, again i would just leave
some people do see single women as easy targets and i wouldnt put myself in a possition where i didnt feel comfy to look after myself, i wouldnt act the same in someones home as i would a club, therefor i avoid house parties |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tbh parties and such interest me but i would be wary of going alone,so some might have them listed as interests almost everything sexually interests me but doesnt mean i will do it all the time.
And as a single fem you do get bombarded with lots of mail and such and its hard to reply to all.
I think its because most will be daunted as others have said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm not particularly a fan of parties unless I know quite a few people there.
When there's only a few people at a party it's more uncomfortable saying that you don't want to play if you don't fancy anyone... "
Thats another valid point that makes sense if numbers are small. didn't even think of that one, cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?"
And the ultimate worse case scenario, you've turned up to a party and those single blokes have paid £20 a head to attend a gangbang.
Again not saying that the OP would do anything of the sort, but stories like that have been mentioned on the forums previously |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I suspect that the majority of single females would not attend a party where they'd not met anyone. To be honest we'd be wary of doing that as a couple.
If you go to clubs and socails and get a reputation for being reliable and trustworthy far more people will be receptive to invites.
Yeah I suppose attending a party alone could be a strange experience. I guess I just expected more of a response.
And I'm working on building the kudos, great advice on getting known within the scene I reckon, I'm working on that haha
i have no problem going to a club alone as the club is a buisness and most will look after single women, if a guys. and in some cases couples, being a pest i know the staff will sort them out if i mention it, i wouldnt dream of going to someones house and complaining to the host about their other guest, i would just leave, also if a guy pisses me off in a club i will tell him to fuck off, again i wouldnt do that in someone elses house out of respect for the host, again i would just leave
some people do see single women as easy targets and i wouldnt put myself in a possition where i didnt feel comfy to look after myself, i wouldnt act the same in someones home as i would a club, therefor i avoid house parties"
Yeah I suppose within an established business environment there is the added security for everyone who attends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't like to attend private parties where play is expected as a singleton.
Socials at pubs where play is not on the card, yes.
Socials at clubs where play is on the card with gents that tickle my fancy, yes.
I guess I feel more comfortable in clubs as I can escape from unwanted attention easier than I can at private parties.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Tbh parties and such interest me but i would be wary of going alone,so some might have them listed as interests almost everything sexually interests me but doesnt mean i will do it all the time.
And as a single fem you do get bombarded with lots of mail and such and its hard to reply to all.
I think its because most will be daunted as others have said "
I keep hearing about the message bombardment haha, so filtering out the genuine ones becomes a full time job in itself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?
And the ultimate worse case scenario, you've turned up to a party and those single blokes have paid £20 a head to attend a gangbang.
Again not saying that the OP would do anything of the sort, but stories like that have been mentioned on the forums previously"
I've never heard about that, but I'm sure your right & its certainly happened, as there are plenty of strange folks that live & breathe among us. Its definitely another valid point that relates back to the safety issue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't like to attend private parties where play is expected as a singleton.
Socials at pubs where play is not on the card, yes.
Socials at clubs where play is on the card with gents that tickle my fancy, yes.
I guess I feel more comfortable in clubs as I can escape from unwanted attention easier than I can at private parties.
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This seems to be the general consensus for you ladies & its helping to make things clearer in relation to my OP. Thanks for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?
And the ultimate worse case scenario, you've turned up to a party and those single blokes have paid £20 a head to attend a gangbang.
Again not saying that the OP would do anything of the sort, but stories like that have been mentioned on the forums previously
I've never heard about that, but I'm sure your right & its certainly happened, as there are plenty of strange folks that live & breathe among us. Its definitely another valid point that relates back to the safety issue "
it certainly does happen, it happened to me, i was only supposed to be meeting 1 guy, turned up and there was 8 there who had all paid him £50 to shag me, oddly the 1 guy i was supposed to be meeting wasnt there
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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She took the words out of my mouth
How do I know, that you as a single guy, are not going to invite 6,8,12 other single blokes and then its a party I ca not cater for?
And the ultimate worse case scenario, you've turned up to a party and those single blokes have paid £20 a head to attend a gangbang.
Again not saying that the OP would do anything of the sort, but stories like that have been mentioned on the forums previously
I've never heard about that, but I'm sure your right & its certainly happened, as there are plenty of strange folks that live & breathe among us. Its definitely another valid point that relates back to the safety issue
it certainly does happen, it happened to me, i was only supposed to be meeting 1 guy, turned up and there was 8 there who had all paid him £50 to shag me, oddly the 1 guy i was supposed to be meeting wasnt there
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That's a shocking thing to happen. I bet you ran a mile!
Did you report the incident? Or put it down to experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbh parties and such interest me but i would be wary of going alone,so some might have them listed as interests almost everything sexually interests me but doesnt mean i will do it all the time.
And as a single fem you do get bombarded with lots of mail and such and its hard to reply to all.
I think its because most will be daunted as others have said
I keep hearing about the message bombardment haha, so filtering out the genuine ones becomes a full time job in itself "
Unfortunately yes...even mail off couples and single women can be fakers it spoils it for all of us who are genuine...I do try and answer mail if its nice,but some of its just not worth a reply  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Tbh parties and such interest me but i would be wary of going alone,so some might have them listed as interests almost everything sexually interests me but doesnt mean i will do it all the time.
And as a single fem you do get bombarded with lots of mail and such and its hard to reply to all.
I think its because most will be daunted as others have said
I keep hearing about the message bombardment haha, so filtering out the genuine ones becomes a full time job in itself
Unfortunately yes...even mail off couples and single women can be fakers it spoils it for all of us who are genuine...I do try and answer mail if its nice,but some of its just not worth a reply "
I know, and sometimes even us single guys receive dreadful messages!
DOWN WITH THE FAKERS I SAY  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Did you report the incident? Or put it down to experience
Report it to who?"
The site it was organised on? (if it was) especially as the guy wasn't there??
And what did he have to say for himself? Did you catch up with him again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because women have to be more cautious? Or feel they do. I wouldn't go to a party or club as a single woman (although I know many do) because I would feel intimidated. I would want someone there I knew to keep an eye on things for me. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Did you report the incident? Or put it down to experience
Report it to who?
The site it was organised on? (if it was) especially as the guy wasn't there??
And what did he have to say for himself? Did you catch up with him again?"
no point
I ment him on here but whats the point in reporting people, even if the site does ban them theres nothing to stop them re joining on a new name so its pointless really
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Did you report the incident? Or put it down to experience
Report it to who?
The site it was organised on? (if it was) especially as the guy wasn't there??
And what did he have to say for himself? Did you catch up with him again?
no point
I ment him on here but whats the point in reporting people, even if the site does ban them theres nothing to stop them re joining on a new name so its pointless really
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I guess your right, but its a shame there can't be more done to prevent that from happening again and to safeguard others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Got a party organised for this Saturday, got four genuine fab couples confirmed, one single fab bi girl, and two fab straight guys.
The ladies are here on Fab stating they are looking for party invites/adult parties on their profiles, but still its the age old problem of getting a reply. Thankfully some have restored the faith & replied stating other commitments, but not many takers?
If you had posted for a girl on girl party with the odd male around I would have jumped at the chance, but for me and many other single bi fems this isn't what we're looking for , many couples are all out taking one for the team!
Anyone else been successful in inviting single ladies along to parties? I can appreciate it must be daunting, I only attended my first one on NYE, so I understand it could be nerve racking for a single girl, but why would you put it down as an interest?
Eeeeeeeshhh and us single guys get a bad reputation haha "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Got a party organised for this Saturday, got four genuine fab couples confirmed, one single fab bi girl, and two fab straight guys.
The ladies are here on Fab stating they are looking for party invites/adult parties on their profiles, but still its the age old problem of getting a reply. Thankfully some have restored the faith & replied stating other commitments, but not many takers?
If you had posted for a girl on girl party with the odd male around I would have jumped at the chance, but for me and many other single bi fems this isn't what we're looking for , many couples are all out taking one for the team!
Anyone else been successful in inviting single ladies along to parties? I can appreciate it must be daunting, I only attended my first one on NYE, so I understand it could be nerve racking for a single girl, but why would you put it down as an interest?
Eeeeeeeshhh and us single guys get a bad reputation haha "
Ooooooooof Now your asking something to organise a girl on girl?
That sounds like a toughie  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with everything that has been said above; I love parties but from my perspective, 3.5 hrs is a long way to go to meet a complete bunch of strangers and a long way to come home if I didn't fancy/interested in anyone or vice versa or find out I was the only single female in a group of single males |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree with everything that has been said above; I love parties but from my perspective, 3.5 hrs is a long way to go to meet a complete bunch of strangers and a long way to come home if I didn't fancy/interested in anyone or vice versa or find out I was the only single female in a group of single males"
That is a long way to travel, and in relation to another post on 'how far' people travel, a lot of folks, including myself, tend to stick to around an hour it seems |
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