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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right guys, we arranged to meet a single male on a certain day in the evening. The day before the meet he put up a '' meet request'' for the morning of our planned date.
We felt a bit offended.
Would anybody else be offended or are we being sensitive?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'd have been puzzled in your case. Sure he's technically not under any obligation not to but what about being excited about meeting you and enjoying the build up to the evening ? Did he turn up ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apparently he said it was to prompt a response from another person.
Does that say that he was hoping for a better offer?
It does to me"
I think you are right in that he was looking for what he may have considered a better offer. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well the meet was for tomorrow, but we have cancelled it as I ( Vince ) was offended.
I wanted him to be excited about meeting my wife.
I love the build up and the thought that he probably wouldn't be up for it that much after already meeting earlier that day would disappoint me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who says you can't have two meets on the same day?
If you were meeting him later in the day and he fancied a meet in the morning aswell then fair enough, as long as he turned up and can perform.
It's no different to you guys having sex a few hours before he arrived IMO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sure there will be mixed opinions but this isn't a sexual processing factory....there is no doubt that the social aspect enhances the fun ? I'd feel slightly used to find I was fitted into a time slot. You did the right thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well the meet was for tomorrow, but we have cancelled it as I ( Vince ) was offended.
I wanted him to be excited about meeting my wife.
I love the build up and the thought that he probably wouldn't be up for it that much after already meeting earlier that day would disappoint me.
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We think you did the right thing, what he did seems disrespectful in our opinion.  
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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so the original meet was for the evening..... and he advertised for a meet in the morning??
sorry... I don't see what the issue is!...
as long as one meet isn't to replace the other (of which no one has said it was) then what business it is of others what you do at what time....
its like going to a club when you said "i am only going to play with one person/couple"... and then they decide to play with you.... then play with someone else later on....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me"
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX"
One meet was for the morning, the other for the evening, not 5mins apart. I assume there would have been a gap of several hours between the two so no rush and no compromise in quality. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Right guys, we arranged to meet a single male on a certain day in the evening. The day before the meet he put up a '' meet request'' for the morning of our planned date.
We felt a bit offended.
Would anybody else be offended or are we being sensitive?
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much as ive shagged two women in one day it does take a lot of stamina, not least recovery and logistics in getting to the two different places as well as making it a good night.
As horny as I am, its strange he only posted it for the day you were meeting. Its not something I would do as you always look forward to a new meet so dont want to be too fatigued
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to agree with the OP, obviously some people would feel differently and no issue with that, but we're all different and I'm just not into multiple meets in a day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX"
Some men can come multiple times too and not compromise the next time...not all admittedly, but I have met a few where round two was just as good as round one. He was posting for the morning too, not an hour before so he'd of had the whole afternoon to recover which may be plenty for him to reload! Just think it's unfair to assume the evening meet would have been of poor quality or that he wasn't looking forward to it just because he wanted some extra fun. Like someone else has said, would be no different to a couple having some morning sex on the same say...or do all couples abstain for the day when they have a meet in the evening? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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you have to remember that a morning meet is very rarely in the morning.. if he was lucky he might have gotten one around 11 though its unlikely so it would have gone to the afternoon .. there wouldnt be too many hours to get back and over to yourselves I wouldnt have thought |
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"Well the meet was for tomorrow, but we have cancelled it as I ( Vince ) was offended.
I wanted him to be excited about meeting my wife.
I love the build up and the thought that he probably wouldn't be up for it that much after already meeting earlier that day would disappoint me.
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What does whatever he does before or after meeting you matter... He could have arranged a meet with someone else for the morning and with you for the evening and if he hadn't done it via a meet post you'd be none the wiser.
I really fail to see how swingers can get miffed about what other swingers do outwith the times they've arranged to meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for your replies.
I wanted to know what people thought.
So what would be the appropriate amount of hours to leave it before you meet again? Lol.
A club is different all together. If haven't arranged to meet anybody in a club then you owe them nothing. But if you have gone through much conversation, built rapport, and then got excited about the meet. Then you see this person advertise themselves before our meeting, well it did disappoint.
If I was a single guy and looked forward to meeting a single girl and she advertises herself for a meet before meeting me, then I think k I would still cancel. It's quality not quantity in my opinion. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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So what would be the appropriate amount of hours to leave it before you meet again? Lol. "
ive met people within 40 minutes of each other but its just the horn of it that turns you on for the second meet.. id say 3-5 hours should have you topped back up not least washed  |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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To my mind, if you're meeting someone for the evening then your scope is just for the evening meet you've arranged, nothing more. I don't think there's any written rule anywhere that says you can only have one meet a day.
so yes... I think there is a little un-needed sensitivity on behalf of the OP as to others affairs beyond their scope.
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't see what the problem is. So what if he wants to meet someone else on the same day? Its not like he blew you out is it?
it is a bit cheeky though ... theres 6 other days in the week "
But he may be busy on the other 6 days and unable to meet!
"So what would be the appropriate amount of hours to leave it before you meet again? Lol."
Depends on the person and their recovery time, plus the distance between meets and how long it takes to nip home for a shower in between!
" It's quality not quantity in my opinion."
Hate this phrase...why is there an assumption that you can't have both! I've always managed to  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
No rules - and people can do what they like. Which means that, if someone is planning to meet me in the evening, and I see that they are trying to meet earlier in the day, I can choose to cancel them.
Who wants sloppy seconds? I would answer his meet request with one of my own - one for the evening meet I would fecking cancel with him!
But - that is just MY choice. Other people may see it differently. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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It's quality not quantity in my opinion.
Hate this phrase...why is there an assumption that you can't have both! I've always managed to "
all the women are now gonna contact all your veris and put that to the test  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX
One meet was for the morning, the other for the evening, not 5mins apart. I assume there would have been a gap of several hours between the two so no rush and no compromise in quality."
By "morning" I doubt he would turn up at 6.AM and leave at 9, so he'd probably arrive and leave later.
He'd then have to travel home, eat, shower, get spruced up and then travel to the next meet.
No, I'd much rather focus on the one meet and arrive fresh and relaxed. 
XXXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's quality not quantity in my opinion.
Hate this phrase...why is there an assumption that you can't have both! I've always managed to
all the women are now gonna contact all your veris and put that to the test "
Pretty sure there's some that already do! x |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
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By "morning" I doubt he would turn up at 6.AM and leave at 9, so he'd probably arrive and leave later.
He'd then have to travel home, eat, shower, get spruced up and then travel to the next meet.
No, I'd much rather focus on the one meet and arrive fresh and relaxed.
XXXX"
Just what I said - always better to enjoy one good meet than 5 naff ones, though having said that the amount of couples that only want/expect quickies is astonishing |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX"
so its hypocritical between women and men..... gotcha...
so again.... have you ever played with different people in different occasions on the same night in clubs????
or again... are men held to a different standard there as well.....
I hate the "quality not quantity phrase" because you never hear that one used when playing with different people in a club atmosphere......
again home meets held to a different standard than club meets then? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I appreciate the cheeky winks, but I can't say that I have, clubs are not my thing either. Although I can appreciate in a club someone may or may not play with different people, personally, when it's a private meet like the OP described, I simply agree with what they are saying "
but as one of the people said above me... I bet some couples, them darn rotters, have had sex the same day in the morning before I've had an evening meet with them....
the only different is that this person advertised for a meet here, i bet some people may have had sex in the morning before a meet in the evening and the only different is that you would have never known....;-)
if the person in question was going from one meet to another straight away then you may have a point....
let us me as an example...
so if i had a meet in the morning... then went to work, did lest say 6hrs, came home.. am i not allowed to have a meet in the evening now???
wow........ really????
i am feeling more and more sorry for the guy... because again, he had time, wanted company.... and no one has said it was to replace the meet he already had planned in any way shape or form.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a meet lined up with a guy a while back and whilst I was on here about 4ish I noticed he had a meet today sign on his profile. Andy rang just to ask if our meet was still on and he replied that he was still at work and would probably be knackered, but if we fancied a quickie we could still go visit!!! Needless to say we turned down his very generous offer and blocked him  This was after we'd previously had a lovely chat on the phone and he kept expressing how lovely it was to speak to such a genuine couple, what an a******e. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No don't think you are being over sensitive, we arranged to meet a guy not long ago, when he arrived we went upstairs for some fun, just as we started playing he said to mr sound just fucked another woman on way round here, then get to fuck your mrs...
I got up to get dressed mr showed him out.
At end of day he treated me like a piece of meat and took piss out of us x |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX
so its hypocritical between women and men..... gotcha...
so again.... have you ever played with different people in different occasions on the same night in clubs????
or again... are men held to a different standard there as well.....
I hate the "quality not quantity phrase" because you never hear that one used when playing with different people in a club atmosphere......
again home meets held to a different standard than club meets then? "
I do not do clubs, groups or gang bangs. That is my choice. Equally, I would, as I said in a previous post, choose to cancel on someone who did this. As we are all entitled, on this site, to make what choices we like regarding meets, I consider this fair and right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX
so its hypocritical between women and men..... gotcha...
so again.... have you ever played with different people in different occasions on the same night in clubs????
or again... are men held to a different standard there as well.....
I hate the "quality not quantity phrase" because you never hear that one used when playing with different people in a club atmosphere......
again home meets held to a different standard than club meets then? "
We don't see how showing the different sexual capabilities between men and women is being "hypocritical", it's just stating a physiological fact.
Also, in the odd occasions we've been to a club we've either played with another couple or in a group situation, not just jumped from one person to another.
Besides, playing at a club is a much more ad hoc situation rather than an organised home meet.
XXXX |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I think you were being over sensitive.
Why can't someone meet more than one person in a day
Cali"
They can - no one is saying that. Some choose not to and like to meet like-minded people. Obviously this guy was not suited to the couple or vice versa and, hence, the meet was cancelled on that basis. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX
so its hypocritical between women and men..... gotcha...
so again.... have you ever played with different people in different occasions on the same night in clubs????
or again... are men held to a different standard there as well.....
I hate the "quality not quantity phrase" because you never hear that one used when playing with different people in a club atmosphere......
again home meets held to a different standard than club meets then?
I do not do clubs, groups or gang bangs. That is my choice. Equally, I would, as I said in a previous post, choose to cancel on someone who did this. As we are all entitled, on this site, to make what choices we like regarding meets, I consider this fair and right."
I'm with you hun. We all have our foibles on here and I would think that someone wanting to double up has assumed that I won't be a fulfilling meet. If they think someone else will be then they won't be upset when I cancel anyway.
Its a personal choice - some will think its rude, others will think its OK. Live and let live etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bet the couple had sex before though. Lol
Glad the guys I met never worried. As it was often one in and one out
of course people can make up their own minds but not sure why you would feel offended.
I once had a guy meet me on his way back from a club. I enjoyed that.
But that's just me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I appreciate the cheeky winks, but I can't say that I have, clubs are not my thing either. Although I can appreciate in a club someone may or may not play with different people, personally, when it's a private meet like the OP described, I simply agree with what they are saying
but as one of the people said above me... I bet some couples, them darn rotters, have had sex the same day in the morning before I've had an evening meet with them....
the only different is that this person advertised for a meet here, i bet some people may have had sex in the morning before a meet in the evening and the only different is that you would have never known....;-)
if the person in question was going from one meet to another straight away then you may have a point....
let us me as an example...
so if i had a meet in the morning... then went to work, did lest say 6hrs, came home.. am i not allowed to have a meet in the evening now???
wow........ really????
i am feeling more and more sorry for the guy... because again, he had time, wanted company.... and no one has said it was to replace the meet he already had planned in any way shape or form...."
Fabio hun, you obviously feel quite strongly about this and it's not my place or inclination to question why, we simply feel differently. I'm not going to get into a debate and have no intention to justify my preferences, but I will say that as we have such limited free time and only play now and then, for us a meet is a rare treat, maybe even special in a way and I personally like the guys/people we meet to feel the same, if they want to slot us in around another meet on the same day then their not for us, this in no way suggests that what others do is wrong of course |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
It wouldn't bother me personally, I've met many guys who have great recovery times, specially at parties...If I'd been free during the morning, I'd maybe have contacted the guy and said why don't we make it an all-dayer then |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
XXXX
so its hypocritical between women and men..... gotcha...
so again.... have you ever played with different people in different occasions on the same night in clubs????
or again... are men held to a different standard there as well.....
I hate the "quality not quantity phrase" because you never hear that one used when playing with different people in a club atmosphere......
again home meets held to a different standard than club meets then?
I do not do clubs, groups or gang bangs. That is my choice. Equally, I would, as I said in a previous post, choose to cancel on someone who did this. As we are all entitled, on this site, to make what choices we like regarding meets, I consider this fair and right.
I'm with you hun. We all have our foibles on here and I would think that someone wanting to double up has assumed that I won't be a fulfilling meet. If they think someone else will be then they won't be upset when I cancel anyway.
Its a personal choice - some will think its rude, others will think its OK. Live and let live etc."
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I appreciate the cheeky winks, but I can't say that I have, clubs are not my thing either. Although I can appreciate in a club someone may or may not play with different people, personally, when it's a private meet like the OP described, I simply agree with what they are saying
but as one of the people said above me... I bet some couples, them darn rotters, have had sex the same day in the morning before I've had an evening meet with them....
the only different is that this person advertised for a meet here, i bet some people may have had sex in the morning before a meet in the evening and the only different is that you would have never known....;-)
if the person in question was going from one meet to another straight away then you may have a point....
let us me as an example...
so if i had a meet in the morning... then went to work, did lest say 6hrs, came home.. am i not allowed to have a meet in the evening now???
wow........ really????
i am feeling more and more sorry for the guy... because again, he had time, wanted company.... and no one has said it was to replace the meet he already had planned in any way shape or form....
Fabio hun, you obviously feel quite strongly about this and it's not my place or inclination to question why, we simply feel differently. I'm not going to get into a debate and have no intention to justify my preferences, but I will say that as we have such limited free time and only play now and then, for us a meet is a rare treat, maybe even special in a way and I personally like the guys/people we meet to feel the same, if they want to slot us in around another meet on the same day then their not for us, this in no way suggests that what others do is wrong of course "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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its not that i feel strong on the issue...
if he had come straight from one meet to another then I think you may and do have a point....
however... one in the morning, one in the evening sound more far fetching....
it just feels like the poor fella has fallen foul of some sort of "how many hours between meets is allowable" faux pas that now has to be included in the infamous "single man bible"
see... but i bet that if it was a couples meet in the morning........ and a couples meet in the evening...... it wouldn't even be a discussion worth meriting.... |
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"its not that i feel strong on the issue...
if he had come straight from one meet to another then I think you may and do have a point....
however... one in the morning, one in the evening sound more far fetching....
it just feels like the poor fella has fallen foul of some sort of "how many hours between meets is allowable" faux pas that now has to be included in the infamous "single man bible"
see... but i bet that if it was a couples meet in the morning........ and a couples meet in the evening...... it wouldn't even be a discussion worth meriting...."
It would for us, it's the same thing in my eyes |
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"its not that i feel strong on the issue...
if he had come straight from one meet to another then I think you may and do have a point....
however... one in the morning, one in the evening sound more far fetching....
it just feels like the poor fella has fallen foul of some sort of "how many hours between meets is allowable" faux pas that now has to be included in the infamous "single man bible"
see... but i bet that if it was a couples meet in the morning........ and a couples meet in the evening...... it wouldn't even be a discussion worth meriting.... It would for us, it's the same thing in my eyes "
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"I can't see what the problem is. So what if he wants to meet someone else on the same day? Its not like he blew you out is it?
it is a bit cheeky though ... theres 6 other days in the week "
and tomorrow could be his only day he has free!! |
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"its not that i feel strong on the issue...
if he had come straight from one meet to another then I think you may and do have a point....
however... one in the morning, one in the evening sound more far fetching....
it just feels like the poor fella has fallen foul of some sort of "how many hours between meets is allowable" faux pas that now has to be included in the infamous "single man bible"
see... but i bet that if it was a couples meet in the morning........ and a couples meet in the evening...... it wouldn't even be a discussion worth meriting.... It would for us, it's the same thing in my eyes "
Us too, as we only meet couples so we looked at it from that aspect.
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It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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okay then... let me put a hypothetical out there... just because it related to my real life......
see i use to work the lovely hours of 12pm till 8pm...
so some couples I would meet very early in the morning, shower after, then off to work....
and some couples I would meet very late in the evening... after work, something to eat, shower, off to meet.....
so if I was still working those hours now... a)would I be allowed to have a early meet and a late meet.. even though those may be a good 12 hrs apart?
b) would I be allowed to have a late meet and an early meet the day after... even though I have probably had a nights sleep between...?
the point I am making (probably rather badly ) is that not everything is as "black and white" as they would appear.....
everyone is allowed to make their own decisions on a topic and am not disputing that in any way, but would either of those scenarios be a deal breaker? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"okay then... let me put a hypothetical out there... just because it related to my real life......
see i use to work the lovely hours of 12pm till 8pm...
so some couples I would meet very early in the morning, shower after, then off to work....
and some couples I would meet very late in the evening... after work, something to eat, shower, off to meet.....
so if I was still working those hours now... a)would I be allowed to have a early meet and a late meet.. even though those may be a good 12 hrs apart?
b) would I be allowed to have a late meet and an early meet the day after... even though I have probably had a nights sleep between...?
the point I am making (probably rather badly ) is that not everything is as "black and white" as they would appear.....
everyone is allowed to make their own decisions on a topic and am not disputing that in any way, but would either of those scenarios be a deal breaker?"
You can do what you like. Just don't post all over your profile that you are having/looking for a bonk in the morning if we are meeting in the evening. |
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"It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet. "
yes alot of people judging someone they dont even know :/... fair dues if he had had a meet in the morning and then blew out the evening meet or the evening meet was a let down due to him having a meet in the morning..
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"Well the meet was for tomorrow, but we have cancelled it as I ( Vince ) was offended.
I wanted him to be excited about meeting my wife.
I love the build up and the thought that he probably wouldn't be up for it that much after already meeting earlier that day would disappoint me.
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So what your telling the whole of fab is: if you arrange a meet with us be sure not to have a meet with anyone else or we will cancel our meet with you.
If your a male and have planned another meet on the same day as your meet with us you will be shit in the sack and not perform well enough for my missus because men can only do it righ once aday?
The only thing you have gained from this post is to let people know that you cancel meets. The guy is a single male who has to answer to knowone, he might have the stamina of a rabbit and can fuck all day/night long but you will never know 
This is a swingers site and thats what he is doing swinging, so everyone who arranges meets with you in the future must NOT have another meet on that day/night, make sure you add this too your profile and lets see how many meets you get |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet. "
A party, gangbang, group meet is entirely different to a private one. Everyone knows the rules at each and has different expectations as a result.
A party (unless you know all going) you are prepared that youre not going to like everyone for instance which is different to a 1-2-1 where its more personal.
Perfoming at parties with multiple people is a turn on in itself though I suspect if he was going for that long viagra was his only food source that day.
(and yes ive managed longer) lol
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over a year ago
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I throw a hugggggeeeee strop if I find out any guy I'm meeting dares have a meet either the week before or the week after.
Right off to check the pan on hob |
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"I throw a hugggggeeeee strop if I find out any guy I'm meeting dares have a meet either the week before or the week after.
Right off to check the pan on hob
LOL
whats on the hob "
Can't tell , don't want to frighten all me meets away. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I throw a hugggggeeeee strop if I find out any guy I'm meeting dares have a meet either the week before or the week after.
Right off to check the pan on hob
LOL
whats on the hob "
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"I throw a hugggggeeeee strop if I find out any guy I'm meeting dares have a meet either the week before or the week after.
Right off to check the pan on hob "
I've got bored of rabbit stew meself! |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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"Well the meet was for tomorrow, but we have cancelled it as I ( Vince ) was offended.
I wanted him to be excited about meeting my wife.
I love the build up and the thought that he probably wouldn't be up for it that much after already meeting earlier that day would disappoint me.
We think you did the right thing, what he did seems disrespectful in our opinion.
XXXX"
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"It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet. "
In truth, we don't believe it is really the physical side that's the problem.
We believe it to be, as the title suggests, a question of "etiquette", of doing whats considered proper and doing your best to make the people your going to meet feel.......for want of a better word.....special.
We don't think touting for a meet earlier in the day would make the lady of the evening couple feel this way.
It's as if he's saying "You might not be up to much so I better edge my bets".
To us it's just not the done thing and......well......damn it all, we are British!
XXXX |
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"It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet.
In truth, we don't believe it is really the physical side that's the problem.
We believe it to be, as the title suggests, a question of "etiquette", of doing whats considered proper and doing your best to make the people your going to meet feel.......for want of a better word.....special.
We don't think touting for a meet earlier in the day would make the lady of the evening couple feel this way.
It's as if he's saying "You might not be up to much so I better edge my bets".
To us it's just not the done thing and......well......damn it all, we are British!
XXXX"
surley if this couple want to feel special then its down to themselfs to make eachother feel that way..not a swinger of this site
I have had crap meets in the past but my partner has made the night what it was suppose to be, you cant put that much faith in anyone but yourselfs really can you? |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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Where do you set the granularity on someone else's profile or actions not being to your liking - when someone has met the same hour, the same morning/evening, day month or even year?
Do you then screen people based on who they meet, or what kind of friends they keep that can be publicly seen? What about the ones you can't see. Do you fret over their behaviour sub-rosa, are they secret lemonade drinkers (insert appropriate rejection excuse instead), or is such a postulate purely a figment of an insecure imagination?
Does everyone window shop by what they see on the internet or do they audition the real thing and then make up their mind from there, when a social meet is a nice easy and safe way to say yay or nay with little expenditure and both reputations intact after?
It all smacks of attempting control over that which cannot be controlled to me, that someone else's sex life is not their own business and can be held up to the microscope with all its minutiae critiqued in the light the conclusion drawer seems most appropriate at the time, never mind what the truth might happen to be. It's time to cut people more slack than's been given, rather than lynching them summarily for internal insecurities.
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"Where do you set the granularity on someone else's profile or actions not being to your liking - when someone has met the same hour, the same morning/evening, day month or even year?
Do you then screen people based on who they meet, or what kind of friends they keep that can be publicly seen? What about the ones you can't see. Do you fret over their behaviour sub-rosa, are they secret lemonade drinkers (insert appropriate rejection excuse instead), or is such a postulate purely a figment of an insecure imagination?
Does everyone window shop by what they see on the internet or do they audition the real thing and then make up their mind from there, when a social meet is a nice easy and safe way to say yay or nay with little expenditure and both reputations intact after?
It all smacks of attempting control over that which cannot be controlled to me, that someone else's sex life is not their own business and can be held up to the microscope with all its minutiae critiqued in the light the conclusion drawer seems most appropriate at the time, never mind what the truth might happen to be. It's time to cut people more slack than's been given, rather than lynching them summarily for internal insecurities.
Wolf
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I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x |
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"Well the meet was for tomorrow, but we have cancelled it as I ( Vince ) was offended.
I wanted him to be excited about meeting my wife.
I love the build up and the thought that he probably wouldn't be up for it that much after already meeting earlier that day would disappoint me.
So what your telling the whole of fab is: if you arrange a meet with us be sure not to have a meet with anyone else or we will cancel our meet with you.
If your a male and have planned another meet on the same day as your meet with us you will be shit in the sack and not perform well enough for my missus because men can only do it righ once aday?
The only thing you have gained from this post is to let people know that you cancel meets. The guy is a single male who has to answer to knowone, he might have the stamina of a rabbit and can fuck all day/night long but you will never know
This is a swingers site and thats what he is doing swinging, so everyone who arranges meets with you in the future must NOT have another meet on that day/night, make sure you add this too your profile and lets see how many meets you get "
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"It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet.
In truth, we don't believe it is really the physical side that's the problem.
We believe it to be, as the title suggests, a question of "etiquette", of doing whats considered proper and doing your best to make the people your going to meet feel.......for want of a better word.....special.
We don't think touting for a meet earlier in the day would make the lady of the evening couple feel this way.
It's as if he's saying "You might not be up to much so I better edge my bets".
To us it's just not the done thing and......well......damn it all, we are British!
XXXX"
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x"
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"Where do you set the granularity on someone else's profile or actions not being to your liking - when someone has met the same hour, the same morning/evening, day month or even year?
Do you then screen people based on who they meet, or what kind of friends they keep that can be publicly seen? What about the ones you can't see. Do you fret over their behaviour sub-rosa, are they secret lemonade drinkers (insert appropriate rejection excuse instead), or is such a postulate purely a figment of an insecure imagination?
Does everyone window shop by what they see on the internet or do they audition the real thing and then make up their mind from there, when a social meet is a nice easy and safe way to say yay or nay with little expenditure and both reputations intact after?
It all smacks of attempting control over that which cannot be controlled to me, that someone else's sex life is not their own business and can be held up to the microscope with all its minutiae critiqued in the light the conclusion drawer seems most appropriate at the time, never mind what the truth might happen to be. It's time to cut people more slack than's been given, rather than lynching them summarily for internal insecurities.
Wolf
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x"
Why doesn't it. It's just sex. Why isn't someone going to appreciate it. I am single now but not always so on here. Why should he feel appreciation. He is there for the couples sake as well as his.
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x
Why doesn't it. It's just sex. Why isn't someone going to appreciate it. I am single now but not always so on here. Why should he feel appreciation. He is there for the couples sake as well as his.
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Because its more emotive from the couples _iewpoint |
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x"
But where does it say he didn't appreciate being invited to play? It's been assumed in this thread that he would have been a shit shag, if he bothered to turn up at all, when in fact he may just have an incredibly high sex drive and no partner to help him out with the morning horn whilst he's thinking about how great the evening may turn out to be!
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x
Why doesn't it. It's just sex. Why isn't someone going to appreciate it. I am single now but not always so on here. Why should he feel appreciation. He is there for the couples sake as well as his.
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all hail the mighty couples.. singles are not worthy fo them! |
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x"
We were thinking along similar lines.
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x"
we singles bow down to ur greatness! cos its not as if a single is being generous by giving u their time and themselves for ur enoyment! |
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"Where do you set the granularity on someone else's profile or actions not being to your liking - when someone has met the same hour, the same morning/evening, day month or even year?
Do you then screen people based on who they meet, or what kind of friends they keep that can be publicly seen? What about the ones you can't see. Do you fret over their behaviour sub-rosa, are they secret lemonade drinkers (insert appropriate rejection excuse instead), or is such a postulate purely a figment of an insecure imagination?
Does everyone window shop by what they see on the internet or do they audition the real thing and then make up their mind from there, when a social meet is a nice easy and safe way to say yay or nay with little expenditure and both reputations intact after?
It all smacks of attempting control over that which cannot be controlled to me, that someone else's sex life is not their own business and can be held up to the microscope with all its minutiae critiqued in the light the conclusion drawer seems most appropriate at the time, never mind what the truth might happen to be. It's time to cut people more slack than's been given, rather than lynching them summarily for internal insecurities.
Wolf"
Was about to offer my tuppenyworth, but as Wolf has summed it up beautifully, I will just add one of these...
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Because its more emotive from the couples _iewpoint"
I'm new to swinging as a single but didn't need the guy to do more than turn up when we wanted. Didn't make me feel special that a guy wanted me. It was the time shared with the man I loved that did that for me. |
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this thread highlights what people have said on other threads about the attitude of couples who think they are so amazing and single males should run around after them...... |
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By *xodussxMan
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Some horny lady posted yesterday that she just had a MMF followed by a M meet and was so please and fully satisfied. And yes she was and trully enjoyed it.
Why can't the single guy have another meet in the same after meeting you OP????
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"this thread highlights what people have said on other threads about the attitude of couples who think they are so amazing and single males should run around after them......"
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Im not making any judgements on anyones hypothetical performance or suggesting that couples are superior in any way, i thought i was just stating the bleeding obvious that its often a more complex and cerebral thing when relationships are involved |
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"this thread highlights what people have said on other threads about the attitude of couples who think they are so amazing and single males should run around after them......"
Not at all, it just highlights the difference between the givers and the takers.
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"Im not making any judgements on anyones hypothetical performance or suggesting that couples are superior in any way, i thought i was just stating the bleeding obvious that its often a more complex and cerebral thing when relationships are involved"
And I replied from a couples point of _iew. As I'm new to swinging as a single. You make it special for each other. So can't see how it matters what the guy does leading up to the meet
most of my build up would be between my ex and I. The tease between us. Telling him about later. Or him telling me how much he will love watching me pleasured.
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For all of the above, please substitute the word preference, thank you
My preference is that your preference is not my preference. C'est la Vie.
Your mileage may vary
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By *abioMan
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"this thread highlights what people have said on other threads about the attitude of couples who think they are so amazing and single males should run around after them......"
actually thats unfair...
I would put it across in a different way, in that some feel they are "higher up the ladder" and feel as if they are doing singles a favour....
(although that sentiment always flies out the window when it is couples looking for single women..... )
isn't swinging a two way street.... in that some couples may want singles (both men and women) and vice versa.... and that it mutally beneficial
to emms....if and when I am at a meet, my undivided attention is on that meet..... to the fact that if it goes well I may like to meet again at some point in the future.....
and its not about not having respect because if I thought that way I wouldn't we giving you my time in the 1st place,
my time and your time are precious to us both... outside of meeting, what right does anyone else have over telling someone what else they have over that time....
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Just to remind people!
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THE THREAD IS ON ETIQUETTE.
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If there is no etiquette on a meet then wouldnt (as someone else has mentioned) make that meet: meat like.?
Everyone has preferences as to who they meet, though people can and do, very regularly I find, make sex a dirty looking subject, when in fact, a little ETIQUETTE does go a long way.
Im not saying people should wear kid gloves, but a little respect usually get you the most rabid of sex - as there is a mutual appreciation for each other.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this thread highlights what people have said on other threads about the attitude of couples who think they are so amazing and single males should run around after them......
actually thats unfair...
I would put it across in a different way, in that some feel they are "higher up the ladder" and feel as if they are doing singles a favour....
(although that sentiment always flies out the window when it is couples looking for single women..... )
isn't swinging a two way street.... in that some couples may want singles (both men and women) and vice versa.... and that it mutally beneficial
to emms....if and when I am at a meet, my undivided attention is on that meet..... to the fact that if it goes well I may like to meet again at some point in the future.....
and its not about not having respect because if I thought that way I wouldn't we giving you my time in the 1st place,
my time and your time are precious to us both... outside of meeting, what right does anyone else have over telling someone what else they have over that time....
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No right at all.
Having read many of your forum posts i have no doubt at all as to your sincerity and respect.
Im just saying we all get into this lifestyle for different reasons and for couples that is often more complex than the moment, if only because there are 2 heads and 2 sets of expectations, and a relationship to maintain.
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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For all of the above, please substitute the word preference, thank you
My preference is that your preference is not my preference. C'est la Vie.
Your mileage may vary
Wolf
Cest la vie indeed My mileage is guarenteed "
pity your syntax isn't
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By (user no longer on site)
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For all of the above, please substitute the word preference, thank you
My preference is that your preference is not my preference. C'est la Vie.
Your mileage may vary
Wolf
Cest la vie indeed My mileage is guarenteed
pity your syntax isn't
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im not making any judgements on anyones hypothetical performance or suggesting that couples are superior in any way, i thought i was just stating the bleeding obvious that its often a more complex and cerebral thing when relationships are involved"
So the obvious being that the couple are more important as they have a relationship? Don't see why that makes them superior at all  they should still feel just as honoured to play with a single.
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"this thread highlights what people have said on other threads about the attitude of couples who think they are so amazing and single males should run around after them......
actually thats unfair...
I would put it across in a different way, in that some feel they are "higher up the ladder" and feel as if they are doing singles a favour....
(although that sentiment always flies out the window when it is couples looking for single women..... )
isn't swinging a two way street.... in that some couples may want singles (both men and women) and vice versa.... and that it mutally beneficial
to emms....if and when I am at a meet, my undivided attention is on that meet..... to the fact that if it goes well I may like to meet again at some point in the future.....
and its not about not having respect because if I thought that way I wouldn't we giving you my time in the 1st place,
my time and your time are precious to us both... outside of meeting, what right does anyone else have over telling someone what else they have over that time....
No right at all.
Having read many of your forum posts i have no doubt at all as to your sincerity and respect.
Im just saying we all get into this lifestyle for different reasons and for couples that is often more complex than the moment, if only because there are 2 heads and 2 sets of expectations, and a relationship to maintain.
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that's down to them how they as a couple _iew swinging. Its the comments of, well he sees it that he expects respect as he allowing someone to play with his partner attitude. There is such a thing as self respect and everyone should therefore expect such great respect for allowing people to play with them and the attitude should always go both ways.
Why does a single person not have commitments and considerations in their lifes to make a meet happen
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think i would be offended as he might have a huge sexual appetite.
But if he had cancelled to meet someone else i would,but so long as he has kept to arrangements i dont see the problem. |
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"Who says you can't have two meets on the same day?
If you were meeting him later in the day and he fancied a meet in the morning aswell then fair enough, as long as he turned up and can perform.
It's no different to you guys having sex a few hours before he arrived IMO."
Agree with this. He's not playing exclusively for you on here. |
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"If he'd put for the evening then yes I could understand you being annoyed, but he's put for the morning so that doesn't sound to me like he was planning to cancel. Nor does it imply he wasn't excited to play...he just may have some time off work and want to make the most of it. I had a week off a few months back and played with 9 guys over 8 meets in that week...was a lot of fun for me and I enjoyed each and every one of them ...didn't make any less exciting to me
It's different for women though, they can have sex umpteen times over a short period without compromising the quality of the next.
If guys were able to do that we'd see them advertising to get gang bang by a load of women.
I only know that if I was a single guy going on a meet I'd concentrate more on quality than quantity.
I'd want to put everything into the first meet I'd booked, not be rushing from one to another.
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so its hypocritical between women and men..... gotcha...
so again.... have you ever played with different people in different occasions on the same night in clubs????
or again... are men held to a different standard there as well.....
I hate the "quality not quantity phrase" because you never hear that one used when playing with different people in a club atmosphere......
again home meets held to a different standard than club meets then?
We don't see how showing the different sexual capabilities between men and women is being "hypocritical", it's just stating a physiological fact.
Also, in the odd occasions we've been to a club we've either played with another couple or in a group situation, not just jumped from one person to another.
Besides, playing at a club is a much more ad hoc situation rather than an organised home meet.
im afraid you are not stating anything that could be considered physiological fact, merely you are starting your opinion which is surely based on your personnel experience.
Whislt that may be valid to some extent it by no means state the limit of all mens ability for quality sex.
I have met numerous women over the years who couldn't keep up, both younger and older.
And have on many occasions been the recipient of unwanted applause from people watching.
we are all different and have different appetites. As long as they don't cancel and are clean respectful and do what they say they are going to then surely there is no problem.
I am however aware through my own experiences of the "you should be oh so grateful attitude adopted by some couples. Why they have definitely been the minority it non the less gets my goat up.
I mean, shouldn't we all be feeling happy about the meet?
or is it the fragile ego's of the male partner that we are trying to placate?
either way, as I say as long as they do what they say, are clean, respectful and attentive then I see no problem with this at all.
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"We had a meet lined up with a guy a while back and whilst I was on here about 4ish I noticed he had a meet today sign on his profile. Andy rang just to ask if our meet was still on and he replied that he was still at work and would probably be knackered, but if we fancied a quickie we could still go visit!!! Needless to say we turned down his very generous offer and blocked him This was after we'd previously had a lovely chat on the phone and he kept expressing how lovely it was to speak to such a genuine couple, what an a******e."
Lol! Did he really say that? That made me laugh but yeah, that's an asshole for you! |
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"It appears that most people on here believe that males cannot perform a second time in a day.
This may be the case for most males, but I know of several that can perform multiple times with little or no break in between and still perform very well.
One male we met at a house party was going for about 3 hours, then had a break, then carried on for another few hours, servicing many females, so it can be done.
I think it would be more fair to ask the male in question if he can perform multiple times in the required period of time, as if he can then there is no reason not to meet him after another meet.
In truth, we don't believe it is really the physical side that's the problem.
We believe it to be, as the title suggests, a question of "etiquette", of doing whats considered proper and doing your best to make the people your going to meet feel.......for want of a better word.....special.
We don't think touting for a meet earlier in the day would make the lady of the evening couple feel this way.
It's as if he's saying "You might not be up to much so I better edge my bets".
To us it's just not the done thing and......well......damn it all, we are British!
XXXX"
Hahaha, good post!
I never realised it before but there seems to be soo many rules to swinging!! There should be some, I agree, but this is a bit too far. If you want to meet quality people, just look a little but hard and be more perceptive and discerning to find them. People will be who they are and if you want otherwise, then look otherwise.
For your information, there are a lot of single men that can have sex for three days ony stopping to eat, rest periodically and sleep. Sure there are a lot on here, the fact that any couple or single woman hasn't met one doesn't mean all single men are one trick ponies..
I do agree with etiquette, but find people who match your etiquette and not anyone and expect them to match yours.
Swinging is become too straight laced nowadays!! Too many rigid couples in my opinion... |
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x
we singles bow down to ur greatness! cos its not as if a single is being generous by giving u their time and themselves for ur enoyment!"
Well said! This is why I exercise greater vetting when meeting couples. It's that attitude that the are the ones doing YOU a favour that ticks me off. That somehow you should kiss the floor and be grateful that They chose to meet you. Most single men are not desperate and are not here cos they can't get a shag, you know.
You chose to share your sex lives with others so dont act like they are doing you a favour.
Whenever I catch this whiff, I definitely don't meet. Simples!!!! |
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So do people think its bad form to have more than one meet in a day? We haven't done it regular, but we have certainly done it a few times now. I always give myself a quick wipe in between them so what's the problem?!! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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maybe he was looking for a social meet in the morning to try and arrange fun on another night.
whilst still planning to attend for the fun you both arranged with him.
then you cancelled.
and we are questioning his motives |
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"I can see where you're coming from, i think this highlights the difference between single swingers and couples.My OH feels the same as you, if he invites someone else into our sexlife thats a generous thing for him to do and he would want the single man to appreciate it and advertising for another meet on the same day does not show that appreciation.But obviously singles come from another _iewpoint x
we singles bow down to ur greatness! cos its not as if a single is being generous by giving u their time and themselves for ur enoyment!
Well said! This is why I exercise greater vetting when meeting couples. It's that attitude that the are the ones doing YOU a favour that ticks me off. That somehow you should kiss the floor and be grateful that They chose to meet you. Most single men are not desperate and are not here cos they can't get a shag, you know.
You chose to share your sex lives with others so dont act like they are doing you a favour.
Whenever I catch this whiff, I definitely don't meet. Simples!!!!"
Yes most definitely in agreement |
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I don't recall the OP at any time saying they thought they were up themselves, or more important than anyone else, neither did any other poster. Too many assumptions being made perhaps for which the OP is being unjustifiably criticised |
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