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Condom = Lost Hard On
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have had it in past, have heard that it could be that the ones ur using are too tight "
That's exactly what was happening to me till I changed to large condoms so naw I don't have any problems :D |
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Get smarter at putting em on
have the packed already torn nothing worse than fumbeling
stuf a finger in the end and leave it on wheld by the thumb so you can feel the ridge will be right for a straight roll on IE not inside out then transfer at the peak moment and un roll none of the un roollling first nonsence been doing it for years and i dont find any difference to the feel on or off |
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"Have had it in past, have heard that it could be that the ones ur using are too tight
That's exactly what was happening to me till I changed to large condoms so naw I don't have any problems :D"
I don't have a huge cock but this worked for me asda does a nice large one
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some men are sensitive to feel of laytext and find it hard to stay erect - others reacte to the smell and puts them off and some just plain and simple want BB sex ... so any excuse fits for them....
Technique as highlighted above works for most genuine men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does any body have the same problem or no anything to stop it...????"
Are you using the right size? Are you normally used to using condoms?
There are all sorts of factors which can affect this, none the least of which is that a lot of guys cannot get the concept that they are 'peeing in their wellies' when using one, out of their heads.
If you have it in your mind (subconsciously) that using a condom makes you less of a man, or less potent as a man, then you need to learn how to focus on the positive aspects of using one.
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Had this problem with a few guys we have met. Nothing worse for Mrs than having a guy go soft just because he has to wear a condom.
Most say its because they do not normally have to wear them (with wife etc) so they go home feeling very horny as no condom no sex.
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Having the packet open before hand helps a lot, especially if you have slippy fingers from foreplay.
Also ask the lady to put it on for you, if she slides it down you nicely then it can be quite erotic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having the packet open before hand helps a lot, especially if you have slippy fingers from foreplay.
Also ask the lady to put it on for you, if she slides it down you nicely then it can be quite erotic. "
+1,
would be worth trying a latex free one also.
Fingers crossed I do not have this issue on a meet  |
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Tryed latex free and it still happens and tried wanking with them on and i just go soft. used to use them but since ive been in a long term relatioship havent had to use them.
Really dont know what to do as have tried many different ways but still stay soft   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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loads of bguys find it hard to keep hard with a condom on, ive met loads of guys who suffer with it
Not being a man myself i have no idea what does and does not help tho i know a few guys who take viagra to stop this and by all accounts that works |
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Definitely get the woman to put it on - to coin a phrase from the Inbetweener, "have her hold it in er bum crack and back onto you" - not quite but it can be very erotic done properly by the woman.
I think for some men, its not the feeling of the condom or anything like that, its just that going from the heated passion to stopping to put on a condom on kills the moment. When its killed, it then p;ays on their mind that they have offended the woman by going 'soft' and struggle to recover.
It still shouldnt stop you from wearing them though..... saftey first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't understand guys turning up for a meet if they know this is a recurring problem, all it does is waste the couple/woman's time.
On the other hand they might just be pushing for bareback. 
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've had it with guys when I used to go dogging in the winter. They'd get nice and hard in the warmth of my mouth and then get soft in the cold whilst they faffed around with a condom. It used to get very frustrating. |
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It's happened to me before. 90% of the time - absolutely fine and no problems.
The other 10% of the time, nice and hard - condom goes on - soft. Take condom off hard again etc.
I think it can depend on the condom. Sometimes when you meet a woman/couple they prefer you to use their supplied condoms and if for some reason they don't "work" for you, it can be frustrating. |
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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago
France |
Guess I've been unlucky as several men I've met have had this problem. Rock hard until it comes to putting on the condom then hello Mr Softee. It is very frustrating to both parties but there is no way I'd feel sorry enough to say forget it lets do without.
As others have mentioned, try masturbating with a condom on - try different brands until you find one which does work. Then make sure you take those ones with you when you meet and ask them to put it on as part of the foreplay. |
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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago
Northwood |
"Some men are sensitive to feel of laytext and find it hard to stay erect - others reacte to the smell and puts them off and some just plain and simple want BB sex ... so any excuse fits for them....
Technique as highlighted above works for most genuine men "
A tad harsh .... My fb and I are both stalwart condom users and are very eager to get on our soapbox about the perils of not using them.
Yet he could have the most raging hard on and as soon as he puts on a condom he loses it.
Thankyou for the tip about trying a larger size from the people offering 'genuine' advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that in the past, this has happened to both me (Mr A) and some swinging friends of mine. After talking to another friend of mine who was a nurse in a sexual health clinic, she slapped me round the head, told me to get a bigger size, and stop buggering about.
So if this is a problem folks, try a larger size. If they don't come large enough, cling film!
(and for those who are not 100% sure, that's a joke!) |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Wank wearing one, get used to the feeling of them. I guess being in a couple, you don't use them often, so it's just a case of getting used to the feeling."
Agreed.....for me I always use them so don't know what it is like without them other than when I am wanking lol...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Soft swing only
sorry I will get my coat
Didn't realise that oft swing meant unsafe sex? Am I missing something? "
soft swing usually means you have sex with your own partner, whilst another couple does the same. So he wouldn't need a condom with his own partner, and as the condom seems to be causing his issue; it was a possible solution |
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Personally often it isn't the condom itself that is to blame, but the fact that the condom isn't directly to hand when needed and you have to take yourself out of the situation to find them/open the box/tear one condom from the strip/put it on. That can kill the mood (and your hard-on).
Personally when we swing at home we have individual condoms (eg outside the box and pre-separated if they are the type that come in a long strip) within easy reach of all the locations where they might be needed. It's more difficult in clubs because they are generally in trouser pockets and the trousers come off (and get left in a crumpled heap) prior to the moment a condom is needed! |
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