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Living in a small town, how close is too close for a meet and potential fb?
I’m thinking that someone on your doorstep (close by) is perhaps too close/risky?
Any suggestions or experiences to guide? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I think it depends on if it feels suffocating and your own will power, that’s more about personality. I prefer a bit of distance 30mins in the car so I’m not constantly choosing sex as I’m weak willed with sexy women
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"I think it depends on if it feels suffocating and your own will power, that’s more about personality. I prefer a bit of distance 30mins in the car so I’m not constantly choosing sex as I’m weak willed with sexy women
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Good point. I wonder if it is different in terms of an event if close or far away? Or if it’s simply down to preference and situation? |
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Before my last break from the site.
I met a couple,they live about 10 doors away down the road. 
still say hello most days and see them on certain pub nights.
But I live in a small area,so anyone you sleep with you`re likely going to see every so often.Fab or not |
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As single man I meet anyone no matter how close.
When used to meet others with ex we said not on own doorstep. If had social did not want take it to next level could be difficult if see them tesco etc.
So always played 15 or 20 mile plus from home. Ex always thought it be worse a lady seeing someone in shops she either said not to or had mmf with etc. Not all men are as discreet as should be. |
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Not our local towns or city.... willy is a known pillar of the community...we have adult children...so wouldn't want to answer questions if on a social for example and bumped into friends or family  |
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"'If you wouldn't share your Aldi, don't share a bed' has been our rule  "
The problem I used to have was frequenting the Highlands - where the next village is 10 miles away, and even then everyone knows everyone.. |
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Before my female dentist became my dentist we met her at a fetish club and she and I had a short but interesting connection....fast forward four or five years and she joined the dental practise that I frequent.
Nothing was said, but when she took me to the X ray room to take some images she did comment that we'd met before and smiled.
We've never mentioned it again since, and she's still strictly my dentist. |
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"We dont meet usually meet within 5/10 miles x
Looking at your profile though you are only looking for female company, do you find ladies are fairly discreet anyway?"
And by the way… lucky ladies, that’s all I’m saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends what your/their situation is. Had some local to me say I'm too close, but I'm not the sort to walk up and down with a loud hailer making an announcement about who u did what with.
If they want discreet, I can be discreet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We live in a part of the world where everyone knows everyone...so its inevitable that we encounter people we know on here.
Whether we meet for more than just a social or that entirely depends on whether or not there's chemistry, we don't let the geography of being g close put us off.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had an approach from someone just round the corner. He had seen us on the close by thing and was asking if we were his new neighbours as they were keeping him awake at night with their noisy sex. I did keep him guessing if it was us for a while. In reality that’s too close for comfort for us.
We live in a medium sized town and I am not really happy playing with anyone who is in the town, let alone someone whose house is just the other side of our corner shop! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Living in a small town, how close is too close for a meet and potential fb?
I’m thinking that someone on your doorstep (close by) is perhaps too close/risky?
Any suggestions or experiences to guide?"
I live in a small town and for me The closer the better lol. I do t drive and it's a nuisance having to travel when really horny.. X |
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It depends on the size of the town, including population level. I've avoided people within several miles in an expanded, glorified village, without a supermarket. I'd generally avoid in a place with just 1 or 2 supermarkets, as these give an high level of surprise encounters.
In a more densely populated area, I'd prefer to be a good 20 minutes plus distance away.
But I think it generally depends on the people and how you'll engage. |
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Depends on the other person and their mentality, level respect and agreed boundaries i.e. how all parties convened would engage with each other or not if bumping into each other in the real world
Also with finding out hope open they are with the details of their fab activities with friends, families and neighbours if you’re concerned about people knowing your business. I know/have met a few people on here who are very open of the lifestyle and do tell people exactly who they meet and what they get up to.
Some people may have a safe contact in case a meet goes wrong (in my opinion is sensible thing to do) who may raise an alarm if a person doesn’t check in with a text or phone all after meeting someone.
I’ve got a regular on the same road as me, which is convenient but we are on the same wavelength in terms of discretion
On the other hand I’ve met someone who I would often bump into in the supermarket and would try and engage in a cryptic fab conversation with me when I’m shopping with my child which I didn’t appreciate.
My advice OP is chat to the person/people and gauge if they are a risk to your privacy (if that’s what’s important to you) or a convenient play mate. Don’t rush into a meet. Maybe have a few social meets with a coffee once you’ve gotten to know each other/feel compatible and go from there |
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"Depends on the other person and their mentality, level respect and agreed boundaries i.e. how all parties convened would engage with each other or not if bumping into each other in the real world
Also with finding out hope open they are with the details of their fab activities with friends, families and neighbours if you’re concerned about people knowing your business. I know/have met a few people on here who are very open of the lifestyle and do tell people exactly who they meet and what they get up to.
Some people may have a safe contact in case a meet goes wrong (in my opinion is sensible thing to do) who may raise an alarm if a person doesn’t check in with a text or phone all after meeting someone.
I’ve got a regular on the same road as me, which is convenient but we are on the same wavelength in terms of discretion
On the other hand I’ve met someone who I would often bump into in the supermarket and would try and engage in a cryptic fab conversation with me when I’m shopping with my child which I didn’t appreciate.
My advice OP is chat to the person/people and gauge if they are a risk to your privacy (if that’s what’s important to you) or a convenient play mate. Don’t rush into a meet. Maybe have a few social meets with a coffee once you’ve gotten to know each other/feel compatible and go from there"
Many thanks, all sounds like decent advice |
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We’re all here for fun… only exception is SM’s that we’ve never met before as we like to remain anonymous….. some cpls can’t keep quiet either …. We realise that but that’s how we like it.
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"Living in a small town, how close is too close for a meet and potential fb?
I’m thinking that someone on your doorstep (close by) is perhaps too close/risky?
Any suggestions or experiences to guide?"
At one point in time I used to avoid meeting people too close to my area but gave up on that years ago. It's actually quite fun sometimes to bump into blokes I've slept with at ASDA. My general rule is to not interact though I'll admit I've swapped the odd 'hiya' with the really hot ones ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met two people from the block I lived in when was in London, one was living next door the other 3 floors down. Didn't even know the neighbour till we been chatting for an hour! Was a good friendship after that. |
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I do meet local - the ideal is businessmen from outside the area who regularly stay near. No danger that they know friends/family, potential of semi-regular meets and easy to fit in without travel.
If they are from the local area then I try to get a face pic before revealing mine and if I recognise them, I stop it. It's a small town - most people know most others haha!
Much more freedom when I'm in London though! |
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Lol, I'd fuck my next door neighbour.
Except I wouldn't really as one side is in their 80's and I don't fancy the bloke on the other side.
Maybe his daughter though, although I don't think she'd be into it.
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
As a single lad, I don’t care how close. Even if we share same Lidl every Saturday I would not be shouting how awesome the previous night was. If agreed beforehand, I can pretend I don’t know her/him/them
Fooled around lightly with a guy at our local pool changing room. Bumped into him with his gf, no sign given
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Back where we used to live, I had a married short-term playmate on the road that ran parallel to ours - if it hadn't been for the row of houses inbetween, I could have seen their place from ours...
....on the occasions when I visited her, it took me less than two minutes to walk there - she'd text when she wanted to meet, and after her hubby and my wife had both left for work, I'd go over...
I also played with a couple who only lived a two-minute drive away - if it hadn't been a cold winter's night, I would have walked there...  |
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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago
Newferry, wirral |
in the past I have met a cpl who lived a street away, never saw them again till one day I went in a local shop I dont usually use and she was on the till, also met a guy whose daughter lived directly opposite my house. neither caused any issues, but then again i'm an adult, and behave like one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although I don’t show my face due to my job, I do find it a thrill living in a small town with the thought of someone recognising me. Even more so if it’s a close neighbour lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not too close, a short car journey away, maybe.
Some years back, we had a guy we'd met previously, turn up at our home late at night, on the off chance we'll invite him in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We won't meet people from the same county. It's pretty small, close knit and I work for people throughout the county so I wouldn't want to meet them in a sexual way. My husband also works throughout the county and interacts with hundreds of people day to day.
We have set our location to where we are comfortable meeting people from
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"We won't meet people from the same county. It's pretty small, close knit and I work for people throughout the county so I wouldn't want to meet them in a sexual way. My husband also works throughout the county and interacts with hundreds of people day to day.
We have set our location to where we are comfortable meeting people from
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I read that as “the same country”
And thought, bloomin’ ‘eck, that must cost a fortune in air miles… just got it. It’s too early for my brain to switch on. |
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