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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Being completely honest off this site I could probably count on 2 hands the amount of women that if in a bar I would go and chat up. However when you then read the profiles of the other women and find out how interesting and sexually liberated they are I can't help but know I'd rather go home with a woman with a few curves or a lot of curves for that matter  who knew what she was doing and knew how to push my buttons than some 19 year old model who thinks she's the kinkiest woman alive for licking your balls lol. Just my two cents would love to know others opinions!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being completely honest off this site I could probably count on 2 hands the amount of women that if in a bar I would go and chat up. However when you then read the profiles of the other women and find out how interesting and sexually liberated they are I can't help but know I'd rather go home with a woman with a few curves or a lot of curves for that matter who knew what she was doing and knew how to push my buttons than some 19 year old model who thinks she's the kinkiest woman alive for licking your balls lol. Just my two cents would love to know others opinions!!"
Agreed. We also think good looking is not the same thing as sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That is the exact phrase I was thinking of good looking is def not sexy!!"
Well good looking CAN be sexy but it doesn't always follow. The two things are totally separate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being completely honest off this site I could probably count on 2 hands the amount of women that if in a bar I would go and chat up. However when you then read the profiles of the other women and find out how interesting and sexually liberated they are I can't help but know I'd rather go home with a woman with a few curves or a lot of curves for that matter who knew what she was doing and knew how to push my buttons than some 19 year old model who thinks she's the kinkiest woman alive for licking your balls lol. Just my two cents would love to know others opinions!!"
I was with you until you mentioned size, size has nothing to do with a person is sexy or not, or kinky  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So because I'm slim or young I have less clue about what I'm doing in the bedroom over a larger older lady that has possibly been married for the last 30 years and just found swinging in the last 6 months :/ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I used size as an example as in the fact some people find bigger women more attractive than skinnier women n vice versa!! But when you read about that person the size age looks etc dosent matter as you find them sexually attractive!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being completely honest off this site I could probably count on 2 hands the amount of women that if in a bar I would go and chat up. However when you then read the profiles of the other women and find out how interesting and sexually liberated they are I can't help but know I'd rather go home with a woman with a few curves or a lot of curves for that matter who knew what she was doing and knew how to push my buttons than some 19 year old model who thinks she's the kinkiest woman alive for licking your balls lol. Just my two cents would love to know others opinions!!
Agreed. We also think good looking is not the same thing as sexy."
+1 - I had a lady working for me as an internal sales rep in the 90's. She was nothing to look at - a real plain Jane tbh - her figure was trim rather than curvy, but certainly not 'model-stick-thin'. But she just had 'something'... and every guy who she encountered was just like putty in her hands (I wouldn't have minded being putty in her hands either!!) - she just OOZED sex appeal. She even got one of the gay designer-luvvies all 'of a lather' one day too, which was hard-on inducing to watch... 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So because I'm slim or young I have less clue about what I'm doing in the bedroom over a larger older lady that has possibly been married for the last 30 years and just found swinging in the last 6 months :/"
I am speaking from my own experience of meeting younger girls in bars!! The would be the "stereotypical" gorgeous!!! Then in the bedroom they don't have a clue not all but most!! I'd rather a woman with a bit of experience who wasn't I'll say again "stereotypical" gorgeous! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So the fact the women you'd prefer are curvy and those in bars are slim and 19 has nothing to do with it  "
No it dosent yet again being completely honest ideal situation I'd have a 19 year old model who was beautiful and into bdsm swinging the works!! But you have completely missed my point! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I took your point as being that you would rather meet a lady that not everyone would class as gorgeous but who had a clue about more than how to walk In a pair of jimmy choos than someone overly good looking but with no 'sass' about her...... I simply pointed out the size/age of said person was immaterial to the post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I understand what you mean here, generally I like nice looking fit guys, but after reading there profiles you can kind of fancy the person they are and what they are after, many of times I've had messages off guys who I wouldn't generally go for but after chat banter etc you get a click and connection and become attracted too them, and then again I've had messages off drop dead gorgeous guys who have no brain cells what so ever and that does put me off .. but I've had both sides of the barrel hot and amazing in bed .. hot and shit in bed.. not so hot and amazing in bed .. not so hot and shit in bed ... but il be honest a guy with great conversation and can hold one for more than three messages will, generally grab my attention more than a hottie who speaks text and just asks me if I do anal ha ha..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I took your point as being that you would rather meet a lady that not everyone would class as gorgeous but who had a clue about more than how to walk In a pair of jimmy choos than someone overly good looking but with no 'sass' about her...... I simply pointed out the size/age of said person was immaterial to the post "
Everything you said there was exactly true!! Apart from the fact that in my 1st post the point I was making was about age and looks and that the typical "good looker" does not consist to sexy!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I understand what you mean here, generally I like nice looking fit guys, but after reading there profiles you can kind of fancy the person they are and what they are after, many of times I've had messages off guys who I wouldn't generally go for but after chat banter etc you get a click and connection and become attracted too them, and then again I've had messages off drop dead gorgeous guys who have no brain cells what so ever and that does put me off .. but I've had both sides of the barrel hot and amazing in bed .. hot and shit in bed.. not so hot and amazing in bed .. not so hot and shit in bed ... but il be honest a guy with great conversation and can hold one for more than three messages will, generally grab my attention more than a hottie who speaks text and just asks me if I do anal ha ha.. "
great post and you got exactly where I was coming from |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So because I'm slim or young I have less clue about what I'm doing in the bedroom over a larger older lady that has possibly been married for the last 30 years and just found swinging in the last 6 months :/"
Yep you're clueless and probably keep your Pjs on and want the light off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So because I'm slim or young I have less clue about what I'm doing in the bedroom over a larger older lady that has possibly been married for the last 30 years and just found swinging in the last 6 months :/
Yep you're clueless and probably keep your Pjs on and want the light off "
Her and me both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In a way, if someone dismisses me based upon my looks then I am happy to wave bye bye to them.
If someone is more interested in me as a person and is the sort of guy to want to have a conversation and find out more about me allowing the connection to build from there then I'll happily take him home.
If a person is so shallow to dismiss a person on looks alone then they're not the sort of person I would want to associate with anyway.
Maybe this is why I like to socialise before play-I like to have a mental connection as well as a physical.
But we're all wired in different ways and I wouldn't knock someone for being happy to pull someone based on looks alone. It would be boring if we were all the same!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a way, if someone dismisses me based upon my looks then I am happy to wave bye bye to them.
If someone is more interested in me as a person and is the sort of guy to want to have a conversation and find out more about me allowing the connection to build from there then I'll happily take him home.
If a person is so shallow to dismiss a person on looks alone then they're not the sort of person I would want to associate with anyway.
Maybe this is why I like to socialise before play-I like to have a mental connection as well as a physical.
But we're all wired in different ways and I wouldn't knock someone for being happy to pull someone based on looks alone. It would be boring if we were all the same!
crystal"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In a way, if someone dismisses me based upon my looks then I am happy to wave bye bye to them.
If someone is more interested in me as a person and is the sort of guy to want to have a conversation and find out more about me allowing the connection to build from there then I'll happily take him home.
If a person is so shallow to dismiss a person on looks alone then they're not the sort of person I would want to associate with anyway.
Maybe this is why I like to socialise before play-I like to have a mental connection as well as a physical.
But we're all wired in different ways and I wouldn't knock someone for being happy to pull someone based on looks alone. It would be boring if we were all the same!
crystal"
I don't know how to do a thumbs up sign but if I did there would be a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to clarify...age and size are irrelevant to if they are sexy or not. It is an indefinable factor but you know when you are in the presence of it. "
I agree-sometimes there's that je ne sais quoi, something that pulls you in and makes you want to find out more wether it's the way they talk, the way they move or their style. So many things that make a person sexy other than looks alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being completely honest off this site I could probably count on 2 hands the amount of women that if in a bar I would go and chat up. However when you then read the profiles of the other women and find out how interesting and sexually liberated they are I can't help but know I'd rather go home with a woman with a few curves or a lot of curves for that matter who knew what she was doing and knew how to push my buttons than some 19 year old model who thinks she's the kinkiest woman alive for licking your balls lol. Just my two cents would love to know others opinions!!
Agreed. We also think good looking is not the same thing as sexy.
+1 - I had a lady working for me as an internal sales rep in the 90's. She was nothing to look at - a real plain Jane tbh - her figure was trim rather than curvy, but certainly not 'model-stick-thin'. But she just had 'something'... and every guy who she encountered was just like putty in her hands (I wouldn't have minded being putty in her hands either!!) - she just OOZED sex appeal. She even got one of the gay designer-luvvies all 'of a lather' one day too, which was hard-on inducing to watch...
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A 90 year old woman 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a way, if someone dismisses me based upon my looks then I am happy to wave bye bye to them.
If someone is more interested in me as a person and is the sort of guy to want to have a conversation and find out more about me allowing the connection to build from there then I'll happily take him home.
If a person is so shallow to dismiss a person on looks alone then they're not the sort of person I would want to associate with anyway.
Maybe this is why I like to socialise before play-I like to have a mental connection as well as a physical.
But we're all wired in different ways and I wouldn't knock someone for being happy to pull someone based on looks alone. It would be boring if we were all the same!
crystal"
I totally agree with this. A lot of people judge based on age or on looks. I can speak from my own experience.
But once they get to know you, they are rather pleasantly surprised.
I prefer to get to know someone and see if we both click. Looks play a part but not the end all or the be all.
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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago
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Yeah that's true it does open your mind to what people are like under the surface, their desires and fantasies and personalities and think about the whole package.
Yes and 'sexy' is not an appearance it's something alive and intangible, something you exude and emit .... an aura.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So the fact the women you'd prefer are curvy and those in bars are slim and 19 has nothing to do with it
No it dosent yet again being completely honest ideal situation I'd have a 19 year old model who was beautiful and into bdsm swinging the works!! But you have completely missed my point!"
Lol so would I, oh hang on I do
I got your point and I agree with you. We (people) often go by how the other one looks and the sensuality of the person is a different thing all together. I've been out with some beautiful women in their 30'-40's who were as exciting as dishwater in bed and I've been out with women in their 20's who've been far more liberated. Never judge a book by its cover as you said |
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By *kip123Man
over a year ago
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we all have our own ideas as to what is sexy, attractive in peoples looks but, to the majority of people I ask that you look deeper into a person than their outward appearance, wether it be size age, etc. A persons personality is what decides what they are realy like. And to all men, always remember that no matter what goes on behind the doors at the end of the day the woman is a lady and must be treated as such |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being completely honest off this site I could probably count on 2 hands the amount of women that if in a bar I would go and chat up. However when you then read the profiles of the other women and find out how interesting and sexually liberated they are I can't help but know I'd rather go home with a woman with a few curves or a lot of curves for that matter who knew what she was doing and knew how to push my buttons than some 19 year old model who thinks she's the kinkiest woman alive for licking your balls lol. Just my two cents would love to know others opinions!!"
so yur saying tht just cos yur hot and young yur shit in bed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to clarify...age and size are irrelevant to if they are sexy or not. It is an indefinable factor but you know when you are in the presence of it. "
i dont agree,me personally,i dont find big ppl sexy at all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to be honest i wouldnt drop my standards on what i find attractive for a better shag, if i didnt fancy someone i wouldnt shag them, they could be the best fuck ever but id never find out, id sooner go without |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Myself and Sugarkisses have just had this Conversation over a cup of Coffee in the Kitchen. Its unbeleivable the change in both of us as to what's our type and how we have both changed because of it. Its all what's inside for me. Intelligence, wit, charm comes first x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to clarify...age and size are irrelevant to if they are sexy or not. It is an indefinable factor but you know when you are in the presence of it.
i dont agree,me personally,i dont find big ppl sexy at all!"
agree,we find overweight people un sexy
i dont know why people on here make such a deal of personality ,we are only here to fuck people.
unless the people who say looks are not important are not too good looking to start with.
bit like people who say its not the winning its the taking part. |
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"Just to clarify...age and size are irrelevant to if they are sexy or not. It is an indefinable factor but you know when you are in the presence of it.
i dont agree,me personally,i dont find big ppl sexy at all!
agree,we find overweight people un sexy
i dont know why people on here make such a deal of personality ,we are only here to fuck people.
unless the people who say looks are not important are not too good looking to start with.
bit like people who say its not the winning its the taking part."
Yes but a lot of people on here meet socially first or send a fair few messages to gauge wether they get on at least.
If people are happy to look at a picture and base their decision on that then fair play to them but I know I wouldn't meet someone socially and think your gorgeous but a tosser but ill fuck you anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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sexy and attraction does not always go hand in hand, i know a few people i find sexy but im not attracted to them so i wouldnt play with them, i also know a few attractive people who have no sex appeal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sexy and attraction does not always go hand in hand, i know a few people i find sexy but im not attracted to them so i wouldnt play with them, i also know a few attractive people who have no sex appeal"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would be florences machine...she isnt pretty has no figure as such but she just oozes sexiness to me.
Its all about the attitude im a plain jane but i think im sexy |
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Well, in my opinion, sex appeal and attraction go hand in hand. You can bet your last pound if you have sex appeal, I'd find you attractive but ...
...I do have to find that person physically attractive too.
I think personality, sex appeal, physical attraction add up to someone attractive. In my years on here, i can honestly say chemistry is the one thing I realise is quite important. Hasn't been mentioned yet. A good personality always gets me interested..
And yes, there's something about Florence and the machine and the actress Jessica Chastain. Just normal looking by any standard but the sex appeal...huge!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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On this site imparticular the biggest appeal is how liberated women are in the bedroom and how broad their horizons are.
The more someone 'doesn't do this' or 'doesn't do that' the more unappealing they become. |
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