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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Okay, I was chatting away to a local girl, about likes and dislikes and we said about meeting up this week, no pressure from me,she was replying to my messages and i wasnt inundating her with messages. sent a message today, how was your first day back at work? And then blocked out of no where? not even a " sorry I have changed my mind!" Rant over, bloody annoying though!
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Hey guys, it does not just happen to you - I have been blocked by people and have absolutely no idea why. So my advice is not to take it personal or serious... maybe they have simply changed their mind? |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
"fuck nos, another woman who loves the block power, block, block, block, block theres hundreds on here !
And I'm not one of them"
i no ur not one hunny, but u gotta say ther are alot that do and in my opinion 4 no reason,i know used in the right way its a useful tool to have, but on many ocassions unfairly used. As in the ops case, i know im gonna get all the maybe she changed her mind, and people are entitled to block bla bla bring it on lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe she was being polite by replying to your messages and she wasn't interested. Or maybe you said something inadvertently that put her off. The problem with sending a polite thanks but no thanks is that it's often met with abuse.so it's easier and less upsetting to block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Okay, I was chatting away to a local girl, about likes and dislikes and we said about meeting up this week, no pressure from me,she was replying to my messages and i wasnt inundating her with messages. sent a message today, how was your first day back at work? And then blocked out of no where? not even a " sorry I have changed my mind!" Rant over, bloody annoying though!"
You've said something interesting in the above, probably without realising it. What YOU may have perceived as 'not pressurising or inundating' may not be what SHE perceives. And, let's be honest, sending someone a PM on their first day at WORK when what you're talking to her about is the complete opposite of that may not be a wise idea...... lesson learned maybe..?? 
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
" Or maybe you said something inadvertently that put her off. "
Really good point and this has happened to me before. Having a perfectly good exchange of mails and agreeing to meet at some point something happened in conversation that although it probably would not a big thing to others... really did put me off. Now I would not block anybody for that and I would just say I have changed my mind but I guess you are right that it is easier in a way to block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its happened twice this week, I would get paranoid but I know I am polite and genuine, so fuck em lol "
There are plenty of lovely ladies around Exeter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm inclined to agree with Pork and Crackling. I'd find that a bit oppressive tbh. I know it's a fine line between.showing you're interested and not appearing over keen. |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
"Why is rejection such a hard pill to swallow?
There are tens of thousands more to choose from, why even bother to stop to worry about one or two rejections?"
i just think its rude do u not? i know theres idiots that abuse if a polite no thanks is written, which i do not understand either,i don't mind rejection i get off on it, most guys have got this site wrong, they thought they wer gonna get there kicks getting bjs and fucking endless women, this doesn't happen on here!, but getting blocked and told to fuck off that happens all the time just change ur expectations and embrace removes tongue from cheek.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Okay, I was chatting away to a local girl, about likes and dislikes and we said about meeting up this week, no pressure from me,she was replying to my messages and i wasnt inundating her with messages. sent a message today, how was your first day back at work? And then blocked out of no where? not even a " sorry I have changed my mind!" Rant over, bloody annoying though!
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It happens! Get over it and move on |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"stereo thread alert.
Well spotted! Starting two rants over being blocked leads me to think she did the right thing."
Only just noticed and got really confused now... no, I mean REALLY confused  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Okay, I was chatting away to a local girl, about likes and dislikes and we said about meeting up this week, no pressure from me,she was replying to my messages and i wasnt inundating her with messages. sent a message today, how was your first day back at work? And then blocked out of no where? not even a " sorry I have changed my mind!" Rant over, bloody annoying though!
You've said something interesting in the above, probably without realising it. What YOU may have perceived as 'not pressurising or inundating' may not be what SHE perceives. And, let's be honest, sending someone a PM on their first day at WORK when what you're talking to her about is the complete opposite of that may not be a wise idea...... lesson learned maybe..??
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 agreed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think in 6-7 months we've only blocked 2-3 people, really, really have to piss me off before I do that.
However OP, forget about it, as they say...plenty more fish in the sea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice."
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice.
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different?"
would u ignore me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice.
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different?
would u ignore me "
I wouldn't ignore anybody, especially not you jaqs  x |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"Okay, I was chatting away to a local girl, about likes and dislikes and we said about meeting up this week, no pressure from me,she was replying to my messages and i wasnt inundating her with messages. sent a message today, how was your first day back at work? And then blocked out of no where? not even a " sorry I have changed my mind!" Rant over, bloody annoying though!
You've said something interesting in the above, probably without realising it. What YOU may have perceived as 'not pressurising or inundating' may not be what SHE perceives. And, let's be honest, sending someone a PM on their first day at WORK when what you're talking to her about is the complete opposite of that may not be a wise idea...... lesson learned maybe..??
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I dont get gaazillions of messages, but I have blocked some who may pass a snide remark cos Im not meeting anyone new nor looking to add more to my friends list.
I have even blocked over a (petty I know) friend request when all I've done is said hello back.
Just my choice rather than offending someone further if that makes sense.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice.
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different?"
Ignoring the fundamental differences between online and real life interactions, then yes if a random person started speaking to me in the street, yes I would probably choose to ignore them. And even if I did speak to them I would reserve the right to end that conversation at any time I chose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive just had a lovely msg from someone thats only said hello "hotel room booked, meet in the bar is that ok" sad people out there, couldnt get out my front door quick enough, tripped over my knickers in anticipation NOT x  "
Ha ha, im amazed you resisted !!! |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice.
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different?
Ignoring the fundamental differences between online and real life interactions, then yes if a random person started speaking to me in the street, yes I would probably choose to ignore them. And even if I did speak to them I would reserve the right to end that conversation at any time I chose.
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if someone in the street started to talk to, u would ignore them? not being rude or offensive bt just making conversation, and u would just ignore them ? figures |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice.
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different?
Ignoring the fundamental differences between online and real life interactions, then yes if a random person started speaking to me in the street, yes I would probably choose to ignore them. And even if I did speak to them I would reserve the right to end that conversation at any time I chose.
if someone in the street started to talk to, u would ignore them? not being rude or offensive bt just making conversation, and u would just ignore them ? figures "
What figures?
But yes, without a shadow of a doubt. If someone asked me something be it the time or directions then I would be more than helpful. And I'm more than capable of exchanging pleasantries. But if a random person wanted to start a conversation (ignoring that they'd most likely be a bible basher or chugger) yes they would probably get relatively short shrift. Why would I want to get in to a conversation I have no interest in with someone that I don't know when I am almost certainly busy? In a pub or club totally different, but I was asked the question "in the street".
And if the person I chose to ignore was abusive because of it (as in the case of the post I was addressing) I think that would reinforce that I'd made the right decision. |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
"ignorant bovine.
Don't agree with the sentiment and definately not the terminology. it's her choice.
if somebody speaks to you in the street and you simply ignore them, is that not ignorant?
why would this be different?
Ignoring the fundamental differences between online and real life interactions, then yes if a random person started speaking to me in the street, yes I would probably choose to ignore them. And even if I did speak to them I would reserve the right to end that conversation at any time I chose.
if someone in the street started to talk to, u would ignore them? not being rude or offensive bt just making conversation, and u would just ignore them ? figures
What figures?
But yes, without a shadow of a doubt. If someone asked me something be it the time or directions then I would be more than helpful. And I'm more than capable of exchanging pleasantries. But if a random person wanted to start a conversation (ignoring that they'd most likely be a bible basher or chugger) yes they would probably get relatively short shrift. Why would I want to get in to a conversation I have no interest in with someone that I don't know when I am almost certainly busy? In a pub or club totally different, but I was asked the question "in the street".
And if the person I chose to ignore was abusive because of it (as in the case of the post I was addressing) I think that would reinforce that I'd made the right decision."
fair point, wern't referring to bible bashers can understand ignoring them, just ment a general convo but know what u mean. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with crystal wheels. The OP wasn't just saying hello in the street. He was trying to arrange a meet with her. The, lady in question obviously didn't want to pursue it for reasons that are her business and nobody elses. She chose to use one of.the tools provided by this site to prevent any aggro or abuse. Again that is her choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The old thumbs up thumbs down roman empress trick..Ego power trick..sometimes on here i think im dealing with helen of troy only to pan to pics and am confronted by the trojan horse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fuck nos, another woman who loves the block power, block, block, block, block theres hundreds on here !
Agreed"
If you guys are being blocked by that number of people then maybe it's time to reconsider your approach. |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
"fuck nos, another woman who loves the block power, block, block, block, block theres hundreds on here !
Agreed
If you guys are being blocked by that number of people then maybe it's time to reconsider your approach."
if u read the op dont seem he did mch wrong there wht do u suggest changing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fuck nos, another woman who loves the block power, block, block, block, block theres hundreds on here !
Agreed
If you guys are being blocked by that number of people then maybe it's time to reconsider your approach. if u read the op dont seem he did mch wrong there wht do u suggest changing "
Thats only his side of the story. People usually get blocked.for a reason whatever.that is. The fact is that this, lady didn't want any more contact for reasons that are her business and her prerogative so respect that and get over it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got a few chats in with a 1 verified woman last nite...few mails in, I asked for some pics(as I'd sent my usual face)..so great stuff she sent two fanny shots, which were nice yeah..
avoiding asking for a facepic I asked if she is interested in meeting up(thats still a cue for more chats, not the instant meet)-no reply...all nite.
was nice seeing she'd left the site this morning...glad I wasnt blocked lol |
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