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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

if you were arranging a meet, and the person you met was drop dead gorgeous, but boring to chat to, would you still go ahead and play? or if they were not too good looking , but a brilliant conversationalist would that make you decide to play or not? so if you have set standards would you lower them to play?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One has to take quite a few boxes before I would consider meeting the gent for fun.

Hence I don't meet very often.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

Gorgeous and boring = no play, normal and great company = def play - looks are a factor but not the main thing when finding someone sexually attractive. Z

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

it would depend on my mood if I am honest

sometimes I might, other times not.

Unlike the majority of swingers who post about their standards, mines flex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I would never lower my standards! Which has been suggested on a few occasions

And I've had a few really good looking men interested, but was like pulling teeth just in messages, what the hell would it be like actually meeting them? So it's a no from me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both for me or no play, have to be attracted by both looks and mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would more go on looks for one on one. As I don't need to talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican."

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In a club I could possibly be shallow enough to base a decision just on looks. But as a general rule of thumb personality and intelligence outweigh looks everytime.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I have listened to standards being discussed many times over the bar in a swingers club... the couple looking around to see who is in, 'shall we play with them'... no !!!

and a few wines later....

'fuck that was fun !!!' ....."yeah we liked you when we first saw you.........'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My cock can't speak nor can it see, so you could say I'm not too fussed

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

"I have listened to standards being discussed many times over the bar in a swingers club... the couple looking around to see who is in, 'shall we play with them'... no !!!

and a few wines later....

'fuck that was fun !!!' ....."yeah we liked you when we first saw you.........'

lol - very true! Z

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have listened to standards being discussed many times over the bar in a swingers club... the couple looking around to see who is in, 'shall we play with them'... no !!!

and a few wines later....

'fuck that was fun !!!' ....."yeah we liked you when we first saw you.........'

Lol! Love it, fortunately that is not what we do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm variable to the vagina offered

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm variable to the vagina offered"

Pmsl!

You are so bad!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

Maybe, but she's as dumb as a box of frogs and I fear I'd end up punching her in the throat after a while just to shut her up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

Maybe, but she's as dumb as a box of frogs and I fear I'd end up punching her in the throat after a while just to shut her up!"

Miaow lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm variable to the vagina offered

Pmsl!

You are so bad!!

a holes a hole a cocks a cock...sometimes they just go together without much else needed...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm variable to the vagina offered

Pmsl!

You are so bad!!

a holes a hole a cocks a cock...sometimes they just go together without much else needed...

Yeah and I suppose there is a paper bag

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

if i cant click with the person mentally its nevr gonna happen physically . the mind is a sadly over looked erogenous zone ... capture my mind and imagionation and youll capture me sexually .

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By *ngelsdevilWoman over a year ago

Merseyside

There's got to be an attraction and chemistry for me to want to meet, I don't jump into things or settle for anything. I'd rather have fun with my rabbit than have a meet for the sake of it atleast I'd have a guarenteed orgasm, I can't fake sexual attraction and i only end up feeling uncomfortable!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

Maybe, but she's as dumb as a box of frogs and I fear I'd end up punching her in the throat after a while just to shut her up!

Miaow lol "

The claws are out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it depends on your mood generally. I think you just get a feeling about people . We have found that we are capable of playing in a club situation when privately we wouldn't have been interested. It's a bit too easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if i cant click with the person mentally its nevr gonna happen physically . the mind is a sadly over looked erogenous zone ... capture my mind and imagionation and youll capture me sexually .

well said , agree totally

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

just for the record, im not so hung up on looks, but must be able to have a conversation at least,and a laugh,

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

I have met a gorgeous, totally fit as f**k guy from here who couldn't hold a conversation in person (messages were ok, though) - I still shagged him, though!

I have also ended up playing with people who aren't my 'type' but who have got me there by their personality. They haven't been munters to begin with, but haven't really caught my eye. They've often been really good fun meets.

And in a club if I'm especially horny then lots of 'rules' can go out of the window...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if i cant click with the person mentally its nevr gonna happen physically . the mind is a sadly over looked erogenous zone ... capture my mind and imagionation and youll capture me sexually .

"
Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have met a gorgeous, totally fit as f**k guy from here who couldn't hold a conversation in person (messages were ok, though) - I still shagged him, though!

And in a club if I'm especially horny then lots of 'rules' can go out of the window...

"
lol the atmosphere can do that

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

Maybe, but she's as dumb as a box of frogs and I fear I'd end up punching her in the throat after a while just to shut her up!"

You sure like punching people in the throat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just for the record, im not so hung up on looks, but must be able to have a conversation at least,and a laugh,

Hence why you love me so much pmsl xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

Maybe, but she's as dumb as a box of frogs and I fear I'd end up punching her in the throat after a while just to shut her up!

You sure like punching people in the throat

It's very quick at achieving the required result.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"just for the record, im not so hung up on looks, but must be able to have a conversation at least,and a laugh,

Hence why you love me so much pmsl xxx

"
of course my dear wife xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on my mood. If i feel really horny and he s gorgeous but dense it won t matter for a one off. I must say i m a sucker for a pretty face but i m soon learning those guys can be a bit too full of themselves and really not fun in the long run. And if i am to see the guy again he needs to be more than a pretty face...

'normal' is good as long as there s chemistry of course.

Mind you i m quite new to this swinging world so still defining what goes as i go along and experience more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just for the record, im not so hung up on looks, but must be able to have a conversation at least,and a laugh,

Hence why you love me so much pmsl xxx

of course my dear wife xxxx

aw sweet

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

For 1:1 there has to be cerebral attraction as well as some physical - if I had to put a figure on it I'd say 70/30 maybe 60/40

I've turned folk down from initial messages then met them at parties and got on like a house on fire and had lots of sexy fun...

And at parties/in group scenarios sometimes my inner greedy girl rears her head and it's any pole's a goal (get in there Lech!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just for the record, im not so hung up on looks, but must be able to have a conversation at least,and a laugh,

Hence why you love me so much pmsl xxx

of course my dear wife xxxx

aw sweet

"
bucket any one,lol

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I love this thread.........

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I've always said, she could look like Angelina Jolie but if she's mentally like Kerry Katona she'll be shown the door.

I like smart, clued up funny women. Hence my slight crush on Sarah Millican.

Ah, but I bet Kerry Katona's a right dirty bitch

Maybe, but she's as dumb as a box of frogs and I fear I'd end up punching her in the throat after a while just to shut her up!

You sure like punching people in the throat

It's very quick at achieving the required result.

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"For 1:1 there has to be cerebral attraction as well as some physical - if I had to put a figure on it I'd say 70/30 maybe 60/40

I've turned folk down from initial messages then met them at parties and got on like a house on fire and had lots of sexy fun...

And at parties/in group scenarios sometimes my inner greedy girl rears her head and it's any pole's a goal (get in there Lech!)

"
not with your hip missus,lol

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"For 1:1 there has to be cerebral attraction as well as some physical - if I had to put a figure on it I'd say 70/30 maybe 60/40

I've turned folk down from initial messages then met them at parties and got on like a house on fire and had lots of sexy fun...

And at parties/in group scenarios sometimes my inner greedy girl rears her head and it's any pole's a goal (get in there Lech!)

not with your hip missus,lol

Could be part of the reason my hip was so catastrophically knackered - I did give it some welly in the last few months of its existance - note to self: try to be a bit careful with the new one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we would

we are really only here to fuck not make friends. If we make friends then thats a bonus but we have like going out and facebook and such for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did turn down a guy once who was drop dead gorgeous but couldnt carry a conversation in a carrier bag

All he did was talk about himself, about how many times he went to the gym, how much weight he could bench press, how he can pull all these good looking women in the pub, it was just me, me, me and i couldnt get a word in edge ways, i just thought if hes this self centered to talk to whats he going to be like in bed? just lay there and expect me to be that grateful i'll do all the work

for me there has to be physical and mental attraction, if i didnt fancy them i wouldnt play with them no matter how nice they are and i wouldnt play with a good looking guy with no personality

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good job we are both gorgeous and charming then!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd bang a doughnut if I was horny enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd bang a doughnut if I was horny enough.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

for me there is a huge difference between "getting my attention" and "keeping my attention".....

looks will "get my attention".... personality will always "keep my attention"...

p.s I think I have just worked out why female comdiennes do it for me...

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

"I'd bang a doughnut if I was horny enough.

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By *oulou45Woman over a year ago

Bucks

Wouldn't it be good if you could have both? But there again beauty is only skin deep. I would sooner be able to have a laugh and joke then deceide if to take things further. I don't do many meets nowdays but still get on with the guys I have met.

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By *evilwolfCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I'd bang a doughnut if I was horny enough.

I did, then I put it back on the shelf in it's krispy creme box

Wolf

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

And in a club if I'm especially horny then lots of 'rules' can go out of the window...

lol the atmosphere can do that

I suspect it can for more people than may admit it - horn goggles, as opposed to beer ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do u talk with ur mouth full of cock :p

I am quite happy to either play and they leave or be a little social before or after.. But having a convo isn't part of what I do whjen I play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

id still fcuk em

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not too bothered about conversation or looks, as long as they are clean and polite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh yes you def have to click with the person or people with good conversation first

on the other hand i have just looked at cyrumfun profile and i have clicked big time and havent even spoke to her funny that eh phoar xx!!

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