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Why is it so hard meeting bi women
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Only reason for it ther must be no bi women local to u, cant be ur figure which is amazin "
There’s a few local to me but women don’t like meeting local people I think… im going slightly insane  |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What about gay/lesbian friendly bars?"
I been on gay/ lesbian sites and they can be funny towards bi women for so reason, think it’s because they are looking for more of a relationship than just playtime  |
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"Ur profile is stunning only a matter of time x
It’s been over a year ! Lol
Have you tried going to clubs OP?
Yep but I’m more after a playmate than a one off shag "
I've found some great friendships from people I've met in clubs. Townhouse do an all girls night and it's always busy when I've been. I'd recommend it as a great way to meet bi women. And it's always a lot of fun. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Only reason for it ther must be no bi women local to u, cant be ur figure which is amazin
There’s a few local to me but women don’t like meeting local people I think… im going slightly insane "
It's hard in any geographical location but I'd suspect the more remote/rural you get the less open and carefree people become.
It's like the Burnley area. On paper is big enough you won't bump into a friend/family member/colleague etc but you'd be surprised at how its like one degree of separation locally not six! |
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over a year ago
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I think it’s harder as women tend to look for something more in another woman rather than just a fuck ?
I’m a bi woman who is able to meet other bi women - but I’m not up for a fuck and go - even though I’m after sexual pleasure there needs to be a connection of sorts .
I find I’m much more picky with women … I can get the ick very easily lol
Also sifting through the endless couples who want their fella to watch - single women who are single men , couples whose wife suddenly dies of bubonic playful but he is still available…. Is draining |
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As a mature couple, both bi, we seem to be able to share and play with bi women of wildly varying ages quite a bit. Maybe the clue is in the 'bi'? I know H enjoys another guy being around, even if not called upon to join in. |
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"I think it’s harder as women tend to look for something more in another woman rather than just a fuck ?
I’m a bi woman who is able to meet other bi women - but I’m not up for a fuck and go - even though I’m after sexual pleasure there needs to be a connection of sorts .
I find I’m much more picky with women … I can get the ick very easily lol
Also sifting through the endless couples who want their fella to watch - single women who are single men , couples whose wife suddenly dies of bubonic playful but he is still available…. Is draining "
totally agree there c xx |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There's a couple of threads for women who meet women and an organised social for women only in Manchester, it maybe worth a look.
Mrs "
I’m organising the event lol it’s got that bad to find women but there’s loads attending Manchester but they are coming from all over and none are even remotely near me..
but ty for mentioning it xxx |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s harder as women tend to look for something more in another woman rather than just a fuck ?
I’m a bi woman who is able to meet other bi women - but I’m not up for a fuck and go - even though I’m after sexual pleasure there needs to be a connection of sorts .
I find I’m much more picky with women … I can get the ick very easily lol
Also sifting through the endless couples who want their fella to watch - single women who are single men , couples whose wife suddenly dies of bubonic playful but he is still available…. Is draining totally agree there c xx"
I get loads of couples but I really am a shit actress and I just can’t be performing in front of an audience either..some comes won’t take no for an answer too so at times gotten loads of abuse which is always lovely.. not ! |
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"There's a couple of threads for women who meet women and an organised social for women only in Manchester, it maybe worth a look.
Mrs
I’m organising the event lol it’s got that bad to find women but there’s loads attending Manchester but they are coming from all over and none are even remotely near me..
but ty for mentioning it xxx"
Ahhh my apologies I didn't click, hope you find someone to meet x |
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I'm not your target audience ,but don't think you're doing anything wrong at all
I think many "bicurious" Fems are doing it mostly to please their men or so he can watch.
There seem to be alot less genuine bisexual women who would meet other women by themselves ,going by all the ladies who've posted similar .
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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gay clubs and bar 100% the way to go its how i meet other fems and have made excellent friends too there are a few who dislike the bi married woman but there are alot lot more who like ...ive even been with hubs and still had lots of fun as has he too |
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"Ur profile is stunning only a matter of time x
It’s been over a year ! Lol
Have you tried going to clubs OP?
Yep but I’m more after a playmate than a one off shag
I've found some great friendships from people I've met in clubs. Townhouse do an all girls night and it's always busy when I've been. I'd recommend it as a great way to meet bi women. And it's always a lot of fun."
I concur, and you don't have to go through the rigmarol of needing them to turn up or being a fake profile.
It's far easier in the company of likeminded people even those in a relationship to talk about what you are looking for.
Mr Shady would be delighted for me to have a female fwb without needing to be involved with that as an arrangement, not so with a fella though. I don't think I'm alone in being on that position. You never know, you might actually meet some people who share that mindset that my hubby has. I wish you well with your search  |
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over a year ago
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The bit saying partners aren't allowed to watch will limit options.
A recent club night turned into a one on one girly night for my wife the other weekend and I enjoyed the view. I wouldn't mind her doing it again, but if I was told I can't even watch then it would be a no and I know my wife wouldn't want that either as she likes me watching |
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K has the same issue, and when she does meet someone soon as they find she has me as well they lose interest, even though I will not be involved.
She keeps saying if we ever split up she will get girl instead of guy  |
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"The bit saying partners aren't allowed to watch will limit options.
A recent club night turned into a one on one girly night for my wife the other weekend and I enjoyed the view. I wouldn't mind her doing it again, but if I was told I can't even watch then it would be a no and I know my wife wouldn't want that either as she likes me watching"
Isn't that the point though, it's not one on one if there's a man watching.
Mrs would love to meet women alone but she's often found after quite a bit of chat that there's a guy lurking somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never meet people on here. I have had the most wonderful experiences in clubs. I don't think I've had any one offs with women. Just made great friends and connections. Highly recommend. |
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I’ve had successful women only meets following meeting other bi women at a local social, are there any socials organised near to you? I’m hoping one I met with will become a regular because it was absolutely one of the best sex sessions I’ve ever had. Keep searching x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't that the point though, it's not one on one if there's a man watching.
Mrs would love to meet women alone but she's often found after quite a bit of chat that there's a guy lurking somewhere"
You’re absolutely correct. It shouldn’t limit options at all.
Most women seeking 1-1 meetings want exactly that.
If the man wants to watch then they should meet as a couple.
It’s really annoying, not to mention disrespectful when you’ve been communicating with another woman, she’s aware of your boundaries and then she still drops the all too familiar comment…. Can her partner watch? 
Instant sharp message back and a block.
I mentioned on another thread, this is one of the hardest connections to make on Fab. |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Ur profile is stunning only a matter of time x
It’s been over a year ! Lol
Have you tried going to clubs OP?
Yep but I’m more after a playmate than a one off shag
I've found some great friendships from people I've met in clubs. Townhouse do an all girls night and it's always busy when I've been. I'd recommend it as a great way to meet bi women. And it's always a lot of fun.
I concur, and you don't have to go through the rigmarol of needing them to turn up or being a fake profile.
It's far easier in the company of likeminded people even those in a relationship to talk about what you are looking for.
Mr Shady would be delighted for me to have a female fwb without needing to be involved with that as an arrangement, not so with a fella though. I don't think I'm alone in being on that position. You never know, you might actually meet some people who share that mindset that my hubby has. I wish you well with your search "
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Isn't that the point though, it's not one on one if there's a man watching.
Mrs would love to meet women alone but she's often found after quite a bit of chat that there's a guy lurking somewhere
You’re absolutely correct. It shouldn’t limit options at all.
Most women seeking 1-1 meetings want exactly that.
If the man wants to watch then they should meet as a couple.
It’s really annoying, not to mention disrespectful when you’ve been communicating with another woman, she’s aware of your boundaries and then she still drops the all too familiar comment…. Can her partner watch?
Instant sharp message back and a block.
I mentioned on another thread, this is one of the hardest connections to make on Fab."
It’s dire ! And I can’t make it any clearer I don’t meet couples but I constantly get messages asking for the male to watch and I too find it just disrespectful.
I’m just finding it really hard to even attract other women though for some reason  |
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Maybe your too stunning, and the other fem's feel threatned! I'm Pansexual (not bi or curios) and can be very picky. So much so we're not looking for fems on our profile. We've /I've happily played at clubs with fems. Never found any meets on here just fems. Theres always the watching partner. Or you turn up, and get told. You can play with me, and my Mr, But your fella can not play with their fem. Sneeky way of getting a unicorn. Yes, we've left meets at this point!
Anyway, I digress. I'm more picky with fems. Hairy, too many tats, too stunning ect. I don't make it easy on myself. |
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Isn't that the point though, it's not one on one if there's a man watching.
Mrs would love to meet women alone but she's often found after quite a bit of chat that there's a guy lurking somewhere
You’re absolutely correct. It shouldn’t limit options at all.
Most women seeking 1-1 meetings want exactly that.
If the man wants to watch then they should meet as a couple.
It’s really annoying, not to mention disrespectful when you’ve been communicating with another woman, she’s aware of your boundaries and then she still drops the all too familiar comment…. Can her partner watch?
Instant sharp message back and a block.
I mentioned on another thread, this is one of the hardest connections to make on Fab."
You're absolutely right. It's probably the hardest connection to meet. Mrs has all but given up now, she has had a couple of successful meets but even those eventually turned into 'Mr would love us together'. |
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I've struggled to get one on one female meets also.
It happens at clubs but when I've asked to meet with a female outside of the club then it's a "can hubby come too" . I don't mind a fmf occasional.
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over a year ago
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Because there aren't many genuine bi ladies on here that will meet solo. The majority of bi ladies want their partner there too.
Then there has to be a mutual attraction.
I've met some gems over the years but it's not easy.
Clubs and social events are the easiest way I find. |
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Had alot of bi females asking to meet and if their fella can come along and watch but he wont join in....yeah right.
Wife is also just looking for girl girl play but not getting anywhere on this site. |
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"The bit saying partners aren't allowed to watch will limit options.
A recent club night turned into a one on one girly night for my wife the other weekend and I enjoyed the view. I wouldn't mind her doing it again, but if I was told I can't even watch then it would be a no and I know my wife wouldn't want that either as she likes me watching"
This is the thing, for a lot of couples swinging is about it being a shared experience. Most of the couples I’ve come across where the wife swings alone, it’s for meets with other men. I don’t like the assumption/insinuation that wanting your husband there means you’re doing it solely for him and you’re not genuinely in to women.
C x |
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"The bit saying partners aren't allowed to watch will limit options.
A recent club night turned into a one on one girly night for my wife the other weekend and I enjoyed the view. I wouldn't mind her doing it again, but if I was told I can't even watch then it would be a no and I know my wife wouldn't want that either as she likes me watching
This is the thing, for a lot of couples swinging is about it being a shared experience. Most of the couples I’ve come across where the wife swings alone, it’s for meets with other men. I don’t like the assumption/insinuation that wanting your husband there means you’re doing it solely for him and you’re not genuinely in to women.
C x"
We completely understand that and obviously we're here as a couple.
Our main gripe is women 'stringing' Feisty along to then drop the guy in later.
If you want your man involved in some capacity then be upfront about it. |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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If you find the answer to this riddle let me know 
I've always been into women but the feeling isn't mutual
Wondering if there's a secret enchantment I'm suppose to recite 3 times, over a blue flame and under a full moon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you find the answer to this riddle let me know
I've always been into women but the feeling isn't mutual
Wondering if there's a secret enchantment I'm suppose to recite 3 times, over a blue flame and under a full moon "
And don't forget when the pigs fly by too. |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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"If you find the answer to this riddle let me know
I've always been into women but the feeling isn't mutual
Wondering if there's a secret enchantment I'm suppose to recite 3 times, over a blue flame and under a full moon
And don't forget when the pigs fly by too."
Ahh that must be where I'm going wrong! |
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"The bit saying partners aren't allowed to watch will limit options.
A recent club night turned into a one on one girly night for my wife the other weekend and I enjoyed the view. I wouldn't mind her doing it again, but if I was told I can't even watch then it would be a no and I know my wife wouldn't want that either as she likes me watching
This is the thing, for a lot of couples swinging is about it being a shared experience. Most of the couples I’ve come across where the wife swings alone, it’s for meets with other men. I don’t like the assumption/insinuation that wanting your husband there means you’re doing it solely for him and you’re not genuinely in to women.
C x
We completely understand that and obviously we're here as a couple.
Our main gripe is women 'stringing' Feisty along to then drop the guy in later.
If you want your man involved in some capacity then be upfront about it."
Oh absolutely!
C x |
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By *elbaCouple
over a year ago
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"The bit saying partners aren't allowed to watch will limit options.
A recent club night turned into a one on one girly night for my wife the other weekend and I enjoyed the view. I wouldn't mind her doing it again, but if I was told I can't even watch then it would be a no and I know my wife wouldn't want that either as she likes me watching"
Exactly the same as us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has been an interesting thread for me, thanks.
I have really enjoyed joining couples so far on here & I'm open to exploring more of my bi-curious side but unsure how to take the next step. |
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong! "
You're probably not doing anything "wrong". The same as single guys on here not doing anything wrong, it's just statistics and numbers.
You're looking for "bi" women on a swinging site. Many will be attached, and many attached women will only play with their partner. Many of those not attached are looking for a couple or a man, which is why they come here.
You reduce your pool by specifying non-butch, which precludes many lesbians, or perhaps puts off some lesbians. You are willing to go five years older, but 27 years younger. Assuming that your requirements are typical of other bi women, then realistically you are only going to find women 47+. There is nothing wrong with your preferences, everyone is entitled to them, but it does affect the numbers.
You live fairly remotely - in London, you might well match. But your requirements are so narrow and prescriptive on a swinging site that has something like a 70:25:5 ratio of men:couples:women, that is not you, it's statistics.
The advice given to single men is: what do you bring? Most of your profile is negative and what you're not looking for. Presumably you're looking to find another woman who is sick of men, dislikes butch lesbians and doesn't want her time wasted and photos misappropriated. Research shows that dating profiles that project positivity attract the most attention. Had a single guy (or indeed married and looking) written a similar profile, the profile doctors would be all over it. Perhaps explain what you bring and why they should choose you? But none of this fixes the underlying numbers. To change the numbers, you would need to widen your criteria, be it age, location range or other limits (upon which you might, understandably, be unwilling to compromise)
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Mrs here, also surprised how hard it has been to meet genuine females on here. Even have my own profile and it’s been hit and miss.
Luckily clubs have proven quite a success and have had some amazing connections there, but would love a female fwb xx |
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Also women are notoriously bad at flirting with each other. It starts off well but I’m my experience soon turns to general chit chat and women’s “stuff”
Great because you end up with a friendship but a killer for sexual fun.
Clubs are the way forward I think. You go, you’re in the mood, see someone you’re attracted to and hopefully have a great night!
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"Also women are notoriously bad at flirting with each other. It starts off well but I’m my experience soon turns to general chit chat and women’s “stuff”
Great because you end up with a friendship but a killer for sexual fun.
Clubs are the way forward I think. You go, you’re in the mood, see someone you’re attracted to and hopefully have a great night!
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Yes couldn’t agree more! Although even at clubs the temptation is to chat a bit too much when you really want to rip someone’s clothes off haha xx |
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over a year ago
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Yes couldn’t agree more! Although even at clubs the temptation is to chat a bit too much when you really want to rip someone’s clothes off haha xx"
Lol! I’m also happy to chat if I know the clothes will be flying off! Adds to the fun xx |
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"Mrs here, also surprised how hard it has been to meet genuine females on here. Even have my own profile and it’s been hit and miss.
Luckily clubs have proven quite a success and have had some amazing connections there, but would love a female fwb xx"
We’re looking for that too but I’m at loss… |
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"Mrs here, also surprised how hard it has been to meet genuine females on here. Even have my own profile and it’s been hit and miss.
Luckily clubs have proven quite a success and have had some amazing connections there, but would love a female fwb xx
We’re looking for that too but I’m at loss… "
We have found that clubs are the only place to meet woman for us everytime we have planned to meet another couple or woman they always let us down like a day before or on the day xx |
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For a thread started by a bisexual woman, there’s some insanely biphobic comments on here.
As someone stated above, if you were looking to find someone from 100% of the possibilities, you’d probably have no issues. Because you’ve massively reduced that 100% it becomes harder to find someone. You need to look harder because of that.
There are women only club events, I would try that.
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I agree with the comment above that your profile doesn’t read well, it is very negative and lacks personality. If you’re happy with it then cool but you need to realise that it will put people off. The fact you’re married and playing without your partner will put some people off also and you need to realise that just because you’re happy to play with someone much younger, it doesn’t mean much younger people will be happy to play with you.
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I found when I was single you always got the would love to meet, maybe he could join after we had some fun.... errr no. I managed one single meet with a woman in my whole time on here as its hard work
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I think another thing is that women typically want to match everything a person is looking for. Look at jobs, men will apply if they match 3 criteria and women tend to see if they match everything. (Generally).
I know of I don't match a person's full criteria, generally I won't reach out as I don't think I'm gonna be for them.
It's hard but as mentioned loads, clubs are amazing for meeting women. |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I agree with the comment above that your profile doesn’t read well, it is very negative and lacks personality. If you’re happy with it then cool but you need to realise that it will put people off. The fact you’re married and playing without your partner will put some people off also and you need to realise that just because you’re happy to play with someone much younger, it doesn’t mean much younger people will be happy to play with you.
C x"
The only reason my age limit is low is I have friends much younger on here that come and go and they can message me that’s all and I’ve tried with the nice profile and ended up taking loads of abuse from couples so that’s why it reads like it does.. it’s not offensive! It’s just to the point  |
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Agreed that your profile comes off pretty negative. It doesn't really explain much about you, what you bring, or what you're looking for. More of a list of don'ts which won't help.
Other than that though, bi women are pretty hard to come by on here, and everyone's looking for them so they have the pick of the bunch 
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By (user no longer on site)
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C x
The only reason my age limit is low is I have friends much younger on here that come and go and they can message me that’s all and I’ve tried with the nice profile and ended up taking loads of abuse from couples so that’s why it reads like it does.. it’s not offensive! It’s just to the point "
To have a solo profile on here as a woman is difficult and there’s no getting it right.
Most that have been on here for any length of time become increasingly frustrated at people’s apparent inability to understand what we’re looking for so the profile blurb becomes more to the point and what some would perceive as negative.
Unfortunately it still doesn’t make a difference to the many “I know I’m not what you’re looking for” messages.
In fairness, I’m part of a couples account and we get the same problem on there as well.
There’s no easy answer. Just run your profile the way you want OP and accept life on Fab is challenging at times x |
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"I agree with the comment above that your profile doesn’t read well, it is very negative and lacks personality. If you’re happy with it then cool but you need to realise that it will put people off. The fact you’re married and playing without your partner will put some people off also and you need to realise that just because you’re happy to play with someone much younger, it doesn’t mean much younger people will be happy to play with you.
C x
The only reason my age limit is low is I have friends much younger on here that come and go and they can message me that’s all and I’ve tried with the nice profile and ended up taking loads of abuse from couples so that’s why it reads like it does.. it’s not offensive! It’s just to the point "
If we altered our bio based on all the crappy messages we have to filter through (mostly from single men mind!) then I imagine we wouldn’t have much interaction on here either. You can write what you’re looking for without everything being negative. You’ve asked what you’re doing wrong and been given advice but it doesn’t seem like you want to take any of it.
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I'm a single bi female, looking to meet other females. I have the same issues.
Bi females suddenly have male partner who she wants to be present.
Many couples aren't interested when I say I don't want the guy present or involved.
I did meet couple once where it had been specifically agreed that both husband and i would play with wife together, but that he wouldn't play with me. Within 30 mins of meeting, he's hinting about us both playing. I left.
Doesn't seem to matter whether it's private or club play.
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over a year ago
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"Also women are notoriously bad at flirting with each other. It starts off well but I’m my experience soon turns to general chit chat and women’s “stuff”
Great because you end up with a friendship but a killer for sexual fun.
Clubs are the way forward I think. You go, you’re in the mood, see someone you’re attracted to and hopefully have a great night!
Yes couldn’t agree more! Although even at clubs the temptation is to chat a bit too much when you really want to rip someone’s clothes off haha xx"
Rip the clothes off then chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The best place to find another woman for sex if you want one on one is a gay club or bar.
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Sadly I’ve found the opposite to be true.
Most lesbians aren’t interested in bisexual women at all.
So my lesbian friends have told me |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"The best place to find another woman for sex if you want one on one is a gay club or bar.
Sadly I’ve found the opposite to be true.
Most lesbians aren’t interested in bisexual women at all.
So my lesbian friends have told me "
I found this too x |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I agree with the comment above that your profile doesn’t read well, it is very negative and lacks personality. If you’re happy with it then cool but you need to realise that it will put people off. The fact you’re married and playing without your partner will put some people off also and you need to realise that just because you’re happy to play with someone much younger, it doesn’t mean much younger people will be happy to play with you.
C x
The only reason my age limit is low is I have friends much younger on here that come and go and they can message me that’s all and I’ve tried with the nice profile and ended up taking loads of abuse from couples so that’s why it reads like it does.. it’s not offensive! It’s just to the point
If we altered our bio based on all the crappy messages we have to filter through (mostly from single men mind!) then I imagine we wouldn’t have much interaction on here either. You can write what you’re looking for without everything being negative. You’ve asked what you’re doing wrong and been given advice but it doesn’t seem like you want to take any of it.
C x"
Excuse me I’m welcome to advice, I’ve been told to block couples as I’m not looking for them even though I don’t meeting the female for 1:1 fun, which would limit me even more, I’ve been told to show more pictures and also been told to put them all on private I’ve also been told to put my ages limits higher and then lower ! I can’t win !!!!!
I now know it’s not just me but most of the bi women who play 1:1.
Also me being married makes absolutely no difference to anyone one my profile as my husband would NEVER be involved I just state it as I’m not looking for a full blown relationship as I’ve had a few gay women ask me if I’m single as they are looking for a little bit more than a shag…
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"The best place to find another woman for sex if you want one on one is a gay club or bar.
Sadly I’ve found the opposite to be true.
Most lesbians aren’t interested in bisexual women at all.
So my lesbian friends have told me
I found this too x"
I'd imagine the single 100% lesbian lady is looking for more than a fwb, or even a fling if the truth be told with a likeminded women.
Your original point on a bisexual women, in a relationship or not and looking for that special friendship isn't unreasonable.
Some bi couples only play as a pair, we get this. Indeed if it was single bloke that we interacted with that would be the only way it would happen.
Your quest for a solely 1 on 1 female relationship isn't based on anything other than wanting not to involve a man in any way with the sex you have. That isn't unreasonable. You aren't asking for the world, you just want some lady love with another woman that possibly from time to time you can chat to and maybe just hang with on the odd occasion without there having to be a man around. Less so having to involve them to the detriment of what you need for your own desires.
You aren't alone with this. Stick to your desires, that's where self contentment lies, be true to yourself. Take care x |
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over a year ago
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As the single bi poly women here’s my two cents, even if you’re playing solo, you’re still part of a couple so you all inevitably ask when he can join. This is why so many singles exclude couples completely now. Personally I won’t meet unless it’s at a club anyway so I’m moot from your search but people generally don’t like being made to feel like toys, or a side piece
This is just IMO and based on my personal experience, but genuinely I’ve never met a couple, wether to meet one or both, and left happy, always always left feeling used, now it’s just always a no |
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over a year ago
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I also find it’s very frustrating in my own search when women in relationships make single women profiles, I’m sorry but it feels to me the same as single men making couples profile and we understand everyone bites about those |
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"I also find it’s very frustrating in my own search when women in relationships make single women profiles, I’m sorry but it feels to me the same as single men making couples profile and we understand everyone bites about those "
If a woman genuinely wants to meet with other bisexual women for 1-1 interaction why shouldn’t she create a solo profile?
Most women including myself are uncomfortable messaging a couples profile to speak with the F half as it’s not private and you have no idea if it’s the M replying.
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Very hard to meet other women even outside of swinging circles. I present quite straight and femme I think is part of the problem as I don’t seem obviously up for it.
Non straight women (and of course men but we’re discussing women on this thread) are of course the minority anyway.
Add in those already in committed monogamous relationships and therefore unavailable, bi erasure and it’s damn near impossible! I’ve looked on here, on specific supposedly bi and lesbian dating sites and apps, gone to bi/lesbian bars and clubs…
Nothing!
Most frustrating. I have had fun times with other women but yea it’s incredibly hard to meet like minded women. |
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong! "
Well the first thing you are doing wrong is not getting yourself photo verified. I wouldn't imagine any woman is going to meet or converse with someone they don't know is genuinely female.
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up. |
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over a year ago
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"I also find it’s very frustrating in my own search when women in relationships make single women profiles, I’m sorry but it feels to me the same as single men making couples profile and we understand everyone bites about those "
If the profile clearly states they are married though and are looking for solo meets, then where is the problem?
My couple profile is to meet couples. This is for me to meet solo, always. I don't see an issue in me having this profile, at all. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"We find the opposite problem. We struggle to find any couples where the woman is straight. "
I agree on this ,Im half a couple and we find most want some fem to fem play .
This is why we have kept our single profiles ,as it's so hard to find couples looking for the same Ie swapping partners only . |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Your profile comes across like you’re spoiling for a fight more than a fuck.
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Once again it reads like this as all I get contacted by is couples and 99% of the time the male part of the couple and it’s exhausting taking abuse cause I won’t let the bloke watch !
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I’ve met more bisexual women, than couples have a regular girlfriend, couples can be great fun too, as long as you can work out the ones that are genuinely bi, and not throwing the show on becomes a massive turn off. |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
barrow |
"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
Well the first thing you are doing wrong is not getting yourself photo verified. I wouldn't imagine any woman is going to meet or converse with someone they don't know is genuinely female.
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up. "
Ok firstly I have veri’s that you can read to see I’m female and I’m always happy to jump on cam or have a phone call with other women..
I’m defensive on my profile as I get contacted constantly by the male half of couples and when you explain you don’t play with couples I get so much abuse! Yeah I get a little sick of it after a while !
I’ve been on fab for over 10 years so I’ve had the nice profile and still found it hard to meet ladies |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
barrow |
"Very hard to meet other women even outside of swinging circles. I present quite straight and femme I think is part of the problem as I don’t seem obviously up for it.
Non straight women (and of course men but we’re discussing women on this thread) are of course the minority anyway.
Add in those already in committed monogamous relationships and therefore unavailable, bi erasure and it’s damn near impossible! I’ve looked on here, on specific supposedly bi and lesbian dating sites and apps, gone to bi/lesbian bars and clubs…
Nothing!
Most frustrating. I have had fun times with other women but yea it’s incredibly hard to meet like minded women."
I totally understand your pain I have also tried other sites but found most lesbian sites are looking for relationships and not a FWB… it’s hard work ! |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
barrow |
"As the single bi poly women here’s my two cents, even if you’re playing solo, you’re still part of a couple so you all inevitably ask when he can join. This is why so many singles exclude couples completely now. Personally I won’t meet unless it’s at a club anyway so I’m moot from your search but people generally don’t like being made to feel like toys, or a side piece
This is just IMO and based on my personal experience, but genuinely I’ve never met a couple, wether to meet one or both, and left happy, always always left feeling used, now it’s just always a no "
My husband as never been involved in any of my past meets and never would be hence my profile stating in never do 3somes,I’m honest in my profile x |
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up.
Ok firstly I have veri’s that you can read to see I’m female and I’m always happy to jump on cam or have a phone call with other women..
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At least you don’t look like a brick layer! |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I agree with the comment above that your profile doesn’t read well, it is very negative and lacks personality. If you’re happy with it then cool but you need to realise that it will put people off. The fact you’re married and playing without your partner will put some people off also and you need to realise that just because you’re happy to play with someone much younger, it doesn’t mean much younger people will be happy to play with you.
C x
The only reason my age limit is low is I have friends much younger on here that come and go and they can message me that’s all and I’ve tried with the nice profile and ended up taking loads of abuse from couples so that’s why it reads like it does.. it’s not offensive! It’s just to the point "
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
Well the first thing you are doing wrong is not getting yourself photo verified. I wouldn't imagine any woman is going to meet or converse with someone they don't know is genuinely female.
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up.
Ok firstly I have veri’s that you can read to see I’m female and I’m always happy to jump on cam or have a phone call with other women..
I’m defensive on my profile as I get contacted constantly by the male half of couples and when you explain you don’t play with couples I get so much abuse! Yeah I get a little sick of it after a while !
I’ve been on fab for over 10 years so I’ve had the nice profile and still found it hard to meet ladies "
I'm sorry but your profile doesn't reflect this. Hence my points. |
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up.
Ok firstly I have veri’s that you can read to see I’m female and I’m always happy to jump on cam or have a phone call with other women..
At least you don’t look like a brick layer! "
Unfortunately we don't know do we? without a green tick to prove you are who you say you are, there will always be an element of doubt.
Authentication takes away any complication |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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Wow, great of the men to jump in and tell you what's wrong. *facepalm*
I completely get how defensive you have been in your profile. I'm not meeting at the moment and I'm still bombarded by men and couples daily.
I've struggled to meet women, partly because I've always looked for people on the BDSM scene too, and for a more long term situation (not a relationship as such more needing to build trust for some of the play I like to do).
I'd love their to be more women only events. Too many are mixed bi nights and I feel like a performing monkey and end up not doing anything at all. |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Wow, great of the men to jump in and tell you what's wrong. *facepalm*
I completely get how defensive you have been in your profile. I'm not meeting at the moment and I'm still bombarded by men and couples daily.
I've struggled to meet women, partly because I've always looked for people on the BDSM scene too, and for a more long term situation (not a relationship as such more needing to build trust for some of the play I like to do).
I'd love there to be more women only events. Too many are mixed bi nights and I feel like a performing monkey and end up not doing anything at all. "
I seem to be defending my profile more than anything else…. But honestly I don’t care I stand by everything on there if it puts some people off then they aren’t for me
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up.
Ok firstly I have veri’s that you can read to see I’m female and I’m always happy to jump on cam or have a phone call with other women..
At least you don’t look like a brick layer!
Unfortunately we don't know do we? without a green tick to prove you are who you say you are, there will always be an element of doubt.
Authentication takes away any complication "
Sorry but from past experience I can say a green tick means sod all… some people’s profile pics are 10 year old and they no longer even look like that…
I am real Very real and those that message and ask I prove it ! Surely that is better than a poxy tick ! And I’ve even caught men out posing as women with a tick.. |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
Secondly, your profile looks like it was written by a bricklayer who just got sacked, it's angry and aggressive.
Lighten up.
Ok firstly I have veri’s that you can read to see I’m female and I’m always happy to jump on cam or have a phone call with other women..
At least you don’t look like a brick layer! "
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"Wow, great of the men to jump in and tell you what's wrong. *facepalm*
I completely get how defensive you have been in your profile. I'm not meeting at the moment and I'm still bombarded by men and couples daily.
I've struggled to meet women, partly because I've always looked for people on the BDSM scene too, and for a more long term situation (not a relationship as such more needing to build trust for some of the play I like to do).
I'd love their to be more women only events. Too many are mixed bi nights and I feel like a performing monkey and end up not doing anything at all. "
The question was open to everyone, it wasn't gender defined. So I gave an honest answer to her question. If people don't like to hear opinions, they shouldn't ask for them.
Also, a simple way for you to stop being "Bombarded" is to block men and couples from messaging you. It really is that easy, I promise. *Facepalm* |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Wow, great of the men to jump in and tell you what's wrong. *facepalm*
I completely get how defensive you have been in your profile. I'm not meeting at the moment and I'm still bombarded by men and couples daily.
I've struggled to meet women, partly because I've always looked for people on the BDSM scene too, and for a more long term situation (not a relationship as such more needing to build trust for some of the play I like to do).
I'd love their to be more women only events. Too many are mixed bi nights and I feel like a performing monkey and end up not doing anything at all.
The question was open to everyone, it wasn't gender defined. So I gave an honest answer to her question. If people don't like to hear opinions, they shouldn't ask for them.
Also, a simple way for you to stop being "Bombarded" is to block men and couples from messaging you. It really is that easy, I promise. *Facepalm*"
Men are blocked from my profile ! And I’ve left it open for couples just in case there’s another women in a couple in my position.. thanks for your opinion anyway x |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"For me personally it puts me off with married women as I always think its for the man to get off on, I know that is not always true but as a single female it is probably the view of most xx"
I get that completely it also puts me off totally, that’s why I state I don’t do 3somes. I’m just stuck between a rock and a hard place but I do feel I have to be honest about being married x |
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"Very hard to meet other women even outside of swinging circles. I present quite straight and femme I think is part of the problem as I don’t seem obviously up for it.
Non straight women (and of course men but we’re discussing women on this thread) are of course the minority anyway.
Add in those already in committed monogamous relationships and therefore unavailable, bi erasure and it’s damn near impossible! I’ve looked on here, on specific supposedly bi and lesbian dating sites and apps, gone to bi/lesbian bars and clubs…
Nothing!
Most frustrating. I have had fun times with other women but yea it’s incredibly hard to meet like minded women.
I totally understand your pain I have also tried other sites but found most lesbian sites are looking for relationships and not a FWB… it’s hard work ! "
It’s really hard work! There aren’t many of us so then to find someone where you’re both attracted to each other, both available, both looking for the same dynamic… pretty near impossible! |
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong! "
I still find it strange that you created this thread to ask what the f#*k you're doing wrong. So many people have tried to give you advice about getting photo verified to prove to other women (that you're seeking) that you are indeed genuine. Yet you choose to ignore that advice. Why? |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What the f#*k am I doing wrong!
I still find it strange that you created this thread to ask what the f#*k you're doing wrong. So many people have tried to give you advice about getting photo verified to prove to other women (that you're seeking) that you are indeed genuine. Yet you choose to ignore that advice. Why? "
Because I just haven’t like I’ve said before I chat in the chat rooms most morning so if you want to see if I’m real there’s the proof and I’m always willing to chat over the phone or by other means
Like I’ve said I’ve noted your advice and ty.. not that I was asking from advice from a man’s point of view |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Very hard to meet other women even outside of swinging circles. I present quite straight and femme I think is part of the problem as I don’t seem obviously up for it.
Non straight women (and of course men but we’re discussing women on this thread) are of course the minority anyway.
Add in those already in committed monogamous relationships and therefore unavailable, bi erasure and it’s damn near impossible! I’ve looked on here, on specific supposedly bi and lesbian dating sites and apps, gone to bi/lesbian bars and clubs…
Nothing!
Most frustrating. I have had fun times with other women but yea it’s incredibly hard to meet like minded women.
I totally understand your pain I have also tried other sites but found most lesbian sites are looking for relationships and not a FWB… it’s hard work !
It’s really hard work! There aren’t many of us so then to find someone where you’re both attracted to each other, both available, both looking for the same dynamic… pretty near impossible! "
Yep exactly x I hope you have better luck xx |
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