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Is an ex a no-go or not?

By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple over a year ago

Rushden

I still occasionally see an ex around town, we're friendly & didn't end on bad terms but its just a quick chat here & there.

I had a situation yesterday where I have a pic on Fab saying "if you see me come & spank me, i like it" & I saw my ex in a shop & we chatted, as he walked off he slapped my bum, which he has never even joked about before so I'm wondering if he's on here.

Im not sure how I'd feel if he asked to meet (if he even is here), V has said its just sex & I can do whatever I want with whoever I want as long as its him in my heart & no-one else.

What's your feelings about if it was you? It wont sway me either way, we are just curious what people would say xx

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By *offee Cocktails and CumCouple over a year ago

Waterlooville

There’s a reason they’re an ex

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By *lirtyAndFun OP Couple over a year ago

Rushden

"There’s a reason they’re an ex"

We just didn't have much in common so the relationship just fizzled out but are still friends, just not close.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with either us meeting an ex, there ex's for a reason, there's been feelings etc.

Mrs

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By *offee Cocktails and CumCouple over a year ago

Waterlooville

Then it’s down to whether the sex was something worth repeating? We’d guess it must be otherwise you’d not be asking the question… assuming the sex to be up to par, then can you reassure your partner that the sex it’s purely that. Being swingers in a swingers site, the answer should be yes, but we all have our own boundaries. Given your scenarios if it were us, with our relationship and our boundaries, we’d fuck than and enjoy the experience

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By *amesBMMan over a year ago

My Town

Some of the best sex I have had has been with an ex. Doing things together we never did when an actual couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s a reason they’re an ex"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t be comfortable about it at all.

This lifestyle is far removed from my normal life, same for my partner.

We never meet with people we know.

I love watching him enjoy sex with others as he does with me, there is no jealousy whatsoever but an ex would be way too personal and in my opinion playing with fire.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS over a year ago

Carlisle

You do what you feel is right hun! If it's just fun no harm done, But just think of yourself and your emotions too as it's an ex for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No 1 size fits all.

For a casual / short term ex, who it wasn't a big thing with... I don't see the issue. Yes, they are an ex for a reason, but if it was going to go somewhere, it would have already, so easy to just be about the sex itself (assuming it was good enough to repeat).

Where as, an ex with emotional history just sounds like more agg than its worth. Feelings can get re-visited, whether good or bad, & someone's bound to end up hurt along the way (might not be the exes, could be the new partner/s). That's the kind of ex you keep as a distant friend, with no bearing on your life now/ going forward.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I finished on the worst possible terms with my ex. I never would go there but the sex was always great. I have such a fantasy of fucking her one more time I bet it would be great sex.

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By *ansexualPandaMan over a year ago

Near You

It depends on the ex. I have ex's where I'd never go back but others where I would.

Some of the best sex I've had is revisiting an ex.

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By *lexV16Man over a year ago

Welling

Interesting topic. After divorce on pretty amicable terms I didn’t see my ex as sexually desired object. She was just a mum to my kids and kind of a friend.

However now few years later, I once or twice had wet dreams with her. And when I see her I see her as attractive woman again rather than a friend. Also hesitating as if I can/should take things further or shall I put it to bed for good. I mean just sex, I don’t want her back. Would be interesting to hear from others

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

My ex wife, god no, so glad she remarried so the bloke she cheated with now has to put up with her moods.

However I always have one ex I still love. Treated her badly at the time but we remain as friends. So if anything should happen to her husband I’d be right there comforting her.

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By *enatton2Couple over a year ago

West Midlands

Tani has one ex, we asked him, he said no. They talk a lot and I’ve given her the green light if me being there is the stumbling block.

I have more exes, 99% I wouldn’t be interested in revisiting & im not sure Tani would be comfortable anyway. So it’s not going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I still occasionally see an ex around town, we're friendly & didn't end on bad terms but its just a quick chat here & there.

Im not sure how I'd feel if he asked to meet (if he even is here), V has said its just sex & I can do whatever I want with whoever I want as long as its him in my heart & no-one else.

What's your feelings about if it was you? It wont sway me either way, we are just curious what people would say xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I still occasionally see an ex around town, we're friendly & didn't end on bad terms but its just a quick chat here & there.

Im not sure how I'd feel if he asked to meet (if he even is here), V has said its just sex & I can do whatever I want with whoever I want as long as its him in my heart & no-one else.

What's your feelings about if it was you? It wont sway me either way, we are just curious what people would say xx

I would do more than smack it..

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By *agusMan over a year ago

Near by

For partners point of view an ex is a risk for fear past feelings will reignite....however it would be sensational as you'd both be relaxed but also showing how sexy you've become and each of you would naturally put in energy you never knew you had. So yer I would x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Personally I don't have an ex I'd want to get involved with on any level except briefly, socially. I think it you meet someone you previously had an emotional relationship with for sex you're playing with fire.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

I would not go near any ex sexually. They are done dead and dusted on that regard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s a reason they’re an ex

We just didn't have much in common so the relationship just fizzled out but are still friends, just not close."

Sounds like he was a shit shag so why go back?

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By *angtidy42Couple over a year ago

Redditch