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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Are we talking about all women or some women? |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here
Are we talking about all women or some women? "
Are they not a collective? Like the Borg?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here
Are we talking about all women or some women? "
Well probably a lot more than half actually  |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here
Are we talking about all women or some women?
Well probably a lot more than half actually "
Is that because they won’t meet you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
With an attitude like that, good luck finding yourselves a female....
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Don't think they think they are gods gift just think they get so much interest that they can be select in who they choose  |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Supply and demand, women can afford to be picky, if you aren’t what they are looking for then just accept it and move on. Don’t get all bitter about it. |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
What do you mean by saying “owed something for a meet”? |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here
Supply and demand, women can afford to be picky, if you aren’t what they are looking for then just accept it and move on. Don’t get all bitter about it."
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Newsflash - women don’t owe you anything, god forbid we have preferences but we do!
Someone’s profile status above is ‘I’m here for me, your self entitlement means nothing to me’ - and it couldn’t be more spot on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Is this how your intial messages to women's profiles tend to go? Because I can bet you a shiny dollar, I know why nobody is meeting you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone on fab, whether they be male, female, couples, trans has every right to their own tastes and preferences.
And finding someone who matches your own preferences while you also meet theirs is just as rare on here as it is in the real world.
Nobody should be expected to compromise on what they're looking for to suit anybody.
To be fair, OP, I find your opening post rather contradictatory.
You're essentially criticising the lady folk of fab and accusing them of some sort of sense of entitlement while demonstrating your own.
I've not had a huge amount of sucess since coming back to fab after a short break, but as someone who's been using this site over the last 10 years, I know how it works and completely understand that I'll only appeal to a handful of people and, given the times that I can play, probably even less than before - and that's absolutely fine. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone on fab, whether they be male, female, couples, trans has every right to their own tastes and preferences.
And finding someone who matches your own preferences while you also meet theirs is just as rare on here as it is in the real world.
Nobody should be expected to compromise on what they're looking for to suit anybody.
To be fair, OP, I find your opening post rather contradictatory.
You're essentially criticising the lady folk of fab and accusing them of some sort of sense of entitlement while demonstrating your own.
I've not had a huge amount of sucess since coming back to fab after a short break, but as someone who's been using this site over the last 10 years, I know how it works and completely understand that I'll only appeal to a handful of people and, given the times that I can play, probably even less than before - and that's absolutely fine."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
This post suggests you do message women you wouldn't look at twice and then can't accept the rejection. You're mainly looking for couples or bi males, according to your profile. So even if I were looking for couples, and fitted your criteria, I wouldn't be interested because of that statement. You also need to bear in that single women get to pick and choose owing to the ratio of women to couples and especially single men. Personally, I don't think the ratios are particularly healthy but a sense of entitlement can be found in a number of people on here not just single women x |
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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago
Stornoway |
We always find that women approach us as we're not in any way threatening, some guys do come over as too keen and let their cock overcome their common sense. It can't be helped. We find with some guys once we get past the "I want to fuck you in the arse stage" are pretty shy and inexperienced |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Well you seem like a bundle joy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Couldn’t agree more xx
We aren’t having a pop just stating how we are finding the site so far ?
Are we not entitled to an opinion
Seems not with all the comments |
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"Couldn’t agree more xx
We aren’t having a pop just stating how we are finding the site so far ?
Are we not entitled to an opinion
Seems not with all the comments "
hey its all good with me I get called fake lol. Water of a ducks back, but love the interesting posts on here so keep them coming everyone lol  |
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"Newsflash - women don’t owe you anything, god forbid we have preferences but we do!
Someone’s profile status above is ‘I’m here for me, your self entitlement means nothing to me’ - and it couldn’t be more spot on "
Love this answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couldn’t agree more xx
We aren’t having a pop just stating how we are finding the site so far ?
Are we not entitled to an opinion
Seems not with all the comments "
It's about how you express an opinion as opposed to seemingly having a rant and alienating people.
Shame of it is that you actually had some good advice particularly about meeting bi women. |
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"Well that message will upset a few on here, but freedom of speech and all that.
Freedom of speech? On Fab? You're joking, right?
What’s that haha"
In our experience on here, not one single "woman" (read - singular....take that as a normal grammar nazi would) would ever finish off a statement/message with "haha"....that's VERY much a man thing to do...especially when it's not remotely funny |
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Coming back to the OP- sadly, couples like you are the main reason I don't meet couples. The very first line of your profile suggests just one way communication, coming from you telling me what you expect (of me/to happen during the meet). There is nothing about three-way communication, finding out what all 3 like and dislike, soft and hard boundaries etc. Also, your "sour grapes" post is not going to get you more opportunities to meet. |
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As a newbie here, think been on here 5 weeks ish, still don't know all the functions can use on here and i paid a subscription (blame my twat mate saying try fab lol) but the forums are what makes this site so interesting with people's experiences of getting fobbed off lied too no one turns up fakes etc, that's sad because shouldn't be like that but all sites are the same. |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
 Amen!!! |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here
What do you mean by saying “owed something for a meet”?"
I've been trying to puzzle this out 
And why do you msg women you wouldn't look at twice in the street? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Everyone is god's gift in their own little way just some things that they are more worthy than others
But apparently God is a woman so she's guffawing now "
Now now as the song goes it's a man's world but women have shown the ability to prove they are better than most guys in doing things example England football men have never gotten as far as the women have and I'm man that feels proud of them doing this just like any sport |
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"Everyone is god's gift in their own little way just some things that they are more worthy than others
But apparently God is a woman so she's guffawing now
Now now as the song goes it's a man's world but women have shown the ability to prove they are better than most guys in doing things example England football men have never gotten as far as the women have and I'm man that feels proud of them doing this just like any sport "
Well apart from 1966. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So yesterday you posted saying you’re struggling to meet females, and today just go to slagging them off instead?
Great way to meet females "
I know right.
People took the time to give quality advise and shared experience and they took absolutely none of it onboard and made zero changes.
Still at least this thread has shown what they really think 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to agree … I am a woman, no I don’t get rejected (in the fab world). If I am not to somebody’s taste, I am totally fine with it.
I love women, not just because they are hot, but because I think we are amazing.
On here, however, I do think that a lot of women have delusions of grandeur. We can pick who we want. But in the real world, we wouldn’t walk down the street and have our pick. No one would.
I just think that maybe people just need to be a little kinder. My profile isn’t the kindest - but it states what I want. The reason for this is because I don’t want to waste any one’s time!
I’m only looking for women, and as a woman (never-mind a man), I cannot be bothered.
Anyone who thinks the op is lying, they are absolutely fibbing!!
Have fun guys … let’s not take this too seriously. But yeah, US women need to be less knobish!!! |
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The way I view it is, I can choose who I want to. Anyone can
When I don't find someone I'm interested in, I have an early night and lots of sleep.
My standards are up to me. If they're not working, I need to ask myself if I should adjust them. |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Sorry not found this I think women have to be far more cautious to The Approach of the site in general for various reason's you maybe give of red flags. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couldn’t agree more xx
We aren’t having a pop just stating how we are finding the site so far ?
Are we not entitled to an opinion
Seems not with all the comments "
You didn't give your opinion you made a statement, it's all in the wording guys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Brilliant thought this would get attention haha"
What’s brilliant about it? You’ve just insulted women on here.
It will certainly get you attention, probably not the type you’d want though. |
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The ratio of women to the rest of the profiles is much lower, there also somewhat going to ve extra cautious and or nervous, there's also a lot of male lead couples profiles disguise, which then adds to the already nervous approach to many.
These are the sorts of dynamics that operate, don't confuse caution for arrogance... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to agree … I am a woman, no I don’t get rejected (in the fab world). If I am not to somebody’s taste, I am totally fine with it.
I love women, not just because they are hot, but because I think we are amazing.
On here, however, I do think that a lot of women have delusions of grandeur. We can pick who we want. But in the real world, we wouldn’t walk down the street and have our pick. No one would.
I just think that maybe people just need to be a little kinder. My profile isn’t the kindest - but it states what I want. The reason for this is because I don’t want to waste any one’s time!
I’m only looking for women, and as a woman (never-mind a man), I cannot be bothered.
Anyone who thinks the op is lying, they are absolutely fibbing!!
Have fun guys … let’s not take this too seriously. But yeah, US women need to be less knobish!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is some truth to this but I don’t see how single women can be to blame when they’re in such high demand on here. It’s easy to let your ego get a bit bigger when you’re getting a thousand messages a day! Of course you can have your pick!
Can’t say I’ve experienced any being rude or arrogant, just maybe a bit weak on the effort side. Completely different story at clubs though |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
Kingsbridge |
Think all the women on here deserve respect and since there are hordes of Randy blokes I expect the compliments flow! As far as the site goes if I were a woman getting hundreds of messages from “admirers” I’d be pretty chuffed with myself.
I think being on here alone suggest an attitude and behaviour that is pretty attractive and half the women In the street don’t have that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think all the women on here deserve respect and since there are hordes of Randy blokes I expect the compliments flow! As far as the site goes if I were a woman getting hundreds of messages from “admirers” I’d be pretty chuffed with myself.
I think being on here alone suggest an attitude and behaviour that is pretty attractive and half the women In the street don’t have that! "
Message quantity means nothing. If I leave my profile as it is but tick the Looking for men box I'd get 50+ messages a day.
Perhaps the women think the men really want them. |
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I don't have a problem with anyone using this site to massage their ego as long as they don't use it as a stick to beat people with or if it's their only reason for being here.
I understand how people claim that attention and validation on here can give people ideas above their station but my experience has been slightly different.
I have encountered a couple of women through fab who are used to compliments and daily validation off site and as a result they now expect nothing less.
They really do ask "do you not know who I am?" or in one particular case when meeting their very first words before saying hello were "Are you really nervous about meeting me?".
For these women, guys on here live and die by their choice of words and even the slightest hint that they may be talking to other women makes them public enemy number one.
They don't understand the word no and can't accept that their behaviour means they rarely have repeat meets. It's always someone else's fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
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I have to say, I find a lot of the couples in here so demanding with their list of wants and don't wants.
Most often it's not a couple that are in it together, it's the guy's fantasy and the girl is doing it to please him.
When conversing with couples, I rarely get to speak to the lady.
I can't imagine contemplating having sex with someone I haven't had any connection with or contact via a third party. It doesn't work. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Brilliant thought this would get attention haha"
Not sure why you think drawing attention to your attitude regarding women, who either have a high opinion of themselves, yet "you wouldn't look twice at walking down the street" is amusing.
Something tells me you'll be getting even less meets with this post, and your profile stating what you expect, rather than what you would bring to a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh a lot of men on here have awful hygiene and self care habits (you can see on their pics) and send really direct messages about what they want to do, without even engaging in conversation first.
So I can see why women have attitudes when they’re bombarded with messages. Even I’ve started taking the defensive if someone messages me, until they can prove to me that they’re normal and healthy |
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"Not going to lie but as a couple we have found the women seem to think because they’re on here there gods gift…!
your on a swinger site get real and stop pretending your owed something for a meet, feel sorry for the guys on here to there just looking for fun but get scrutinised for being male, really don’t get it..!
Half the woman on here you wouldn’t look twice at on the street soo why message them on here "
Just plain simple numbers ratio. As to the latter part that goes both ways though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So yesterday you posted saying you’re struggling to meet females, and today just go to slagging them off instead?
Great way to meet females "
I thought the same thing 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have encountered a couple of women through fab who are used to compliments and daily validation off site and as a result they now expect nothing less.
They really do ask "do you not know who I am?" or in one particular case when meeting their very first words before saying hello were "Are you really nervous about meeting me?".
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Oh my goodness, little shocks me on the forums but that has.
Why would anyone want to meet people with that attitude? |
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I have encountered a couple of women through fab who are used to compliments and daily validation off site and as a result they now expect nothing less.
They really do ask "do you not know who I am?" or in one particular case when meeting their very first words before saying hello were "Are you really nervous about meeting me?".
Oh my goodness, little shocks me on the forums but that has.
Why would anyone want to meet people with that attitude? "
It didn't go beyond that first social because that told me all I needed to know but very public reactions on the forums since and comments from other people about chatgroup behaviour show that it's still ongoing. I can only assume that some are happy to ignore attitudes like that if they can get their leg over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It didn't go beyond that first social because that told me all I needed to know but very public reactions on the forums since and comments from other people about chatgroup behaviour show that it's still ongoing. I can only assume that some are happy to ignore attitudes like that if they can get their leg over. "
Yes sadly the “Any hole’s a goal” is rife on Fab.
I received an invitation to join a chat group which I declined as I’m aware they can be pretty toxic.
A thick skin is needed on here at times. |
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In very simple terms as I have a very simple mind
Demand and supply
When there is ratio of 50 to 1 than people will ask for superman with Batman cap between the ages or 30 and 30.01 with cock of 7.5to 7.6 inches with 8 packs and unicorn on the head lol ??
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Swinging is more a couple's thing, that's why females are called unicorn on here.
As for males of course there lots on here what bloke wouldn't like a no strings attached shag.
We haven't a single female for meets on here but lots of couples. |
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Stop being so selective On who you want to have fun with.
