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Off the back of the thread about who reads profiles I thought I'd enquire who reads verifications. Have read lots of opinions on whether they are a good thing or not and even that it can be off-putting to see so many.
But how many of you lovely folks read them? |
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I have a quick glance. Most are pretty standard, but the odd one is well-written and adds allure or intrigue. I think they bear some reflection of the person under review. And other reasons given by previous posters. |
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over a year ago
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Yes, every profile I read I'll have a look through the verifications to get an idea of who they meet and if I'm nothing like those people that they have been meeting I won't waist there or my time messaging them.
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"I do & I'll also peek at the people who left them,just to get an idea of the type of people they meet etc.
They'd only form part of a decision to meet though,as they're v subjective."
Absolutely the same. But only really interested in the more recent ones. Those from 2016 etc are not of interest you us as lots can change. |
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Always…we do as many due diligence checks as possible 
Verifications sent and received give an indication of the type of person they are. If it’s too graphic then we aren’t going to be compatible.
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Golden rule for us is follow the verification trail if it's a closed loop of just a few profiles verifying each other that's a red flag.
If the verifications come from other well verified users, mention attending and meeting in clubs, clubs veris etc and those who have left theveris have veris from a range of different established people aswell then that's an excellent sign.
For us that's the point of verifications.
KJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there on show yes and we tend to have a peek at who they've met to gage what sort of people they do meet too.
If there's a lot though, we just read a few.
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If there on show yes and we tend to have a peek at who they've met to gage what sort of people they do meet too.
If there's a lot though, we just read a few.
Miss S x"
Exactly what I do... Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I read them (Elle) I must admit those with loads and loads of verifications puts me off. "
How many is loads?
You have 1 veri in 4 weeks on fab so at that meet rate if your account was say 5 years old (many are much older) that would work out at 65 veris. Would 65 veris be to much? (Bear in mind that's someone meeting as frequently as you do they have just been here longer).
KJ
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I read them (Elle) I must admit those with loads and loads of verifications puts me off. "
Funny subject seeing lots of verifications. When we started out on this journey we wanted to know so much about everything to try and avoid the pitfalls. We decided we'd do as many organised socials as we could. Have you seen the amount of verifications that can mount up by just chatting and having a drink with people at these socials? We are very out going people and will chat to anyone. One night at an organised social can bring in 10 or 20 verifications on one night and if you are the organiser then 10 or 20 are just a drop in the ocean, that doesn't even take into account of how long someone has had their profile. The amount of verifications are just a number and no reflection at all
We do read other people's verifications   |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Always - and follow the veri trails too. One of a number of determinants about whether I am interested or not"
This 
Veris aren't the be all and end all, but they are a great way to spot what could be classed as 'dubious' profiles. We've seen some recently that have completely put us off making contact because the veri trail made no sens.
One single male profile was verified by just one single female, yet when we viewed her profile she only had one veri from a couple and a veri summary stating she only had one verification in total from one couple. Something that didn't add up at all. On checking the couples profile there was one line of text, no photos and they lived 200 miles north of her. And no visible veris or summary.
It may sound to some that considering the opinions of others when planning meets is a tad odd. I'd agree completely. They're just personal views and everyone's opinion of someone else may be different.
But purely as a means of helping decide on the likelihood that someone is who they claim, is likely to actually be genuinely interested in meeting and is worth putting the effort in of making first contact? Veris are very useful indeed.
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"Off the back of the thread about who reads profiles I thought I'd enquire who reads verifications. Have read lots of opinions on whether they are a good thing or not and even that it can be off-putting to see so many.
But how many of you lovely folks read them?"
For meets 100% we read them |
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"Golden rule for us is follow the verification trail if it's a closed loop of just a few profiles verifying each other that's a red flag.
If the verifications come from other well verified users, mention attending and meeting in clubs, clubs veris etc and those who have left theveris have veris from a range of different established people aswell then that's an excellent sign.
For us that's the point of verifications.
KJ"
How is the closed loop possible? You need a verification to leave a verification. |
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"Yes, every profile I read I'll have a look through the verifications to get an idea of who they meet and if I'm nothing like those people that they have been meeting I won't waist there or my time messaging them.
Nick"
This |
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over a year ago
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Always. Having no verifications put me off. Especially if they have had an active profile doe over a year. Also agree that too many verifications is off putting. I still like to read them though as it helps me make a final decision |
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Yeah I do read verifications. I like to see people are genuine but very detailed veris about what happened can also put me off. What happens on a meet should stay between those involved in my opinion. |
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How is the closed loop possible? You need a verification to leave a verification."
Closed meet veris are possible.
We had a chat with a ‘couple’ who had one meet veri from a male profile and one from a female profile.
The chap had a cam veri from an established profile.
Going by the dates he got the cam veri then verified the couple and female. The female then verified the couple as well.
Now, admittedly the same spelling error on the veris and profiles was the final clincher, but it was a very closed loop of actual meet veris. |
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How is the closed loop possible? You need a verification to leave a verification.
Closed meet veris are possible.
We had a chat with a ‘couple’ who had one meet veri from a male profile and one from a female profile.
The chap had a cam veri from an established profile.
Going by the dates he got the cam veri then verified the couple and female. The female then verified the couple as well.
Now, admittedly the same spelling error on the veris and profiles was the final clincher, but it was a very closed loop of actual meet veris."
Ok. But he did manage to cam with an established couple, who presumably felt comfortable verifying that he's real...
Do people think that a verification from meeting should only be possible after receiving a verification from meeting? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
You bet I do - I read them individually and collectively to get an idea of the person; too much information on who did what to whom would be turn off but acknowledgments on somebody's sense of humour or they respectful behaviour would pique my interest for example. |
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Yes I read them and then follow the veris through to see what they have written. I think you can learn a lot from them.
For example is someone says they are only looking for selective partners but meet someone new every week for me that is a no go as they words aren’t backed by actions
Beard |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always - and follow the veri trails too. One of a number of determinants about whether I am interested or not"
This! I think you can learn more from veri trails than a single verification and from my perspective if a guy only meets younger slum attractive women then no point in messaging. I like to think of it as research! Know your market! |
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Ok. But he did manage to cam with an established couple, who presumably felt comfortable verifying that he's real...
Do people think that a verification from meeting should only be possible after receiving a verification from meeting?"
In that circumstance though he was the only one who was real. He used the cam veri to make the female and couple profiles look legit with reciprocal (fake) meet veris.
It allowed that loop to happen. That just means it’s something we look carefully for now. We’ve picked up on it a few times since then.
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"Yes
Additionally having left verifications for, very popular people I can confirm that people come to your profile to check the competition  "
I experienced this with a profile I had many years ago |
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If we'd would be interested or intend on meeting the person then yes absolutely. I don't think we've ever seen a scathing veri published on here but we have read some that's put us off meeting with a few girls |
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I only read them to see if they are consistent with the rest of the profile.
I make up my own mind about people and don't rely on trustpilot.
I'll always follow the veri trail because that's often where they've still got the red flags unfurled.
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"I do & I'll also peek at the people who left them,just to get an idea of the type of people they meet etc.
They'd only form part of a decision to meet though,as they're v subjective."
Yeah I sometimes do the same
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"Off the back of the thread about who reads profiles I thought I'd enquire who reads verifications. Have read lots of opinions on whether they are a good thing or not and even that it can be off-putting to see so many.
But how many of you lovely folks read them?"
Yes, it lets us know of experiences so we'll better know what to expect |
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"I read verifications. The way other people talk about someone is often more telling than their own profile. As is their choice of people."
Totally this. Some veris show any holes a goal for some. Massive swerve |
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"I read verifications. The way other people talk about someone is often more telling than their own profile. As is their choice of people.
Totally this. Some veris show any holes a goal for some. Massive swerve "
You must swerve quite a bit  |
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"yes absolutely, there's so many folk on here who aren't serious and veri's are one way to make sure you're not being catfished"
See I always video chat anyone I am going to meet. No video chat then no meet with me |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yep. Because I'm nosy.
But I don't give them too much weight (bar one veri that was a not too subtle dig at me. Poor me). They tend to be a reflection of the person giving more than the one receiving and quite interesting for that reason.
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Always read them and follow the trail, one of the few tools on here to find some of the time wasters. Especially because we like to accom at our home we use them for a bit of reassurance on safety as well. |
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"Yea we always read them, sometimes just being nosy but it’s nice to see what kind of meets they’ve had x"
Yeah, agree with this, good way to see what they enjoyed from a partner, and how I can improve upon that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I stupidly lost my verifications when I deleted my account. 
But, I do get a kick from reading verifications where the woman is a bit, well, a bit greedy. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
I read the verification each one is going to be slightly different as the experience will diff but it shows a little bit of personality they are interesting regardless the amount a user may have as someone with many has been literally not only exploring but enjoying this lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I don’t. I don’t show mine either. I only care that someone has some veris from meets and within last 6 months.
I just look at the little stat veri box "
This. Veri’s can be misleading, you end up wondering if you’ve actually met someone else because the reality is so different 
I prefer to make up my own mind about a person based on what I know rather than someone else’s opinion. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Yes I read veris if they are shown on someone's profile I'll also read veris the person has given. In saying that someone's veris won't entice me to meet anyone I take them with a pinch of salt and if anything sometimes they will make me decide not to meet someone if I see they are veried by someone who loves the drama of here. It's easier to avoid than risk being dragged into the background bullshite that happens on here. |
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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago
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"Always - and follow the veri trails too. One of a number of determinants about whether I am interested or not
This
Veris aren't the be all and end all, but they are a great way to spot what could be classed as 'dubious' profiles. We've seen some recently that have completely put us off making contact because the veri trail made no sens.
One single male profile was verified by just one single female, yet when we viewed her profile she only had one veri from a couple and a veri summary stating she only had one verification in total from one couple. Something that didn't add up at all. On checking the couples profile there was one line of text, no photos and they lived 200 miles north of her. And no visible veris or summary.
It may sound to some that considering the opinions of others when planning meets is a tad odd. I'd agree completely. They're just personal views and everyone's opinion of someone else may be different.
But purely as a means of helping decide on the likelihood that someone is who they claim, is likely to actually be genuinely interested in meeting and is worth putting the effort in of making first contact? Veris are very useful indeed.
A"
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This 100% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its not as though anyone would post a shit veri ie along lines of - meet was terrible, boring person and crap at sex oh n the " hurt this girl you,ll have me too answer too," etc and every veri the persons so lovely etc etc , but at least it proves their genuine and do actualy meet instead of endless ping pong mails |
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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago
Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me |
"I read them (Elle) I must admit those with loads and loads of verifications puts me off.
Funny subject seeing lots of verifications. When we started out on this journey we wanted to know so much about everything to try and avoid the pitfalls. We decided we'd do as many organised socials as we could. Have you seen the amount of verifications that can mount up by just chatting and having a drink with people at these socials? We are very out going people and will chat to anyone. One night at an organised social can bring in 10 or 20 verifications on one night and if you are the organiser then 10 or 20 are just a drop in the ocean, that doesn't even take into account of how long someone has had their profile. The amount of verifications are just a number and no reflection at all
We do read other people's verifications "
this entirely I've had people who won't play because of mine although most of them have been through organising partys over the years in different clubs.
I always read veris it's also a good way of letting you know what your in for or which buttons to press  |
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I do for a couple of reasons.
Some that turn me on
Some just to get an idea of the people I’m messaging
Some to get an idea of the people they usually meet to save myself from messaging if I won’t be their type. |
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over a year ago
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"Doesn't everyone read them? And follow the paper-trail of people too? I thought that was one of the reasons they exist."
I don't. They are worthless and just a negative. I prefer to see no veris on profiles. |
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"Doesn't everyone read them? And follow the paper-trail of people too? I thought that was one of the reasons they exist.
I don't. They are worthless and just a negative. I prefer to see no veris on profiles."
No they're not worthless - they show you who the people you're talking to have met = worthwhile. |
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"Doesn't everyone read them? And follow the paper-trail of people too? I thought that was one of the reasons they exist.
I don't. They are worthless and just a negative. I prefer to see no veris on profiles.
No they're not worthless - they show you who the people you're talking to have met = worthwhile. "
People can hide veris.
People can meet people not on Fab.
Worthless. |
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"Doesn't everyone read them? And follow the paper-trail of people too? I thought that was one of the reasons they exist.
I don't. They are worthless and just a negative. I prefer to see no veris on profiles.
No they're not worthless - they show you who the people you're talking to have met = worthwhile.
People can hide veris.
People can meet people not on Fab.
Worthless. "
OK I give in. You've won |
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over a year ago
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"Absolutely we do. Then we check out the people who gave them and read theirs too. No better way to determine standards and authenticity "
....And they have another profile where they have nightly bareback gangbangs. |
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"Doesn't everyone read them? And follow the paper-trail of people too? I thought that was one of the reasons they exist.
I don't. They are worthless and just a negative. I prefer to see no veris on profiles.
No they're not worthless - they show you who the people you're talking to have met = worthwhile.
People can hide veris.
People can meet people not on Fab.
Worthless. "
What is this "meeting" of which you speak? |
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