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I read them, it’s important I think, especially when reaching out to firstly understand if your approach might be welcome or unwanted (in which case don’t do it) or to be able to reference their profile and show some thought has gone into the introduction.
Sadly not everyone thinks this way and a plethora of hey, how’s u, wuu2 (I had to look up that one) and others are sent.
Annoying but I guess you can’t blame them for trying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women are more likely to read profiles.
Men tend to see the pretty pictures and shoot their shot even when the barest glance at the text would tell them they have no chance  "
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take at |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Probably because you're hot 
You could always set your filters though?"
If I set my filters to no couples then it’s no point me being on here as there’s very few single bi women,I have no problem a women being in a couple just don’t want the male involvement  |
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"Women are more likely to read profiles.
Men tend to see the pretty pictures and shoot their shot even when the barest glance at the text would tell them they have no chance
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take at "
So, even if someone clearly states that you're not what they're interested in, and you have zero chance, you should go bother them anyway? |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Women are more likely to read profiles.
Men tend to see the pretty pictures and shoot their shot even when the barest glance at the text would tell them they have no chance
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take at
So, even if someone clearly states that you're not what they're interested in, and you have zero chance, you should go bother them anyway?"
I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve stated no couples on my profile and in my statuses but all I seem to attract is couples and I don’t know why  confused ! "
..nobody reads them, they deem they boreing.
Only out for shites n gigglea.
Dont evem care about the boat race. But skin tone,shit hits the fan.
Tall dark ginger will do lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women are more likely to read profiles.
Men tend to see the pretty pictures and shoot their shot even when the barest glance at the text would tell them they have no chance
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take at "
Dont tell em the mens health secrets you snitch you!!' |
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"I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red "
I especially love the ones where I go offline for a few hours and come back to 8 messages of abuse for being an ignorant bitch for not answering a wuu2 from an account that ticks off almost all of my No Thanks list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably because you're hot
You could always set your filters though?
If I set my filters to no couples then it’s no point me being on here as there’s very few single bi women,I have no problem a women being in a couple just don’t want the male involvement "
Teacher leave the boys n lads alone. Another brick out the wall!' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women are more likely to read profiles.
Men tend to see the pretty pictures and shoot their shot even when the barest glance at the text would tell them they have no chance
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take at
So, even if someone clearly states that you're not what they're interested in, and you have zero chance, you should go bother them anyway?
I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red "
Get the super grans onto em. Blokeys |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red
I especially love the ones where I go offline for a few hours and come back to 8 messages of abuse for being an ignorant bitch for not answering a wuu2 from an account that ticks off almost all of my No Thanks list "
Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ?  2 messages |
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"Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages "
Because maybe you'll make an exception for them since they're so special?
I mean, they're not going to demonstrate they're special, and it's going to be the same old small talk and one handed wank fodder, but you should still give them a chance, right?  |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve stated no couples on my profile and in my statuses but all I seem to attract is couples and I don’t know why confused ! "
Easiest thing to do is block couples from messaging! So many seem to think girl/girl meets are an excuse to bring along a spectator |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
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Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages "
So they can't look?... I looked but have no interest in females but I'm nosey, maybe just put all your pictures in private and and ban couples from messaging... drama diverted.. you're welcome x k x |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages
So they can't look?... I looked but have no interest in females but I'm nosey, maybe just put all your pictures in private and and ban couples from messaging... drama diverted.. you're welcome x k x "
I don’t care they look,I was just saying and I’ve said the reason why I won’t block couples too but your right I’m now going to put my pics as friends only then there won’t be any drama… ! |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages
So they can't look?... I looked but have no interest in females but I'm nosey, maybe just put all your pictures in private and and ban couples from messaging... drama diverted.. you're welcome x k x
I don’t care they look,I was just saying and I’ve said the reason why I won’t block couples too but your right I’m now going to put my pics as friends only then there won’t be any drama… !"
You just made me feel like it’s my fault couples look at me… why did you even bother looking at me when I’d already stated I don’t play with couples !!!! Reading your message again it comes across really bloody rude !
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Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages
So they can't look?... I looked but have no interest in females but I'm nosey, maybe just put all your pictures in private and and ban couples from messaging... drama diverted.. you're welcome x k x
I don’t care they look,I was just saying and I’ve said the reason why I won’t block couples too but your right I’m now going to put my pics as friends only then there won’t be any drama… !
You just made me feel like it’s my fault couples look at me… why did you even bother looking at me when I’d already stated I don’t play with couples !!!! Reading your message again it comes across really bloody rude !
Your welcome "
You look amazing xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve stated no couples on my profile and in my statuses but all I seem to attract is couples and I don’t know why confused ! "
I get messages, winks and friend requests from men and couples...........
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red
I especially love the ones where I go offline for a few hours and come back to 8 messages of abuse for being an ignorant bitch for not answering a wuu2 from an account that ticks off almost all of my No Thanks list
Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages "
7 couples looked and didn't message. The other 2 might not be on the forum.
I looked to see what your profile said. Some women have men ticked and then wonder why men message them.
People have to look at your profile to read it (and then know you only want to meet women).  |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red
I especially love the ones where I go offline for a few hours and come back to 8 messages of abuse for being an ignorant bitch for not answering a wuu2 from an account that ticks off almost all of my No Thanks list
Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages
7 couples looked and didn't message. The other 2 might not be on the forum.
I looked to see what your profile said. Some women have men ticked and then wonder why men message them.
People have to look at your profile to read it (and then know you only want to meet women). "
I don’t mind people looking I never said I did for starters I just wondered why they looked when in here I clearly stated i wasn’t looking for couples… that’s all jeeez! |
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By *eastXMan
over a year ago
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I believe it depends on the type of engagement people are looking for.
Myself, I quickly go through the profile, and send an initial message. If I get a reply, I re-reas the profile carefully  |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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I always read them.. some can be quite funny or informative but it's the one that resembles an essay that grits on me.
Not everyone has time for legal reading and read the terms and conditions I would say make it simple, precise and straight to the point but in a way, that probably won't help as most won't read it anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"also alot read the profiles but just choose to ignore the bits they dont like
This is probably even worse than not reading."
That’s the worst for us too. Try and get you to change your mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always read the profiles just to see if they are looking for the same as us.
We are not looking to do anything with couples or single women but we do like to talk them at clubs for the social side of the night.
It would be so much easier if people did read our profile though especially because we won’t be budged on what we are looking for. But I suppose it’s just one of they things. |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
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I rarely read profiles these days but then again I haven't sent a first contact message in 3 years so profile content is irrelevant. I say on my single profile that I'm not meeting for personal reasons and most seem to respect that but Bo also has that on her profile and it's the first line of this profile and there is often an assumption it's not a hard and fast rule and doesn't apply to them.
In saying that we have to assume that most do read ours because it's written in such a way that people can self filter and we've had less than 30 messages in total so it must work
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get quite frustrated with this. Our profile is quite clear in what we’re looking for but it’s hardly ever read. Always becomes apparent they haven’t read the profile after a couple of messages when they start asking for things we don’t do
Take the rough with the smooth on fab! |
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You’re not alone so don’t worry.
Personally I use it to my advantage as my profile clearly stats what to do so if I see a message that doesn’t follow my rules it’s an instant block.
Great way of filtering I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we do!!!
ALOT and I mean alot don't though.
We're only looking for couples that are both bi/bi-curious, (you'll have to read our profile to suss that out) but hey we still get straight couples or one half of the couple are straight messenging us, people are lazy.
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red
I especially love the ones where I go offline for a few hours and come back to 8 messages of abuse for being an ignorant bitch for not answering a wuu2 from an account that ticks off almost all of my No Thanks list
Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages
7 couples looked and didn't message. The other 2 might not be on the forum.
I looked to see what your profile said. Some women have men ticked and then wonder why men message them.
People have to look at your profile to read it (and then know you only want to meet women).
I don’t mind people looking I never said I did for starters I just wondered why they looked when in here I clearly stated i wasn’t looking for couples… that’s all jeeez! "
Why "jeeez!"?
You seem to think that people only look at profiles because they want to fuck the person.
I gave a clear reason why they may be looking because of your post but perhaps you didn't understand what I said. Have fun. |
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"I know then they get shitty when you don’t reply… and it’s always the male messaging me. I just see red
I especially love the ones where I go offline for a few hours and come back to 8 messages of abuse for being an ignorant bitch for not answering a wuu2 from an account that ticks off almost all of my No Thanks list
Oh it’s not just me then… I’ve just looked to see who’s veiwed me since I asked the question, 9 couples !!!!!!! Why ? 2 messages
7 couples looked and didn't message. The other 2 might not be on the forum.
I looked to see what your profile said. Some women have men ticked and then wonder why men message them.
People have to look at your profile to read it (and then know you only want to meet women).
I don’t mind people looking I never said I did for starters I just wondered why they looked when in here I clearly stated i wasn’t looking for couples… that’s all jeeez! "
People may look when you post in forums, as filters don't show here.
Them looking is fine, if its truly annoying why not block/filter the messages?
Seems like a bit of something over nothing. |
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By *miles69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Ok I asked just a simple question !
Firstly my filters are on and all men are blocked,couples aren’t blocked for the simple reason that there are bi females in couples that play alone I know this as I’m one of them and over the last 10 years of being on fab met others,not got a problem with couples looking at me at all but when it’s the male messaging me I do !
I’ve been called lame for not setting my filters and been made out to be a bit of a drama queen just by asking the question
I on the Thee hand do read profiles and respect there wishes and wants.. just saying |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I have no interest in couples on this account and block them ,as they used to message me wanting MFF & I'm straight,so it's not for me.
I do always read profiles and sometimes I'll really like one,until I read something towards the end in it ie their attached or they're into some stuff I'm not etc. |
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I've found women seem to read it the majority of men don't, couples it's hit and miss, we get more messages from men asking to meet than anything else, despite saying we don't meet men, so it's just a huge waste of their extensive copy and paste message that usually states "I read your profile and liked what I see" like duck off if you'd read it you'd see we don't meet men, that and I don't want to see your cock.
I just wind them up though, waste my time I'll waste there's.
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I, like most people probably, look at the pictures first and maybe fab a few (although did that yesterday to a couple who started a thread and was blocked instantly even though I had no intention of messaging them or even commenting on their thread) before reading the profile.
Would not dream of sending a message without having read the profile first, but then I don't send many  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Based on the number of messages I get from people who clearly haven’t read, I’d say a high percentage don’t
….. But
What you don’t see is how many look at your profile, do read it , decide you’re not for them and then don’t message you.
Perhaps when we consider that, more people do read than don’t ?  |
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over a year ago
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I read profiles properly (sometimes more than once) but I think its partly because its like an OCD thing for me and also respectful plus ive seen a lot of people's profiles make a point of mentioning it before messaging. a lot of people will say what they want a person to write in the subject field at the end of their bio to make sure its been read properly, which I think is quite reasonable |
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By *boveSkyCouple
over a year ago
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"Women are more likely to read profiles.
Men tend to see the pretty pictures and shoot their shot even when the barest glance at the text would tell them they have no chance "
We do read them both |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"I do believe it or not I do. But most of the time when I get to the bottom, I’m not their preference. Which is in the word is a bastard "
I do
why bother sending a message if you are NOT what they want |
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You point out that couples have visited your page after saying on here you don’t meet couples but then saying you are happy to meet the female from the couples.
How are the female from the couples going to view your profile, other than from their couples profile
We always read profiles - we sometimes message people to tell them their profile/pics stand out but we always respect filters or preferences.
FAB is easy if you keep it easy.
K
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always and check out thier veri's.
I think 75% of my recent message have read my profile as inclde my request word in subject, but maybe they just scroll to the end. |
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I always read the profile, it tells me if it's worth messaging or not. Use the tools the site has and block the people you don't want messages from, could also block those who message you that your not interested in. |
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As much as I hated having to do it, I have had to block single guys from messaging me because even though I made it absolutely clear that I'm not looking for any new single males at this time....they'd still message me in droves.
Shame I had to do it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read profiles. But if a profile is as long as a novel, my eyes start to glaze over a bit before I reach the end.(As much as I love reading books, I don't come on here to do it.) |
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"As much as I hated having to do it, I have had to block single guys from messaging me because even though I made it absolutely clear that I'm not looking for any new single males at this time....they'd still message me in droves.
Shame I had to do it
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I do this every so often as well.
I can’t make it any clearer on my profile as to what I’m looking for but I get dozens of messages daily from guys asking to meet.
I don’t mind chatting about forum stuff which is why I don’t always use my filters also I suppose I think people shouldn’t waste their time messaging if they’re not what you want.
That’s not going to happen though. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve stated no couples on my profile and in my statuses but all I seem to attract is couples and I don’t know why confused ! "
I have the same problems with couples too even when I've blocked them from messaging me, still have some who message me through a singles profile |
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"I’ve stated no couples on my profile and in my statuses but all I seem to attract is couples and I don’t know why confused ! "
Yes, we always read the profile first. That way if we don’t tick the profiles boxes and they don’t tick ours , we don’t waste anyone’s time. But has a couple we get the same problem. We clearly state, we are both smokers and soft swap only but we still get problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few copy/paste messages in my time. They're incredibly obvious. I'm guessing women get a hell of a lot more of that sort of thing than I do. So it must be even more obvious to them when a profile hasn't been read. |
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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago
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We always read the profile first - nothing worse than checking the pics out first, finding we’re turned on by them only to then be disappointed that our profiles don’t match or we’re not what they are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always do as I try to send a message highlighting something on there….it hardly ever leads to a response though
Hardest message to send is the profiles that have nothing on them and then it’s just a “hit and hope” punt on the weather / sex interests….no wonder I don’t get responses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do. I like to read nice short profiles. I will never read a book length ones. Simply because it's to much for me. I don't need to know everything about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All messages I've received so far are from guys... and not one of them has read my profile, or has and completely ignored anything I have written there lol. |
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I’m a serial profile reader! It’s odd how you message people who you think you would connect with and even use their strange message tag and you still don’t make a connection. Guess that’s part of fab though. Too many options lol |
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"I’ve stated no couples on my profile and in my statuses but all I seem to attract is couples and I don’t know why confused ! "
Guess they think they can change your mind and join them for a 3 some instead of just you ladies. Lot of people out there looking for the holy grail of a unicorn |
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Sorry what's this post about just jumped straight in, joking. I read profiles but I think shucks after few lines as I'm not compatible so no need read the rest and obviously no need to message and move on to next person in search list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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90% of the profiles doesn't make sense, even if you see some nice scenery and you ask where about is that place people don't answer and they straight away think that you want to have sex, come on a bit socialising haven't kill no one |
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I read profiles usually stop when there is something that disqualifies me such as "not looking for men" or I'm outside the age range, still have a nosey of the public pics but otherwise leave them in peace |
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