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I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
Totally agree with what you say. I would also add woman and couples ask for pics body type ect but most never give that themselves |
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over a year ago
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re also disappointed with the way single guys are treated at clubs.
Even the silent wanking followers have a place if some people just want an appreciative audience.
Keep the faith guys, you are wanted! |
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over a year ago
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"We’re also disappointed with the way single guys are treated at clubs.
Even the silent wanking followers have a place if some people just want an appreciative audience.
Keep the faith guys, you are wanted! "
The silent wanking train were lovely to me when I've been to clubs alone. They let me stand at the front so I can watch the couples fuck (because I'm shorter than them!) and no-one touched me or was inappropriate.  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
I agree men get a hard time on here quite often. Women and couples though are only inundated with messages if they want to be so that's just an excuse for not answering. I'm not inundated but I won't answer every message I get.
Someone not showing up for a meet is cowardly there is absolutely no excuse for anyone doing that.It takes a few seconds to send a message to say you aren't going to show.
When you were part of a couple though how did you treat single men who messaged ye. Did you answer them all ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
Always observeing.
What? and how ? Will bring change.
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We don't always reply to messages. For example, cold call messages. Ones like, 'fancy chatting and get to know each other'? When they are over 100 miles away. Why? That's never gonna happen. Or the, statment messages, eg 'I'd shag her now if you we're closer'!. Or if we have an advertised meet up offering xyz, and they message offering abc. Why? Just take whats on offer. Don't try to change it. Then try to start up a ping pong We've already wasted time, reading an unwanted message. We're not gonna waste more in conversation.
We have been stood up before. Lots of times by single men. We primerily look for single men. As we like gangbangs and greedy girl events. So single men needed in our book.
No need to send us dm"s off the back of this post. |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
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We aren't inundated with messages.
We aren't meeting at the minute but have had less than 30 messages since creating this account.
The majority of those have been ok and respected our responses but a few have not and given abuse in return.
On my single profile the only abuse I've ever received in 6 years has been from entitled couples who expected me to jump just because they had taken the time to message me with a list of instructions.
For that reason I will treat every message we get on this profile with the same level of respect they offer us.
We haven't had any no shows on this profile or either of our single profiles because we take our time getting to know people before arranging a social.
No shows never happen in a vacuum. There will always be warning signs or red flags if you know how to read them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love to have more meets, and being a single chap isn't easy, but my face also puts the judging point in"
how do your face gets a judgeing?
Pls explain. |
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We try to treat everyone as they treat us if we get a nasty message we try to stay polite and just block them but if we get a nice message we will reply and we have been stood up by very well verified couples on a few occasions and we just don't have time for that at all child care is expensive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that some single guys give us a bad name but this is very refreshing to have such positive comments from Women and Couples who appreciate the genuine ones.(thank you x)
I have recently been taken advantage of by a couple on here who agreed to meet me at my hotel but needed help with a short train and taxi fare to get to me. I trusted then and transfered some money and some extra to buy snacks and drinks on the way. They cancelled due to a 'family emergency' and agreed to send me back the money the next day. A month later I am still trying to get the money back (£110). I agree that I am the idiot here for trusting them but they are a multiple verified couple that have been on here a long time!! Is this someone taking advantage of a trusting single guy or is it just a case of bad eggs on here?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I get suspicious if I get any offers, either it's a set up for someone to rob me or it's a practical joke for someone to get someone wasting their time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that some single guys give us a bad name but this is very refreshing to have such positive comments from Women and Couples who appreciate the genuine ones.(thank you x)
I have recently been taken advantage of by a couple on here who agreed to meet me at my hotel but needed help with a short train and taxi fare to get to me. I trusted then and transfered some money and some extra to buy snacks and drinks on the way. They cancelled due to a 'family emergency' and agreed to send me back the money the next day. A month later I am still trying to get the money back (£110). I agree that I am the idiot here for trusting them but they are a multiple verified couple that have been on here a long time!! Is this someone taking advantage of a trusting single guy or is it just a case of bad eggs on here?!?"
What do you mean bad eggs on here?
There's people like that everywhere. You've just advertised on an open forum that you are gullible (and too nice). Be aware that other people will likely try and set you up to do the same. Be careful. X
You won't get your money back.
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"It can happen to anyone, I've had people not show to for socials, or meets after a social, or go awol after numerous meets. And that's single men. But I don't have a pity party about it. "
Anyone who stands up or ghosts a sexy lady like you needs to have a very strong word with themselves! |
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We've yet to be stood up by a single man. But we put a lot of effort into the selection process.
We also try to be polite, and just delete the idiot messages. But you can get a lot of messages, and sometimes try as hard as you might, you get overwhelmed and don't reply to everyone.
Clubs and socials seem like an ideal solution for single guys, couples and single ladies too - whoever is there is there, no waiting around for no-shows. You can inspect the goods on offer - see if they look (and smell) nice before you commit.
You either get lucky at a club, or you don't. Either way you're likely to have a good night out - there's always lots to see even if you don't get to join in, or don't want to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
For every 1 lady there is 50 guys maybe more lol it’s not easy but you just keep on swimming |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol
For every 1 lady there is 50 guys maybe more lol it’s not easy but you just keep on swimming "
Agree with you there with that one. With such a high ratio of men to women, it's kinda difficult to stand out really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that some single guys give us a bad name but this is very refreshing to have such positive comments from Women and Couples who appreciate the genuine ones.(thank you x)
I have recently been taken advantage of by a couple on here who agreed to meet me at my hotel but needed help with a short train and taxi fare to get to me. I trusted then and transfered some money and some extra to buy snacks and drinks on the way. They cancelled due to a 'family emergency' and agreed to send me back the money the next day. A month later I am still trying to get the money back (£110). I agree that I am the idiot here for trusting them but they are a multiple verified couple that have been on here a long time!! Is this someone taking advantage of a trusting single guy or is it just a case of bad eggs on here?!?"
Aww that’s just horrible, the front of some people is shocking. Hope you get it sorted out x |
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"I'd love to have more meets, and being a single chap isn't easy, but my face also puts the judging point in
how do your face gets a judgeing?
Pls explain. "
I've got a very large birthmark mostly on face and torso. That's what people judge. Im a normal person, it's not contagious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love to have more meets, and being a single chap isn't easy, but my face also puts the judging point in
how do your face gets a judgeing?
Pls explain.
I've got a very large birthmark mostly on face and torso. That's what people judge. Im a normal person, it's not contagious"
Let’s be honest not one single person on this site is normal we’re all horny fuckers and odd in our own strange way, but don’t let your birthmark stop you my good man |
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"I'd love to have more meets, and being a single chap isn't easy, but my face also puts the judging point in
how do your face gets a judgeing?
Pls explain.
I've got a very large birthmark mostly on face and torso. That's what people judge. Im a normal person, it's not contagious
Let’s be honest not one single person on this site is normal we’re all horny fuckers and odd in our own strange way, but don’t let your birthmark stop you my good man "
Thankyou |
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I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem for men on here is that a lot of men are complete arseholes on here.
A lot don't read profiles. Send friends requests without asking and sometimes without even mailing.
Ignore a mail and they send again. Reply with a no thanks and some still mail again.
There are some really great men on here but unfortunely they are in the minority when it comes to men. |
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I'm on here as a single bloke and I had one woman contact me who went absolutely nuts and then blocked me when I refused to do a 600 mile round trip for a meet. But I've met a couple of lovely local couples on here shame there's so many that won't meet smokers as I'm hopelessly addicted. |
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"I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. "
well said, I've had the same. A polite thanks but no thanks is all that's needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem for men on here is that a lot of men are complete arseholes on here.
A lot don't read profiles. Send friends requests without asking and sometimes without even mailing.
Ignore a mail and they send again. Reply with a no thanks and some still mail again.
There are some really great men on here but unfortunely they are in the minority when it comes to men."
We’re not all that bad I promise you |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I know that some single guys give us a bad name but this is very refreshing to have such positive comments from Women and Couples who appreciate the genuine ones.(thank you x)
I have recently been taken advantage of by a couple on here who agreed to meet me at my hotel but needed help with a short train and taxi fare to get to me. I trusted then and transfered some money and some extra to buy snacks and drinks on the way. They cancelled due to a 'family emergency' and agreed to send me back the money the next day. A month later I am still trying to get the money back (£110). I agree that I am the idiot here for trusting them but they are a multiple verified couple that have been on here a long time!! Is this someone taking advantage of a trusting single guy or is it just a case of bad eggs on here?!?
What do you mean bad eggs on here?
There's people like that everywhere. You've just advertised on an open forum that you are gullible (and too nice). Be aware that other people will likely try and set you up to do the same. Be careful. X
You won't get your money back.
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A short train and taxi fare that cost £110 ???
Sorry, but they saw you coming.
Or not, as the case turned out.
Anyone asking for money should be reported. Simple. Same with any other requests for goods or financial assistance. Is the potential for a spot of sex really worth the risk of getting scammed? 
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. well said, I've had the same. A polite thanks but no thanks is all that's needed."
No. Its not.
The site states in the FAQ's that no reply is required. If someone replied at all then that puts the person they message in a place where they can bypass any future message filters. It's why most don't reply and the block button isn't an insult, it's just a permanent filter and a clear message that someone isn't interested.
Just move on and accept you won't get replies to all messages. Nobody is owed a reply to an unsolicited message.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. well said, I've had the same. A polite thanks but no thanks is all that's needed."
That’s all well and good in theory but we have done that and a lot of the times are met with abuse because don’t like rejection even if it’s said in the nicest way.
Not saying everyone is like that have had some lovely people message and made some nice friendships only connections. It’s just a shame that some don’t take rejection well. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. well said, I've had the same. A polite thanks but no thanks is all that's needed.
That’s all well and good in theory but we have done that and a lot of the times are met with abuse because don’t like rejection even if it’s said in the nicest way.
Not saying everyone is like that have had some lovely people message and made some nice friendships only connections. It’s just a shame that some don’t take rejection well. "
Same here, I started nice and polite and giving everyone the benefit of the doubt but after being pushed and gaslight so much here my profile is now ranty and my walls are high, I don’t owe a reply to anyone and it would be insane for me to try to keep up but I’m seen as the mean one because I’ll block to save wasting your or my time, I’m following the site faq, if they would read I wouldn’t need to block, that’s not me being a twat in the slightest, that’s me holding a boundary and keeping it |
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"I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. well said, I've had the same. A polite thanks but no thanks is all that's needed.
That’s all well and good in theory but we have done that and a lot of the times are met with abuse because don’t like rejection even if it’s said in the nicest way.
Not saying everyone is like that have had some lovely people message and made some nice friendships only connections. It’s just a shame that some don’t take rejection well.
Same here, I started nice and polite and giving everyone the benefit of the doubt but after being pushed and gaslight so much here my profile is now ranty and my walls are high, I don’t owe a reply to anyone and it would be insane for me to try to keep up but I’m seen as the mean one because I’ll block to save wasting your or my time, I’m following the site faq, if they would read I wouldn’t need to block, that’s not me being a twat in the slightest, that’s me holding a boundary and keeping it "
Totally agree, you do get made to feel bad with a lot of people but if they just read your profile would save so much time lol
we are very specific what we are after and really try to be as clear as possible on our profile so definitely not going to beat our self’s up for deleting/blocking people that don’t want to take the time on us. |
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"I agree with this gentleman. I was part of a couple profile here for a few years. We treated everyone with respect and between us always managed to reply to the 100s and 100s of messages.
We were perhaps too polite and treated the single guys well. Now if they were too persistent the block button was used occasionally.
Now unfortunately I'm back here as a mature man.
Always very conscious about messaging folk I may like. Quite often it's an instant block for daring to say hello or compliment a lady on her pictures.
Its really disheartening to be treated that way.
But there are lots of really genuine ladies and couples here so treat them with respect. Friendships are more important in life than just flesh. well said, I've had the same. A polite thanks but no thanks is all that's needed.
That’s all well and good in theory but we have done that and a lot of the times are met with abuse because don’t like rejection even if it’s said in the nicest way.
Not saying everyone is like that have had some lovely people message and made some nice friendships only connections. It’s just a shame that some don’t take rejection well. "
I see your point, fair enough. |
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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago
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"We’re also disappointed with the way single guys are treated at clubs.
Even the silent wanking followers have a place if some people just want an appreciative audience.
Keep the faith guys, you are wanted! "
Agreed, we love love it when guys are turned on by watching us..... Turns us on even more  |
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This is a subject that has been around a lot. When I was married we were on many different swinger sites. We did meet a few couples and some single females but found in general most of those on these sites are fake and if not most had a very high opinion of themselves. Went to many meets and had to say sorry you are nothing like your profile says and left. But did make some good friends. Took a couple of years to find that the men on the sites were a much safer bet lol and became our preferred source of meets. On most all swinger chats the wife Blocked many single females and couples for their scorning of single men. But saying that there were many single men who gave single men a bad name. You learn very quickly how to those out lol a bit like doggers have to learn very quickly that every couple that goes have their own rules and you have to know them very quickly lol. Now single I know how to see the fake single females and couples and have the opinion that most are on just to find their masterpiece lol if anything at all. So now I wait for them to contact me and if they are just playing you along I will play along back and enjoy the entertainment lol. Hope I will find another single female who is looking for a similar relationship to what I had but not holding my breath. Actually found more females at pubs and so far on this site None lol |
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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago
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From an earlier post, i reply to all messages, i think its just good manners even if i know its not my thing. Id love to name and shame one couple on here but i wont, but lead you up the path then drop you at the very last, isnt very nice. We used ti get more messages as a couple, and when we did club my wife had no issues with single guys watching, if they wanked then they were liking what they were watching, as long as they kept a distance and didnt try to join in. No she doesn't any more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Short skirt wearing no knickers just means she's quite & very quickly accessible to pleasure & be pleasant by"
Sorry but are you referring to a women in particular or in general? |
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
Finally got it through my thick School not to DM folks off the back of thier foum post & or reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont mean that this site has lots of bad eggs in fact I hoped this was a place where people in general are more trustworthy which is why I fell for it. I know they are everywhere and I have learnt a valuable lesson. It wont be happening again!! I have resigned to the fact that I most likely wont get my money back x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I completely agree with you. I realise I look like a dick for falling for it but I posted really as a warning for others - dont be a taken in like me!! xx |
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One major issue with saying “no thanks” over and above volume is that the site algorithm sees that as mutual conversation.
So if a couple, or woman, follow the oft-given advice of blocking single males if they feel they are getting too many messages every single guy they’ve said no thanks to is exempt from the block. Which basically renders it useless. |
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Major reason I stick to clubs. Although not the right solution for all single gentlemen as clubs can also deliver bad experiences for the non social and shy types. In my particular case I rarely have a bad time in a club. On this site countless times I received one line messages from couples, no face pictures after some rapport, have been ghosted etc. So yeah clubs work wonderfully for me. |
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We try and reply to every message even if it’s a polite no thank you. We are quite selective in what we want and tell guys this. Even so we have been stood up and been conned as guy has not been what he said he is.
Know it’s hard for guys but we do try our best but meet time is usually limited and we like to have what we looking for xx |
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"We try and reply to every message even if it’s a polite no thank you. We are quite selective in what we want and tell guys this. Even so we have been stood up and been conned as guy has not been what he said he is.
Know it’s hard for guys but we do try our best but meet time is usually limited and we like to have what we looking for xx"
You're definitely among the good guys then and I think single guys or anyone else should appreciate that you potentially receive lots of messages and it's important that you have confidence in who you are meeting |
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It's not just guys that get this... we've been stood up, let down, blocked, ghosted, totally shunned into a corner at group socials and spent maybe a few thousand pounds on hotels and outfits for those occasions in the process. As I'm sure many others have... male, female & couples.
I do understand how it could be frustrating but the way we see it is that nobody on here owes anyone anything and not everyone conducts themselves how you would and that's just unfortunately something many of us has to take on the chin.
For us if we don't take any of it personally then it never becomes a problem. |
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"I'm shocked at the treatment single guys get on here.I played on here for over 2 years qnd as a couple we had so many offers we had to whittle them down .
I totally understand the fact couple's and females get inundated with messages from guys .
I never thought about it from this side of the fence before.
I've been stood up after driving 45t mins to get to the spot.talking for days on end then blocked for no reason....
I think there needs to be more compassion, I've had lovely people message back and that's all it takes is a no thanks,not let's fk guys over. That's unfair
Rant over lol"
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"I know that some single guys give us a bad name but this is very refreshing to have such positive comments from Women and Couples who appreciate the genuine ones.(thank you x)
I have recently been taken advantage of by a couple on here who agreed to meet me at my hotel but needed help with a short train and taxi fare to get to me. I trusted then and transfered some money and some extra to buy snacks and drinks on the way. They cancelled due to a 'family emergency' and agreed to send me back the money the next day. A month later I am still trying to get the money back (£110). I agree that I am the idiot here for trusting them but they are a multiple verified couple that have been on here a long time!! Is this someone taking advantage of a trusting single guy or is it just a case of bad eggs on here?!?"
Why would you even entertain sending money to people you have never met. The minute they even started to hint at that you should have stopped chatting. People put way too much trust in veris and the excitement of getting a meet off here and seem to ignore any red flags that show..Of course there are bad eggs on here the same as anywhere else. But no one can stop that you have to take responsibility as well and think with your head rather than get run away with the excitement of getting a meet off here. Never send money or give out too much personal information on here.
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"One major issue with saying “no thanks” over and above volume is that the site algorithm sees that as mutual conversation. "
Do you think this website actually has any algorithms?
I'm not sure that this is the case here, it all seems extremely 1990s in function and design!  |
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"One major issue with saying “no thanks” over and above volume is that the site algorithm sees that as mutual conversation.
Do you think this website actually has any algorithms?
I'm not sure that this is the case here, it all seems extremely 1990s in function and design! "
I’d have to agree there. To imagine any type of algorithm is in place would I think be a step too far |
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