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Is being nice a weakness?
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No it's not a weakness.
It can be a strength if that's how you project yourself.
If you have to tell people you are a nice guy you are obviously projecting a different image and they see something that forces them to doubt the niceness.
Bad boys are usually just that. Boys who are bad. |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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It's all about balance. When it comes to 'being nice' what it boils down to is the trait agreeableness, which is one of the "Big Five" personality traits.
Too little agreeableness, mixed with too much condifence and you can come across as an arrogant dickhead. Too much agreeableness, however, mixed with not enough confidence, and you can come across as a spineless doormat. Neither extremes tend to be very attractive to women. What you need is the right balance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course it isn't. It's just that a lot of 'nice' people aren't actually as nice as they think they are..."
I think even the nicest person can be unpleasant if persistently pushed or used by someone. I think I’m general most people aim to be decent people it’s just sometimes real life makes them break |
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Most women I know want a man with a bit of character. This doesn't mean bad, it certainly doesn't mean boy we mostly like men who know how to adult. It means (to me at least) a man who knows how to respect everyone who deserves it, doesn't think that being nice deserves a reward from women or their employer and has something interesting about him. |
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Sometimes people take advantage of people who are nice, which can make it look like a weakness.
But overall being nice is in no way a weakness, people who are genuinely kind of heart and intent are some of the strongest people, it's not always easy being nice but it is always the nice thing to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anybody that buys into that whole bad boy bullshit needs to grow up and gain some intelligence. Being respectful , kind and well mannered towards other people isn’t a weakness is it !!!?  "
No its not! It's what we're looking for generally x |
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My favourite people are nice. They're also assholes who frustrate me, challenge me when I'm being out of line, have a sadistic streak that aligns well with my masochist one, amd tell jokes that would get them banned from public speaking.
But they're also honest, good, decent people.
People define nice in different ways. If someone is being nice because they think it'll get them something, if someone always agrees as if they don't have an opinion or a mind of their own, if someone has to proclaim how nice they are because they can't demonstrate it appropriately, then they're not nice people. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"No it's not a weakness.
It can be a strength if that's how you project yourself.
If you have to tell people you are a nice guy you are obviously projecting a different image and they see something that forces them to doubt the niceness.
Bad boys are usually just that. Boys who are bad. "
Yep pretty much this  |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"No it's not a weakness.
It can be a strength if that's how you project yourself.
If you have to tell people you are a nice guy you are obviously projecting a different image and they see something that forces them to doubt the niceness.
Bad boys are usually just that. Boys who are bad. "
,, agree spot on.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder what people think? Is being a decent nice person seen as a weakness on Fab?
Do ladies prefer the bad boys ? "
Being nice is a huge plus for us. People who come across as genuine, chatty, friendly...these are the kinds of folk we would love to get to know. Not necessarily just for sexual adventures but just even for the sake of getting to know people on the same wavelength
Mrs |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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Different strokes for different folks!
some actually like the bad boys and some do not!
believe it or not, I consider myself reasonably nice, though slightly eccentric/quirky but have been refereed to as weird and dodgy!
I can not make people decide what they think of me! thats up to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on what you mean by nice, doesn’t it?
People can be nice, but still capable of being able to stand up for themselves and command respect.
Manners, empathy, compassion = hot |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"It depends on what you mean by nice, doesn’t it?
People can be nice, but still capable of being able to stand up for themselves and command respect.
Manners, empathy, compassion = hot"
,, this,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No it's not a weakness to kind and well mannered its something people should practise more of doing rather than putting people down we should lift each other up "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends on what you mean by nice, doesn’t it?
People can be nice, but still capable of being able to stand up for themselves and command respect.
Manners, empathy, compassion = hot"
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Self-confidence definitely is attractive and in general people will put up with differing levels of selfishness to get it. Nobody wants selfishness but it's a price people will sometimes pay.
If you're a couple or single female on here, it's not a price you have to pay because there are so many options. If a guy comes across as at all selfish, you'll just choose one who isn't.
Single guys can't afford to be so choosy, so it's possible to be a selfish couple or woman and still swing.
So if you want to be successful as a single guy on here, be self-confident, unselfish, and willing to put up with how some couples and single women will treat you!
Not that I've ever tried it myself... |
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No it's not a weakness.
As for women preferring bad boys, all women have different preferences. They arent sopy and paste people that have to be one or the other and sooner that blokes realise that there are full minds and personality in their heads the better |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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Being nice isn't weakness... Expecting something for it is... Only being nice because of what you are expecting in return, is... Those are the "nice guys" that come last... If you are actually nice, nothing will change that, even not even getting the same in return... |
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Not at all, being a great compassionate loving human is a strength that the world needs more of. I think people often scapegoat being nice for their weaknesses, mistakes or lack of success in other areas to be fair. |
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"Not at all, being a great compassionate loving human is a strength that the world needs more of. I think people often scapegoat being nice for their weaknesses, mistakes or lack of success in other areas to be fair."
Yes this, I'll hold my hands up here as I've been guilty of this in the past. Now I own it, it's who I am and if that gets me nowhere then I'm comfortable with that - we would probably not be compatible anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being nice is a strength and a good characteristic to have.
Bad boys carry unresolved trauma and usually in some form of unhealthy drama.
Try not to compare yourself to toxic traits ...have a wonderful Sunday you are great as a nice person
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Being nice is not a weakness being introverted is though. A lot of “nice guys” are generally introverted and struggle to display a confident tone in messaging, a cocky “bad boy” who is naturally extroverted displays confidence more naturally. Confidence is key and as a man on fab you have to stand out above the rest as only 5-10 % of men will meet regularly. |
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By *LDee2023 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I wonder what people think? Is being a decent nice person seen as a weakness on Fab?
Do ladies prefer the bad boys ?
Being nice is a huge plus for us. People who come across as genuine, chatty, friendly...these are the kinds of folk we would love to get to know. Not necessarily just for sexual adventures but just even for the sake of getting to know people on the same wavelength
Mrs"
And that is what it's all about.This should be fun and with 'friends' it should be genuine and not forced and uncomplicated, and if it progresses to a "sexual adventure " then how much better is that sexual experience going to be.. |
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It depends, do you think being ‘nice’ entitles you to something?
There’s nothing wrong with being nice but it’s not going to get you laid if you don’t have something to go along with it.
Life isn’t a series of logical transactions where you are guaranteed, or ‘deserve’, a certain thing because you are nice. Women will be attracted to the charming and charismatic ’bad boy’ over a nice guy because he is charming and charismatic, not because he is a bad boy.
It’s possible to be charismatic, attractive and nice but simply being nice does not mean the other two follow along.
Men who put down the lack of interest in them to their being too nice are basically placing the blame on others for their failings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder what people think? Is being a decent nice person seen as a weakness on Fab?
Do ladies prefer the bad boys ?
Being nice is a huge plus for us. People who come across as genuine, chatty, friendly...these are the kinds of folk we would love to get to know. Not necessarily just for sexual adventures but just even for the sake of getting to know people on the same wavelength
Mrs
And that is what it's all about.This should be fun and with 'friends' it should be genuine and not forced and uncomplicated, and if it progresses to a "sexual adventure " then how much better is that sexual experience going to be.."
Exactly, we've got to know some lovely people on here- some are now friends in real life as well as 'fab friends' As you say it's uncomplicated, fun, and the boundaries are clear because we communicate openly
Mrs |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"I wonder what people think? Is being a decent nice person seen as a weakness on Fab?
Do ladies prefer the bad boys ? "
Being nice is only a weakness, when u let people take advantage of your nice nature e.g being a Simp   |
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