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"We are using it more & more. Do guys ever think I know what I will do send a first message and attach a badly took picture of my bits over a stained toilet that will impress them & with a text of want you now etc No wonder they don’t get meets then complain " When we first started on Fab we didn't use the block button for a good few months. Like you just said though, and all the ones who want to be your friend who haven't even messaged with a profile full of dick pics at every angle you could think. Block block and blocked started very quickly. Why would you want to meet someone with such a limited social skill, never mind getting intimate  | |||
"Why do people get so frustrated about being blocked? We see status's complaining they have been blocked for this reason or no reason. We find the block button a great filter whether it has been someone blocking us or us blocking someone. At the end of the day all it means is you/they are not what we are looking for. Even if it's for a reason of 'we really don't like you' for whatever reason, it's still all good. The good old block button, keeping people apart who should never meet "If you get blocked the you get blocked, it is what it is just keep on swimming lol | |||
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"Totally agree with OP It's easy.... Not your taste Block No reason to get upset by it Life's to short Reasons I block...... Live miles away Been on over 12 months no verification / pics Clearly haven't read my profile Not my taste Dirty looking house in background Been with 100's of people Like BB Men showing me their arsenal Or just if I am having a bad hair day. X " To true | |||
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"I warn people I will block them if they message having ignored everything on my profile. It makes no difference and my block list grows daily. I’d prefer to be blocked if I’m not what someone is looking for. No better Fab filter." We definitely second that | |||
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." I'm not here to pander to the whims of random strangers on the internet. I've blocked people for harassment and for quoting parts of my profile in forum comments as well as status updates but the majority are people I've never even spoken to but I've blocked them because I don't like their attitude. I will continue to do so just as many have blocked me for exactly the same reasons and I don't see it as rude at all. | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." ooo how far did that dummy get spat. We are the most polite/respectful couple you could ever wish to meet but if someone can't be bothered to even read our profile or send unsolicited pics of their private parts they aren't going to get anything polite back from us. To many Fab crazy people on here and far to many people who like drama | |||
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." So are you saying if someone is rude to you in a message we still should message them a polite no thanks? | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." I don’t agree that every message is a compliment. Nobody deserves a reply just because they send a message. A large percentage of messages most certainly aren’t polite. Why do they deserve my time and effort? The block button is a fantastic tool. Without it Fab wouldn’t last long!! | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. So are you saying if someone is rude to you in a message we still should message them a polite no thanks? " Screams entitled to us, I've paid a supporters so I am entitled to a reply or you are just not a polite person.... Really  | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out 
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Too close - block
Don't like - block
Don't like profile pic -block
Sent me a cock - block
Generally just don't want to see them in my updates - block
Recognise them - block
Looked too much - block
I'm very trigger happy with the block button.
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." So if someone isn't what you're looking for, you should be obliged to open your message filters to them permanently for anything less than outright abuse? That would render any part of the internet with private messages unusable for a lot of people. | |||
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"My block list seems to comprise of 80% of the people on the Scottish forum "It's nice to be one of the 20% | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. So are you saying if someone is rude to you in a message we still should message them a polite no thanks? Screams entitled to us, I've paid a supporters so I am entitled to a reply or you are just not a polite person.... Really "Not entitled in the way you mean. If I don’t read a persons profile, send awful pics or rude messages or harass you, you are entitled to block me. If I have read a persons profile, send a polite message and reasonable pics, am I not entitled to a reasonable reply in return even if you don’t fancy me for one reason or another? But from what most of you have described so far, you block straight away. Fair enough block me if I won’t take no for answer and keep messaging, but not just because I have messaged and been unsuccessful. We have entered a joint community with a shared set of interests and aims. If this was the real world, say a big company and a fellow employee who you had not met before nodded and said hello on the corridor, or struck up a conversation with you in the canteen about company business, are they not entitled to a reply. It would be rude in that context to walk off without replying. Why should it be any different on here? Everyone is entitled to be treated respectfully and ghosting and blocking is not respectful, despite what it says in the faq in this website. It is this sort of casual rudeness that has caused the behaviour (rudeness in both directions, timewasting, fake profiles, demands for drugs/money/supporter codes) on this site to escalate over the years. When I joined the first time about 12 years ago it was nowhere near as bad as it is now. | |||
"Generally if they are a nuisance or they ask for friends requests, when we are clearly not friends and have not even messaged. We don’t block lightly. Like it or not we have a choice. " And I think you are using the block reasonably. Some people seem to use it all the time. | |||
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. So if someone isn't what you're looking for, you should be obliged to open your message filters to them permanently for anything less than outright abuse? That would render any part of the internet with private messages unusable for a lot of people." No. If they ignore your first reply of “Thanks, but you are not for us. Please don’t contact us again.” Then block them. But don’t block them as a response to their first message. | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. I don’t agree that every message is a compliment. Nobody deserves a reply just because they send a message. A large percentage of messages most certainly aren’t polite. Why do they deserve my time and effort? The block button is a fantastic tool. Without it Fab wouldn’t last long!! "I did not say that you should reply to impolite messages. I know that many are very rude. Block them. The others that aren’t offensive, deserve just as much respect as you deserve. Do you like being blanked or ignored? | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. I don’t agree that every message is a compliment. Nobody deserves a reply just because they send a message. A large percentage of messages most certainly aren’t polite. Why do they deserve my time and effort? The block button is a fantastic tool. Without it Fab wouldn’t last long!!
I did not say that you should reply to impolite messages. I know that many are very rude. Block them.
The others that aren’t offensive, deserve just as much respect as you deserve. Do you like being blanked or ignored?"You said even if someone is rude to you, you should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour? So does that mean then you should message them back? Because I really don’t see why anyone would want to message back other than telling them to do one. We personally when get a rude or disrespectful message in any way it’s a instant block so I don’t have to hear from them again. | |||
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. So if someone isn't what you're looking for, you should be obliged to open your message filters to them permanently for anything less than outright abuse? That would render any part of the internet with private messages unusable for a lot of people. No. If they ignore your first reply of “Thanks, but you are not for us. Please don’t contact us again.” Then block them. But don’t block them as a response to their first message." I don't think your thinking is in line with the way many people use private messages. | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out
Also… blocked
A typical response of the rude people on here. "They arent being rude. It sounds like they dont have any patience or tolerance for whiners and tantrum throwers. If tge site is that bad, and you are clearly hacked off with it...why are you still here?? The block button is to use anyway you wish No one owes anyone anything. Some block abusers. Some block persistent messagers Some block people from the forums Some block because they are unsuitable Some block because there's no attraction Some block to narrow down local searches Some block pointless profiles The list goes on.... Ive probably been blocked by at least one or more of the above list...and I didn't give it a second thought | |||
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"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. So if someone isn't what you're looking for, you should be obliged to open your message filters to them permanently for anything less than outright abuse? That would render any part of the internet with private messages unusable for a lot of people. No. If they ignore your first reply of “Thanks, but you are not for us. Please don’t contact us again.” Then block them. But don’t block them as a response to their first message." We always reply to a respectful message but to say we shouldn't block people due to their ignorance just because we all have similar interests is a bit much. The block button is there for different reasons for different people. We have also sent well thought out messages to people we think may like us to end up blocked, we don't think to much of it except 'well we aren't for them' would never dwell on it as it's just the way things are. Simple really. As for work, if someone came up to me telling me they are going to be my friend and rude, I for one wouldn't be giving them the time of day so same as really | |||
"On a similar topic. From what I understand, some men are giving all a bad name with disgraceful outbursts.. I presume when the word no is sent their way. Is it possible.. does it actually happen that men who send such vile abuse are kicked off? " Don't think anybody would know or can tell, since such individuals being kicked off Fab would just show up like those who willingly deleted their profiles as UNLOS. | |||
We block as a filter, it makes the site more useful for us. It's not some damning life ending tragedy, unbelievable that some men think this way... | |||
"I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. If they ignore your first reply of “Thanks, but you are not for us. Please don’t contact us again.” Then block them. But don’t block them as a response to their first message. " Sorry but these are clearly words from someone who has no idea of what it’s like to receive a large amount of mail, every day 7 days a week. 90% of people who contact me have completely ignored my profile, however they believe they have sent carefully written messages that will make me change my mind and agree to meet them or at least get a reply. Are you saying all these people deserve a polite response because they have taken the time to contact me? It’s impossible regardless of whether you don’t care how busy I am. No matter how nicely you try to let someone down, few take rejection well. Why should I subject myself to a barrage of abuse because I’ve taken the time to reply to someone who, if they’d read my profile in the first place, would realise we are not matched? You say people shouldn’t be on the site if they can’t be bothered to reply? I say they shouldn’t be on here if they think they’re entitled to a reply to every message they send. Let’s swap places for a week and see how long it is before you hit that block button out of sheer frustration. | |||
"Totally agree with OP It's easy.... Not your taste Block No reason to get upset by it Life's to short Reasons I block...... Live miles away Been on over 12 months no verification / pics Clearly haven't read my profile Not my taste Dirty looking house in background Been with 100's of people Like BB Men showing me their arsenal Or just if I am having a bad hair day. X To true " I tend to block people that don't know when to use 'too' instead of 'to' | |||
"This is not Fab specific. On every social media site out there people often throw a stropping fit when they find out that they've been blocked. The reason is simple. Social media sites have conditioned human society with the mistaken idea that freedom of speech online equates to entitlement without condition to everybody's time and attention no matter how good or bad your engagement behaviour and content you put out is. To be blocked is to be brutally reminded that you don't have the power to be an unlimited presence in the face of others when they are active online, and that there are people out there who dislike or hate you enough to want you erased from their sight when they're active online on the same platforms are you are on. In short, the anger comes from being humbled. Most people's egos can't take it. Those that do are often cynical enough to be thick skinned about it. I'm one such person. I love the block button on here or any other social media forum. It's the best way of me taking back control of my social media experience to be what I want it to be online without it being ruined by eejits, trolls, or people I generally disagree vehemently enough with. And I'm fine with being blocked in return too. Certainly doesn't hurt me one bit at least on Fab when it's from people I'd never have met their criteria for meeting in the first place anyway. " A brilliant post. One of the best I've seen on these forums. | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it." We agree with you 100%. Our inbox is extremely busy but we have never resorted to blocking someone unless they did something to deserve it (pestering, rudeness, unsolicited dicks, extreme cockiness, calling yourself a 'BBC', being creepy). Mr & Mrs | |||
"Surely the block button should only be used to stop somebody from harassing you. They have payed you a compliment in contacting you. Reply with “thanks, but you aren’t for us. Please don’t contact us again.” There should be a tab to click to auto generate that reply. Hitting the block button is like, going “eww”, looking down your nose at them and curling your lip. Almost as bad as the no response at all. That is like just ignoring someone when they speak to you because they are not worthy of a response. It’s just bad manners. Even if someone isn’t your type/has a rubbish picture/is rude to you, YOU should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour. The internet makes it far to easy to be rude with no consequence. I don’t care how busy you are, or how many hundred messages you get, if you haven’t got the time to be polite, you shouldn’t be on here. I now stand by to receive the hate. I don’t care, I have had enough of this site. Even though I tailor my messages to try to match the profiles I contact and don’t send gross pics or have them openly on my profile, Recently I have been on the receiving end of a ridiculous amount of ignorance, casual blocking, deliberate time wasting, requests for money and drugs. There are some very polite and genuine people on this site, but they are few and far between. And before anyone complains about the blandness of my profile, DON’T! I have redone it so many times in response to that sort of criticism it is pointless doing it again. Someone will always find something wrong with it. So are you saying if someone is rude to you in a message we still should message them a polite no thanks? Screams entitled to us, I've paid a supporters so I am entitled to a reply or you are just not a polite person.... Really
Not entitled in the way you mean.
If I don’t read a persons profile, send awful pics or rude messages or harass you, you are entitled to block me.
If I have read a persons profile, send a polite message and reasonable pics, am I not entitled to a reasonable reply in return even if you don’t fancy me for one reason or another? But from what most of you have described so far, you block straight away. Fair enough block me if I won’t take no for answer and keep messaging, but not just because I have messaged and been unsuccessful.
We have entered a joint community with a shared set of interests and aims. If this was the real world, say a big company and a fellow employee who you had not met before nodded and said hello on the corridor, or struck up a conversation with you in the canteen about company business, are they not entitled to a reply. It would be rude in that context to walk off without replying.
Why should it be any different on here?
Everyone is entitled to be treated respectfully and ghosting and blocking is not respectful, despite what it says in the faq in this website. It is this sort of casual rudeness that has caused the behaviour (rudeness in both directions, timewasting, fake profiles, demands for drugs/money/supporter codes) on this site to escalate over the years. When I joined the first time about 12 years ago it was nowhere near as bad as it is now."Does it not save your time as well, if people you are not suited for block you? | |||
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