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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it really weird?! I mean why would someone think anyone would consider adding them without a word exchanged?... I have started to accept & nose on profiles when they're offline though  |
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I cleared 27 that had been sent over the last few weeks. In the vast majority of cases they were sent without any interaction other than fabbing some pics and in some cases none at all.
It’s not something I would do but people must accept them otherwise surely it wouldn’t be such a regular occurrence. But not for me unless we’ve been chatting for a little bit |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I find it really weird?! I mean why would someone think anyone would consider adding them without a word exchanged?... I have started to accept & nose on profiles when they're offline though "
That’s what we do but being accused of being sizest because we would accept their friends invite is a bit childish |
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By *empusMan
over a year ago
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"Winks are a confusing thing "
I don’t agree. I’m new on fab but winks are great, just a low commitment way of testing for initial interest isn’t it?
When I get a returned wink I see it as a green light to send a first message. It’s certainly no guarantee to anything though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think"
I guess it depends why you winked in the first place |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think
I guess it depends why you winked in the first place"
Well not really we don’t see winks as substantial thing more like an ice breaker so to use sending a friend invite after just a wink shows that you haven’t bothered reading our profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think
I guess it depends why you winked in the first place
Well not really we don’t see winks as substantial thing more like an ice breaker so to use sending a friend invite after just a wink shows that you haven’t bothered reading our profile"
If your profile stated that you required a chat before a friend invite then the answer is obvious..he's a halfwit. |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think
I guess it depends why you winked in the first place
Well not really we don’t see winks as substantial thing more like an ice breaker so to use sending a friend invite after just a wink shows that you haven’t bothered reading our profile
If your profile stated that you required a chat before a friend invite then the answer is obvious..he's a halfwit."
It does state it |
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"I delete all friend requests and only accept if we've spoken prior and they've asked or I've asked. I don't need to be on every ransoms wankbank"
WOW I would love to taste your pussy looks so tasty WOW xx
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I have hundreds of friend requests and winks but they should all save themselves the bother. I don’t even look at them.
My friends list is people I have actually met and spoken to.
My private photos have face pics so I am not going to let anyone see them |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I have hundreds of friend requests and winks but they should all save themselves the bother. I don’t even look at them.
My friends list is people I have actually met and spoken to.
My private photos have face pics so I am not going to let anyone see them"
That we honestly agree with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think"
I wouldn't worry about it at all. They just aren't compatible with you. People often throw out insults when they don't get their own way.
I hate it when people send friend invites without ever chatting. I think some assume that you have to be friends before you can chat. Like it's some kind of message filter.
A mutual wink is not enough for a friend invite. |
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I rarely get friend requests but most of those I do get are from couples I've never spoken to.
I used to get fairly regular requests from women competing on hotpics and needing an extra friend or three but even though I don't accept any of them I never delete them which means they can't send another one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only add people we’ve met, or chatted to at length on cam. Random requests get deleted.
Even then, they are cleared frequently if not regularly in touch (always happy to re-add).
There has to be an element of quid-pro-quo for us too. We aren’t going to share all our vids and pics in return for a picture of your penis next to a sky remote taken in 2015.
There’s no reason for not being able to send a few qualifying pics privately via message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile says that I don't accept friends request, it also says I don't delete them, which means people can't send another one, unfortunately not many read my profile so I get endless requests  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s something I willl never understand .
We put on our profile no random friends requests then still get them sent everyday without as much as a quick Hi how are you lol.
We just delete automatically. If you can’t be arsed to send a message first and get to know us then definitely not interested. |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
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We usually just delete them if they are sent to us. More often than not it's people just wanting to view your friends only photos! When you compare bios (if there is one), they are usually entirely incompatible too so adds to the thought that they haven't even looked that far.
If they look like they might be compatible, I might be cheeky and accept for a peek before unfriending 
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"My profile says that I don't accept friends request, it also says I don't delete them, which means people can't send another one, unfortunately not many read my profile so I get endless requests "
They can send another one after 30 days |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We’re all curious and want to see more, all you have to do is delete or be generous and accept
Maybe if you messaged first you’d get to see more ? "
That’s what we say if you messages and chat first then we would accept or we just accept when you are offline have a chat then remove and block |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We’re all curious and want to see more, all you have to do is delete or be generous and accept
Maybe if you messaged first you’d get to see more ?
That’s what we say if you messages and chat first then we would accept or we just accept when you are offline have a chat then remove and block"
Not chat a look |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Let’s be honest as a single guy the chances of getting a reply are pretty slim so we fancy our chance with a quick add and hope to get lucky  "
Yeah but by doing that it does make your chances a lot slimmer |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't accept random friend invites I also rarely delete them as it's stops them being able to send them again.
I use to look at winks and actually had a couple of meets come from them. But at the moment I'm not doing any new meets so I rarely look at them anymore. |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
Kingsbridge |
I think that’s a fair response. Winks are just an indication of a bit of interest, nothing more. Personally I think sending an unsolicited friend request isn’t on and I don’t accept them either. A friend request is a nice way of moving a chat along to my mind. |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I reply to all decent messages "
I do reply to outrageous messages with a not interested then block just so we don’t get any hassle. We also hate those first messages that only addresses one of us |
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"I find it really weird?! I mean why would someone think anyone would consider adding them without a word exchanged?... I have started to accept & nose on profiles when they're offline though "
I always do this! Accept the invite when they’re offline, leave it if you like what you see, or drop them off your friends list if you don’t. Simples  |
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"I get it mostly from couples sending random friend invites but will never message  "
I get this too, sometimes I accept if I want to see their private content.
But most often they just get deleted. |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I find it really weird?! I mean why would someone think anyone would consider adding them without a word exchanged?... I have started to accept & nose on profiles when they're offline though
I always do this! Accept the invite when they’re offline, leave it if you like what you see, or drop them off your friends list if you don’t. Simples "
Well some couples do this but most that send the random friends invites just want pictures for their fap bank or are just picture collectors. |
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I send friends invites out as a step up from a wink
A lot of couples and single girls get bombarded with so many messages that they must waste a lot of their time on mingers
Rather than whittle out people they may be attracted to
J |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I send friends invites out as a step up from a wink
A lot of couples and single girls get bombarded with so many messages that they must waste a lot of their time on mingers
Rather than whittle out people they may be attracted to
J "
Problem is by doing that you are just adding yourself to a pile of those that won’t be seen |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I send friends invites out as a step up from a wink
A lot of couples and single girls get bombarded with so many messages that they must waste a lot of their time on mingers
Rather than whittle out people they may be attracted to
J
Problem is by doing that you are just adding yourself to a pile of those that won’t be seen"
Because couples and single women get just as many winks and random friends invites it’s the primary reason why we don’t have single males on our filters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I send friends invites out as a step up from a wink
A lot of couples and single girls get bombarded with so many messages that they must waste a lot of their time on mingers
Rather than whittle out people they may be attracted to
J "
But a lot of couple ourselfs included will instantly delte/block a random friends request and really puts us off receiving one without even as much as a hey how are ? |
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think"
I never accept friend requests from people I've never at least spoken to. I also never even look at my winks I just tend to forget they are there.
Both my friend request list and wink list are huge because I don't delete them.
I fully agree sending a wink doesn't mean you automatically want to add someone as a friend. We all run our accounts in different ways what is right for you is not necessarily right for someone else but nobody should be judging you for it.
If that was this guys attitude he wasn't worth being 'friends' with anyway. |
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"I cleared 27 that had been sent over the last few weeks. In the vast majority of cases they were sent without any interaction other than fabbing some pics and in some cases none at all.
It’s not something I would do but people must accept them otherwise surely it wouldn’t be such a regular occurrence. But not for me unless we’ve been chatting for a little bit "
I never clear mine, if you delete they can send another, if you leave it in your list they get a warning if they try to send again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get a few from people we have never spoken to. Never accept them tho as usually just picture hunters, and we don't have any friends pictures so what's the point anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Winks are a confusing thing
I don’t agree. I’m new on fab but winks are great, just a low commitment way of testing for initial interest isn’t it?
When I get a returned wink I see it as a green light to send a first message. It’s certainly no guarantee to anything though."
Totally agree, I wink to indicate initial interest. If they reciprocate I send a message. Sadly nobody seems to see winks for what they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s not a ground rule to when/whom to send a friend request. Every profile is different whist some value their privacy and only share pics with friends they met (which doesn’t make sense because if they met you and saw who you are already), others crave the attention from others by making their profile private so they can see how much attention they get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There’s not a ground rule to when/whom to send a friend request. Every profile is different whist some value their privacy and only share pics with friends they met (which doesn’t make sense because if they met you and saw who you are already), others crave the attention from others by making their profile private so they can see how much attention they get. "
it’s maybe not a ground rule but when you have it clearly stated on your profile and still get numerous requests it’s not being very respectful. with regards to sending friends request iwith the friends you meet on here and buid a connection with obviously you’d want to see-what they look like.
I don’t know where you have got the idea that some couples want attention by making there profiles private that is absolutely ludicrous and very judgmental |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"There’s not a ground rule to when/whom to send a friend request. Every profile is different whist some value their privacy and only share pics with friends they met (which doesn’t make sense because if they met you and saw who you are already), others crave the attention from others by making their profile private so they can see how much attention they get. it’s maybe not a ground rule but when you have it clearly stated on your profile and still get numerous requests it’s not being very respectful. with regards to sending friends request iwith the friends you meet on here and buid a connection with obviously you’d want to see-what they look like.
I don’t know where you have got the idea that some couples want attention by making there profiles private that is absolutely ludicrous and very judgmental "
I was about to say the exact same it is a very judgemental statement |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think
I never accept friend requests from people I've never at least spoken to. I also never even look at my winks I just tend to forget they are there.
Both my friend request list and wink list are huge because I don't delete them.
I fully agree sending a wink doesn't mean you automatically want to add someone as a friend. We all run our accounts in different ways what is right for you is not necessarily right for someone else but nobody should be judging you for it.
If that was this guys attitude he wasn't worth being 'friends' with anyway. "
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I don't mind winks, at least it allows me to see who might be interested, at least I have the choice to acknowledge or ignore
The same goes for Fab'd pictures and when I get Fab'd, I do message to say thank you regardless of whether it goes any further.
As for friend invites, I never presume to send a friend invite to anyone I haven't had a conversation with and only then I ask if they want a friend invite |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I don't mind winks, at least it allows me to see who might be interested, at least I have the choice to acknowledge or ignore
The same goes for Fab'd pictures and when I get Fab'd, I do message to say thank you regardless of whether it goes any further.
As for friend invites, I never presume to send a friend invite to anyone I haven't had a conversation with and only then I ask if they want a friend invite"
That’s a good way of doing it |
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think"
Yeah we generally only accept friend invites if we've been chatting. Random invites just get deleted
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Well here’s one for you so we had an experience this week so as the thread says “random friends invites”. So our experience this week of this is someone returning a wink and sending a friend invite which I politely said we don’t accept random friends invites. To which we get a lecture about how it’s not random etc but in our eyes we only send a friend invite if we have chatted to someone for a bit or had a social meet with them. Or even met them in a club not after a wink returned oh we also got called sizest as well. Isis is a curvy lady so can’t really be that without insulting her. But I guess I’m curious as to what you all think
Yeah we generally only accept friend invites if we've been chatting. Random invites just get deleted
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We’ve had a chat and are doing the same
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We had a pretty arrogant reply from another couple after telling them we don’t accept random invites.
They told us that’s their way of seeing if we’d like to chat and if we didn’t like that sort of thing we shouldn’t call ourselves swingers. |
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"We had a pretty arrogant reply from another couple after telling them we don’t accept random invites.
They told us that’s their way of seeing if we’d like to chat and if we didn’t like that sort of thing we shouldn’t call ourselves swingers. "
Wow that’s harsh!
We won’t accept them either  |
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By *nubisIsis OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We had a pretty arrogant reply from another couple after telling them we don’t accept random invites.
They told us that’s their way of seeing if we’d like to chat and if we didn’t like that sort of thing we shouldn’t call ourselves swingers. "
That’s shocking we’ve had the same as well when we first started our profile |
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