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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi All,
My partner and I enjoy sex. We like watching porn. We like going to clubs, getting dressed up/down (?!) and being in generally sexy atmospheres. We've gone as far as being in the same room, watching and being watched, and would do the same again given the right situation (and people). But we've never swung with others, and haven't really felt any need to. We try very hard not to lead people on, but sometimes feel that what we do may be considered fake by "true" swingers. Is swinging that black and white, or are we -acceptably - at one end of the spectrum? Do people have any other suggestions for sexy fun? Maybe live sex shows, lapdancing etc. that can be enjoyed by both partners. Or maybe similar websites not quite so much aimed directly at swinging? Or are we ok on Fabs, as long as we continue to be open and honest?.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope not fake )as far as I can tell. What you describe is just a part of what turns you on. Tor and I have been to a club, watched, played with each other and Tor put on a show. Do this for yourselves not someone else's definition of what a swinger is!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's up to you how you use the site!
And it's no one else's business how you play! All that matters is that you both enjoy doing what your doing!!
So just carry on as you as you are, and enjoy!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is how we started. We went to clubs and only played with each other and played in public rooms etc. In fact we actually still do this a lot, tho we do swing with others when we wish.
The key here always is to please yourself and not others. .
Just continue to do what turns you both o n and to the level you find acceptable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You guys are perfect just the way you are. Swingings about what you guys like doing with like minded folk. There's absolutely nothing black and white about it. Hope you guys continue to enjoy the things that float your boat and don't let yourselves be convinced that you're not welcome on fab.xxx  |
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We are currently in the same situation as yourselves. We have been to a club, have had same room fun as our own couple and generally like the voyeur aspect. We have not swung fully yet as it is a big step for us.
I guess you go down the path which is most comfortable for you and you decide your boundaries. Our next aim is for Gem to meet a bi woman to see how that goes. If we dont like it we will carry on being voyeurs and going to clubs. We really enjoy people watching us do our thing.
I believe there are some swingers who say that we should not be on the scene but just remember everyone started in the same position and each chose a path. There will be many who also support and there is also the social aspect of the scene. Its not all about the sex lol
We don't lead people on which is the best way to be. It is hard telling people no when there is no attraction but that is life.
There are many couples profiles on this site who are clearly men! They are the ones who are fake and mis-leading people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not.
Every couple sets their own boundries. Even the couples that seem to be the wildest & most extreme will have their boundries.
As long as you are clear before meeting people about what these boundries are then you are deinitely not timewasters.
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To be fake you would have to claim to be something you are not.... Which clearly you're not doing.
Ifit suits you and you are happy sod the doubters! Lol
If people upset you then use the block button. There are a lot of people on this site and a lot of them will not go to a club or meet. Just sit at a computer and dream about it. Who cares just do what you enjoy....
Take all the time you want and do what you want. Fun and enjoyment is the sole aim after all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Entirely up to you how you use Fabs, and how you categorise yourselves - assuming you want to. Okay, up till now what you seem to have been into is Voyeurism and Exhibitionism. That's fine if that's what YOU are comfortable with. And that's what Swinging is all about - being comfortable with what YOU want and are doing.
Over time, your 'Swinging Journey' (can't believe I said that!!) may take you down other paths/directions, but that's YOUR business.... and no one elses..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fake you would have to claim to be something you are not.... Which clearly you're not doing.
Ifit suits you and you are happy sod the doubters! Lol
If people upset you then use the block button. There are a lot of people on this site and a lot of them will not go to a club or meet. Just sit at a computer and dream about it. Who cares just do what you enjoy....
Take all the time you want and do what you want. Fun and enjoyment is the sole aim after all "
Totally agree.
And never ever let others push you to do things you feel uncomfortable about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you are not " fakes"
You are a couple that for whatever your pleasure want to be part of the swinging scene. As long as you are honest ( which you seen to be ) then if anyone else has an issue with it then its their issue not yours. People join fab or clubs for their own pleasure/reasons NOT anyone elses so enjoy whatever it is you get out of it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No you are not " fakes"
You are a couple that for whatever your pleasure want to be part of the swinging scene. As long as you are honest ( which you seen to be ) then if anyone else has an issue with it then its their issue not yours. People join fab or clubs for their own pleasure/reasons NOT anyone elses so enjoy whatever it is you get out of it x"
Did someone mention nice arses? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No you are not " fakes"
You are a couple that for whatever your pleasure want to be part of the swinging scene. As long as you are honest ( which you seen to be ) then if anyone else has an issue with it then its their issue not yours. People join fab or clubs for their own pleasure/reasons NOT anyone elses so enjoy whatever it is you get out of it x
Did someone mention nice arses? "
Hang on im just perving, I need abit longer than you experts lol |
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"No you are not " fakes"
You are a couple that for whatever your pleasure want to be part of the swinging scene. As long as you are honest ( which you seen to be ) then if anyone else has an issue with it then its their issue not yours. People join fab or clubs for their own pleasure/reasons NOT anyone elses so enjoy whatever it is you get out of it x
Did someone mention nice arses?
Hang on im just perving, I need abit longer than you experts lol"
Lots and lots of practice is the key to enlightenment  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not fake at all. Swinging is a very broadterm that means many diferent things to different people - voyeurism and exhibitionism most definitely fall in to that.
Plus you say yourself that you try hard not to lead anyone on, it's not like you are telling people that you are something you aren't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well your profile says you want to meet couples socially first then see where it leads. I'd say if you don't want to meet people for anything more than a social you should probably make that clear. |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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Agree with all the fabsters on this threat
Have you thought of putting your Clubexperiences on your profile?Many cpls who like you prefer to just beeing watched +watch others for the time beeing or may be for ever would probably feel really reasured reading it and happy that you are the same as them.Think it would invite lovely messages to you.
All fabsters should just enjoy whatever turns them on, it really doesn't matter what others think,swinging is your own very personal experience
Have many hot "_iews" in 2013
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Totally up to you . I don't make up the rules on here . I'm sure everyone on here wants different things from fabswingers . If your not disrespectful to others I'm sure no one minds what you do and there's no pressure to make you do anything your not comfortable with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the responses. It's reassuring to know as we really don't want to mess about or offend but do find just being on the periphery of the scene a turn on. We'll carry on as is for now then, but maybe alter our profile a little.
Thanks also for the reassurance about our arses! You're not so bad yourselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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with a past partner we never played with anybody else - went to a club a few times watched and were watched but never even touched anybody else - he got a buzz off that and i guess i did it more for him than me - was very new to all this back then - might be a different story now  |
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thats one i will buy tickets for lmfao .mind you i had my first conquest last week with a couple it was different to say the least i ave never eating pussy before but must say for a gay person it tasted very nice but she enjoyed watching me eat her fellas cock all the way till he popped his cork so things change for 2013 i enjoyed crossing into the light so if ryland changes with ms balding i will watch lol x just Henry .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You arn't fakes for sticking to what you want, no. What yoy like is no less valid than anyone else.
I would say a fake is if you led people on with lies and false promises. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You should make it clear on your profile that you don't swing otherwise people will keep messaging you."
Well let's be honest it doesn't matter what you write on a profile, virtually all single males don't read them |
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By *essesCouple
over a year ago
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Not fakes at all and it is completely up to you how you play but I would definitely make it clearer on your profile. As at the moment it does look as though you do swap, which you clearly dont.
Good luck and have fun.
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