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Help!!! Don’t judge.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’m currently 7 years into a relationship to a woman I Truly love. I find myself on here because I just don’t get sex. I probably get it 6 times a year maximum. I’ve heard almost every excuse going the one that pops up all the time though Is it hurts when your inside me “your too big” i honestly don’t think iam. I’m a well built guy 6ft6 and she’s a size 6 sometimes even in teenager clothes. So because I’m on here I feel guilty but we all have needs I just wish I could have sex with my partner. I’ve tried using my fingers get her really wet she still says it hurts it’s got to the point I just don’t even try anymore. Help me. |
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"So I’m currently 7 years into a relationship to a woman I Truly love. I find myself on here because I just don’t get sex. I probably get it 6 times a year maximum. I’ve heard almost every excuse going the one that pops up all the time though Is it hurts when your inside me “your too big” i honestly don’t think iam. I’m a well built guy 6ft6 and she’s a size 6 sometimes even in teenager clothes. So because I’m on here I feel guilty but we all have needs I just wish I could have sex with my partner. I’ve tried using my fingers get her really wet she still says it hurts it’s got to the point I just don’t even try anymore. Help me. "
You could cut two inches of your cock.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m currently 7 years into a relationship to a woman I Truly love. I find myself on here because I just don’t get sex. I probably get it 6 times a year maximum. I’ve heard almost every excuse going the one that pops up all the time though Is it hurts when your inside me “your too big” i honestly don’t think iam. I’m a well built guy 6ft6 and she’s a size 6 sometimes even in teenager clothes. So because I’m on here I feel guilty but we all have needs I just wish I could have sex with my partner. I’ve tried using my fingers get her really wet she still says it hurts it’s got to the point I just don’t even try anymore. Help me. "
She's probably the one to talk to. I wouldn't take advice from here.
You just wanted to mention you have a big willy? Fair play.
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theres some out there that want a sexless arrangement.
but dont like it if you have an affair with another.
the same can be said if you leave them.
the length id agree with but width depending on this can be trained up the casual sex between you is keeping her slim/tight ( the same with anal sex )
talk to her, come to a compromise.
I personally dont see the point if shes getting all of the benefit.
ive got a 6ft+ mug who protects me with size but hes not getting much sex as im not interested.
if you drive and pull your weight at home your more of a mug thats one sided
dont have an affair/dont be on here, id say it was time to walk away.
so your on here like you are then walk away as you dont really love her that much to be on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems there are some decent folk on here so thanks appreciate all the advice and criticism. All taken on board going to talk to her tonight fingers crossed I get what I need. Thanks again everyone. |
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"So I’m currently 7 years into a relationship to a woman I Truly love. I find myself on here because I just don’t get sex. I probably get it 6 times a year maximum. I’ve heard almost every excuse going the one that pops up all the time though Is it hurts when your inside me “your too big” i honestly don’t think iam. I’m a well built guy 6ft6 and she’s a size 6 sometimes even in teenager clothes. So because I’m on here I feel guilty but we all have needs I just wish I could have sex with my partner. I’ve tried using my fingers get her really wet she still says it hurts it’s got to the point I just don’t even try anymore. Help me. "
Of course im a qualified quack... have you explored Bacterial vaginosis. It is a medical condition which basically means any internal stimulation hurts the individual.
I would suggest a proper quack and hold her hand tightly...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"theres some out there that want a sexless arrangement.
but dont like it if you have an affair with another.
the same can be said if you leave them.
the length id agree with but width depending on this can be trained up the casual sex between you is keeping her slim/tight ( the same with anal sex )
talk to her, come to a compromise.
I personally dont see the point if shes getting all of the benefit.
ive got a 6ft+ mug who protects me with size but hes not getting much sex as im not interested.
if you drive and pull your weight at home your more of a mug thats one sided
dont have an affair/dont be on here, id say it was time to walk away.
so your on here like you are then walk away as you dont really love her that much to be on here. "
Well aren't you delightful. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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why not talk to her and if it hurts her that much maybe its not your size and its something a dr can sort or refer her to a consultant in that field of knowledge it can be a popular thing women having pain during intercourse my sister suffed badly after the birth of her second child it turned out to be damage tissue that was fixed she no longer has that problem .. just another thought ... but you really should be talking to her .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems there are some decent folk on here so thanks appreciate all the advice and criticism. All taken on board going to talk to her tonight fingers crossed I get what I need. Thanks again everyone. "
And maybe not just what you "need" but what you both want.
Like others have said it can be as simple as a trip to the Dr's.
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"Talk to your partner 
She deserves to go out and have sex she can enjoy too surely?
Sexual incompatibility is a bummer, but it is what it is. If don't fits, she don't sits."
Exactly this, it's not only your happiness that counts, speak to her and discuss options, I'm sure she'd have no problem finding a smaller man to satisfy her needs too, how would you feel about that op?
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"So I’m currently 7 years into a relationship to a woman I Truly love. I find myself on here because I just don’t get sex. I probably get it 6 times a year maximum. I’ve heard almost every excuse going the one that pops up all the time though Is it hurts when your inside me “your too big” i honestly don’t think iam. I’m a well built guy 6ft6 and she’s a size 6 sometimes even in teenager clothes. So because I’m on here I feel guilty but we all have needs I just wish I could have sex with my partner. I’ve tried using my fingers get her really wet she still says it hurts it’s got to the point I just don’t even try anymore. Help me.
Of course im a qualified quack... have you explored Bacterial vaginosis. It is a medical condition which basically means any internal stimulation hurts the individual.
I would suggest a proper quack and hold her hand tightly...
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I think you mean vaginitis not BV (although vaginitis could be caused by BV).
OP you need to talk to her. If she wants to have more sex with you then talk to her about what she needs. Even though women might be wet it doesn't mean they are ready for penetrative sex. You still need to take your time.
Maybe do some intimate things that don't lead to sex - a massage without any pressure for it to go further for example.
If she doesn't want to have sex with you then have the conversation about her finding a sexually compatible partner and you finding one too. You need to talk to her.
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"theres some out there that want a sexless arrangement.
but dont like it if you have an affair with another.
the same can be said if you leave them.
the length id agree with but width depending on this can be trained up the casual sex between you is keeping her slim/tight ( the same with anal sex )
talk to her, come to a compromise.
I personally dont see the point if shes getting all of the benefit.
ive got a 6ft+ mug who protects me with size but hes not getting much sex as im not interested.
if you drive and pull your weight at home your more of a mug thats one sided
dont have an affair/dont be on here, id say it was time to walk away.
so your on here like you are then walk away as you dont really love her that much to be on here.
Well aren't you delightful. "
Its not been delightful, why should anyone be a mug for either partner.
Its been posted up often enough on this forum, alone about men not pulling there weight a good for nothing layabout.
That sits on there backside and does nothing while she does all of the work
I dont agree on this either your a couple so work like a couple.
Theres been many a post as well where the ladies want a good height and build and of coarse there loverly 6 packs 
All because they want to feel safe when there with that person. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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While having a non sex life can be frustrating if she is telling you it hurts her when she had sex with you why would you want her to carry on ? Why should anyone carry on doing something that hurts them. Maybe it is an excuse but if she is saying it a lot then there is a possibility it's true. And I know I personally would hate to think that anyone would feel obliged to have sex with me even if they are hurting and not enjoying themselves.Think of you taking anal or something and it hurting I'm sure you wouldn't want to continue doing it if it hurt you all the time and you wouldn't want your partner to want to keep doing it to you.
You need to talk to her and maybe a professional not someone on here who gives 'advice' they are not qualified to give.
And before someone says I'm saying this because it is a male op my reply would be the exact same if a woman posted something the same. |
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Would you be able to see her with someone else who’s a little smaller than you maybe have a chat and see if you can enter this world together and find compatible couples it will be much better than playing behind her back…think if roles were reversed how would you feel woth her being on here |
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You've been together 7 years. Has it always been painful for her? Did you used to have more sex in the beginning of the relationship? There's definitely two sides to this, as others have said. You both deserve to have your needs met - painless sex and more regularly. If it's her way of avoiding sex altogether then that's something you need to sit down and have a serious chat about. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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The only help you need is for you to leave this site and get professional help together.
Otherwise you can dress it up all you like but you are cheating on this person you claim to love! |
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By *erogbMan
over a year ago
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I would suggest enjoy your life. Keep your gf/wife to have babies with and family. And have friends to have sex with. But don't mix the two.
I am the same. With this difference that I am more on a micro side. |
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"So I’m currently 7 years into a relationship to a woman I Truly love. I find myself on here because I just don’t get sex. I probably get it 6 times a year maximum. I’ve heard almost every excuse going the one that pops up all the time though Is it hurts when your inside me “your too big” i honestly don’t think iam. I’m a well built guy 6ft6 and she’s a size 6 sometimes even in teenager clothes. So because I’m on here I feel guilty but we all have needs I just wish I could have sex with my partner. I’ve tried using my fingers get her really wet she still says it hurts it’s got to the point I just don’t even try anymore. Help me.
Of course im a qualified quack... have you explored Bacterial vaginosis. It is a medical condition which basically means any internal stimulation hurts the individual.
I would suggest a proper quack and hold her hand tightly...
Actually the condition you are talking about is Vagisinismus where the vagina tightens up whenever anything is attempted to be inserted. Bacterial vaginosis is as the name suggests a bacterial infection which causes a nasty smell. Op talk to your partner and see if she would consider talking to her Gp . Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've already had some good advice here, and I'd agree about talking to her. I'd imagine she's feeling frustrated herself, and probably feels like she's letting you down in some way because she cannot fulfil your needs, and her own, because it's painful.
Perhaps there's an underlying cause for it, that she could get some help from a medical professional for.
But in the meantime, penetrative sex is not the be all and end all, there are so many other ways to be intimate with your partner from just kissing and cuddling to mutual masturbation (you could just play with her clit, no need for fingers or toys inside her if it's painful).
Hope you get things sorted
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Weird thing is sex in a relationships matters, as intimacy counts. Cuddles don't satisfy needs, mutual masturbation feel a little pre-teen, and there's the idea if one half doesn't like sex, them being stimulated will either be painful or they'll think it'll lead to sex, which they'll want to put off.
When one of you has a higher sex drive than the other it does put a wedge between you, especially if you are not say 10yrs married. Excuses, shrugs, too busy, being closed off, all lead to a distancing. |
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"Talk to your partner
She deserves to go out and have sex she can enjoy too surely?
Sexual incompatibility is a bummer, but it is what it is. If don't fits, she don't sits."
Funniest thing I’ve read in an age! Johnnie Cochran would be proud  |
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