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What little word of phrase is a turn off?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before. "
Well he sounds delightful!!
Anyone who talks ill of others in any way is hugely off putting.
As is someone who doesn’t actually engage in conversation by using questions, they just talk about themselves. |
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"Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before.
Well he sounds delightful!!
Anyone who talks ill of others in any way is hugely off putting.
As is someone who doesn’t actually engage in conversation by using questions, they just talk about themselves. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Numerous things. Where there’s no effort of conversation, when people type in text speak. Dirty talk, the list is pretty endless! Call me old fashioned but I like a conversation
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Numerous things. Where there’s no effort of conversation, when people type in text speak. Dirty talk, the list is pretty endless! Call me old fashioned but I like a conversation
Mrs"
Then I'm old fashioned too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a delight, sounds like you dodged a bullet there 
We were chatting with a couple a few days ago on here, and the guy from the other couple referred to me as a 'plaything' to Mr. Put him straight off having any more chat as he felt that was disrespectful, and it made me feel uncomfortable. I'm sure others wouldn't be bothered but for us we decided we didn't want to keep getting to know the other couple
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Numerous things. Where there’s no effort of conversation, when people type in text speak. Dirty talk, the list is pretty endless! Call me old fashioned but I like a conversation
Mrs
Then I'm old fashioned too "
In that case we are also old fashioned! We much prefer actual conversation too
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before. "
"I like you"
Total passion killer. Because the fact that you're attracted to me, and the mess that I am, is a major red flag  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate any form of sex chat after a few messages. Having a nice chat with a guy just this evening and suddenly the chat turned to how he was wanking to are videos! Just stopped replying immediately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This sounds so petty but someone ending every line of their message with “haha or heehee” Or the worst….Teeheehee
Don’t like seeing it on profiles either.
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"This sounds so petty but someone ending every line of their message with “haha or heehee” Or the worst….Teeheehee
Don’t like seeing it on profiles either.
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If they end message he,he,he,I usually reply "I'm the laughing Gnome & you can't catch me...
Got to be a certain age to understand this one... |
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"This sounds so petty but someone ending every line of their message with “haha or heehee” Or the worst….Teeheehee
Don’t like seeing it on profiles either.
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When they say 'Mmmmmmm' that word gives me the shivers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s no particular word, but I find it really off putting when someone is too confident.
For example asking me when I’m free to meet, what’s my address, what do I enjoy etc when I’ve had absolutely zero conversation with them and I’m not attracted to them.
It’s weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite a few tbh but common on here that is a turn off one liners for us;
"How's fab treating you"
"How you finding fab"
"Wanna meet"
"You free now"
"What you looking for"
 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate when people use the word “sh*t” to mean ‘things’. It’s partly due to it being an Americanism, partly because it’s just needlessly vulgar and grim. |
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"Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before.
Well he sounds delightful!!
Anyone who talks ill of others in any way is hugely off putting.
As is someone who doesn’t actually engage in conversation by using questions, they just talk about themselves. "
This does my head in, although it's a handy filter for people that clearly aren't interested I guess! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spunk
I hate that word so much, it's odd, it seems oddly childish to me and just all round gives me the ick. "
I second this… I know the word "cum" isn’t exactly special but it’s better than spunk lol. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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I was chatting to a man for ages, we got on really well getting ready to meet and he said I can't wait to poke your cervix with my cock! my legs instantly welded themselves shut, and we never met! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before. "
Not that I condone what he said by any means. But I always try give people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he just made an observation and articulated it, given not in the most PC way. We all have preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Hate being called ‘trouble’ on the first message. “Hey trouble how are you?” “You look like trouble!” Usually from younger men. Dude I’m a 40 year old woman |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
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I hate how people use the term MILf for females even if they are not mothers! I have no children and I really hate how men put me under that name just because I am in my 40's and assume I have children!!!!! Grrrrrrrrrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dislike when men start an opening line with :"Hey, babe" or " Hey,sweetie" or "What's up, doll"...I want to throw up on my mobile screen at that moment. Hate men calling me pet names. It's not respectful at all.
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"I dislike when men start an opening line with :"Hey, babe" or " Hey,sweetie" or "What's up, doll"...I want to throw up on my mobile screen at that moment. Hate men calling me pet names. It's not respectful at all.
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This. Plus the words moist and panties. |
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We've met guys in clubs and all has been going well and they go and say something really creepy or cringy or in a terribly naff and un-ironic way. And then that's it, Mrs Misfits attraction is killed. Which may sound fickle but is what it is. And sometimes it's not what they say its how they say it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not your standard first message of “hey” “u free now” “horny?”
What can someone say after you’ve got into the flow of a conversation that can instantly turn you off them? They may not even know it?
One recently for me was a guy said he really liked me because all the women in fab are fat and I wasn’t, not his thing.
Fine, we all have our tastes but putting other women down for size was a no, regardless of how well we got on before. "
I had the perfect fuck buddy, older, sexy, dressed and smelt AMAZING and was a demon in bed, we met through a chat on kik and on here, but she used to slag the other woman in group off for being bigger, put me right off her, stopped seeing her through it. No need for it, beauty comes in all shapes n sizes. |
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'Hi Daddy'....
One or two word responses where I'm left struggling to make conversation. Do they want dirty conversation or polite 'getting to know you' chat. If I pick the wrong option I'm either boring or a dirty pervert! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hate any form of sex chat after a few messages. Having a nice chat with a guy just this evening and suddenly the chat turned to how he was wanking to are videos! Just stopped replying immediately "
We were about two messages into a polite conversation with a guy who seemed decent, then suddenly we get a dick pic out of nowhere...I asked him why he thought it was acceptable, and his reply was - well you've got kind of dick pics on your profile already, so I thought it would be ok...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mmmmm.
Fanny.
The assumption that because I'm bored enough to reply I'm also bored enough to jump on a random penis."
OMG - the 'mmmmmm'is so cringeworthy! Instant block lol
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"Hate being called ‘trouble’ on the first message. “Hey trouble how are you?” “You look like trouble!” Usually from younger men. Dude I’m a 40 year old woman"
I hate this one too, with passion.
Makes me physically ill. |
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"This sounds so petty but someone ending every line of their message with “haha or heehee” Or the worst….Teeheehee
Don’t like seeing it on profiles either.
When they say 'Mmmmmmm' that word gives me the shivers. "
This is the one that turns my stomach too. Why on earth does anyone think that 'Mmmmmm' is a normal thing to say to another person.
It's like you are just leering at them. Gross |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont tell Sarah Millican.
Personally, I find anything like Slut, Just awful.
As I class myself as bicurious, i also hate men calling me hun, babe etc... and men calling their backside their c×××. Just horrible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arrogance such as you’ve never had anyone like me before.
Cringe. "
We had a guy message today to let us know that he was going to "fuck me good".....! Not today, thanks. In fact, not ever
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whilst fucking, someone called me a “good girl”!!!
Wtf?
I’m nobodies fucking good girl!
A slut? Sure! But “good girl”? Fuck right off!"
I'm with you here - I'm a good little slut, but definitely not a good girl lol
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"Arrogance such as you’ve never had anyone like me before.
Cringe.
We had a guy message today to let us know that he was going to "fuck me good".....! Not today, thanks. In fact, not ever
Mrs "
Hahaha huge difference between confidence and arrogance he clearly doesn't get this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whilst fucking, someone called me a “good girl”!!!
Wtf?
I’m nobodies fucking good girl!
A slut? Sure! But “good girl”? Fuck right off!"
Not a Robin Thicke fan then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This sounds so petty but someone ending every line of their message with “haha or heehee” Or the worst….Teeheehee
Don’t like seeing it on profiles either.
When they say 'Mmmmmmm' that word gives me the shivers. "
Had a guy message once he put mmm after every word |
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"Arrogance such as you’ve never had anyone like me before.
Cringe.
We had a guy message today to let us know that he was going to "fuck me good".....! Not today, thanks. In fact, not ever
Mrs "
May have been the same guy who messaged us "next time you're in Xtasia I'll bang you real good"  |
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Anything derogatory really. Words like slut, bitch and whore are just awful. More of a power trip for the man. Also when a guy tells you what he's going to do to me. Hello! It's a two way thing! Also the very American "I'm gonna fuck you good". That has me in stitches.
One guy once said "I'm going to make your pussy cry". Hmmmm I thought. Out of sheer despair and disappointment obviously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arrogance such as you’ve never had anyone like me before.
Cringe.
We had a guy message today to let us know that he was going to "fuck me good".....! Not today, thanks. In fact, not ever
Mrs
Hahaha huge difference between confidence and arrogance he clearly doesn't get this "
It was quite comical in the end, Mr said I should keep replying to wind him up a bit, but I just blocked him instead lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arrogance such as you’ve never had anyone like me before.
Cringe.
We had a guy message today to let us know that he was going to "fuck me good".....! Not today, thanks. In fact, not ever
Mrs
May have been the same guy who messaged us "next time you're in Xtasia I'll bang you real good" "
I reckon these guys have just watched too many shit porn films lol
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't be shy"
"Bants"
"Here for a short time not a long time"
"My kids are my world"
"Work hard play harder"
Each one of these makes me drier than the sahara. |
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We were having a chat in a club with a very handsome man and the conversation was going very well. Then he came out with the line "if you want a big boy later let me know". That was the end of that for both of us. If you're big then great, they're aesthetic looking. Describing yourself as big... oh dear  |
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"Short sharp answers that just kill the conversation dead in its tracks. "
This - I’m aware as a single male that I need to do more in initial messages but it’s very dispiriting crafting a message for 5-10mins to get one word answers back. Try to remind myself some see their inbox as just texts messages but still… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I feel like this is controversial but I mean this in a very specific circumstance. But any form of “can I do this ?” At a certain point kills the vibe for me |
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