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Singles, what brought you to fab?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I maxed out on the dating sites. A friend told me about fab and for a long time i was not interested.
Until one evening i felt too lonely and very nosey. I am also a chatterbox.. and the forums are great.
So here I am. Having funz. 
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I've done the online dating after a divorce and honestly found it hard to meet someone with similar interests.
I realised that I was actually happy on my own but of course missed the sex aspect. Friend told me about here and thought why not see what it has to offer. I've found I'm getting attention from men mainly, all else fails I've got that to fall back on haha |
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Originally to explore the scene, this is basically the main site for information and making connections.
In terms of casual hook ups I would use normal dating sites. Lots of women on there looking for the same. Because being a single parent you miss sex and company of a woman but not in a place for relationships.
But I was also intrested in the swinging scene, clubs, Kink and exploring the idea of non-monogamous relationships. This site was a natural choice. I ended up have a few meets on here and making some freinds. Then there was one meet. We were both two single parents looking for some good sex and Kink. Now I call that woman My Girl and my fiancée.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always deviated from the vanilla path I've dipped in and out of this world.
I'm bi abd this is the safest and best place to chat to like minded folks.. oh and the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Making a conscious move away from conventional vanilla style relationships and this site seems to give the opportunity to connect with people who have a similar view of life |
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I joined a little over a year ago after a relationship ended slowly during the pandemic. Knowing that wasn’t the time to meet people and being a work a holic I found a community on Twitter that isn’t exactly safe for work. That led to talking to some interesting people who pointed to fab
When I first joined I spent a good six months reading the forums and talking to people. Not 100% convinced it was for me and not wanting to waste anyone’s time. It was around the time of leaving that I was contacted by someone whom is now a friend. She is a ‘swinger’ and as she’s lovely and I’m inquisitive (code word for nosey so and so) she kind of gave me a run down of the lifestyle and what not.
I’ve been really lucky with the people I’ve met and as I’ve spoken to people have my eyes opened to things I’d never thought about and am now intrigued to experience with the right people.
As AtoC says, going back to a monogamous relationship I think would now be difficult and therefore the ‘unicorn’ is to meet someone here.
Possible? Yes I believe so. And in the meantime I’ll hopefully speak to and see what happens with those I’m lucky enough to encounter and build a connection with
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why fab and not general dating sites?"
I don't see fab as a dating site personally. Not interested in dating , hate dating sites and hate that any site, fab, FL, even insta people assume you want to date.
I have been going to clubs 6 years but people started asking what my fab name was. It's a good way to keep in touch with other swingers, find new events and I like the forums.
I don't use it for finding new people. I understand lots of people do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To find a like-minded partner...
Wether it be FWB or full-time relationship...Just gotta wait to see what comes...
PS if anyone knows of any other site/app that that caters for non vanilla people... For dating not hookups. Pm me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined a little over a year ago after a relationship ended slowly during the pandemic. Knowing that wasn’t the time to meet people and being a work a holic I found a community on Twitter that isn’t exactly safe for work. That led to talking to some interesting people who pointed to fab
When I first joined I spent a good six months reading the forums and talking to people. Not 100% convinced it was for me and not wanting to waste anyone’s time. It was around the time of leaving that I was contacted by someone whom is now a friend. She is a ‘swinger’ and as she’s lovely and I’m inquisitive (code word for nosey so and so) she kind of gave me a run down of the lifestyle and what not.
I’ve been really lucky with the people I’ve met and as I’ve spoken to people have my eyes opened to things I’d never thought about and am now intrigued to experience with the right people.
As AtoC says, going back to a monogamous relationship I think would now be difficult and therefore the ‘unicorn’ is to meet someone here.
Possible? Yes I believe so. And in the meantime I’ll hopefully speak to and see what happens with those I’m lucky enough to encounter and build a connection with
Great question OP"
And a shag? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally I think because of higher and more adventurous sex drive, than the boring normal out there, excited sex is a important thing in my life but a relationship is as well so would love to get both |
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Friend told me about the site and said he had a few good experiences on here. Thought I'd give it a go and put myself out there! It's refreshing not having the pressure to serially date and whatnot |
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Reached my 50th birthday with no sexual experience apart from missionary a couple of times a year.
Had a new experience around that time that showed me that I did actually have instinctual skills so I joined here to explore me. |
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Can't remember how I found fab, but normal dating apps were never a good fit for me so I was always on the look out for alternatives sites. I was always wanting a site/app where I could be more open and honest about what I was looking for so fab was a great fit
Since I've been on here I've found that the non-monogamous and swinging lifestyle is amazing and exactly how I want to live my life |
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"Why fab and not general dating sites?"
I'm on general dating sites too. Haven't found many compatible people. I joined Fab to connect with people whose tastes and relationship goals more closely align with my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined Fab because I want to meet intelligent interesting and articulate people who share the same interests as me are broadminded and generally all round good eggs. |
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"A promise of a great sex without the commitments of monogamous relationships.
Go on then............. I promise!"
A promise without an action to follow it’s just that. A promise.
I’m here for the action |
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What brought me to fab was i am perfectly happy being single and not realy interested in a relationship for now. So just looking for like minded people who are after the same. And also dating sites are full of fake people or women only interested in promoting a spicy account shall i say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A promise of a great sex without the commitments of monogamous relationships.
Go on then............. I promise!
A promise without an action to follow it’s just that. A promise.
I’m here for the action "
Lights, camera, action type of action? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happily single, don’t want a partner, love sex and want to experience more after a long monogamous (mainly) marriage.
Dating apps in my experience are hard work and full of fantasists. Not that I’m denying that there are a hefty number of them here too!! But I do think people are more honest on here. |
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After a very long relationship I didn’t want to have another full on one. I’m happy living as a single. I’ve a lot going on in my life.
I love meeting new people and am very sociable. I’ve met my best friends on here over the last seven years. I’ve had some amazing days out, weekends away and walking trips. Even holidays. Nothing to do with sex at all.
I also like being part of a “secret club” and the odd naughty encounter is always welcome too. Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I want to borrow a man for a good time not keep the same one forever ,I don't need a boyfriend but I can't go long without sex, this site cuts out the pretence and bullshit x |
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 Happily single tbh, don’t want a partner, love sex and want to experience more after a long past relationship.
Dating apps in my experience are hard work and full of people expecting commitment and relationships which wasn’t fair for me to continue with as that was not what I want in my life once I realised that . Fab wasn’t what I thought it would be - I think better in the cities and proportion to
Men to women/couples is crazily distorted. I do think people are more honest on here.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A woman who I chatted with on a dating app told me about this site and I was having a horny day, so I thought why not check it out.
She said fab was good for a "quickie" but I guess it only works that way for women. I still here for the forums.
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Following my divorce I had a night out with an old school friend who told me his experience on here.
So I joined fab with no expectations.
It’s been a mixed bag for me, some great experiences mixed with plenty of frustration as a single male which I’m sure we all have at one time or another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn’t want a relationship then this sexy massively sexy nothing but a ginger flag got in the way and I’ve been with her 4 years and wouldnt change a thing |
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I joined a few years ago as I was interested in meeting other women. Met a partner and we swung together.
They all went very wrong. Had a vanilla relationship and when that ended realised I was kidding myself that I could do vanilla.
So re joined. If I meet someone fabulous. If I don’t then I’m making friends and having fun along the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I can't be openly sexually forward on normal dating sites. I have to dance the whole stupid game pretending I'm there because I want to date some, and despite ENM being a big thing on dating sites now it's still frowned upon for any single male profile there to openly go like "I'm here because I want to hookup, anything more we'll see how it goes". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because I can't be openly sexually forward on normal dating sites. I have to dance the whole stupid game pretending I'm there because I want to date some, and despite ENM being a big thing on dating sites now it's still frowned upon for any single male profile there to openly go like "I'm here because I want to hookup, anything more we'll see how it goes". "
 Even worse for women.
Fab can be anonymous. Dating sites have my neighbours or colleagues on. I don't want them knowing my business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lost my partner last year and we had an amazing sex life testing a lot of boundaries. Not interested in a relationship at the moment but like the vibe on here and can look to push even more boundaries, which I have, in a safe space.
Love the forums and chat as well with like minded people and also a bit of a perv, think most are a lot more honest on here as well. |
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Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me after a 5 year relationship ended I realised I had never really embraced my self I had hoped the relationship I was in would develop in to a ENM one but really only for her to play. It was all the awkwardness and lies that ended us . So I thought I would try to find connections and hopefully a relationship here as it would start with that clear openness that’s needed. I think it would be hard to find someone into the type of relationship I need on normal sites |
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By *ere70Man
over a year ago
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"Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more "
strange you saying people are not attracted to you, you look very handsome, and men love curvy woman... |
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"Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more
strange you saying people are not attracted to you, you look very handsome, and men love curvy woman... "
Thank you but trust me I’m very tall and not very attractive so limits my options |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been in many a dating site which frankly bored me to death. It was suggested that Fab and similar sites be a better fit. It has been and had a great time. Currently reassessing what I do want I think it will be a cohort of FWBs. Asking a lot I know!
I can't see myself ever having a relationship which in some ways makes me sad but I wouldn't be very good at it if I'm honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more
strange you saying people are not attracted to you, you look very handsome, and men love curvy woman...
Thank you but trust me I’m very tall and not very attractive so limits my options "
Tall is good. I admire tall confident women! I believe my mind and personalitys taller than my height!
I cant get any taller, but my mind can stretch and expand!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more
strange you saying people are not attracted to you, you look very handsome, and men love curvy woman... "
What happens in this Dynamic,
the Fancier fancies, and shows the Advances, but the reciever does not see it to the same depth.
Then another does the same to them,they in return do the very same!
So we have a cycle of liker,likes,but is not liked back on return! In the same way would wish.
So they go around in that mindset unfullfilled thinking why they are not liked enough of.
There hardly ever is a 50/50.
Mostly. 70/30, 60/40 balance.
Plus love,like,attraction needs watering for longterm development.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more
strange you saying people are not attracted to you, you look very handsome, and men love curvy woman... "
She looks Handsome?? And you look very pretty! Lol
Typo!" Just noticed thats all. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been in many a dating site which frankly bored me to death. It was suggested that Fab and similar sites be a better fit. It has been and had a great time. Currently reassessing what I do want I think it will be a cohort of FWBs. Asking a lot I know!
I can't see myself ever having a relationship which in some ways makes me sad but I wouldn't be very good at it if I'm honest. "
Be honest with yourself at all times firstly. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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I actually found the info on a bio on a dating site writing by a woman as they also get fed up with the random shit that seems to happen on here also getting random cock pictures. Some people are on dating sites looking for a relationship so it was her way to direct and after 9 months found myself here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A fella told me whilst chatting, he was seeing a married woman. But he was bored of her,and came on here,and shagged a girl the same night!
Ive always been social on the london scene. Parties. Music venue's,house parties,raves, and met people face to face in the flesh,and even done street approach's.
Then joined fabb in april 2022.
Do have my take on it so far. But need more time for the full on take of what it really is.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" A fella told me whilst chatting, he was seeing a married woman. But he was bored of her,and came on here,and shagged a girl the same night!
Ive always been social on the london scene. Parties. Music venue's,house parties,raves, and met people face to face in the flesh,and even done street approach's.
Then joined fabb in april 2022.
Do have my take on it so far. But need more time for the full on take of what it really is.
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What's your interim take on Fab then, 10 months in? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not meeting compatible sexual matches on dating sites. Would love to meet a single guy who would like to explore things together. "
Most gents seeking this dynamic. Very elisive find!!
Come on girls read our profiles pls.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on and off fab for years. My marriage broke up past year so back again.
I'm here because I don't want to date. "
Hope you find your cake and iceing!!
Dont like dateing either
, its a Headfuck tbh. A mind game.
Regular FwB's = Plus. Free spirited to roam.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happily single, don’t want a partner, love sex and want to experience more after a long monogamous (mainly) marriage.
Dating apps in my experience are hard work and full of fantasists. Not that I’m denying that there are a hefty number of them here too!! But I do think people are more honest on here. "
Spot on. Happy fabbing |
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By *ockforplay66Man
over a year ago
Southampton/isle of wight/ everywhere |
I was married and in a swinging relationship for years with my first wife. When my second (vanilla) marriage failed, I wanted to get back in to having fun in something other than 1-2-1 sex. I have always enjoyed the 3some or more some dynamic and just don’t think I would find that on a traditional dating site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" A fella told me whilst chatting, he was seeing a married woman. But he was bored of her,and came on here,and shagged a girl the same night!
Ive always been social on the london scene. Parties. Music venue's,house parties,raves, and met people face to face in the flesh,and even done street approach's.
Then joined fabb in april 2022.
Do have my take on it so far. But need more time for the full on take of what it really is.
What's your interim take on Fab then, 10 months in?"
Dont wish to share atm.
Abit, lots of false energies flying around daily. Status pages are abit of a high octane mess for attention.
Some of us post and mean who,we,are and what we say!!
I would meet in the flesh,and take a call or vid chat to verify no drama.
My pics are mostly on my profile have a peep.
Many just want to look at pics! Never send theirs nor leave a decent message.
Oh i have had "Nice Cock " comment then they ran off..
Attached to that cock is a thinking man engage and Connect, i hold my breathe. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly people aren’t attracted to me in the normal dating world, but I have an insane sex drive and I’m not very vanilla so came here to explore options
Would love to meet a regular FWB to explore my sexual side more
strange you saying people are not attracted to you, you look very handsome, and men love curvy woman...
Thank you but trust me I’m very tall and not very attractive so limits my options "
Pm'd pls read. |
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Well I’ve been single some time now & due to personal circumstances I figured this may be a great way to meet new women for FWB or some casual meets as it was about time I also started to have some fun again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I’ve been single some time now & due to personal circumstances I figured this may be a great way to meet new women for FWB or some casual meets as it was about time I also started to have some fun again! "
Very similar for me. But obviously more with regard to meeting men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was not ready for a new relationship and knew it. To meet a friend and have a great time without the angst and what next stuff.
What fab has done is to reset how I see one of lives biggest pleasures and how we should relax and enjoy it.
THATS FAB! |
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