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We've spoken to loads of couples who have given up seeking their unicorn, but wondered what those couples who have met someone did to stand out from all the noise
Can any couples/single ladies advise please? |
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"I think it's likely to be less about a specific action or turn of phrase and more about the couple themselves that attracted a unicorn."
Yes totally agree with this |
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"I think it's likely to be less about a specific action or turn of phrase and more about the couple themselves that attracted a unicorn."
Thank you both for the replies, we were just thinking in this environment. Face to face at clubs etc we can understand, but you must get bombarded with messages and there's only so much you can tell from the discreet photos most of us upload
Would love to be able to show our personalities, but clubs are a long way from us so our opportunity to visit is limited. |
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On this site, it's right time, right place.
There are tons of time wasters, people who have no intention of meeting but will chat for a bit then randomly ghost, unicorns are as they are labelled rare, we had a regular fem one stage but now with someone, end of the day just keep being you.
Don't put to much emphasis on the want for one, just see what happens. |
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"On this site, it's right time, right place.
There are tons of time wasters, people who have no intention of meeting but will chat for a bit then randomly ghost, unicorns are as they are labelled rare, we had a regular fem one stage but now with someone, end of the day just keep being you.
Don't put to much emphasis on the want for one, just see what happens."
Thank you, that's really helpful |
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We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
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"We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
Mrs "
Oh, very this.
I actually love meeting couples. I enjoy seeing the dynamic between them as we're playing and being a part of something that everyone is really in to.
But too often when couples get in touch it's just wanting any female to fulfil a fantasy. No actual interest in the person the unicorn may be. Nothing as to what they actually really want or offer.
I'm not here to be part of a checklist, a faceless selection of orifices to satisfy someone who has no interest in who or what I am beyond a means to an end. |
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"We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
Mrs "
Thank you, I (F) wrote it with that in mind, but I think we may need an update as your feedback is really useful. |
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"We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
Mrs
Oh, very this.
I actually love meeting couples. I enjoy seeing the dynamic between them as we're playing and being a part of something that everyone is really in to.
But too often when couples get in touch it's just wanting any female to fulfil a fantasy. No actual interest in the person the unicorn may be. Nothing as to what they actually really want or offer.
I'm not here to be part of a checklist, a faceless selection of orifices to satisfy someone who has no interest in who or what I am beyond a means to an end."
Thank you.
We are completely new so actually want to make connections (for us as much as the other female).
We definitely need a re-write of our profile that's for sure
You're advice is really helpful, thank you
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"We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
Mrs
Oh, very this.
I actually love meeting couples. I enjoy seeing the dynamic between them as we're playing and being a part of something that everyone is really in to.
But too often when couples get in touch it's just wanting any female to fulfil a fantasy. No actual interest in the person the unicorn may be. Nothing as to what they actually really want or offer.
I'm not here to be part of a checklist, a faceless selection of orifices to satisfy someone who has no interest in who or what I am beyond a means to an end."
Totally agree with you I (Mrs) I don't think could handle a single profile on here, the women are very objectified by many couples and it's such a shame, I mean the whole experience is better when you all click and all want to please each other, it's hard to find but so definitely worth finding the right person and not any person.
Mrs |
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"We've spoken to loads of couples who have given up seeking their unicorn, but wondered what those couples who have met someone did to stand out from all the noise
Can any couples/single ladies advise please? "
The thing about humans is that in general we like simplicity, complexity is really difficult for our poor little brains to deal with. Consequently we can look for technical solutions to very much not technical problems.
There is no ‘thing’ that you can do to make you attractive to unicorns, dragons, elves or any other mythical creatures. Accept that it’s highly unlikely you will find someone and it will be freeing. Be yourselves and if there is someone out there who fancies you then you’ll have a grand old time, if not then at least you’ve not pretended to be something you’re not to find someone to use for your sexual pleasure. |
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I wouldn’t consider myself an “unicorn” but I also wouldn’t rule it out.
There were a few occasions I met with a couples for drinks but it was quickly blatantly obvious I was being seen only as an object to suit their needs.
It was either as a toy for the lady to fulfill her “bicuriosity” or a guy’s FMF fantasy. Many times both. Never felt right for me so I didn’t look further.
Only just recently I met a couple and for the first time ever I thought it would be great to join them. What was different about them?
I don’t know.
We were just having a great time as equal parts, they were fully confident in their own presence and not pushy by any means towards me. Didn’t try to convince me of what they could do to me, not overly sexual (but confidently sexy in the same time).
They were just themselves.
Hope it helps a bit. |
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As someone who has played/ met with quiteca few couples before I have learnt through experience how important it is to chat both the M and F before hand reharding exorctations etc. Too many fellas pushing their fantasies onto their partner who hasnt been ready to accept another lady into her bed. Being in a very open and loving swinging/ vanilla relationship myself I know hiw much trust and honesty is involved xx |
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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago
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"We've spoken to loads of couples who have given up seeking their unicorn, but wondered what those couples who have met someone did to stand out from all the noise
Can any couples/single ladies advise please? "
I meet mostly as a single lady these days. I think it's right time right place for a start. Also having that spark in conversation where it becomes clear that everyone's kinks align. We are all different and want different things. For instance many would want to build a strong connection and the unicorn wants to feel part of the group as opposed to an add on or temporary toy. I like the opposite so it's finding that match. Also it does not help when couples want to meet but only the guy is available strangely lol |
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"We've spoken to loads of couples who have given up seeking their unicorn, but wondered what those couples who have met someone did to stand out from all the noise
Can any couples/single ladies advise please?
I meet mostly as a single lady these days. I think it's right time right place for a start. Also having that spark in conversation where it becomes clear that everyone's kinks align. We are all different and want different things. For instance many would want to build a strong connection and the unicorn wants to feel part of the group as opposed to an add on or temporary toy. I like the opposite so it's finding that match. Also it does not help when couples want to meet but only the guy is available strangely lol"
Agreed...and when the fella says he has " the full go-ahead from his wife"...mmmmm |
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"We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
Mrs
Oh, very this.
I actually love meeting couples. I enjoy seeing the dynamic between them as we're playing and being a part of something that everyone is really in to.
But too often when couples get in touch it's just wanting any female to fulfil a fantasy. No actual interest in the person the unicorn may be. Nothing as to what they actually really want or offer.
I'm not here to be part of a checklist, a faceless selection of orifices to satisfy someone who has no interest in who or what I am beyond a means to an end.
Totally agree with you I (Mrs) I don't think could handle a single profile on here, the women are very objectified by many couples and it's such a shame, I mean the whole experience is better when you all click and all want to please each other, it's hard to find but so definitely worth finding the right person and not any person.
Mrs "
That's exactly what we are after, hopefully our profile better reflects this now. Thanks for the advice. |
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"We don't seek out, we chat and become friends if anything happens it's great, if not we have new friends and that's great too.
I do think many seek someone to fulfil a fantasy and that's that, we want everyone to enjoy the experience not just some woman to come and fulfil a fantasy, I mean what's in that for them? I do often see profiles looking for a woman and give no pics of the male, nothing about what they can offer the woman it's all centered around their own fantasy the woman just seems to be more their experience is more important than the woman's (or that's how it reads to me)
Mrs "
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"I wouldn’t consider myself an “unicorn” but I also wouldn’t rule it out.
There were a few occasions I met with a couples for drinks but it was quickly blatantly obvious I was being seen only as an object to suit their needs.
It was either as a toy for the lady to fulfill her “bicuriosity” or a guy’s FMF fantasy. Many times both. Never felt right for me so I didn’t look further.
Only just recently I met a couple and for the first time ever I thought it would be great to join them. What was different about them?
I don’t know.
We were just having a great time as equal parts, they were fully confident in their own presence and not pushy by any means towards me. Didn’t try to convince me of what they could do to me, not overly sexual (but confidently sexy in the same time).
They were just themselves.
Hope it helps a bit."
It really does, thank you. We hope it works out for you all if you do end up taking things further with them. |
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"As someone who has played/ met with quiteca few couples before I have learnt through experience how important it is to chat both the M and F before hand reharding exorctations etc. Too many fellas pushing their fantasies onto their partner who hasnt been ready to accept another lady into her bed. Being in a very open and loving swinging/ vanilla relationship myself I know hiw much trust and honesty is involved xx "
Thank you. Can imagine getting that wrong would make for some horrible awkwardness for all involved, that's good advice. |
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When it's about just ticking off something off the bucket list it's a turn off. Couples who want to know you as a person and work to make me feel comfortable are the ones I will play with.
I've had couples with lots of rules etc, which is fine, but it often forgets that I'm a person too. |
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"We've spoken to loads of couples who have given up seeking their unicorn, but wondered what those couples who have met someone did to stand out from all the noise
Can any couples/single ladies advise please?
I meet mostly as a single lady these days. I think it's right time right place for a start. Also having that spark in conversation where it becomes clear that everyone's kinks align. We are all different and want different things. For instance many would want to build a strong connection and the unicorn wants to feel part of the group as opposed to an add on or temporary toy. I like the opposite so it's finding that match. Also it does not help when couples want to meet but only the guy is available strangely lol"
Haha, yes the old "my wife couldn't make it, but I'm here...." |
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"When it's about just ticking off something off the bucket list it's a turn off. Couples who want to know you as a person and work to make me feel comfortable are the ones I will play with.
I've had couples with lots of rules etc, which is fine, but it often forgets that I'm a person too. "
That makes a lot of sense, must be really dehumanising for you. Hopefully you've had some good experiences too though? |
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For us it's easy. We chat with somebody because we like chatting with them. We meet somebody because we like meeting them. We hang out with people because we like hanging out with them. We don't try and get to know anybody simply because we hope they will have sex with us.
If we're friends on here, doors can open. If they do then great. If they don't, we still have a friend.
Most women would run a mile if they think the only reason you are talking to them is because you want to have sex with them. Friendship comes first, with no agenda. I think that's why quite a lot of women feel very comfortable around us. We never tried to get a woman to join us in bed. It happened through friendship. It was really easy and natural. |
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"For us it's easy. We chat with somebody because we like chatting with them. We meet somebody because we like meeting them. We hang out with people because we like hanging out with them. We don't try and get to know anybody simply because we hope they will have sex with us.
If we're friends on here, doors can open. If they do then great. If they don't, we still have a friend.
Most women would run a mile if they think the only reason you are talking to them is because you want to have sex with them. Friendship comes first, with no agenda. I think that's why quite a lot of women feel very comfortable around us. We never tried to get a woman to join us in bed. It happened through friendship. It was really easy and natural. "
Thank you, that's great advice |
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