For those in open relationships, if your partner leaves the home and meets others without you, do you mind what that person is like?
If, perhaps what your partner has said, you’ve formed a negative view of them, would you not want them to meet? And if so, to what lengths would you go to prevent it? Express disapproval? Ask them not to meet? Tell them not to meet? |
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over a year ago
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We're not in an open relationship but both occasionally sleep with people separately
Both of us have done this with people that the other hasn't really liked and initially we had the view that it was down to each of us to decide but was probably a mistake and now we are more sensitive to each other |
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"We're not in an open relationship but both occasionally sleep with people separately
Both of us have done this with people that the other hasn't really liked and initially we had the view that it was down to each of us to decide but was probably a mistake and now we are more sensitive to each other "
Thanks. You’re fine specimens for answering the question - what’s the definition of an open relationship anyway.
Maybe you’re right. But why does it matter? Why does the person form a dislike to someone they’re never going to meet? |
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We don't consider ourselves to be in an open relationship, we don't have romantic relationships with other people.
We have rules about not leaving each other home alone to go have sex with others and only meet people when either is away for other reasons (usually work).
We don't really ask each other about the people we sleep with, however we do have a rule about strict honesty if asked.
This probably works for us because we don't use a couple account, only our individual accounts so don't see who each other are messaging. |
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My partners are all free to sleep with whoever they wish. If one of them got involved with someone I personally didn't like, that's none of my business, unless they were causing them pain, in which case I would probably say something. |
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Was going to say something similar, we don't consider it open because we are only for each other but we do fuck others but mainly still for our own enjoyment together
Because of this it's often with people we have both met or conversed with at some point, hence the fact that we have both proceded with people the other has not taken to
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Polyamorus here
All of my partners have other partners. Some are amazing, one is also one of my partners. Some, I'm not so keen on so we don't interact as much.
We all have our own autonomy and while we would discuss "messy" entanglements such as a close friend or ex, none of us would dictate who someone can see. |
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