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By *liny OP Man
over a year ago
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Well it took less than 3 weeks of the new year to have my time wasted arranging a meet with a so-called couple. It’s their loss, I’m staying positive as there are lots more genuine people on here who won’t mess us genuine single men around! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a couple who should have meet me today but they terned out to be time wasters "
I don't know why people can't just be honest. I wouldn't waste your time
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I've had more time wasters then meets,
I know a lot get cold feet and nervous,
I get nervous and excited before a meet,
I've had no shows where I've driven to them in there road and ask for the house number,
They read the message and go off line,
Ild rather they say sorry maybe another time than drive miles to meet them,
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We have had a few deleted profiles close to a meet over the past few months.
There are many "wankers" on here that are on here for a quick release with no intention of meeting.
Oh well, the searching continues  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had a time waster. Those I have met have never stood me up, though on three occasions I have been running late (but communicating via text/kik/wats app tends to work) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s 50/50 ratio of people that actually show for a meet and about 75% cancel a day or two prior "
They haven't shown up...for...you??!?
What is the world coming to, and you like ice cream!! |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i honestly cannot remember the last time i was let down and thats planned meets or spontaneous meets guess i must be lucky or am i extra careful in choosing ... this applies to my single and couples profiles |
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We most meet in clubs now so if the couple turns out to be a waster we can at least enjoy our night.
It’s funny how quick people are to call you a waster, if my bf ever replies some are instantly like “you’re not the girl! Time waster!” Like, wtf?  |
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Not actually been stood up but there are plenty of time wasters who talk the talk online but never actually arrange to meet. I suspect lots of ‘couples’ on here looking for another guy for their wife are just guys fantasising about it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happened to me a couple of weeks ago, a guy messaged, we chatted, got on, we arranged to meet, 2 days before he deleted his account, 
Gives us a bad name  "
No, because there are more good ones here than bad ones  |
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Many timewasters on here, there was a time we switched to club only meets, but we started meeting again after COVID and found there are even more timewasters, but we always arrange a plan b for after with a guy we have met before.
So it could be one meet or two meets.
But always report the timewasters to admin. |
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By *riciaWoman
over a year ago
Blaydon |
"Not actually been stood up but there are plenty of time wasters who talk the talk online but never actually arrange to meet. I suspect lots of ‘couples’ on here looking for another guy for their wife are just guys fantasising about it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't t think I've ever been let down. If I've arranged a meet they have always turned up. I do chat a while though and am very careful about who I arrange to meet. I go on my gut instincts a heck of lot, I trust them. |
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By *ingdangTV/TS
over a year ago
manchester |
"Don't t think I've ever been let down. If I've arranged a meet they have always turned up. I do chat a while though and am very careful about who I arrange to meet. I go on my gut instincts a heck of lot, I trust them."
Being a woman definitely help a lot. For trans people it’s worse. Guys fantasize about being with trans but always get cold feet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't t think I've ever been let down. If I've arranged a meet they have always turned up. I do chat a while though and am very careful about who I arrange to meet. I go on my gut instincts a heck of lot, I trust them.
Being a woman definitely help a lot. For trans people it’s worse. Guys fantasize about being with trans but always get cold feet"
Yes I imagine you receive many messages from fantasists. I receive a few but I can usually suss them out. |
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There is nothing worse, my time d fairly limited and precious, and I'm picky about who il play with, so if I arrange a meet, be it social or play, I'm turning up.
I've cancelled (kind of) once! Gave 48 hrs notice.... And then uncancelled coz I'd managed to fix the problem that caused me to cancel.
But being let down by dreamers who say they're keen to meet, want to play etc is frustrating when you've co ordinated your diary, wiggled stuff round to accommodate n taken time out to enable it to happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few, it's rather annoying as I don't just meet, I like to get to know someone and my time is limited. No doubt it will happen again. Mostly my experiences have been positive, so I'll take that as a win. |
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The joys of this site and before the infamous lock downs we were looking at nearly 90% of no shows or lame excuses including a last minute ( quite literally) message that he "Wasn't Feeling it ??" and the only male who did show happily informed us he was in a sort of relationship then spent most of his time fiddling with his privates whilst looking at Mrs4 and then sent us a lovelly message afterwards informing us he was going to f**k her so hard and fill her up with his ??? and so we gave up arranging meets and still don't arrange many nowadays and if we did we'd rrange to meet up in our fave bar so when they didn't show up we could still have a good night out !! and Plymouth where we live does have abit of a bad reputation for timewasters in the area's surrounding it ? and then most only seem to want to do the club thang now and we can't see the point of being on here if that's all you do ?? even posting in the meets sections they are going to a club ? not strictly a meet in our humble opinion ??? andthen we get told if want to meet we should go to the clubs ? bloody nightmare xxx  |
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"Been chatting to a 'lady' on fab and swapped kik names to chat and swap pics ..asked to have a quick chat on phone to verify genuine and been now called pushy...lol
Fake?
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As a woman, wanting to move the chat to kik and swap pics would be a big no no red flag for me. |
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"Been chatting to a 'lady' on fab and swapped kik names to chat and swap pics ..asked to have a quick chat on phone to verify genuine and been now called pushy...lol
Fake?
As a woman, wanting to move the chat to kik and swap pics would be a big no no red flag for me. "
Thought so..sounds to good to be true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a little off topic, but I’ve found those that use the phrase “time waster” are usually a bit full on and overly keen. Occasionally with some crossed wires too.
Every time I’ve been called a “time waster” it’s been by someone who I never arranged to meet and had never ever implied that I would. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i really do think its down to how you chose your play mate .. as the years roll forward the stricter ive got ... for starters i use my block button alot and for lots of reasons i pre block those im just not interested in .. i block those who have the wrong type of status ... i block any one who sends the wrong sort of message ... and i block people for how they treat others ...thats alot of blocking but in truth thats 80% of the messer gone..
i never meet newbies far far too unreliable ... if i have to speak to some one for ages to gauge them its never going to happen ... if i arrange a meet its with in the week ... alot of meets that never happen are the ones planned to far ahead ... all that before i even decide anything i can put my finger on it but i just get a gut feeling when something is not right and as soon as i get that feeling i go no further ...
im lucky that i know regular guys (all met first in clubs years ago) but also lucky that there are guys i find on fab that im sexually attracted to and they seems to know what swinging is and how it works ... this is just my opinion but you have to work hard to find the right guys ..effort in effort out ...when its too easy then its normally too good to be true ... when they are too eager avoid like the plauge ... too grapic avoid ... too hunny /sexy creep shit avoid ..all the tell tell signs are there just need to read them ...
think it helps that ive been on the scene so long before the online scene and at the very start of the online scene ... as the years have deffo helped me n hubs steer well clear of the dreamers .... and lastly this is very much not a guy thing there are 1,00s of couples who mess and women too..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems to happen a lot more where you chat then meet day nothing. Only last week had been
Chatting to someone everyday for 2 weeks on WhatsApp for solo meet then day of meet, radio silence!so fed up of it that I deleted my single profile. Saving grace, least I hadn't wasted time getting ready! |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"Today was the first day I spent a bit of time using it since joining. Pissing into the wind being a new single man on this??"
it will be very very hard for you but how hard is down to you and you alone ... men out number by a huge % but alot of guys do make it work and work well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" The joys of this site and before the infamous lock downs we were looking at nearly 90% of no shows or lame excuses including a last minute ( quite literally) message that he "Wasn't Feeling it ??" and the only male who did show happily informed us he was in a sort of relationship then spent most of his time fiddling with his privates whilst looking at Mrs4 and then sent us a lovelly message afterwards informing us he was going to f**k her so hard and fill her up with his ??? and so we gave up arranging meets and still don't arrange many nowadays and if we did we'd rrange to meet up in our fave bar so when they didn't show up we could still have a good night out !! and Plymouth where we live does have abit of a bad reputation for timewasters in the area's surrounding it ? and then most only seem to want to do the club thang now and we can't see the point of being on here if that's all you do ?? even posting in the meets sections they are going to a club ? not strictly a meet in our humble opinion ??? andthen we get told if want to meet we should go to the clubs ? bloody nightmare xxx "
I'm from Plymouth I don't think it has a rep for time wasters ? I've luckily never had any not turn up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm from Plymouth I don't think it has a rep for time wasters ? I've luckily never had any not turn up "
It's more likely to be the rain that keeps those Janners from turning up |
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