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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple over a year ago

midlands

How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away.

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By *fter dinner delightCouple over a year ago

bury st edmunds/london

Me and my first wife where swingers and we played alone with permission from partner.

But she was seeing this guy they met twice and did not say the trust went and our relationship went tits up.

Now with Pat we play alone and chat when each other is not about but we mention it to each other and that’s fine cos that trust.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

Exeter

We'd never entertain a cheat with their reasons as if they are happy to lie to their own partner then whatever sob story they have to try and justify what they are doing is most likely bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have a fully open marriage no limits ang love it

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By *omtom7Man over a year ago

Tralee

I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Very high sex drive and no sex at home. She has various issues with sex, including health problems and in my view a mental block about it. Very prudish, not open to discussing it or talking to professionals. Don't want to split up the family so find this the best way to keep myself sane. Not for everyone I know.

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By *anlovesboobsWoman over a year ago

Near Oswestry

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

I have met a lot of men from here like that.

I don’t ask if a male is single or in a relationship, all I ask is that out time together is quality and we both enjoy it.

Once they leave the bedroom we go back to our normal lives what ever that may be

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By *otYorksCoupleCouple over a year ago

Yorks

We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier.

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By *anlovesboobsWoman over a year ago

Near Oswestry

"We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier. "

I agree and have found this out myself!

Attached men are more reliable and don’t think that you can have a relationship with them after 2 meets

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By *9funboyMan over a year ago

Harrogate

Same here.

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does it matter to you if they’re cheating? The reasons can be complex and often private.

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier. "

I myself am married and looking else where every body has reasons it’s good that some folk find it good but they never want the older gent

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By *anSMan over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Very well put, this is much the same as my situation minus the health problems.

If I send a message to anyone, I’m always open about it, and accept that it’s not for everybody, if there’s no reply, or just a straight up no.

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't meet men as a single person, but when I go to clubs with my husband we sometimes have a single guy join us. I've never asked their relationship status.

However, if meeting through Fab in hotels, I wouldn’t choose to meet attached men, as I wouldn’t want to be caught up in the potential drama should he get caught.

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By *otYourKind666Man over a year ago

Horsham

Unfortunately doing this behind partners back. Main reason like most I guess is shes just not into sex like me....very prudish, very planned and just not that exciting. It does pain me as shes amazing in every other way but I need to feed my dark side once in a while.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't cheat on my partners, and I don't like to play with people who do that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately doing this behind partners back. Main reason like most I guess is shes just not into sex like me....very prudish, very planned and just not that exciting. It does pain me as shes amazing in every other way but I need to feed my dark side once in a while."

Totally get ya

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By *anilla-sinCouple over a year ago

lancs

we try to avoid cheats.. but you never really know...

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By *arksjamesMan over a year ago

Warwick

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Very well put, this is much the same as my situation minus the health problems.

If I send a message to anyone, I’m always open about it, and accept that it’s not for everybody, if there’s no reply, or just a straight up no."

Pretty much the size of it here too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we try to avoid cheats.. but you never really know... "

Exactly. If they can cheat on the one they ‘love’, they’ll lie to anyone about anything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What I have noticed who looking for NSA on a single profile are in a relationship man and women. I do find it a big turn on playing with someone else wife

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By *sBlueWoman over a year ago

Up North

"we try to avoid cheats.. but you never really know...

Exactly. If they can cheat on the one they ‘love’, they’ll lie to anyone about anything."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us, we are not bothered either way. People have various reasons for doing it, not our place to judge. I would say that a good 80% of guys we have engaged with are married

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By *icepair2012Couple over a year ago

Crewe

We would rather know up front if they are cheating, it doesn’t bother us why they are doing it. With all the no shows we have experienced we can have a better understanding if there is a last minute change of mind? Also if the are cheating they less of a chance of stalking? Just have our fun and go

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By *anilla-sinCouple over a year ago

lancs

ultimately.. frequent, serial cheats will cheat, and probably be very able to conceal it. ethically.. is it our responsibility ..? no.. but we conciously avoid obvious cheats.. does this encourage subterfuge? moral maze innit

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By *lirty_dirtyCouple over a year ago

Lingfield

We have no issues with meeting married people, it seems there's less drama. The reasons for them playing away are none of our business, we are just looking for uncomplicated fun.

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By *anilla-sinCouple over a year ago

lancs

"For us, we are not bothered either way. People have various reasons for doing it, not our place to judge. I would say that a good 80% of guys we have engaged with are married "

i don't say we judge, nor those who meet married guys... it is just values... i don't suggest any values are right, or better..

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By *tevie1Man over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Simple No sex at home

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most single guys are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have no issues with meeting married people, it seems there's less drama. The reasons for them playing away are none of our business, we are just looking for uncomplicated fun. "

Hear hear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."

Id love to know why they do it. My ex was doing it to me. They may say theyre not getting it at home but why?? Maybe because theyre too busy with others. I wouldnt want to meet an attached man because it does have consequences and not fair to the woman theyre doing it too

Everyone has their opinions

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By *anilla-sinCouple over a year ago

lancs

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away.

Everyone has their opinions

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By *NKED_n_KINKYCouple over a year ago

Watford

We won't entertain anyone who's cheating.

We've had many messages from guys who are cheating and always stop messaging as soon as we find out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."
I would love to get my wife into it but how.

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By *iredhandMan over a year ago

Manchester

Unfortunately relationships are never black & white, and reasons for cheating will be different depending on the individual. It does surprise me that so many people who are looking for nsa can be so judgmental as their own reasons for meeting are just for sex, which is no different to married people who may not be getting enough at home. The risk of being discovered only increases if people either want more from it or they get careless. Given the number of married people on here they must believe it to be low risk.

That said, I understand that it’s not for everyone, and it is their prerogative who to meet and who not to meet. Perhaps fab should have the option to filter married guys. I know many might lie about it but there are plenty that don’t, myself included.

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By *umblefunMan over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

Same here.

I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

This is me too. There are too many on this site that are quick to judge!

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I avoid knowingly meeting anyone cheating ,why? Years ago I met someone (not on here )he said single no kids .We used to see each other regularly for a good few months.

I woke up one morning to loads of missed calls on my phone .To cut a long story short it was his partner calling ,she'd found my texts on his phone and wanted to know the situation.

It took me ages to actually convince this woman I had no idea he was attached ,she was so upset & I felt horrible knowing I'd helped cause that pain (unknowingly).

She'd said she'd just had gut instinct something was up ,even though they were having regular sex etc.

I told him to leave me alone ,but he still lied afterwards saying he'd moved out etc ,I kept in touch with her and she told me they were still together at that point.

I wouldn't meet an attached person because they're not always as clever as they think they are & people do catch them out.If you knowingly meet married men who are playing away ,you risk the consequences if they're caught out.

If you don't mind that ,that's cool ,but I'd hate my partner to do it to me,so I don't do it to others .

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By *anilla-sinCouple over a year ago

lancs

Same here.

I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

This is me too. There are too many on this site that are quick to judge!"

No. As I said before. It isn't being judgemental. It is about values. Again.. I'm aware that saying the word 'values' will mean that an inference will automatically be taken that this is some sort of high-mindedness.. But I don't mean it parochially. Some people are in relationships where they feel that their needs are not being met.. and some choose to meet these needs by finding others to provide this. I understand that. But we feel that if we were in that position then we would do it differently. And we feel uncomfortable with being a part of this.. This isn't judging.. It is just making our choice, as we all do all the time. We know that in all likelihood we have met attached guys.. in a club etc), and that is just a part of this 'lifestyle', but we make the choice to avoid it if possible.

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

I don't have an issue with it, maybe because I'm single but more importantly, who am I to judge as I'm sure they have their reasons and I will respect that. If I was in a relationship, that would be different unless we both are in this lifestyle together then we would discuss what would work for us both

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By *adger BrocMan over a year ago

Co. Cork

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple over a year ago

doncaster

It’s each to their own we personally wouldn’t knowingly meet a single man (or woman at that) who is playing away but a lot of the time you wouldn’t know any way if the profile says “married but partner doesn’t know “we tend to block regardless of how good the rest of the profile looks

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By *iss Boot LoverTV/TS over a year ago

Tetbury

I think if this were a dating site it would be different. And it's not the same.

Not plotting to leave my wife nor wreck her life, she knows I dress and never questions when I go out.

It's fun and naughty, but I am never vindictive or plotting against her, I just need to put a pair of heels on sometime and have some fun.

It's confusing, difficult and naughty. I don't ask for much in life but I do need this release from time to time.

Tbh, it's more and more less sexual and more about dressing. Being drag, and that's easier to do on my own

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By *othlovetopleaseCouple over a year ago

cumbria

Same here.

I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

This is me too. There are too many on this site that are quick to judge!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a certain taboo

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By *eeds fun guyMan over a year ago

yorkshire

"There is a certain taboo"

No, I did not cheat in marriage and now single so a free spirit

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By *orthcoupleCouple over a year ago

PDC

Never had an issue meeting married people, tbh never really asked.

We prefer spur of the moment/one-off meets and not longterm fb's etc., therefore limited questions or follow-ups.

Everyone has reasons, sex is sex, and as long as there is no drama then there are probably no further issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Simple No sex at home "

This is what puts me off a serious relationship and even marriage youhavelots to lose, if this happens when you're single it's easy to solve and move on, no cheating necessary, if your partner doesn't want sex what did you expect was going to happen!

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By *anlovesboobsWoman over a year ago

Near Oswestry

"Never had an issue meeting married people, tbh never really asked.

We prefer spur of the moment/one-off meets and not longterm fb's etc., therefore limited questions or follow-ups.

Everyone has reasons, sex is sex, and as long as there is no drama then there are probably no further issues

100%

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By *areback_BullMan over a year ago

Edinburgh and surrounding areas lol

I prefer a cheating wife or gf to be with, we have a great time and there are definitely no stings.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I avoid knowingly meeting anyone cheating ,why? Years ago I met someone (not on here )he said single no kids .We used to see each other regularly for a good few months.

I woke up one morning to loads of missed calls on my phone .To cut a long story short it was his partner calling ,she'd found my texts on his phone and wanted to know the situation.

It took me ages to actually convince this woman I had no idea he was attached ,she was so upset & I felt horrible knowing I'd helped cause that pain (unknowingly).

She'd said she'd just had gut instinct something was up ,even though they were having regular sex etc.

I told him to leave me alone ,but he still lied afterwards saying he'd moved out etc ,I kept in touch with her and she told me they were still together at that point.

If you don't mind that ,that's cool ,but I'd hate my partner to do it to me,so I don't do it to others ."

Had exactly same happen to me.

Didn't think anything of it as we were seeing eachother any time day or night.

Then came calls and abuse on here from not just the wife a fwb also. I wouldn't knowingly meet married man I wouldn't like it done to me either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am not cheating but I would if they promised to take me to KFC and give me a sharing bucket all to myself once they'd filled my unprotected holes.

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By *yresMan over a year ago

Midland town

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away.

Everyone has their opinions

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

I was a cheat way back when i first joined. but not anymore being ENM is the best as i can be honest with everyone invlolved.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we only meet together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."

Made the mistake of saying yes to the wrong guy.

Simply don't have the gutts to leave the wrong person.

Too much choice these days.

Disposable people by virtue of swiping left.

All very modern.

Lol

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By *yresMan over a year ago

Midland town

Yes I could not agree more, stops me going any further, the thought of cheating, it's just not right, probably the wrong place for me, but I read with interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."

Made the mistake of saying yes to the wrong guy.

Simply don't have the gutts to leave the wrong person.

Too much choice these days.

Disposable people by virtue of swiping left.

All very modern.

Lol

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By *weetiepie99Woman over a year ago

cardiff

So many selfish people, as long as you have 'your' fun then its not an issue. As far as i'm concerned, if you knowingly 'play' with a cheating husband or wife, you are just as bad as them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We try to stay away from profile like this.

Each to their own, but we d both be devastated if the other was cheating on us. We think it also has the opportunity to bring drama into a situation that should be drama free.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not cheating but I would if they promised to take me to KFC and give me a sharing bucket all to myself once they'd filled my unprotected holes."

I would get you two buckets and a Coca Cola if you want

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By *rincess1988Woman over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"So many selfish people, as long as you have 'your' fun then its not an issue. As far as i'm concerned, if you knowingly 'play' with a cheating husband or wife, you are just as bad as them"

This!

Enabling cheaters is not my thing. I have also told the wives/partners whenever I found out the supposedly “single man” was in fact not single.

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By *ivingthegoodlifeMan over a year ago

Aberdeen

I only meet married women if the hubby drops them off.

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

Not keen to meet a cheat for a few reasons but the main reasons are

1. The potential to be involved in huge drama. We both hate being cheated on and don’t want to be the cause of that in others

2. If a man can’t please his wife to keep her wanting sex with him, why would he be able to give me pleasure? He probably won’t!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im happy to say Im very single and thats why Im here, if I wasnt I wouldnt be on here not even to browse or chat, Im not judging but I couldnt do it myself, but as I say thats just me. I'd also feel bad If I met somebody and theyd lied about being single

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By *winging_couple300Couple over a year ago

Doncaster

Why cheat when you can swing together, if he/she isn’t willing then accept that, stay honest and appreciate what you have.

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By *ames250122Man over a year ago

Worcester

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."

Interesting question but do people really care why and even with the why would it really be of any comfort as your only hearing one side of things? Regardless though, unless the person is so self involved and with themselves, it’ll be the same reason as you. Except they weren’t lucky enough to find someone that they could explore that with but may/may not still love their partner. It rare to find that in a partner but for a lucky few. They may have kids, house etc that might make just walking out the door and finding another partner that is also open to swinging very difficult. The reasons are endless I guess but regardless as an assumption (sorry) one truth remains, with or without consent we are all here because we want more from our sex lives and want to explore it freely and completely. Instead of being their judicator maybe it better to just say” Hay your an adult, you know what the consequences are for what your doing. That your business. Just make sure it doesn’t come to our door step!” or just tell to f**k of if not that into them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away.

Very well stated

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By *evlishduncMan over a year ago

north suffolk south norfolk

I've met up with a lady from here who was up front about the fact that she was cheating.

Wasn't and isn't for me too pry and in fact, I took it as a vote of confidence that she trusted me not only to share a safe, fun time but to respect her personal situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I first joined fab I thought cheating was just not on,but I've learnt not to judge as we all have our reasons for being on fab,it's the lying about the fact that there married that I hate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would prefer to meet attached really, less drama and more enjoyable nsa fun. As to myself, don’t ask don’t tell!!

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By *entlebearMan over a year ago

Doug

"I am not cheating but I would if they promised to take me to KFC and give me a sharing bucket all to myself once they'd filled my unprotected holes."

Be at kfc in 10 minutes do you need picking up

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By *ice guy 44Man over a year ago

wrexham

No need to cheat when you got a wife or girlfriend that's there when you want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We meet married guys, tend to find them less drama and more discreet.

Not really interested in why they are cheating as it's not our business

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By *uminsiderMKMan over a year ago

St Austell

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Very similar situation for me.

I 'returned' to playing - mainly with other men's wives - quite some years ago, when my wife began having issues which eventually led to her completely going off sex.

A subsequent medical diagnosis and treatment didn't change that - and the closest it ever came to being discussed was her once announcing "I know it's not fair, but there's nothing I can do about it"...

She's never had any idea that I seek physical pleasure elsewhere, and that's exactly the way I intend it to stay...

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By *igh PinkCouple over a year ago

Manchester

We are happy with married men as long as they are honest, if it makes their home life better for them and in turn their wife then its good for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier.

I agree and have found this out myself!

Attached men are more reliable and don’t think that you can have a relationship with them after 2 meets "

Makes sense...

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"Not keen to meet a cheat for a few reasons but the main reasons are

1. The potential to be involved in huge drama. We both hate being cheated on and don’t want to be the cause of that in others

2. If a man can’t please his wife to keep her wanting sex with him, why would he be able to give me pleasure? He probably won’t!! "

Spot on!

And number 3. They won't have any respect for you when they obviously don't have any for their own partner.

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By *ooliganMan over a year ago

Preston

If the female partner in a relationship, for whatever reason, cannot or will not have sex, it can be a devastating blow for the male partner - probably far more so than for the lady as the desire is still there. And let's face it, the most powerful human desire is to have sex.

I often see the argument "you should be honest and just leave" which is great, but if a bit of no-strings sex keeps a family/home together, why is it so wrong?

Far better that men use a website like this than form romantic relationships to get the sexual outlet they crave.

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By *J StathamMan over a year ago

Manchester

I'd happily play with a woman who was taken.

Not my business why she's doing it, I would just prefer to have a heads up.

And as a guy who isn't trying to build a long term bond with people from here, it acts as a natural blocker to unnecessary communication and we can just do the good parts and then I can send her home in a good mood

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier. "

Stunning wife

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

I’ve been cheated on in the scene my ex and I used to swing and I actually stopped playing entirely when I was with her. That’s a story for another day but after me and her split I learned that she was cheating on me having meets without me knowing. So I don’t play with attached people of all parties are unknowing. Me and my partner are on here together and we do have a couples profile and we do play separately well as long as we know where each other is and haven’t had any red flags

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By *imandher123456Couple over a year ago

gosport

From him ... I'm lucky enough to now be married to a fantastic lady who embraces the life style , we both played separately before meeting , it was bad for my mental health as I was cheating prior to meeting her, the level of guilt I was carrying was huge and the amount of lying you do as a cheater and the stress it puts you under is massive , you just don't realise it until you are free from it.

I can honestly say being with someone who understands and enjoys the lifestyle is the best thing ever , we have a strong guilt free relationship, as to why I was cheating...

I just was never honest about what I wanted and couldn't communicate it for fear of rejection and I guess the fear of how it would of been perceived , getting the obvious question from any partner... being, "how do you know it's what you want?" ... by then if you have already been cheating to get what you want there is no way to back track out of it without destroying the trust ( despite it being one sided as you have already broken it !! All be it unknown to your partner)

The biggest take from all of this is be honest about what you want and communicate it with your partner , yes you may end up breaking the relationship , but if this lifestyle is something you need in your life and you have a partner, then ultimately it is unfair and cruel to pursue it with out their knowledge, it will likely come out at some point anyway as you will slip up no matter how good you think you are ....

And you never know the conversation may well just open the doors you want it to ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For once, an actual open and honest thread on cheating (apart from a few blinkered, possibly bitter views).

I prefer attached, as like most have said, there is less drama.

I often find they are more selective, a-lot nicer and know exactly what they want. The shadow picture profiles are the most exciting. My last taken lady, I met exclusively with her for 3 years while she was married before I re-joined.

No judgment from me on anything just understanding and friendship!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"If the female partner in a relationship, for whatever reason, cannot or will not have sex, it can be a devastating blow for the male partner - probably far more so than for the lady as the desire is still there. And let's face it, the most powerful human desire is to have sex.

I often see the argument "you should be honest and just leave" which is great, but if a bit of no-strings sex keeps a family/home together, why is it so wrong?

Far better that men use a website like this than form romantic relationships to get the sexual outlet they crave."

But what about the risk of the devastation it could cause a family when they find out (and they usually do!)?

It says a lot about a person if they're willing to take that risk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me and my first wife where swingers and we played alone with permission from partner.

But she was seeing this guy they met twice and did not say the trust went and our relationship went tits up.

Now with Pat we play alone and chat when each other is not about but we mention it to each other and that’s fine cos that trust.

I've learned that the "open" in open relationship is more about open communication and honesty.....

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple over a year ago

Rushden

Not really, I've had a couple of meets with a guy that have been spur of the moment & we really enjoy each other but V hasn't known about it before hand.

He says I can do whatever I want, as long as he gets vids/pics of me being naughty.

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By *ickingdelightMan over a year ago

Cotswolds

They’re most likely a lot of women cheaters on here and guys don’t care yet men for their own reasons are seen differently. It’s a swinging site, stick to that rather than what’s happening within the home as it’s private.

I’m here and married, wife is aware and okay about it, she’s pregnant and not wanting to play as a couple swinging but equally doesn’t want to hear everything either I do (which isn’t much on this site haha)

Missed out on some meets by being honest and the fact my wife won’t ‘give approval’ to the other person. We both disagree, it’s like getting a school slip signed by parents!!

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By *andC1000Couple over a year ago

Ashford

I often see the argument "you should be honest and just leave" which is great, but if a bit of no-strings sex keeps a family/home together, why is it so wrong?

Far better that men use a website like this than form romantic relationships to get the sexual outlet they crave.

But what about the risk of the devastation it could cause a family when they find out (and they usually do!)?

It says a lot about a person if they're willing to take that risk. "

Sadly they don’t care about the devastation they cause and it’s equally devastating for a female partner when a man shows a lack of interest! Everyone always assumes its the female showing lack of interest but in a lot of situations it’s also the other way round. Whether it be through stress, work or other external factors it is devastating, demoralising and completely shatters confidence to know a partner will seek other forms of sex wherever they see easiest to get it, paid, saunas/clubs or sex sites especially when given all opportunities to have been honest.

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side if you actually pay attention to what is on your side, it’s all too easy to get complacent and look for an easy option

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By *ooliganMan over a year ago

Preston

"Everyone always assumes its the female showing lack of interest but in a lot of situations it’s also the other way round.

I can't speak for others, but if you're the sort of couple that enjoyed 2 or 3 times a week but menopause completely took that away, it's a massive sacrifice to give up sex indefinitely when you're still as randy as a squirrel.

Sure, I appreciate that the female feels the loss but if her sex drive has disappeared to zero, it's a lot easier to deal with.

Should a man accept that he's never going to have sex again? Should he tell her that he's going to have sex elsewhere knowing that it would make her feel worse? Should he desert her, shack up in a bedsit in the hope that someone on FAB will answer his messages?

To be honest, discretely arranging encounters is likely to cause far less mental health issues than any of the above...

And let's face it, everyone on here is lying to someone - whether it's friends, family, kids... it's a discrete pastime that none of us would want shouted from the rooftops - people should respect that one person's boundaries, values and reasons for being here may differ from their own and whilst we're all free to choose who we invite into our beds/cars/dungeons, we shouldn't look down on or judge others.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"Everyone always assumes its the female showing lack of interest but in a lot of situations it’s also the other way round.

Sure, I appreciate that the female feels the loss but if her sex drive has disappeared to zero, it's a lot easier to deal with.

To be honest, discretely arranging encounters is likely to cause far less mental health issues than any of the above...

Bit of a judgemental statement that everyone on here is lying to someone

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By *ooliganMan over a year ago

Preston

"Bit of a judgemental statement that everyone on here is lying to someone

Not really, I've never met a swinger who was happy for everyone in their life to know what they were up to. If you've covered your tracks, told colleagues or family a white lie to protect your secret lifestyle, you're just doing the same thing to different people or for different reasons.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Not really, I've never met a swinger who was happy for everyone in their life to know what they were up to. If you've covered your tracks, told colleagues or family a white lie to protect your secret lifestyle, you're just doing the same thing to different people or for different reasons."

My friends know, my family know, my colleagues and boss know. I don't rub it in anyone's faces if it's something they're uncomfortable with, but I make no secret of who I am or what I do.

I appreciate that's not something most people are comfortable doing. But don't assume everyone feels the need to hide this side of things.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"Bit of a judgemental statement that everyone on here is lying to someone

It’s not that do people not here discuss their sex life with everyone in life so it’s completely different and can’t be compared

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By *andC1000Couple over a year ago

Ashford

"Everyone always assumes its the female showing lack of interest but in a lot of situations it’s also the other way round.

Sure, I appreciate that the female feels the loss but if her sex drive has disappeared to zero, it's a lot easier to deal with.

To be honest, discretely arranging encounters is likely to cause far less mental health issues than any of the above...

I wasn’t suggesting it was down to a womens lack of interest, the complete opposite! A women can just as easily have a high sex drive and desire but by having a partner who shows no interest it’s just as devastating and deflating to a woman as it is a man! With either party, both sides need to put some effort in if they want anything in return

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By *ooliganMan over a year ago

Preston

"My friends know, my family know, my colleagues and boss know. I don't rub it in anyone's faces if it's something they're uncomfortable with, but I make no secret of who I am or what I do.

I appreciate that's not something most people are comfortable doing. But don't assume everyone feels the need to hide this side of things."

You're just at the other end of a very wide spectrum to most. But if you were talking to the local vicar and he asked you what your plans for the weekend were, I doubt you'd tell him you were going to get pounded senseless by a couple of strangers off the internet.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"You're just at the other end of a very wide spectrum to most. But if you were talking to the local vicar and he asked you what your plans for the weekend were, I doubt you'd tell him you were going to get pounded senseless by a couple of strangers off the internet.

Well, no. But aside from the people I know like to hear those details I wouldn't generally vomit too much information at someone who asked as small talk. Anyone making small talk with me gets one word answers along the lines of "fine" or "stuff".

When my prim and proper boss asks if I have anything fun planned for the weekend the answer is simply yes. When my more lascivious colleagues ask what my plans are they get more details. I don't assume every person consents to hearing about my sex life.

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By *hellebelleWoman over a year ago

ashford

It’s a big no from me because I have been on the receiving end so I just can’t morally and consciously be involved with causing the same upset it caused me.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Bit of a judgemental statement that everyone on here is lying to someone

It's not the same .

Not broadcasting your sex life to others won't cause them harm ,even if I wasn't on here ,I wouldn't discuss my sex life with colleagues/family etc.

Meeting others behind a partners back would cause them distress.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

This

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"Bit of a judgemental statement that everyone on here is lying to someone

It's not the same .

Not broadcasting your sex life to others won't cause them harm ,even if I wasn't on here ,I wouldn't discuss my sex life with colleagues/family etc.

Meeting others behind a partners back would cause them distress. "

And also this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldn't meet anyone that's on here cheating, whether that's on girlfriend or wife.

And the shoe would never be on the other foot, so cant answer why they do it.

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By *hataliceinwanderlustWoman over a year ago

Cambs

Don’t care either way, doesn’t even register with me nowadays. Back when I was not in the mood for a relationship I would actively opt for attached men as they wouldn’t try to formulate a relationship with me after the first meet.

Now I am seeking something more substantial, and this has led to attached men NOT being honest about their situation… so actually my old approach was better.

Makes me laugh when women on here say they don’t meet attached or cheating men, when I know full well they have via their veris

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By *irkby coupleCouple over a year ago

Kirkby

A good work mate is having an affair, everyday it comes up in convo. I can’t help but feel sorry for his Mrs.

It really put me off the guy, we was good mates, now I avoid him.

His wife kicked him out over the weekend, he asked his side chick if they was going to give it ago and she said no, it was so hard not to laugh.

Mrs thinks I’m a hypocrite for judging considering we are on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like your answer and find it true!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here on my own, wife doesn't know

Sex was mind blowing with wife then kids and house then marriage changes that, feel like she makes hardly any effort I always say how beautiful she is compliment her, always me making the first move if we do end up having sex very vanilla, I opened up to her about my fantasies which wasn't easy more about hotwife scenario and attending clubs to feel out the scene and she was not interested in the slightest I bought her toys outfits to try new things and she not even tried them so I'm here to see if their Is a women in similar situation as me who would like to chat and possibly meet just for fun no feeling just fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t care either way, doesn’t even register with me nowadays. Back when I was not in the mood for a relationship I would actively opt for attached men as they wouldn’t try to formulate a relationship with me after the first meet.

Now I am seeking something more substantial, and this has led to attached men NOT being honest about their situation… so actually my old approach was better.

Makes me laugh when women on here say they don’t meet attached or cheating men, when I know full well they have via their veris

Absolutely agree with you there says no attached men but then look at verification guys with big cocks and six packs who are married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."

I've never cheated in any way shape or form.. even when I use to swing with an ex gf who actually got me in to swinging we always had access to all messages and would never answer without the other knowing or chat to anyone without the other knowing.. plus after we met with anyone we would always go home and shower then make love.. so if anyone cheats on their other half you shouldn't be allowed to have fun or be allowed to be in a relationship of any kind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have a partner but she allows me to explore me... And that has made our relationship much stronger... As long as I don't take the piss... Im allowed to do me, as she's not into it.. But loves the idea of me doing it and still being completely loyal etc... Then fuck and talk together fantasizing about my adventures... (Wish she'd join me to be honest)

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By *ungiver76Man over a year ago

chatham

Yes married and cheating , wife went through a breakdown and has issues which I fully support and help her but part of the breakdown was a full on loss of sex drive and intimacy and she isn’t the type to agree to allowing me to get my pleasure else where very very prudish

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By *andC1000Couple over a year ago

Ashford

"Have a partner but she allows me to explore me... And that has made our relationship much stronger... As long as I don't take the piss... Im allowed to do me, as she's not into it.. But loves the idea of me doing it and still being completely loyal etc... Then fuck and talk together fantasizing about my adventures... (Wish she'd join me to be honest)

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By *J-87Man over a year ago

Donington

Have a partner, and a good sex life. But after nearly 6 years of sex with the same person I want to have sex with another woman.

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By *queakyclean69erMan over a year ago

Torquay

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Some might say the family is already split if you are doing this

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By *ooliganMan over a year ago

Preston

"A good work mate is having an affair, everyday it comes up in convo. I can’t help but feel sorry for his Mrs.

Nobody is talking about having an affair, the conversation is about blokes joining a swinging site and arranging no-strings sex. Very different.

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By *wingbexleyMan over a year ago

bexleyheath

There is a huge difference between no strings sex and repeatedly seeing the same person and experiencing feelings.

Cheating is emotional dishonesty.

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By *rincess1988Woman over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

" There is a huge difference between no strings sex and repeatedly seeing the same person and experiencing feelings.

Cheating is emotional dishonesty. "

I’m pretty sure it’s cheating when my partner sticks his dick in 10 different strangers without my knowledge.

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By *ooliganMan over a year ago

Preston

"I’m pretty sure it’s cheating when my partner sticks his dick in 10 different strangers without my knowledge."

But you don't have a problem with him fantasising about 10 different strangers when he has a wank? Or when he's having sex with you? Again, it's all just spectrums. And peoples' positions on those spectrums may vary, especially if they're expected to live a celibate life just because their partner has lost her sex drive.

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By *zlakMan over a year ago

Norwich

" There is a huge difference between no strings sex and repeatedly seeing the same person and experiencing feelings.

Cheating is emotional dishonesty.

I’m pretty sure it’s cheating when my partner sticks his dick in 10 different strangers without my knowledge."

Yep in my eyes that's 100% cheating.

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By *rincess1988Woman over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I’m pretty sure it’s cheating when my partner sticks his dick in 10 different strangers without my knowledge.

Yeah, that’s a fantasy. You can do in your head whatever you want.

And don’t come for me. My partner and I are swingers.

But it is cheating when an unassuming wife sits at home while hubby goes out and fucks strangers. It’s the fucking someone who doesn’t know over.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m pretty sure it’s cheating when my partner sticks his dick in 10 different strangers without my knowledge.

Yeah, that’s a fantasy. You can do in your head whatever you want.

And don’t come for me. My partner and I are swingers.

But it is cheating when an unassuming wife sits at home while hubby goes out and fucks strangers. It’s the fucking someone who doesn’t know over."

100% agrees with you!!!

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By *idsAndyMan over a year ago

Worcestershire

I'm always surprised at how many couples are against cheating.

It's not right I think we all know that but often in a relationship it's not the only wrong and is quite understandable.

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By *idsAndyMan over a year ago

Worcestershire

"A good work mate is having an affair, everyday it comes up in convo. I can’t help but feel sorry for his Mrs.

Nobody is talking about having an affair, the conversation is about blokes joining a swinging site and arranging no-strings sex. Very different."

Women do it too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m a cheat tried to live sexless and that just isn’t being authentic to myself

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By *inky and The Brain2022Couple over a year ago

Battle

My husband and I grew up in very different ways. My husbands experience of marriage was always that it was a monogamous relationship. No one he knew growing up really got divorced or cheated, however his 1st wife did cheat on him and that impacted him immensely at the start of our relationship.

My experience was that my birth mother couldn't keep her legs shut. She was consistently and continuously unfaithful and it broke every man she was dating or married to at the time. Personally all my exs bar 1 that I know of have cheated on me.

Both my husband and I have talked about our relationship over the last 8 years and both agree that being faithful for us means honest, not monogamous. There are different things we want abd neither of us believe you can find 100% of everything in just 1 person. Its unreasonable and adds pressure to be perfection.

As for sleeping with someone married, if the partner is aware I'm ok with it but I would never want to be the reason or attributed to the reason a relationship broke down.

P x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often see the argument "you should be honest and just leave" which is great, but if a bit of no-strings sex keeps a family/home together, why is it so wrong?

Far better that men use a website like this than form romantic relationships to get the sexual outlet they crave."

People can have sex with whoever they want.

But p-lease don’t pretend that cheating is actually good for family life. If those who are doing it really believe this, why not go home to your partners tonight and tell them what wonderful husbands they’ve been by having lots of sex with strangers.

Happy swinging…

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By *idsAndyMan over a year ago

Worcestershire

"My husband and I grew up in very different ways. My husbands experience of marriage was always that it was a monogamous relationship. No one he knew growing up really got divorced or cheated, however his 1st wife did cheat on him and that impacted him immensely at the start of our relationship.

As for sleeping with someone married, if the partner is aware I'm ok with it but I would never want to be the reason or attributed to the reason a relationship broke down.

P x"

I absolutely understand what you're saying, but the reasons cheating would often be the reason a relationship breaks down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm married wife don't know I'm on here she gave up on sex over 15 years ago still love her

I had an affair with an ex girlfriend but stopped it when she wanted to have more so I was told about this site

Havent met anyone on here just chatting at the moment but I think my time for a meet has gone as I have been diagnosed with leukemia so my time at the moment is sorting out pensions

etc so my wife is comftable with when I do pop my clogs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if your shitting on your door step where things could get personal your an idiot but if out of the area then no worry about it getting back I'm single but I don't care if you are or not it's a swingers site ultimately it's an opportunity to let your dark side out of its cage with hopefully no judgement and hopefully a lot of sexual desires/fantasies fulfilled if they are with someone who doesn't know then why should it matter to the other person it's not there problem just have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of people get married and settle far too quickly before they discover swingers life, then it's too late

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think I could enjoy exchanging sexual energy, and giving my time to somebody, who is risking completely destroying the life and mental health of somebody they apparently ‘love’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We only ever know what someone chooses to disclose (and that could still just be a total fabrication). I'd never knowingly play with a cheater though.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"I think a lot of people get married and settle far too quickly before they discover swingers life, then it's too late

Why is it too late if you're married. Have you not realised that couples can be swingers too.

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

I have met many single guys on here over the years and no doubt most were attached and lying to me and their missus

I have never been a cheat myself but have been cheated on and it is the worst feeling ever.

I was in a 20+ relationship where I fell out of love and although I had 3 children I still ended it because I knew I wanted to meet someone else / others and didn’t want to break him by cheating. I had a privileged lifestyle financially and it ruined me financially to leave

Those that say they can’t leave really are just using house / marriage / kids as an excuse to have their cake and eat it

Far better to find someone that is on the same page with your life and sexual desires

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By *rsgrey10Man over a year ago

Colchester

I am a cheating husband however I always state this and am not offended if people do not want that. I am

Certainly not here to judge. It makes me smile that with what the majority of people on here are looking for IE NSA meets that your relationship status would be an issue. This does all in the end come down to personal choice. It would be nice if married men were treated the same way as married women. However there a lot of people who judge

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By *arystark40Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"I am not cheating but I would if they promised to take me to KFC and give me a sharing bucket all to myself once they'd filled my unprotected holes."

You are hilarious!

I'd like to see you try and eat a KFC sharing bucket all to yourself. It's simply not possible...lol

What are they filling your unprotected holes with...the special gravy?

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By *adtaffladMan over a year ago

Rhyl

"Here on my own, wife doesn't know

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Interesting read...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been open on our profile about being married, has as my profile mate.

We feel that way it gives everyone a chance to pass us by for those who don't want to get to know cheaters.

Those that don't mind see to enjoy that the fun will be discreet and NSA.

We both have good sex lives at home, but want and are attracted to moresum fun that fab provides an opportunity for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of people get married and settle far too quickly before they discover swingers life, then it's too late

Why is it too late if you're married. Have you not realised that couples can be swingers too. "

Yes but that's a gamble to try and find out after, if you're into swingers beforehand then you are likely to have a long lasting relationship because the cheating element is watered down so much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is how we got into it… long story short she was seeing someone, I found out and liked it, confronted her and here we are now… no need for secrets now, even though sometimes the guys she see’s thinks I don’t know, kinda adds to the fun…each to their own I guess x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always wondered if there were any couples where one person changed their mind and wanted a traditional marriage again and it caused a rift - I feel it must happen at some point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not keen to meet a cheat for a few reasons but the main reasons are

1. The potential to be involved in huge drama. We both hate being cheated on and don’t want to be the cause of that in others

2. If a man can’t please his wife to keep her wanting sex with him, why would he be able to give me pleasure? He probably won’t!! "

Don't think I've ever read anything so female biased on here as this..

This demonstrates clearly why this site is becoming a totally waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't agree with cheating myself. I've been on the end of it;it is honestly the most crushing thing to have happen.

I don't go out of my to meet attached peopl;I can only go by what someone tells me.

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By *apperMystiqueMan over a year ago

Glasgow East

Interesting read and for the most part a mature debate. My wife knows I have this profile. We do have a couples profile but we don’t use it anymore due to my lovely wife physically being unable to have sex, which has resulted in lack desire as it causes her pain and not just at the time but for days afterwards. I love her dearly and would never split up with her over lack of sex, but I don’t want to resign myself to never enjoying sex again. She tells me she feels bad as she knows how much I love sex but I never let her dwell on this as our relationship is so much more than sex. She knows all about fab as I said and sees me on it from time to time but doesn’t ask if I’m chatting to anyone or arranging a meet. So I keep it discreet but don’t hide fab so not sure if this comes under cheating or not.

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By *itonthesideWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier.

I agree and have found this out myself!

Attached men are more reliable and don’t think that you can have a relationship with them after 2 meets "

My experience wasnt reliable, it was i have a 45 minute window when i should be at gym if you want a quick wham bam

No socials, no drinks or any of the warm up pre cursors to sex and very restricted time so only one kind of meet available really and that is rushed

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By *itonthesideWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away.

Everyone has their opinions

I agree its destroying to be found out you are being cheated on. But i do sometimes wonder how destroying it might also be to be rejected over and over and in a relationship where you have to close the sexual part of you off.

I know life is complicated and people can’t just always up and leave but so many get themselves into a life where ultimately one of you is going to be very unhappy

Seeing how common cheating was on here because of incompatible sex drives or tastes made me adamant that i wouldn’t end up committed to someone i wasn’t compatible with in the bedroom and it moved right near the top of my list of deal breakers for new relationships going forward

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By *itonthesideWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"Unfortunately relationships are never black & white, and reasons for cheating will be different depending on the individual. It does surprise me that so many people who are looking for nsa can be so judgmental as their own reasons for meeting are just for sex, which is no different to married people who may not be getting enough at home. The risk of being discovered only increases if people either want more from it or they get careless. Given the number of married people on here they must believe it to be low risk.

There are more “fab single” guys than “fab straight” guys and the TVTS population will confirm just how much of the latter exist

A filter would be useless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who are we go judge, each to their own I say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not cheating but I would if they promised to take me to KFC and give me a sharing bucket all to myself once they'd filled my unprotected holes."

funny!!! Only KFC?

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By *kinandbonesCouple over a year ago

dublin

We don't cheat but Mrs has permission to get with any guy or girl she likes without me knowing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Very well put, this is much the same as my situation minus the health problems.

If I send a message to anyone, I’m always open about it, and accept that it’s not for everybody, if there’s no reply, or just a straight up no."

This and this.

I always read profiles and if they so no attached then I obviously don't contact

If I get a reply and if I think it's going ok then I mention

Has ended 99% of all my chats sadly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't agree with cheating myself. I've been on the end of it;it is honestly the most crushing thing to have happen.

I don't go out of my to meet attached peopl;I can only go by what someone tells me.

This is the problem as so many lies are told. Ive seen profiles that state genuinely single/ free and know its not true of some. But as you say you go by what youre told and hope ppl can be honest x

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By *haz46Woman over a year ago

Stockport

I have cheated and been cheated on

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By *ilverfox for youMan over a year ago

Hull

to easy to judge people . we all have our reasons , and we all want a good sex life .17 yrs without and counting for me . so who can blame a guy for trying !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For all the people who say it’s because there’s no sex at home, to me if you can’t entice someone who you supposedly love and know really well, you’re not going to light my fire either!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not keen to meet a cheat for a few reasons but the main reasons are

1. The potential to be involved in huge drama. We both hate being cheated on and don’t want to be the cause of that in others

2. If a man can’t please his wife to keep her wanting sex with him, why would he be able to give me pleasure? He probably won’t!!

Don't think I've ever read anything so female biased on here as this..

This demonstrates clearly why this site is becoming a totally waste of time.

No, your response demonstrates why you aren’t getting meets.

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"For all the people who say it’s because there’s no sex at home, to me if you can’t entice someone who you supposedly love and know really well, you’re not going to light my fire either!

Mrs "

My misses has gone of it compliantly due to medical reasons so it’s not that I can’t intice her she just can’t

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By *iss pleasuringWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near

"How many on this site are cheating on their partners and why?

What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot if you are one of those that are cheating?

We have met m and f that are cheating but not spoken about why they were playing away."

Personal question and no one has the right to judge other people

Each to their own

It's non of your business

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

99% of the single males here are "Not SINGLE"

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By *orndog272Man over a year ago

Enniscorthy

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

"99% of the single males here are "Not SINGLE"

99% of stats are made up on the spot. including both of these.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My gf has gotten lazy and can't even be arsed to touch me. Can't leave as financially it benefits us both. But doubt she will notice or care if I cheated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all the people who say it’s because there’s no sex at home, to me if you can’t entice someone who you supposedly love and know really well, you’re not going to light my fire either!

Mrs

My misses has gone of it compliantly due to medical reasons so it’s not that I can’t intice her she just can’t "

Have you spoken to her about it? Offered to accompany her to the Doctors to discuss it? Explored sensual things you could do for her that don’t involve full sex? There’s plenty of sexual moves/sensual mind games that don’t involve penetration. If you care for someone you work it out together, not cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My gf has gotten lazy and can't even be arsed to touch me. Can't leave as financially it benefits us both. But doubt she will notice or care if I cheated. "

Gotten lazy? Have you ever thought it might be something you’ve done? Women don’t get fed up of a good lover.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"My gf has gotten lazy and can't even be arsed to touch me. Can't leave as financially it benefits us both. But doubt she will notice or care if I cheated.

Gotten lazy? Have you ever thought it might be something you’ve done? Women don’t get fed up of a good lover. "

This is why cheats get a hard time on here ,slating their partners to others isn't a good look.

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By *tewedbeefMan over a year ago

home

I’ve been with my partner for along time. 30+ years. She’s never really been into sex or even affectionate cuddles. But that’s life, as she’s given the attention and anything she wants.

But over the last 10yrs I’ve met a few lovely ladies who do like an attached guy. Who’s honest that he’s not looking for the one, a long term relationship or a new family.

I love a nice dinner date, some erotic flirting and if I’m lucky a snog and some fun in the bed room at theirs or a very nice hotel.

I work in Cambridge, and travel with work. London, York, south east coast too. Come and say hi, if you don’t mind a cheater.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"My gf has gotten lazy and can't even be arsed to touch me. Can't leave as financially it benefits us both. But doubt she will notice or care if I cheated. "

Unfortunately this side is riddled with people like this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Wow it’s like I wrote the words my self mine situation is exactly the same and I would have no issue if she wants to play with or with out me Iam very open to it but as said she has no interest in even playing with her self and making her self happy

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By *edonist79Man over a year ago

Trowbridge

My partner knows when I meet anyone. I would have no issues with her cheating on me. As long as she tells me at some point that she has because knowing it is horny af.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My partner knows when I meet anyone. I would have no issues with her cheating on me. As long as she tells me at some point that she has because knowing it is horny af. "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Surely in general this is the main reason for people on here, the other person is not interested anymore and the other feels trapped, so if you cheat what did they expect!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Surely in general this is the main reason for people on here, the other person is not interested anymore and the other feels trapped, so if you cheat what did they expect!!!"

No. You have totally the wrong idea about swinging!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm playing on my own, wife doesn't know.

Surely in general this is the main reason for people on here, the other person is not interested anymore and the other feels trapped, so if you cheat what did they expect!!!

No. You have totally the wrong idea about swinging!!!"

I was referring to the cheats not swingers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We’ve met quite a few guys who were cheating and have usually found they just can’t resist the chance to fuck another guys wife nsa.

Personally we prefer attached. Less drama and also makes it even naughtier. "

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Nice and different approach to the topic…

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By *entfootloverMan over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Most people in relationships here would probably do the exact same if they hadn't found a partner with a similar libido and sexual tendencies. Think about that.

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