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Question for you all. I’ve been using kik for many years, it’s served me well, however it is very glitchy of late. I don’t feel like it’s an app I want to use anymore but it still is widely used and very popular
I’m using telegram now. The features are better and it works consistently. It still allows you an account via a username without providing a mobile number. Messages and images can be deleted after sending and also sent as view once. It also handles voice and video calls. It has everything I want but it’s not that popular
Are there any other alternatives people use with the same features as telegram that are more widely used?
Is it the right time to finally delete kik and move fully onto telegram or am I missing out on something else which does the job just as well which isn’t WhatsApp? |
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"We use Snapchat for video calls and chatting, use WhatsApp once we’ve met a couple. Kik is ok for group chats and that’s about it. Whenever I go on it just seems filled with bots "
Snapchat has been one I’ve avoided. I’m a parent so I don’t want to be using the same app as my younger generation
But agreed. The bots on kik are constant these days |
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"Question for you all. I’ve been using kik for many years, it’s served me well, however it is very glitchy of late. I don’t feel like it’s an app I want to use anymore but it still is widely used and very popular
I’m using telegram now. The features are better and it works consistently. It still allows you an account via a username without providing a mobile number. Messages and images can be deleted after sending and also sent as view once. It also handles voice and video calls. It has everything I want but it’s not that popular
Are there any other alternatives people use with the same features as telegram that are more widely used?
Is it the right time to finally delete kik and move fully onto telegram or am I missing out on something else which does the job just as well which isn’t WhatsApp?"
There is an app called signal, but like you I use telegram, neither seem popular. |
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"Iv just deleted my kik and might have download telegram "
Make sure you change the privacy settings and create a username and switch off your link to your phone number and address book if you want a fully private account
It’s a worthwhile switch over |
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over a year ago
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Telegram is better than kik in every way. As for not being as popular as kik, if someone wants to chat they’ll get into whatever chat app you prefer to use. |
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Whatever you choose do be careful on the privacy settings and auto linking contacts seems a standard feature on some.
Mixing your private and general contacts is always a worry.
I know someone who accidentally shared some very private content with her entire friends and workmates list.
SC works quite well as long as you are careful with settings and keep a "disposable" email and username. |
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We chat on here actually get quite frustrated with people wanting to move immediately to another chat app.
Will only go the what's app if meets agreed.
Dud try kik but seemed to be full of picture collectors |
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There is an app called signal, but like you I use telegram, neither seem popular."
I’ve got signal but it’s linked to my phone number. Can it be unlinked?
I keep fab and the real life separate and I can’t see a way to do that on signal |
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I can't stand Kik although I have it because for a lot of people it's their go-to app
I quite like telegram, but as you say it's not popular
I think Snap is nearly perfect for some uses because it auto deletes anything you type and doesn't store anything to your phone. Great for sexting!
My kids are mostly on discord so I don't play on there although again I do have it |
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We use Skype. It can be set up in a separate account so not linked to friends and family and can be kept separate to contacts. Can chat or go on cam. Many people have used it in the past and gone to newer apps so perhaps its ideal for naughty fun. |
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Kik used to be great, still use it but agree it’s glitchy and full of bots
Never tried telegram, we both have Skype accounts so could potentially use Skype
Would be nice to have a new kik type app maybe telegram is it, does it work the same as kik? |
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"Kik used to be great, still use it but agree it’s glitchy and full of bots
Never tried telegram, we both have Skype accounts so could potentially use Skype
Would be nice to have a new kik type app maybe telegram is it, does it work the same as kik?"
Telegram works exactly the same as kik but better.
I don’t have bots and adverts.
You don’t use a number, you can create an username (but you need to hide your number)
It does more like video and audio calls. You can delete messages, images and videos after sending or set them to view once
You can set messages to delete after a time period if you need privacy like snap chat
It seems to be everything kik should be but the only drawback I see is that it’s not widely used.
The other benefit for me is it’s not Snapchat. So if you have kids, they won’t be noticing you using the same app as them |
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"Kik used to be great, still use it but agree it’s glitchy and full of bots
Never tried telegram, we both have Skype accounts so could potentially use Skype
Would be nice to have a new kik type app maybe telegram is it, does it work the same as kik?
Telegram works exactly the same as kik but better.
I don’t have bots and adverts.
You don’t use a number, you can create an username (but you need to hide your number)
It does more like video and audio calls. You can delete messages, images and videos after sending or set them to view once
You can set messages to delete after a time period if you need privacy like snap chat
It seems to be everything kik should be but the only drawback I see is that it’s not widely used.
The other benefit for me is it’s not Snapchat. So if you have kids, they won’t be noticing you using the same app as them "
Thanks maybe we will download it and give it a go  |
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I used to use Kik because it made chat flow more easily than on fab. It was great at the time but the constant glitches and bots caused me to delete it. Probably as a result of them nearly shutting down and being rescued.
I now use telegram and I sense it is becoming increasingly popular. Already some good groups and the benefits have been covered above. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
The dot in the i |
Just adding in in case others don’t know, when you download telegram, everyone in your contacts who also uses telegram is sent a notification saying you just joined, I didn’t know until I got one for someone else, I asked if they knew and they didn’t, just a heads up is all |
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"Just adding in in case others don’t know, when you download telegram, everyone in your contacts who also uses telegram is sent a notification saying you just joined, I didn’t know until I got one for someone else, I asked if they knew and they didn’t, just a heads up is all "
Really? That can affect some people |
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"Just adding in in case others don’t know, when you download telegram, everyone in your contacts who also uses telegram is sent a notification saying you just joined, I didn’t know until I got one for someone else, I asked if they knew and they didn’t, just a heads up is all "
When we downloaded it, we received messages from 'vanilla' people who weren't even in our contact list but had clearly saved our number into theirs!
We use both Kik and Telegram and as others have said Kik is full of bots but we also find Telegram to be very storage heavy! |
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"Just adding in in case others don’t know, when you download telegram, everyone in your contacts who also uses telegram is sent a notification saying you just joined, I didn’t know until I got one for someone else, I asked if they knew and they didn’t, just a heads up is all "
Yes, noticed this. Wondering whether it’s a problem. Telegram’s not an inherently “naughty” app, is it? |
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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago
Alluringly mysterious |
Telegram seems much more user friendly while not giving your mobile number- I’d rather not meet than share my phone number early on.
I’m not very IT savvy but very happy with the functionality of Telegram. |
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By *aughty VicarMan
over a year ago
Bamber Bridge, P R E S T O N, Lancashire |
KIK does the job for me.
I put up with the bots and ads.
Great for setting up meets and chats flow better if the other person is active at the same time otherwise messaging back and forth on Fab can be a bit clunky.
Open to abuse by catfish so, as with Fab, be guarded until you’ve actually met.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Just adding in in case others don’t know, when you download telegram, everyone in your contacts who also uses telegram is sent a notification saying you just joined, I didn’t know until I got one for someone else, I asked if they knew and they didn’t, just a heads up is all "
Yes I saw this.
I only use WhatsApp , it’s the one with end-to-end encryption. E2EE Isn’t available on group chats either , this is by design as is the unrestricted size of group chats. Your groups are very valuable to them |
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"Telegram for new folks, WhatsApp with friends.
We are not the demographic for snap & have no interest in face filters & stardust. "
Or stupid bunny ears etc |
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"I believe that Telegram is a Russian thing so that might put people off security wise?
Its the most secure out of all of them."
Not quite correct: Telegram is developed by two Russian programmers who left Russia because of state interference. They are now based in the UAE.
Signal is the more secure app from a technical perspective.
In terms of popularity Telegram has about 500m users whereas Signal has 40m.
You takes your choice. |
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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago
Stourbridge (West-Mids) |
"Telegram all the way!
WhatsApp is reserved for family chat and schools groups ect
Don't want to send pics to the wrong group again 
Haha agreed and oh heck lol x"
The pic was quite tame, it could have been so much worse, but yeah, better safe than sorry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for you all. I’ve been using kik for many years, it’s served me well, however it is very glitchy of late. I don’t feel like it’s an app I want to use anymore but it still is widely used and very popular
I’m using telegram now. The features are better and it works consistently. It still allows you an account via a username without providing a mobile number. Messages and images can be deleted after sending and also sent as view once. It also handles voice and video calls. It has everything I want but it’s not that popular
Are there any other alternatives people use with the same features as telegram that are more widely used?
Is it the right time to finally delete kik and move fully onto telegram or am I missing out on something else which does the job just as well which isn’t WhatsApp?"
We only use WhatsApp - we've no issue with sharing our number with genuine folk, we will chat on Fab for a while first before we decide to swap numbers or not
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just use WhatsApp.
The more anonymous someone needs to be the less interest I have in ever meeting them."
This is exactly why we use WhatsApp - we are interested in making friends/fwb so we aren't bothered about exchanging numbers with genuine people
Mrs |
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We only use WhatsApp - we've no issue with sharing our number with genuine folk, we will chat on Fab for a while first before we decide to swap numbers or not
Mrs "
I use my WhatsApp on my laptop. As much as you can politely remind some people, you do occasionally get content which isn’t safe for work coming through and I tend to keep messenger services separate for that reason
In addition, there have been occasions where I have made an error of judgement with people and given them my number and that has come around and bitten me in the bum.
I’m more selective at the point at which I share a number with people so I’m looking for the gateway app where you’ve reached the point of messaging on app, usually where I’m looking to arrange a meet up and increase the frequency of messages. If there’s a MF couple, it really does help to have a 3 person chat (to know there are indeed 3 people and not 1 man pretending)
Nothing sinister, just natural progression and what works for me. |
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"None. "
Likewise here. I'm content with phone calls, text messaging and a very low volume of email(no new ones on some days).
Somebody, trying to be helpful, put WhatsApp on my phone and I've never used it. Now it pesters me with hourly bleeps telling me it is an out of date version. Passers by might hear me telling it to fuck off. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I believe that Telegram is a Russian thing so that might put people off security wise?
Its the most secure out of all of them.
Not quite correct: Telegram is developed by two Russian programmers who left Russia because of state interference. They are now based in the UAE.
Signal is the more secure app from a technical perspective.
In terms of popularity Telegram has about 500m users whereas Signal has 40m.
You takes your choice."
But neither have end to end encryption right?
Only WhatsApp is secure
Telegram aim for massive groups chats with no encryption, it’s pretty obvious why. WhatsApp limit group chats.
You can use the secret conversation feature but not for group chats.
Telegram allow huge file uploads, WhatsApp again limit this for security.
Personally I won’t use anything without E2EE for messaging personal / private info
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Signal is the more secure app from a technical perspective.
In terms of popularity Telegram has about 500m users whereas Signal has 40m.
You takes your choice.
But neither have end to end encryption right?
Only WhatsApp is secure
Telegram aim for massive groups chats with no encryption, it’s pretty obvious why. WhatsApp limit group chats.
You can use the secret conversation feature but not for group chats.
Telegram allow huge file uploads, WhatsApp again limit this for security.
Personally I won’t use anything without E2EE for messaging personal / private info
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You are partially correct. In Telegram E2EE is not enabled by default and as you say not for group chats.
Signal is fully E2EE and is recommended by Edward Snowden, who might know a little about secure comms.
WhatsApp as part of Facebook/Meta probably does significant traffic analysis and links it to their profile of you.
So if you live in a Middle Eastern country that might take a dim view of unmarried sexual activity, then I would be going with Signal. |
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Signal is the more secure app from a technical perspective.
In terms of popularity Telegram has about 500m users whereas Signal has 40m.
You takes your choice.
But neither have end to end encryption right?
Only WhatsApp is secure
Telegram aim for massive groups chats with no encryption, it’s pretty obvious why. WhatsApp limit group chats.
You can use the secret conversation feature but not for group chats.
Telegram allow huge file uploads, WhatsApp again limit this for security.
Personally I won’t use anything without E2EE for messaging personal / private info
You are partially correct. In Telegram E2EE is not enabled by default and as you say not for group chats.
Signal is fully E2EE and is recommended by Edward Snowden, who might know a little about secure comms.
WhatsApp as part of Facebook/Meta probably does significant traffic analysis and links it to their profile of you.
So if you live in a Middle Eastern country that might take a dim view of unmarried sexual activity, then I would be going with Signal. "
I agree with yourself, when Facebook brought WhatsApp I deleted it from my phone. |
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Any help…
Downloaded telegram, set phone number to private, started adding stuff like username and some stuff in bio and I’ve of marks mates messaged on it… guessing he saw
Deleted it quick… I’m assuming he got a notification saying my number joined??
Can’t have that!!  |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"Just adding in in case others don’t know, when you download telegram, everyone in your contacts who also uses telegram is sent a notification saying you just joined, I didn’t know until I got one for someone else, I asked if they knew and they didn’t, just a heads up is all "
This happened to me even with all privacy settings set so I didn’t use it for long, sticking with kik even with all its glitches it does what I need.
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We only use WhatsApp - we've no issue with sharing our number with genuine folk, we will chat on Fab for a while first before we decide to swap numbers or not
Mrs
I use my WhatsApp on my laptop. As much as you can politely remind some people, you do occasionally get content which isn’t safe for work coming through and I tend to keep messenger services separate for that reason
In addition, there have been occasions where I have made an error of judgement with people and given them my number and that has come around and bitten me in the bum.
I’m more selective at the point at which I share a number with people so I’m looking for the gateway app where you’ve reached the point of messaging on app, usually where I’m looking to arrange a meet up and increase the frequency of messages. If there’s a MF couple, it really does help to have a 3 person chat (to know there are indeed 3 people and not 1 man pretending)
Nothing sinister, just natural progression and what works for me. "
Don't get me wrong, WhatsApp isn't flawless, and we've also had some experiences with people we'd rather not repeat. They just got blocked. Telegram will probably do what you need it to do
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We have just realised that conversations go beyond here and we gave our number to what seemed a lovely guy, we are now being spammed and it appears he has shared our details with all his mates...
We have learnt a harsh lesson about sharing our number....
Telegram seems to be OK if you take it off fab |
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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"We have just realised that conversations go beyond here and we gave our number to what seemed a lovely guy, we are now being spammed and it appears he has shared our details with all his mates...
We have learnt a harsh lesson about sharing our number....
Telegram seems to be OK if you take it off fab "
Telegrsm & kik both work well as they’re anonymous |
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Snapchat all day for me.
No details/ phone no / full names
Live video/ telephone calls
Live pics
Voice note
Shows who screenshots
Definitely my fave. Don’t use it in the real world but great for this life  |
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"Snapchat all day for me.
No details/ phone no / full names
Live video/ telephone calls
Live pics
Voice note
Shows who screenshots
Definitely my fave. Don’t use it in the real world but great for this life "
100% agree on this for me xx |
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