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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
somerset |
some think has change since xmas im getting more and more begging type messages ..
please please pick me
give us a chance
nobody wants to meet me will you
you didnt even read my message how am i ever gonna meet
ill pay you
and on and on it goes do people really think by sounding desperate that its going to work for them ?? do they not understand what swinging is and what sexual attraction is ?? its like they think you a coin op ride and think its just a matter of im here im ready heres my coin they think that we will shag anything and everything ... tuesdays rant over n out |
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We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out "
No one likes a show off  |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out "
Filters are your friend, then you can message those that interest you.
And simply delete messages that you are not interested in. |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out
No one likes a show off "
haha I’d rather you take these messages than us  |
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By *Vbi47Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out "
The block button soon becomes your friend believe me |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out
Filters are your friend, then you can message those that interest you.
And simply delete messages that you are not interested in."
didn’t want to use filters as we are open to meeting single men but for every decent 1 there is 30 awful ones decent single men don’t hve a chance on here because of the bad ones |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out
The block button soon becomes your friend believe me"
yup found that out very quickly |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out
Filters are your friend, then you can message those that interest you.
And simply delete messages that you are not interested in. didn’t want to use filters as we are open to meeting single men but for every decent 1 there is 30 awful ones decent single men don’t hve a chance on here because of the bad ones "
With filters, people who you message can reply.
And as a decent single man, I have plenty of chances because the cream rises to the top. |
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I'm sure I should be able to use reverse psychology to flip this to my advantage...
"Hi, how are you? How are you finding FAB?? I'm delighted to inform you that you've won this week's FAB lottery and get the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to jump the queue, beat the waiting lists and feel the rarefied pleasure of me putting my wotsit in your lady pocket. Act now or YOU WILL be disappointed." |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
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By *ewisbi76Man
over a year ago
west edinburgh |
"some think has change since xmas im getting more and more begging type messages .."
i know you mean begging for a meet, but there are loads begging for money as well
Over time i've had some requests for a fair amount of money. The worst was "i dont have anywhere to meet but you could help me with the deposit for a flat". more often its questions asking "are you generous".
i see people looking for lifts, people to come round for a "living room painting party". Once i was arranging to meet a tv who suddenly said "any man meeting me has to bring me 40 silk cut and a bottle of bacardi". i saw a post on here last night from someone who appeared to have been gifted a dominoes delivery after posting "who wants to buy me dinner".
I've no idea who thinks that a swinger will hand hundreds over to a stranger they've never met before? i hope no-one actually does. |
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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
somerset |
"OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
A
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?? erm i do  i know how to work the site ive proberly got one of the biggest block list on site im just saying its getting worse ... just havin a moan i just wanted to know if people thought it worked ??? last September we were at a local club and a couple we said no thanks to started saying oh go on please had to say to them quite bluntly in the end .. no ...so its not just guys as i said its people ..
its the same with those asking for money assuming other people are desperate too ..
it seems as if swinging has lost its way 30 years ago it was such a easy scene people in it were swingers no was no end of ,... 30 years on most are simply not swingers ..what they are i dont know lol but deffo not swingers
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out "
Filters and block button, there’s nothing on earth more determined than a single guy online with the horn |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
A
?? erm i do i know how to work the site ive proberly got one of the biggest block list on site im just saying its getting worse ... just havin a moan i just wanted to know if people thought it worked ??? last September we were at a local club and a couple we said no thanks to started saying oh go on please had to say to them quite bluntly in the end .. no ...so its not just guys as i said its people ..
its the same with those asking for money assuming other people are desperate too ..
it seems as if swinging has lost its way 30 years ago it was such a easy scene people in it were swingers no was no end of ,... 30 years on most are simply not swingers ..what they are i dont know lol but deffo not swingers
#justmyopinion"
I'm still amazed.
In 14 years on here I've never been asked for money, gifts, begged for a meet or encountered half of the problems others apparently face.
Not once. As a single or a couple.
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"OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
A
?? erm i do i know how to work the site ive proberly got one of the biggest block list on site im just saying its getting worse ... just havin a moan i just wanted to know if people thought it worked ??? last September we were at a local club and a couple we said no thanks to started saying oh go on please had to say to them quite bluntly in the end .. no ...so its not just guys as i said its people ..
its the same with those asking for money assuming other people are desperate too ..
it seems as if swinging has lost its way 30 years ago it was such a easy scene people in it were swingers no was no end of ,... 30 years on most are simply not swingers ..what they are i dont know lol but deffo not swingers
#justmyopinion
I'm still amazed.
In 14 years on here I've never been asked for money, gifts, begged for a meet or encountered half of the problems others apparently face.
Not once. As a single or a couple.
A"
day 1 for us “can I watch you both and lick the pussy clean I will pay”. That was our first block of many |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"some think has change since xmas im getting more and more begging type messages ..
please please pick me
give us a chance
nobody wants to meet me will you
you didnt even read my message how am i ever gonna meet
ill pay you
and on and on it goes do people really think by sounding desperate that its going to work for them ?? do they not understand what swinging is and what sexual attraction is ?? its like they think you a coin op ride and think its just a matter of im here im ready heres my coin they think that we will shag anything and everything ... tuesdays rant over n out"
Nope! Would make us dryer than the desert on a warm one!  |
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"OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
A
?? erm i do i know how to work the site ive proberly got one of the biggest block list on site im just saying its getting worse ... just havin a moan i just wanted to know if people thought it worked ??? last September we were at a local club and a couple we said no thanks to started saying oh go on please had to say to them quite bluntly in the end .. no ...so its not just guys as i said its people ..
its the same with those asking for money assuming other people are desperate too ..
it seems as if swinging has lost its way 30 years ago it was such a easy scene people in it were swingers no was no end of ,... 30 years on most are simply not swingers ..what they are i dont know lol but deffo not swingers
#justmyopinion"
I think you’re right. Unfortunately there are lots of single people on fab who are just looking for hook ups with the another individual. I don’t see that as swinging, just shagging around. Consequently people try their luck assuming that because someone is on fab they will fuck anything.
I always believed that swinging should involve at least 3 people, and from experience that definitely makes for the best meets.  |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out
No one likes a show off "
I must be doing something wrong. I think I send a generally respectful message saying a little about what I liked about them or their profile, with a face pic. Out of 800 messages I’ve had about 4 or 5 replies  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out "
Hide your profile so you can take control and do things at your own pace |
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At the risk of doing myself a dis-service, block single men for 1 month. Fairly certain you'll see an instant benefit in the short term and if you decide "it's been a while since I had a good kick in the balls" you can open up to single men again. Or, keep them blocked and only pick single men when you go to a club. |
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"Some excellent ideas for my next messages there. Apart from the "i will pay you" one because I am a tight so-and-so.... "
Agreed - as a honorary Yorkshire bloke, I ain't parting with any brass, 20 years and I've almost got the local vernacular |
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Begging, neediness, self-pity... Absolute deal breakers. No one can be confident all the time and rejection sucks balls but Jesus some lads really shoot themselves in the foot. Such a huge turn off. |
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"OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
A
?? erm i do i know how to work the site ive proberly got one of the biggest block list on site im just saying its getting worse ... just havin a moan i just wanted to know if people thought it worked ??? last September we were at a local club and a couple we said no thanks to started saying oh go on please had to say to them quite bluntly in the end .. no ...so its not just guys as i said its people ..
its the same with those asking for money assuming other people are desperate too ..
it seems as if swinging has lost its way 30 years ago it was such a easy scene people in it were swingers no was no end of ,... 30 years on most are simply not swingers ..what they are i dont know lol but deffo not swingers
#justmyopinion
I think you’re right. Unfortunately there are lots of single people on fab who are just looking for hook ups with the another individual. I don’t see that as swinging, just shagging around. Consequently people try their luck assuming that because someone is on fab they will fuck anything.
I always believed that swinging should involve at least 3 people, and from experience that definitely makes for the best meets. "
This is spot on, swinging is definalty not just 2 people shagging, it's the profiles that state they have been swinging for x amount of time but only ever seems to be one person at a time in pics and veris |
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"OP just block them.
It always amazes me that some profiles (nobody specific of course) state they get so many messages when a quick peek shows no profile photo, no visible images and brief text at best.
We've rarely had more than 20 message a week over the years, often far less.
Good filters, the block button and being happy to just delete in a heartbeat saves so much angst and woe.
There's much than can be done to reduce the odds of an inbox full of crap.
A
?? erm i do i know how to work the site ive proberly got one of the biggest block list on site im just saying its getting worse ... just havin a moan i just wanted to know if people thought it worked ??? last September we were at a local club and a couple we said no thanks to started saying oh go on please had to say to them quite bluntly in the end .. no ...so its not just guys as i said its people ..
its the same with those asking for money assuming other people are desperate too ..
it seems as if swinging has lost its way 30 years ago it was such a easy scene people in it were swingers no was no end of ,... 30 years on most are simply not swingers ..what they are i dont know lol but deffo not swingers
#justmyopinion
I think you’re right. Unfortunately there are lots of single people on fab who are just looking for hook ups with the another individual. I don’t see that as swinging, just shagging around. Consequently people try their luck assuming that because someone is on fab they will fuck anything.
I always believed that swinging should involve at least 3 people, and from experience that definitely makes for the best meets.
This is spot on, swinging is definalty not just 2 people shagging, it's the profiles that state they have been swinging for x amount of time but only ever seems to be one person at a time in pics and veris"
My friend, not a swinger but a naturist who seen his fair share of swinging in the naturist beaches and spa. Still thinks swinging is where "anything goes". He also think that about women in clubs....So yes, I really believe most men have this attitude, because a woman on fab or in a club, they be willing to sleep with anyone that is offering because "they horny and liberal minded". Not sure how you will change this attitude?  |
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My friend, not a swinger but a naturist who seen his fair share of swinging in the naturist beaches and spa. Still thinks swinging is where "anything goes". He also think that about women in clubs....So yes, I really believe most men have this attitude, because a woman on fab or in a club, they be willing to sleep with anyone that is offering because "they horny and liberal minded". Not sure how you will change this attitude? "
I think this attitude is prevalent which is why some of the messages are the way they are.
I think only they can change their attitude.
In my local club, that attitude could get you kicked out, so it's either adapt or stop going.
On here, maybe talking to women on the forum could change their attitude? I don't know. |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out "
So jealous! We only get 5-6 crazy messages a week. |
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"We are new to the site it’s unbearable at times some of the messages are outrageous and it’s really putting us off actually being on here od say over 800 messages only 4-5 even worthy of a reply genuinely don’t understand people’s thought processes when writing them out
Filters are your friend, then you can message those that interest you.
And simply delete messages that you are not interested in. didn’t want to use filters as we are open to meeting single men but for every decent 1 there is 30 awful ones decent single men don’t hve a chance on here because of the bad ones "
This is exactly why I am very reluctant to openly put on my profile that we woukd like a guy to join us for a 3some.
Too many undesirable.
Probably a club would be our best route.
And I know my profile is single but I can't change it  |
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