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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
For the hotwives and the cuckold couples out there.
I am not someone who is entirely comfortable with monogamy, that is a whole other conversation. I have had a long standing fantasy which I definitely want to make a reality of my better half having another lover / lovers, but I stay faithful to her and enjoy it vicariously though her. Not a true cuck as I dont enjoy the idea of being humiliated etc, for me it is about reclaiming and dominating and "punishing" my other half for being naughty, and having some competition to outperform.
So my question. What was it that made you take the leap?
For the ladies, did you start from a position of "no way in hell" and gradually warm to it? Was it always something you wanted? Or have you always struggled to be monogamous and found someone to embrace it with?
For the men, the stags or the cucks, was it a creep towards being turned on by this? Did you catch your partner cheating and realised it turned you on? Was it always a turn on?
For me it has slowly crept up on me and comes from having experienced threesomes and being bull to hotwife / cuck couples and realising I want to try being on the other aide of it and enjoying my partners pleasure in experiencing new people.
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Cuckolding has become a bit of a big tent for a variety of fetishes these days but at the same time people can get very specific about it too.
We have used this site to look for cuckolding because it seemed like a good place to find people with a relaxed idea about sex. We are both into the humiliation side of it but it’s very much within that context. Are we in a cuckold relationship? Not really, no, but do we enjoy sexual situations that can be defined as cuckolding? Very much, yes.
Outside of the infrequent cuckolding sessions we have a very varied sex life that doesn’t see one of us ‘in charge’ as it were (although she is the more dominant of the two of us). My advice is to not worry too much, and don’t over complicate things. If you enjoy it then do it again, if not then see it as a new thing you experienced. |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
Kingsbridge |
"Cuckolding has become a bit of a big tent for a variety of fetishes these days but at the same time people can get very specific about it too.
We have used this site to look for cuckolding because it seemed like a good place to find people with a relaxed idea about sex. We are both into the humiliation side of it but it’s very much within that context. Are we in a cuckold relationship? Not really, no, but do we enjoy sexual situations that can be defined as cuckolding? Very much, yes.
Outside of the infrequent cuckolding sessions we have a very varied sex life that doesn’t see one of us ‘in charge’ as it were (although she is the more dominant of the two of us). My advice is to not worry too much, and don’t over complicate things. If you enjoy it then do it again, if not then see it as a new thing you experienced."
Great post, explained a lot to me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife thought it was weird when I first told her couple years ago I want to watch her with someone else. She warmed to the idea and we absolutely love role playing it out now in the bedroom we loved it for over a year now .she knows about this site but she's nervous about coming on here so that's a step we got to take before even making it a reality but we love doing it and she brings it up more than me these days which is good! .
The reason I got into it saw a clip on a film it turned me on and stuck with me ever since |
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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
"Cuckolding has become a bit of a big tent for a variety of fetishes these days but at the same time people can get very specific about it too.
We have used this site to look for cuckolding because it seemed like a good place to find people with a relaxed idea about sex. We are both into the humiliation side of it but it’s very much within that context. Are we in a cuckold relationship? Not really, no, but do we enjoy sexual situations that can be defined as cuckolding? Very much, yes.
Outside of the infrequent cuckolding sessions we have a very varied sex life that doesn’t see one of us ‘in charge’ as it were (although she is the more dominant of the two of us). My advice is to not worry too much, and don’t over complicate things. If you enjoy it then do it again, if not then see it as a new thing you experienced."
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We had a very similar experience to justbrowsing...
I (Mr.) was always turned off by cuckolding due to not liking the humiliation side of it. I came across the hotwife subreddit and stag/vixen kink and realized it was a huge turn on.
Told my wife (who is very sexually confident) that I wanted to explore it and we've been at it ever since.
As with anything we do, we tried it with the thought,:
"If we don't like it, we know now and we just won't do it again"  |
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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
"We had a very similar experience to justbrowsing...
I (Mr.) was always turned off by cuckolding due to not liking the humiliation side of it. I came across the hotwife subreddit and stag/vixen kink and realized it was a huge turn on.
Told my wife (who is very sexually confident) that I wanted to explore it and we've been at it ever since.
As with anything we do, we tried it with the thought,:
"If we don't like it, we know now and we just won't do it again" "
That is exactly my attitude. Its how I know that while gay sex is physically pleasurable, it is not for me. Gotta try these things. |
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"For the hotwives and the cuckold couples out there.
I am not someone who is entirely comfortable with monogamy, that is a whole other conversation. I have had a long standing fantasy which I definitely want to make a reality of my better half having another lover / lovers, but I stay faithful to her and enjoy it vicariously though her. Not a true cuck as I dont enjoy the idea of being humiliated etc, for me it is about reclaiming and dominating and "punishing" my other half for being naughty, and having some competition to outperform.
So my question. What was it that made you take the leap?
For the ladies, did you start from a position of "no way in hell" and gradually warm to it? Was it always something you wanted? Or have you always struggled to be monogamous and found someone to embrace it with?
For the men, the stags or the cucks, was it a creep towards being turned on by this? Did you catch your partner cheating and realised it turned you on? Was it always a turn on?
For me it has slowly crept up on me and comes from having experienced threesomes and being bull to hotwife / cuck couples and realising I want to try being on the other aide of it and enjoying my partners pleasure in experiencing new people.
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You sound more stag n vixen. That is what our couple profile is. |
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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
"For the hotwives and the cuckold couples out there.
I am not someone who is entirely comfortable with monogamy, that is a whole other conversation. I have had a long standing fantasy which I definitely want to make a reality of my better half having another lover / lovers, but I stay faithful to her and enjoy it vicariously though her. Not a true cuck as I dont enjoy the idea of being humiliated etc, for me it is about reclaiming and dominating and "punishing" my other half for being naughty, and having some competition to outperform.
So my question. What was it that made you take the leap?
For the ladies, did you start from a position of "no way in hell" and gradually warm to it? Was it always something you wanted? Or have you always struggled to be monogamous and found someone to embrace it with?
For the men, the stags or the cucks, was it a creep towards being turned on by this? Did you catch your partner cheating and realised it turned you on? Was it always a turn on?
For me it has slowly crept up on me and comes from having experienced threesomes and being bull to hotwife / cuck couples and realising I want to try being on the other aide of it and enjoying my partners pleasure in experiencing new people.
You sound more stag n vixen. That is what our couple profile is. "
Kind of, but in truth if she was having sex with other men, I dont think I would want to fuck other women. |
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"Kind of, but in truth if she was having sex with other men, I dont think I would want to fuck other women. "
That's a common thing in the hotwife scene dude.. don't worry about labels. Just do what feels good. If you're all consenting adults, what's there to lose xx |
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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
"I'll add- I often don't have interest in other women myself. Sharing K is far more hot to me than fucking other people.
If everyone's enjoying themselves, who tf cares what you call it "
Thanks. And your profile is great! |
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"I'll add- I often don't have interest in other women myself. Sharing K is far more hot to me than fucking other people.
If everyone's enjoying themselves, who tf cares what you call it "
sharing is caring .. compersion… happy wife happy life x |
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Seems a rather obvious thing to put but conversation with each other and then take it from there with us it was after we'd had a F/F/M and Mrs4 saying she'd like to try a M/M/F and so we did but not into humilation etc.... |
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"I'll add- I often don't have interest in other women myself. Sharing K is far more hot to me than fucking other people.
If everyone's enjoying themselves, who tf cares what you call it sharing is caring .. compersion… happy wife happy life x"
Compersion - precisely |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
as one of those who thinks alot of people who think they are cuckold are in fact not most are hotwife or stag and vixen these two groups have made cuckolding easier to identify for sure ...op is deffo not cuckold as someone has said they are stag and vixen ...
some labels are important in some groups because they matter its a identity thats important for some that includes loads of cuckold couples the big difference for labels use is real cuckold couples who live this lifestyle and those who use it just as fantasy there a massive difference between these two groups ..
and this is in no way knocking anyone as both are ''right'' but very different go on a real cuckold forum (best ones are private and invite only keeping it real cuckold) and see the difference in how people talk about it its night and day mind you it also helps that those forums are couples only ...its the same with several real kinks and fetishes that have there own sites and the compare those who have the same kinks on fab again its night n day ....
porn cuckold /fantasy cuckold there is often reclaim sex but in the real cuckold world or hardcore cuckold world there really is not a cuck cannot please his wife no matter what is the general way of thinking..
so there are 2 sides to a very complex subject real or fantasy what you are well who care's and enjoy but dont knock those who live it for real ie its there sex life 24/7 and this is a swinging site so kinks and fetish is never going to be talk about in a proper manner...
do what you want and enjoy real or fantasy
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
technically you could call all swinging couple who meet guys cuckold couples as the original meaning before kink and 100s of years old in writing form was ..
to seed another mans wife or just like the cukoo bird to put a baby in another mans wife for the other man to bring up ..those are the historic meanings of cuckold |
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"as one of those who thinks alot of people who think they are cuckold are in fact not most are hotwife or stag and vixen these two groups have made cuckolding easier to identify for sure ...op is deffo not cuckold as someone has said they are stag and vixen ...
some labels are important in some groups because they matter its a identity thats important for some that includes loads of cuckold couples the big difference for labels use is real cuckold couples who live this lifestyle and those who use it just as fantasy there a massive difference between these two groups ..
and this is in no way knocking anyone as both are ''right'' but very different go on a real cuckold forum (best ones are private and invite only keeping it real cuckold) and see the difference in how people talk about it its night and day mind you it also helps that those forums are couples only ...its the same with several real kinks and fetishes that have there own sites and the compare those who have the same kinks on fab again its night n day ....
porn cuckold /fantasy cuckold there is often reclaim sex but in the real cuckold world or hardcore cuckold world there really is not a cuck cannot please his wife no matter what is the general way of thinking..
so there are 2 sides to a very complex subject real or fantasy what you are well who care's and enjoy but dont knock those who live it for real ie its there sex life 24/7 and this is a swinging site so kinks and fetish is never going to be talk about in a proper manner...
do what you want and enjoy real or fantasy
##justmyopinion "
This seems to be a very sensible perspective. Something that i (mr) finds particularly annoying is when the partner or husband of a hotwife is assumed to be cuckold. Many examples of this are to be found in posts on Fab forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as one of those who thinks alot of people who think they are cuckold are in fact not most are hotwife or stag and vixen these two groups have made cuckolding easier to identify for sure ...op is deffo not cuckold as someone has said they are stag and vixen ...
some labels are important in some groups because they matter its a identity thats important for some that includes loads of cuckold couples the big difference for labels use is real cuckold couples who live this lifestyle and those who use it just as fantasy there a massive difference between these two groups ..
and this is in no way knocking anyone as both are ''right'' but very different go on a real cuckold forum (best ones are private and invite only keeping it real cuckold) and see the difference in how people talk about it its night and day mind you it also helps that those forums are couples only ...its the same with several real kinks and fetishes that have there own sites and the compare those who have the same kinks on fab again its night n day ....
porn cuckold /fantasy cuckold there is often reclaim sex but in the real cuckold world or hardcore cuckold world there really is not a cuck cannot please his wife no matter what is the general way of thinking..
so there are 2 sides to a very complex subject real or fantasy what you are well who care's and enjoy but dont knock those who live it for real ie its there sex life 24/7 and this is a swinging site so kinks and fetish is never going to be talk about in a proper manner...
do what you want and enjoy real or fantasy
##justmyopinion "
I think before signing up to this site I always thought it was a cuckold fetish which I liked but in reality we are heading more down the route of the Stag&Vixen/Hotwife with some mild cuckold stuff added to it. Probably like a lot of people on here. |
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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
"as one of those who thinks alot of people who think they are cuckold are in fact not most are hotwife or stag and vixen these two groups have made cuckolding easier to identify for sure ...op is deffo not cuckold as someone has said they are stag and vixen ...
some labels are important in some groups because they matter its a identity thats important for some that includes loads of cuckold couples the big difference for labels use is real cuckold couples who live this lifestyle and those who use it just as fantasy there a massive difference between these two groups ..
and this is in no way knocking anyone as both are ''right'' but very different go on a real cuckold forum (best ones are private and invite only keeping it real cuckold) and see the difference in how people talk about it its night and day mind you it also helps that those forums are couples only ...its the same with several real kinks and fetishes that have there own sites and the compare those who have the same kinks on fab again its night n day ....
porn cuckold /fantasy cuckold there is often reclaim sex but in the real cuckold world or hardcore cuckold world there really is not a cuck cannot please his wife no matter what is the general way of thinking..
so there are 2 sides to a very complex subject real or fantasy what you are well who care's and enjoy but dont knock those who live it for real ie its there sex life 24/7 and this is a swinging site so kinks and fetish is never going to be talk about in a proper manner...
do what you want and enjoy real or fantasy
##justmyopinion
I think before signing up to this site I always thought it was a cuckold fetish which I liked but in reality we are heading more down the route of the Stag&Vixen/Hotwife with some mild cuckold stuff added to it. Probably like a lot of people on here."
Goes to show labels dont always help much. |
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"For the hotwives and the cuckold couples out there.
I am not someone who is entirely comfortable with monogamy, that is a whole other conversation. I have had a long standing fantasy which I definitely want to make a reality of my better half having another lover / lovers, but I stay faithful to her and enjoy it vicariously though her. Not a true cuck as I dont enjoy the idea of being humiliated etc, for me it is about reclaiming and dominating and "punishing" my other half for being naughty, and having some competition to outperform.
So my question. What was it that made you take the leap?
For the ladies, did you start from a position of "no way in hell" and gradually warm to it? Was it always something you wanted? Or have you always struggled to be monogamous and found someone to embrace it with?
For the men, the stags or the cucks, was it a creep towards being turned on by this? Did you catch your partner cheating and realised it turned you on? Was it always a turn on?
For me it has slowly crept up on me and comes from having experienced threesomes and being bull to hotwife / cuck couples and realising I want to try being on the other aide of it and enjoying my partners pleasure in experiencing new people.
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I can totally relate to this. I too started off cuckolding couples and absolutely love it but because I'm quite specific about what I like I don't get to enjoy the cuckolding dynamic as much as I would like.
On the flip side I now absolutely salivate at the idea of my partner being fucked by other guys, so much so that when dating I no longer have any interest in monogamous women. |
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By *amspoons OP Man
over a year ago
North East |
"For the hotwives and the cuckold couples out there.
I am not someone who is entirely comfortable with monogamy, that is a whole other conversation. I have had a long standing fantasy which I definitely want to make a reality of my better half having another lover / lovers, but I stay faithful to her and enjoy it vicariously though her. Not a true cuck as I dont enjoy the idea of being humiliated etc, for me it is about reclaiming and dominating and "punishing" my other half for being naughty, and having some competition to outperform.
So my question. What was it that made you take the leap?
For the ladies, did you start from a position of "no way in hell" and gradually warm to it? Was it always something you wanted? Or have you always struggled to be monogamous and found someone to embrace it with?
For the men, the stags or the cucks, was it a creep towards being turned on by this? Did you catch your partner cheating and realised it turned you on? Was it always a turn on?
For me it has slowly crept up on me and comes from having experienced threesomes and being bull to hotwife / cuck couples and realising I want to try being on the other aide of it and enjoying my partners pleasure in experiencing new people.
I can totally relate to this. I too started off cuckolding couples and absolutely love it but because I'm quite specific about what I like I don't get to enjoy the cuckolding dynamic as much as I would like.
On the flip side I now absolutely salivate at the idea of my partner being fucked by other guys, so much so that when dating I no longer have any interest in monogamous women."
Absolutely. If ever I end up single (likely), then I will never pursue a monogamous relationship again. |
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Similar to OP completely turned off by any humiliation aspects so probably stag/vixen for us. It started when I (mr) had a dream about her giving another man a blowjob. It was unexpectedly massively horny! I mentioned it to Mrs who at the time said no way not into that at all. Over the years though weve talked about it, she warmed to it and weve roleplayed it so many times and it's our go to fantasy when we are both turned on. So we have our first meet in a week or so and we cant wait! We both like the thought of the reclaim sex in the context of her being 'naughty' by sleeping with someone else |
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