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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive wanted to join another couple for a while now so i can satisfy one of my all time fantasies of having a 3some. The reason it would have to be another couple is the wife has always said no when ive broached the subject of us inviting another woman into our bed, but recently ive been having deeper fantasies about seeing her with another guy so i want to know the best way to broach this with her.
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"How did you broach the subject of bringing another woman into your sex life? Approach bringing another man in, in the same way "
Can I join you and hubby… naked tiddlywinks and see where it leads xxx |
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"How did you broach the subject of bringing another woman into your sex life? Approach bringing another man in, in the same way
Can I join you and hubby… naked tiddlywinks and see where it leads xxx"
Who's providing the tiddly wink?  |
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"How did you broach the subject of bringing another woman into your sex life? Approach bringing another man in, in the same way
Can I join you and hubby… naked tiddlywinks and see where it leads xxx
Who's providing the tiddly wink? "
My tiddly and you wink it!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How did you broach the subject of bringing another woman into your sex life? Approach bringing another man in, in the same way "
Well she knows how much id like to have an ffm 3some as ive made it quite obvious in the past. Is it not most mens fantasy?
but we've never really spoken about another guy/couple apart from me hinting at the fact that she really enjoys both her holes being full so maybe but it got brushed off as usual. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask her about her own fantasies, and then maybe in a sexual context try some dirty talk based around her fantasies and see what kind of fires you can get burning."
Youd think id know all this after 19 years but shes a closed book when it comes to this sort of thing |
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"How did you broach the subject of bringing another woman into your sex life? Approach bringing another man in, in the same way
Well she knows how much id like to have an ffm 3some as ive made it quite obvious in the past. Is it not most mens fantasy?
but we've never really spoken about another guy/couple apart from me hinting at the fact that she really enjoys both her holes being full so maybe but it got brushed off as usual."
I don't know then. I do know that most women respond to emotional intimacy and back away from pressure. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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"Ask her about her own fantasies, and then maybe in a sexual context try some dirty talk based around her fantasies and see what kind of fires you can get burning.
Youd think id know all this after 19 years but shes a closed book when it comes to this sort of thing"
if you dont know her then how is anyone else going to help ? only you can talk to her just be honest with her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ask her about her own fantasies, and then maybe in a sexual context try some dirty talk based around her fantasies and see what kind of fires you can get burning.
Youd think id know all this after 19 years but shes a closed book when it comes to this sort of thing
if you dont know her then how is anyone else going to help ? only you can talk to her just be honest with her"
Good point. |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"Youd think id know all this after 19 years but shes a closed book when it comes to this sort of thing"
Okay so it seems like there's some work to do within the relationship before you can even begin to think about adding in others. This may be something she's never going to be interested in, first of all. All the more reason to try and find out what she IS interested in as a baseline, and then you can build upon it from there. But forcing these things with pressure will only have the opposite effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ask her about her own fantasies, and then maybe in a sexual context try some dirty talk based around her fantasies and see what kind of fires you can get burning.
Youd think id know all this after 19 years but shes a closed book when it comes to this sort of thing"
Look up 'mojo upgrade'. |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago
About 3 feet away from the fence |
Sounds as if she clearly isn't into it. You should just leave her alone & then you need to decide whether you can live without fulfilling this fantasy or not.
Alot of fantasies rarely live up to expectations 
A threesome where one of the participants are obviously unwilling is probably not going to be as good in reality. |
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Wtf ! This is why we don’t meet single guys ( cause they ain’t “single” guys most of the time and to be fair this applies to single women too.
If you have a partner who doesn’t know you are here then you ain’t a swinger, you’re a cheater.
In our opinion this lifestyle is a joint choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a wife that won't swing, where do you go with that? Many men fall into this scenario "
Get rid! What use is a woman if she won't satisfy your sexual fantasies?
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Good luck getting my partner to swing is rare. But when she does she’s a monster!!! lol
You can’t force it. But I often will be talking the through a scenario while we’re fucking.
Talking about her being touched and her tits sucked while I’m actually spoon fucking her nice slow and deep.
I’ll gently part her lips and flicker her clit with a feather light touch and ask her if she can feel that warm breath as she licks her clit while I slide deep into her wet juicy pussy.
She loves it. Eyes closed fantasising I feel her pussy tighten on my cock the deeper she gets into it.
I love it. But when I broach the idea when we’re not fucking there’s no appetite for it.
So I want to get her into a hotel and start the proceedings and at the right moment get someone to knock on the door…. |
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"Having a wife that won't swing, where do you go with that? Many men fall into this scenario
Get rid! What use is a woman if she won't satisfy your sexual fantasies?
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WOW!!! How do I Fab this comment!!!?
Although I completely disagree as this goes totally against my code of ethics. I love how you think and if it works for you then who am I to judge.
I hope you never meet an abuser (unless you’re into being abused).
I love a woman with a dirty mind who knows how to please as well as receive.  |
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"Good luck getting my partner to swing is rare. But when she does she’s a monster!!! lol
You can’t force it. But I often will be talking the through a scenario while we’re fucking.
Talking about her being touched and her tits sucked while I’m actually spoon fucking her nice slow and deep.
I’ll gently part her lips and flicker her clit with a feather light touch and ask her if she can feel that warm breath as she licks her clit while I slide deep into her wet juicy pussy.
She loves it. Eyes closed fantasising I feel her pussy tighten on my cock the deeper she gets into it.
I love it. But when I broach the idea when we’re not fucking there’s no appetite for it.
So I want to get her into a hotel and start the proceedings and at the right moment get someone to knock on the door…."
I hope you don't do that. |
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"Having a wife that won't swing, where do you go with that? Many men fall into this scenario
Get rid! What use is a woman if she won't satisfy your sexual fantasies?
WOW!!! How do I Fab this comment!!!?
Although I completely disagree as this goes totally against my code of ethics. I love how you think and if it works for you then who am I to judge.
I hope you never meet an abuser (unless you’re into being abused).
I love a woman with a dirty mind who knows how to please as well as receive. "
ty
I am pretty sure the comment was ironic. |
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"Good luck getting my partner to swing is rare. But when she does she’s a monster!!! lol
You can’t force it. But I often will be talking the through a scenario while we’re fucking.
Talking about her being touched and her tits sucked while I’m actually spoon fucking her nice slow and deep.
I’ll gently part her lips and flicker her clit with a feather light touch and ask her if she can feel that warm breath as she licks her clit while I slide deep into her wet juicy pussy.
She loves it. Eyes closed fantasising I feel her pussy tighten on my cock the deeper she gets into it.
I love it. But when I broach the idea when we’re not fucking there’s no appetite for it.
So I want to get her into a hotel and start the proceedings and at the right moment get someone to knock on the door…."
…don’t do that. |
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"Having a wife that won't swing, where do you go with that? Many men fall into this scenario
Get rid! What use is a woman if she won't satisfy your sexual fantasies?
WOW!!! How do I Fab this comment!!!?
Although I completely disagree as this goes totally against my code of ethics. I love how you think and if it works for you then who am I to judge.
I hope you never meet an abuser (unless you’re into being abused).
I love a woman with a dirty mind who knows how to please as well as receive. ty
I am pretty sure the comment was ironic."
You can’t be sure. It takes all sorts. I’ve actually met people with that kind of mindset. Some men like getting kicked in the balls!!!
But either way my response was honest and I can also appreciate the irony.  |
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"Having a wife that won't swing, where do you go with that? Many men fall into this scenario
Get rid! What use is a woman if she won't satisfy your sexual fantasies?
WOW!!! How do I Fab this comment!!!?
Although I completely disagree as this goes totally against my code of ethics. I love how you think and if it works for you then who am I to judge.
I hope you never meet an abuser (unless you’re into being abused).
I love a woman with a dirty mind who knows how to please as well as receive. ty
I am pretty sure the comment was ironic.
You can’t be sure. It takes all sorts. I’ve actually met people with that kind of mindset. Some men like getting kicked in the balls!!!
But either way my response was honest and I can also appreciate the irony. "
That balls kicking came out wrong. It should’ve had it’s own line or paragraph. Maybe e.g preceding it. |
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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Ive wanted to join another couple for a while now so i can satisfy one of my all time fantasies of having a 3some. The reason it would have to be another couple is the wife has always said no when ive broached the subject of us inviting another woman into our bed, but recently ive been having deeper fantasies about seeing her with another guy so i want to know the best way to broach this with her.
Help please peeps."
Why don’t you ask her if she’ll go to a club with you, just to experience the scene without any pressure of any play. You never know, she might have some ideas of her own |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Good luck getting my partner to swing is rare. But when she does she’s a monster!!! lol
You can’t force it. But I often will be talking the through a scenario while we’re fucking.
Talking about her being touched and her tits sucked while I’m actually spoon fucking her nice slow and deep.
I’ll gently part her lips and flicker her clit with a feather light touch and ask her if she can feel that warm breath as she licks her clit while I slide deep into her wet juicy pussy.
She loves it. Eyes closed fantasising I feel her pussy tighten on my cock the deeper she gets into it.
I love it. But when I broach the idea when we’re not fucking there’s no appetite for it.
So I want to get her into a hotel and start the proceedings and at the right moment get someone to knock on the door…."
Sounds like a great plan there's nothing hotter than knowing the person you trust most has set you up for a threesome to fulfill their fantasy that they want.I can't see what could possibly go wrong at all,there's no way she would feel completely set up and betrayed  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
So many threads like this ,who are here behind their wives backs & want to make them swing.
Sit & have an adult conversation with her op about her fantasies and what she'd like to try,at min sounds like it's all about you.
If swinging isn't on the list you have to accept it's not her thing & hope she's doesn't catch you on a site behind her back. |
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Maybe I’m old fashioned but fuckinghell have a conversation with her .
.If I found out my husband was on here and was writing posts asking people how to talk to me I would leave him not for being on fab but for not being able to have a conversation with someone he’s supposed to love. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Maybe I’m old fashioned but fuckinghell have a conversation with her .
.If I found out my husband was on here and was writing posts asking people how to talk to me I would leave him not for being on fab but for not being able to have a conversation with someone he’s supposed to love."
Totally agree, might be the fear being put In the dog house |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"Good luck getting my partner to swing is rare. But when she does she’s a monster!!! lol
You can’t force it. But I often will be talking the through a scenario while we’re fucking.
Talking about her being touched and her tits sucked while I’m actually spoon fucking her nice slow and deep.
I’ll gently part her lips and flicker her clit with a feather light touch and ask her if she can feel that warm breath as she licks her clit while I slide deep into her wet juicy pussy.
She loves it. Eyes closed fantasising I feel her pussy tighten on my cock the deeper she gets into it.
I love it. But when I broach the idea when we’re not fucking there’s no appetite for it.
So I want to get her into a hotel and start the proceedings and at the right moment get someone to knock on the door…."
Good god |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And here i was thinking honesty was the best policy!
Well i'd like to thank you all for your oppinions and advices but i think this has russtled a few more feathers than i would have like it to and also made me realise that there are far too many judgemental people around here considering where you all are!
The fantasy will stay just that and i'll satisfy my own desires as and when possible.
Dont regret the things you didnt do and all that. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"And here i was thinking honesty was the best policy!
Well i'd like to thank you all for your oppinions and advices but i think this has russtled a few more feathers than i would have like it to and also made me realise that there are far too many judgemental people around here considering where you all are!
The fantasy will stay just that and i'll satisfy my own desires as and when possible.
Dont regret the things you didnt do and all that."
Op honesty is the best policy which is why many have advised you to sit and have an adult talk with your partner & see what her fantasies are etc. |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago
About 3 feet away from the fence |
"The fantasy will stay just that and i'll satisfy my own desires as and when possible.
So the dishonest route, then?
*sigh*"
Well it's still better he does that rather than trying to coerce his missus into doing something she clearly isn't keen on. |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"Well it's still better he does that rather than trying to coerce his missus into doing something she clearly isn't keen on."
Is it, really? Hmm. I very much doubt many ladies would opt for a partner/husband that lies, cheats and sneaks around on them over one that tries, however clumsily and tactlessly, to come to them openly and honestly about their desires.
Also, this mindset assumes there aren't better, alternative routes available apart from attempted coercion and cheating. Which I also think is incorrect. |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago
About 3 feet away from the fence |
"Is it, really? Hmm. I very much doubt many ladies would opt for a partner/husband that lies, cheats and sneaks around on them over one that tries, however clumsily and tactlessly, to come to them openly and honestly about their desires."
Either way, it will be out in the open that he has this fantasy he wishes to fulfill.
If he tells her with a view to trying to talk her into doing it, best case scenario, she is going to be put under implicit pressure to yield to his fantasy in order to salvage the relationship, by doing something against her will.
If she goes through with it, it won't be with full enthusiasm if I'm reading OPs characterization of her correctly, the fact that her hubby/boyfriend is openly seeking sexual activity away from the home doesn't just go away, and if I was her, I would be wondering if I'm going to be expected to do other things in order to keep him sexually content. This is very likely to breed longer term resentment. Possibly even longer than the resentment she would feel if he just went off had a 3some behind her back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having a wife that won't swing, where do you go with that? Many men fall into this scenario
Get rid! What use is a woman if she won't satisfy your sexual fantasies?
WOW!!! How do I Fab this comment!!!?
Although I completely disagree as this goes totally against my code of ethics. I love how you think and if it works for you then who am I to judge.
I hope you never meet an abuser (unless you’re into being abused).
I love a woman with a dirty mind who knows how to please as well as receive.
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I am pretty sure the comment was ironic."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And here i was thinking honesty was the best policy!
Well i'd like to thank you all for your oppinions and advices but i think this has russtled a few more feathers than i would have like it to and also made me realise that there are far too many judgemental people around here considering where you all are!
The fantasy will stay just that and i'll satisfy my own desires as and when possible.
Dont regret the things you didnt do and all that."
Any idea what swinging is? Clearly not. Hence why swingers are judging you! |
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