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Married men yes or no? We kind of think yes as they are more discreet but then it’s the moral side. |
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For us it depends on the person, it’s not our business why people are on here. For us it’s more important that there’s an attraction and connection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We mainly play in clubs and if a guy's there then you presume that he is single
But if he isn't it's no of our business.
But we will not knowingly the meet a married man |
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Love a hot husband but the wife needs to consent to it, definitely. I love it when a wife offers me her hubby for one night of fun   |
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"Love a hot husband but the wife needs to consent to it, definitely. I love it when a wife offers me her hubby for one night of fun "
you can borrow Andy but only if I can watch? Kelly x |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
"Married men yes or no? We kind of think yes as they are more discreet but then it’s the moral side."
How about married men with permission? Best of both worlds.  |
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Married men always say they have permission but strangely the wife is never available to confirm it!
Plus they seem to be so unlucky with broken down cars, family emergencies, dead dog, caught in a tsunami, plague etc. Unless it’s in a club we steer clear. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
No as they are restricted when they can go out, like to play during the day and most won’t go to a club |
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Absolutely yes for me. I’m also more than happy with hubs playing solo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Married men yes or no? We kind of think yes as they are more discreet but then it’s the moral side."
It's their morals that are the issue not yours. He's cheating, not you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ll meet most as long as they are up front about it x |
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Not all are cheating. There are loads of women on here who say they need to be discreet too.
Hot wives are championed on here but hot husbands are not! |
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We don't knowingly meet married men but probably have done. It's not our business but we'd rather not be involved |
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It’s a no from us, even if they do supposedly have permission from the other half |
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It depends on a person to person basis for us |
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It's a NO from us, don't condone any kind of cheating. Wont be responsible for someone else's hurt. |
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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago
watford |
Personal preference only bit when I used to swing with the ex wife she said she wanted married men as they had more to lose and and such would stay strangers.
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No as they are unreliable |
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By *ucelleCouple
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
Prefer discreet married men Fun and no strings |
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"has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sums"
If they can accommodate they’re more likely to be single- there are obvious tell tale signs! Also if the number of men outnumber women by huge sums then how can there be a cheating woman for every cheating man? |
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I'm taking an interest in this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sums"
You're spot on there. I'm so used to these types of questions being directed against men, I never thought to bring this up. Also, generally speaking, there seems to be this opinion that men cheat and women cheat, but when women cheat, it's because they're in a loveless marriage therefore justifying the cheating. |
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Genuinely not bothered as long as they turn up  |
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we made a rule, no
then we kind of broke it,
a couple of times
oops |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
"No as they are unreliable "
Out of interest what makes a married man more unreliable than a man with a girlfriend or a single man? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sumsYou're spot on there. I'm so used to these types of questions being directed against men, I never thought to bring this up. Also, generally speaking, there seems to be this opinion that men cheat and women cheat, but when women cheat, it's because they're in a loveless marriage therefore justifying the cheating."
Maybe the man is in a loveless marriage |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sumsYou're spot on there. I'm so used to these types of questions being directed against men, I never thought to bring this up. Also, generally speaking, there seems to be this opinion that men cheat and women cheat, but when women cheat, it's because they're in a loveless marriage therefore justifying the cheating.
Maybe the man is in a loveless marriage "
Maybe or just like the best of both worlds |
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"No as they are unreliable "
I am, it’s true.  |
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"Married men yes or no? We kind of think yes as they are more discreet but then it’s the moral side.It's their morals that are the issue not yours. He's cheating, not you."
Rubbish. If you are knowingly meeting a man/woman who is cheating on their wife/husband...you are just as much at fault |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sums
If they can accommodate they’re more likely to be single- there are obvious tell tale signs! Also if the number of men outnumber women by huge sums then how can there be a cheating woman for every cheating man?"
simple answer is there are not as many women into swinging as with couples too these sites attract men that does not mean there are more cheating men than women there are just as many ...as for spotting them i agree there are many tale tale signs but if you think you 100% can guarantee hes/she is not married then your wrong there will alway be those who will simply lie so well that it will fool anyone..
anyone who thinks it mainly men that cheat needs to give their head a wobble there are plenty of cheating women on here .... and one of the biggest groups of cheats on here are one half of couples who swing on here its a reason i stop couples from messaging as i got fed up with one half asking but not wanting their other half to know .... cheats in all genders and of all walks of life even swingers who can have it all cheat |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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im a swinger im here with my own profile and my joint one with my hubs been in this lifestyle for 30 years id someone lies to meet me or us then that doies not make us wrong that does not make us marriage wreakers that firmly on the shoulders of the person cheating ..
about 16 years ago we had that knock on the door from a calm woman who looked sheepish asking why her husband had visted and long story kept short we told her we never knew and that we were swinger we are still friends today she is no longer with him and she plays at local clubs and living life
a cheat will always get caught in the end but thats their choice im not going to waste my time checking every person ive slept with their lives is just that their lives ...im not here to judge anyone |
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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago
Skegness |
Not for us as we like regulars and that's hard with married men even them with wife's full appval |
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"Love a hot husband but the wife needs to consent to it, definitely. I love it when a wife offers me her hubby for one night of fun "
I think it's mostly down to trust, honesty and a calculated risk of getting caught by the unknowing partner. Let's not forget that it's the same for married females too, and I've met one or two ladies who were on Fab without the knowledge or consent of their husbands, so it made me feel a bit anxious and possibly put me off having some fun with them.
I'll just point out that I'm married too, but I also have a couples profile with my wife. However, the reason I have a singles profile is because she has been trying to pimp me out to females and MF/FF couples but, sadly, no-one has accepted her offer!  |
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This year is the first time I've knowingly let a married man in my bed, and that is with full consent from the wife. I don't like to play with people who are dishonest with their spouse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t mind them being married.
I get frustrated that hubby is allowed to meet alone but 99% of the women he speaks to say they won’t meet him cos he’s married. |
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We won't knowingly meet a married person unless we know the spouse. Mrs S said she wouldn't like it done to her so tries not to encourage it.
That said you only have the person's word to go on so do you really ever know for sure. |
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Only meet in clubs, if he's married and there without his wife's consent, that's none of my concern. He's there for a reason and I'm not one to judge. If there's an attraction, I'll play |
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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago
Newferry, wirral |
prefer married if im meeting a guy on his own more discrete, which suits me, and less likely to message at 2 am having just got in from a club d*unk and with with a hard on |
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A no for me! Whilst I respect its their choice not judging them! Just won't b part of their deception! I had arranged to meet a local newbie this coming Tues for coffee! He then told me he is married! So I've retracted the meet! Shame but it is what it is! Better to put it on profile I think x |
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By *nmkinkCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Yes no problem, it happens
Can be a turn on |
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"Married men yes or no? We kind of think yes as they are more discreet but then it’s the moral side.It's their morals that are the issue not yours. He's cheating, not you."
It would b my issue if I was enabling his cheating? X |
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It's a yes from me, we all have reasons and life is rarely as black and white as some would paint it. |
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Very interesting comments on here |
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"has nothing to do with me im not in there shoes i dont walk thier path so im not going to judge ... and to be honest theres no real way of knowing anyway people lie so the chances are you will meet married even if you are set againts it ..
also why are these post always titled married men ?? why not just married after all for every man that cheats theres a woman doing so too ...it only stands out on here because men outnumber women by huge sums"
Well said. |
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I've met more than one cheating woman on fab so yes it's both sexes. Bottom line is they all had their different reasons, all were up front and all were a flipping good fuck tbh. I think the less we all judge the better. Just be kind. X |
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When I first joined it was because I caught my ex cheating. I stayed with her another couple years til the kids went to college. What was good for the goose etc. I also tried to talk to her about coming on here if she wanted other men but was horrified!  |
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everyone has there reasons for coming on here, most guys we have met have been married and all have told us, yes we had sex with them knowing that they where married, but there was good grounds for them being on here , most did not get sex at home due to one thing or another , i am not making excuses,is it not better they meet and have fun without consequences, or meet another woman and leave his wife , also more woman cheat then men, men have to go out and look, a woman goes to work gets to know a guy there and without her husband knowing is coming home with her lovers cum inside her |
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It's a no from us, same goes for married women too, I'm not one for breaking a home, I'm looking for fun.
Mrs |
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It’s not in my profile because I just got abusive messages but anyone I chat to about meeting I’m always upfront about my situation.
Hence no verifications since I rejoined. |
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By *iss E99TV/TS
over a year ago
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No for 2 reasons.
1. I think it’s wrong to cheat on your partner.
2. They are to unreliable, having to plan, meet and play behind their partners backs.
If they have real permission or their partners involved totally different story. |
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People want sex, some are quite happily monogamous, some aren't. The problem arises when one partner is monogamous and has no idea the other isn't. |
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I don’t have permission as such but she knows and accepts it as long as I am discreet about it. That means I have to pick and choose when I meet others so I’m not rubbing it in her face. We have our reasons for doing this. |
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"No as they are unreliable
Out of interest what makes a married man more unreliable than a man with a girlfriend or a single man?"
Because men who live alone (single or girlfriend) don't have to justify disappearing out the house for a couple of hours.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know a couple on the club scene who met a single guy who said he was single etc.
A week after the meet the dickhead left himself logged in on fab. His pregnant wife found his fab account read all his messages between him and the couple he met.
In her hurt and devastation all her hurt and venom was aimed squarely at the couple he met as they were the dirty immoral swingers who corrupted him. It's got incredibly nasty she told all the couples family members she could find on social media including the couples 15 year old daughter. She printed nude pictures that the couple shared via fab with her hubby and placed them on cars in the lady of the couples workplace. She turned up at the house having gained the address via fab messages making a huge scene in front of the couples neighbours. The police were involved and charges brought.
The female of the couple ended up having a mental breakdown due to the months of abuse and stress they were put under including been forced out of her job.
They took a break for 2 years and only recently, tentatively started going back to the club only.
Now they were lied to and an innocent party and deserved none of what happened. The cheating hubby got off Scot free and is still on fab trying to cheat even now.
Now the question is if the cheating hubby was honest and the couple still met him and this happened would they have deserved it and a culpable party in the cheating. To add the couple this happened to would never have met him if he was honest up front.
Why the fuck would an honest open couple risk that type of drama and destruction in thier lives?
KJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know a couple on the club scene who met a single guy who said he was single etc.
A week after the meet the dickhead left himself logged in on fab. His pregnant wife found his fab account read all his messages between him and the couple he met.
In her hurt and devastation all her hurt and venom was aimed squarely at the couple he met as they were the dirty immoral swingers who corrupted him. It's got incredibly nasty she told all the couples family members she could find on social media including the couples 15 year old daughter. She printed nude pictures that the couple shared via fab with her hubby and placed them on cars in the lady of the couples workplace. She turned up at the house having gained the address via fab messages making a huge scene in front of the couples neighbours. The police were involved and charges brought.
The female of the couple ended up having a mental breakdown due to the months of abuse and stress they were put under including been forced out of her job.
They took a break for 2 years and only recently, tentatively started going back to the club only.
Now they were lied to and an innocent party and deserved none of what happened. The cheating hubby got off Scot free and is still on fab trying to cheat even now.
Now the question is if the cheating hubby was honest and the couple still met him and this happened would they have deserved it and a culpable party in the cheating. To add the couple this happened to would never have met him if he was honest up front.
Why the fuck would an honest open couple risk that type of drama and destruction in thier lives?
KJ "
In her mentally disturbed state she's shifted the moral 'bad guy' onto herself. What hubby did may well have been horrible but what she did was worse and of course, the police got involved. The couple didn't lure him into their 'wicked ways'. The decision to 'shop around' for pussy and then cheat, was entirely made by him.
This is always going to cause disagreement with people here, with some entirely on the wifes side and others on the couples side. Each to their own judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know a couple on the club scene who met a single guy who said he was single etc.
A week after the meet the dickhead left himself logged in on fab. His pregnant wife found his fab account read all his messages between him and the couple he met.
In her hurt and devastation all her hurt and venom was aimed squarely at the couple he met as they were the dirty immoral swingers who corrupted him. It's got incredibly nasty she told all the couples family members she could find on social media including the couples 15 year old daughter. She printed nude pictures that the couple shared via fab with her hubby and placed them on cars in the lady of the couples workplace. She turned up at the house having gained the address via fab messages making a huge scene in front of the couples neighbours. The police were involved and charges brought.
The female of the couple ended up having a mental breakdown due to the months of abuse and stress they were put under including been forced out of her job.
They took a break for 2 years and only recently, tentatively started going back to the club only.
Now they were lied to and an innocent party and deserved none of what happened. The cheating hubby got off Scot free and is still on fab trying to cheat even now.
Now the question is if the cheating hubby was honest and the couple still met him and this happened would they have deserved it and a culpable party in the cheating. To add the couple this happened to would never have met him if he was honest up front.
Why the fuck would an honest open couple risk that type of drama and destruction in thier lives?
KJ In her mentally disturbed state she's shifted the moral 'bad guy' onto herself. What hubby did may well have been horrible but what she did was worse and of course, the police got involved. The couple didn't lure him into their 'wicked ways'. The decision to 'shop around' for pussy and then cheat, was entirely made by him.
This is always going to cause disagreement with people here, with some entirely on the wifes side and others on the couples side. Each to their own judgement."
When the couple have asked the question as they did are you single and the cheating hubby has said yes then for us the couple this happened to were not in the wrong at all in any way shape or form. They are purely innocent victims.
Now had that couple (like some in this thread) asked the question are you single and the cheating hubby said no I'm married and she doesn't know then in that situation that at least share some of the blame. If that was the case would they have deserved thier whole lives been turned upside down I don't know but at least they would have had an opportunity to avoid that happening.
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What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does |
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does "
Anyone fucking around without their spouse's enthusiastic consent is cheating. |
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does "
Of course it's cheating x |
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does "
The sympathy will always be with the woman rather than the man who is left feeling unloved and craving intimacy. It's not always cut and dried |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know a couple on the club scene who met a single guy who said he was single etc.
A week after the meet the dickhead left himself logged in on fab. His pregnant wife found his fab account read all his messages between him and the couple he met.
In her hurt and devastation all her hurt and venom was aimed squarely at the couple he met as they were the dirty immoral swingers who corrupted him. It's got incredibly nasty she told all the couples family members she could find on social media including the couples 15 year old daughter. She printed nude pictures that the couple shared via fab with her hubby and placed them on cars in the lady of the couples workplace. She turned up at the house having gained the address via fab messages making a huge scene in front of the couples neighbours. The police were involved and charges brought.
The female of the couple ended up having a mental breakdown due to the months of abuse and stress they were put under including been forced out of her job.
They took a break for 2 years and only recently, tentatively started going back to the club only.
Now they were lied to and an innocent party and deserved none of what happened. The cheating hubby got off Scot free and is still on fab trying to cheat even now.
Now the question is if the cheating hubby was honest and the couple still met him and this happened would they have deserved it and a culpable party in the cheating. To add the couple this happened to would never have met him if he was honest up front.
Why the fuck would an honest open couple risk that type of drama and destruction in thier lives?
KJ In her mentally disturbed state she's shifted the moral 'bad guy' onto herself. What hubby did may well have been horrible but what she did was worse and of course, the police got involved. The couple didn't lure him into their 'wicked ways'. The decision to 'shop around' for pussy and then cheat, was entirely made by him.
This is always going to cause disagreement with people here, with some entirely on the wifes side and others on the couples side. Each to their own judgement.
When the couple have asked the question as they did are you single and the cheating hubby has said yes then for us the couple this happened to were not in the wrong at all in any way shape or form. They are purely innocent victims.
Now had that couple (like some in this thread) asked the question are you single and the cheating hubby said no I'm married and she doesn't know then in that situation that at least share some of the blame. If that was the case would they have deserved thier whole lives been turned upside down I don't know but at least they would have had an opportunity to avoid that happening.
KJ"
I agree with the first part of what you said but I still say the couple didn't deserve what happened to them, whether they knew he was married or not. Certainly not having their friends and family brought into it, nor the physical harrassment. That being said, because his wife was pregnant, then some of what she did can be forgiven. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does
The sympathy will always be with the woman rather than the man who is left feeling unloved and craving intimacy. It's not always cut and dried "
Agreed. There's no all encompassing answer to this. We can't say cheating, regardless of the reasons behind it, is always wrong. Unless you're extremely religeous and believe in the sanctity of marriage, no matter what. |
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"That being said, because his wife was pregnant, then some of what she did can be forgiven."
I'm not sure actively trying to destroy someone's life is excusable regardless of hormone levels. |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
"That being said, because his wife was pregnant, then some of what she did can be forgiven.
I'm not sure actively trying to destroy someone's life is excusable regardless of hormone levels."
Right!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That being said, because his wife was pregnant, then some of what she did can be forgiven.
I'm not sure actively trying to destroy someone's life is excusable regardless of hormone levels."
I know, but it's more understandable than if there was no pregnancy issue and this was a simple case of hubby playing away. Although I did say SOME of what she did can be forgiven. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My favourite |
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"I know, but it's more understandable than if there was no pregnancy issue and this was a simple case of hubby playing away. Although I did say SOME of what she did can be forgiven."
Being upset and lashing out, yeah okay.
Actively trying to fuck over these people directly to their family and colleagues? Fuck no. Not acceptable under any circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Married women also play away - all those unfaithful married men aren't all shacked up with single women. I've had several affairs with married women because they gave us both what we needed at the time. Some people find that wrong, others don't, it's a free country.
You could argue that fab is a swinger site with different "rules" but I wouldn't agree. As long as men and women are clear about their status, it's down to your personal choice. (And your willingness to put up with the practical difficulties!) |
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"I'm married "
Do you want a round of applause?! |
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"I'm married
Do you want a round of applause?!"
I imagine he wants a shag |
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does "
Of course it's cheating if your doing it behind her back and lying, why not be honest and say I need more, discuss like adults and find a compromise?
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"I'm married
Do you want a round of applause?!
I imagine he wants a shag "
I'd never have guessed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know, but it's more understandable than if there was no pregnancy issue and this was a simple case of hubby playing away. Although I did say SOME of what she did can be forgiven.
Being upset and lashing out, yeah okay.
Actively trying to fuck over these people directly to their family and colleagues? Fuck no. Not acceptable under any circumstances."
If I was a woman who's husband, the man she adored and worshipped and who's baby was growing inside me decided to shag someone else and I found out about it, who know's how I'd react? Who knows how any of us would react in that situation.
I'm condoning or condemning anything I might do, just stating a fact. |
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does
Of course it's cheating if your doing it behind her back and lying, why not be honest and say I need more, discuss like adults and find a compromise?
Mrs "
What is the compromise if one wants sex and the other doesn’t? Regardless of which way round it is. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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We know a couple on the club scene who met a single guy who said he was single etc.
A week after the meet the dickhead left himself logged in on fab. His pregnant wife found his fab account read all his messages between him and the couple he met.
In her hurt and devastation all her hurt and venom was aimed squarely at the couple he met as they were the dirty immoral swingers who corrupted him. It's got incredibly nasty she told all the couples family members she could find on social media including the couples 15 year old daughter. She printed nude pictures that the couple shared via fab with her hubby and placed them on cars in the lady of the couples workplace. She turned up at the house having gained the address via fab messages making a huge scene in front of the couples neighbours. The police were involved and charges brought.
The female of the couple ended up having a mental breakdown due to the months of abuse and stress they were put under including been forced out of her job.
They took a break for 2 years and only recently, tentatively started going back to the club only.
Now they were lied to and an innocent party and deserved none of what happened. The cheating hubby got off Scot free and is still on fab trying to cheat even now.
Now the question is if the cheating hubby was honest and the couple still met him and this happened would they have deserved it and a culpable party in the cheating. To add the couple this happened to would never have met him if he was honest up front.
Why the fuck would an honest open couple risk that type of drama and destruction in thier lives?
KJ In her mentally disturbed state she's shifted the moral 'bad guy' onto herself. What hubby did may well have been horrible but what she did was worse and of course, the police got involved. The couple didn't lure him into their 'wicked ways'. The decision to 'shop around' for pussy and then cheat, was entirely made by him.
This is always going to cause disagreement with people here, with some entirely on the wifes side and others on the couples side. Each to their own judgement.
When the couple have asked the question as they did are you single and the cheating hubby has said yes then for us the couple this happened to were not in the wrong at all in any way shape or form. They are purely innocent victims.
Now had that couple (like some in this thread) asked the question are you single and the cheating hubby said no I'm married and she doesn't know then in that situation that at least share some of the blame. If that was the case would they have deserved thier whole lives been turned upside down I don't know but at least they would have had an opportunity to avoid that happening.
KJ"
I agree if you knowingly meet married/attached men or women ,then you need to be prepared for any consequences arising from that ,as you've taken a risk with full knowledge.
If someone lies about being attached that's very different,people should at least be upfront with others,so they can choose to meet or not .
This example proves why lying about being attached can cause drama for others when they had bi idea. |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"No idea even "
I was in two minds about that. |
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"If I was a woman who's husband, the man she adored and worshipped and who's baby was growing inside me decided to shag someone else and I found out about it, who know's how I'd react? Who knows how any of us would react in that situation.
I'm condoning or condemning anything I might do, just stating a fact."
I personally have done some things that I regret, that I do not consider excusable. And if the people I put at risk during those things want to hate me, I understand, and I don't ask them for forgiveness or try to make excuses. The effects of the things we do can leave lasting ripples that negatively affect people for years, regardless of the original intent or how emotionally unstable we were at the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I was a woman who's husband, the man she adored and worshipped and who's baby was growing inside me decided to shag someone else and I found out about it, who know's how I'd react? Who knows how any of us would react in that situation.
I'm condoning or condemning anything I might do, just stating a fact.
I personally have done some things that I regret, that I do not consider excusable. And if the people I put at risk during those things want to hate me, I understand, and I don't ask them for forgiveness or try to make excuses. The effects of the things we do can leave lasting ripples that negatively affect people for years, regardless of the original intent or how emotionally unstable we were at the time."
This was never going to be an easy issue to talk about was it, let alone come to any agreement lol |
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It’s none of our business if they are or not married but we tend to stay clear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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... poor guys have suffered enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s none of our business if they are or not married but we tend to stay clear "
And unless you do some Scotland yard level detective work, you'll never really know anyway, unless there's the telltale mark on his finger where he's removed his wedding band. |
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"Absolutely yes for me. I’m also more than happy with hubs playing solo "
You’re a keeper - bet you know the offside rule as well  |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"It's a NO from us, don't condone any kind of cheating. Wont be responsible for someone else's hurt. "
Tar brush at the ready….. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s none of our business if they are or not married but we tend to stay clear
And unless you do some Scotland yard level detective work, you'll never really know anyway, unless there's the telltale mark on his finger where he's removed his wedding band."
You can never be 100% I agree ,but there are often red flags that someone's attached. |
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"I'm married
Do you want a round of applause?!"
No, but I'll go an ice cream |
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"I'm married
Do you want a round of applause?!
I imagine he wants a shag "
No ta.
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"I'm married
Do you want a round of applause?!
No, but I'll go an ice cream "
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I don't care about people and their reason for being here.
That's their own moral compass they need to deal with as it's them not me who's potentially cheating.
Clubs, non one knows anyones situation really
As a match for what I'm looking for in respect of fwb then no I don't go down that road because ultimately they can't provide what I want.. they say they can...but never irl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about sexless marriages is that cheating if wife does not want sex but hubby does
The sympathy will always be with the woman rather than the man who is left feeling unloved and craving intimacy. It's not always cut and dried "
100% agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a swingers site not a dating site.. that’s your answer. This is only my opinion but it’s no good lambasting married guys when married couples are doing the same meeting others …ok they may have permission but that doesn’t take away the ring. It’s a tough cookie the answer is never going to be right as we have all joined here for one reason….let’s not forget that! |
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"This is a swingers site not a dating site.. that’s your answer. This is only my opinion but it’s no good lambasting married guys when married couples are doing the same meeting others …ok they may have permission but that doesn’t take away the ring. It’s a tough cookie the answer is never going to be right as we have all joined here for one reason….let’s not forget that! "
Rubbish. Married couples meeting others together is completely different from meeting another behind your husband/wife's back. And no, we haven't all joined here for one reason!! People join for whatever, and however they want to. Stop trying to justify cheating!! |
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By *rgoMan
over a year ago
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I really like your attitude.
Read yr profile and sympathise but couldn’t reply to you but would genuinely like to help as I’m in similar circumstances?
Rgds, David |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems to me that its little bit one rule for one and a different rule for others. Ive seen plenty of female profiles that say they are married but he dosent know that they are here. |
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"This is a swingers site not a dating site.. that’s your answer. This is only my opinion but it’s no good lambasting married guys when married couples are doing the same meeting others …ok they may have permission but that doesn’t take away the ring. It’s a tough cookie the answer is never going to be right as we have all joined here for one reason….let’s not forget that! "
Completely different! That's not cheating! X |
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"Seems to me that its little bit one rule for one and a different rule for others. Ive seen plenty of female profiles that say they are married but he dosent know that they are here."
The only difference is that men tend to care less about these things than women, so the women who cheat will face less judgement from the people they're trying to cheat with directly, but that doesn't mean they're any better than the men who do it. They just tend to have a more willing audience so a better reception.
I myself wouldn't want to be with a woman who was lying to her spouse either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think anyone has brought up the subject of affairs as opposed to cheating. Cheating is mainly about getting your rocks off, but when you have an affair, that sometimes means there's an emotional attachment to that other person, a love even.
While both constitute cheating, isn't an affair worse because of the emotional aspect?
If cheating is discovered then that still leaves some possibility of reconsiliation and councelling. But finding out your partner is having an affair, pretty much ends your marriage/relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate when married guys lie and say they’re single. It’s not worth getting involved with married men unless they have the permission of their partners. Once had someone’s wife messaging us begging to know if her husband was secretly with a man or a woman. She said they have children together and she was worried about him cheating and possibly being gay/bi. We’d never met him and only swapped a few messages. Ended up counselling her for which she thanked us. Luckily it ended up quite positive but could have been a total car crash! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems to me that its little bit one rule for one and a different rule for others. Ive seen plenty of female profiles that say they are married but he dosent know that they are here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a swingers site not a dating site.. that’s your answer. This is only my opinion but it’s no good lambasting married guys when married couples are doing the same meeting others …ok they may have permission but that doesn’t take away the ring. It’s a tough cookie the answer is never going to be right as we have all joined here for one reason….let’s not forget that!
Rubbish. Married couples meeting others together is completely different from meeting another behind your husband/wife's back. And no, we haven't all joined here for one reason!! People join for whatever, and however they want to. Stop trying to justify cheating!!"
You are also entitled to your views so I won’t comment |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
"Seems to me that its little bit one rule for one and a different rule for others. Ive seen plenty of female profiles that say they are married but he dosent know that they are here."
You said this half an hour ago. Yes, there are many double standards between men and women when it comes to sex, love, and relationships. Because men and women are different. I know that's a controversial fact nowadays... but it's still a fact.
In general, men care more about sexual infidelity, while women care more about emotional infidelity. And, as was said to you the first time around; the reason you seem to see more female profiles stating they are playing away and getting more success/less judgement from males... is because men generally don't care about it as much. Again, that's just the reality of the situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems to me that its little bit one rule for one and a different rule for others. Ive seen plenty of female profiles that say they are married but he dosent know that they are here.
You said this half an hour ago. Yes, there are many double standards between men and women when it comes to sex, love, and relationships. Because men and women are different. I know that's a controversial fact nowadays... but it's still a fact.
In general, men care more about sexual infidelity, while women care more about emotional infidelity. And, as was said to you the first time around; the reason you seem to see more female profiles stating they are playing away and getting more success/less judgement from males... is because men generally don't care about it as much. Again, that's just the reality of the situation."
I dont much care for your lectures dude but as for me repeating myself, it appears that for some reason my comment was posted twice without me knowing about it so i do apologise if this ground your gears in any way! |
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Don't believe it makes them more discreet at all as if they are capable of lying and stabbing their own partner in back then they are quite easily capable of doing it to random people on here!
Doesn't matter what cowardly sob story they have, they can't be trusted.
Avoid like the plague! |
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"Don't believe it makes them more discreet at all as if they are capable of lying and stabbing their own partner in back then they are quite easily capable of doing it to random people on here!
Doesn't matter what cowardly sob story they have, they can't be trusted.
Avoid like the plague!"
Cowardly? How ignorant are you? You don’t get to judge my situation. |
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"Don't believe it makes them more discreet at all as if they are capable of lying and stabbing their own partner in back then they are quite easily capable of doing it to random people on here!
Doesn't matter what cowardly sob story they have, they can't be trusted.
Avoid like the plague!
Cowardly? How ignorant are you? You don’t get to judge my situation. "
We can judge you and married cheats whatever way we want, that's our choice and opinion regarding married cowardly cheats.
See it from honest people's view, whatever reason you give how for being a love rat how exactly do you expect anyone to believe it when your not even honest with your own partner? |
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"Cowardly? How ignorant are you? You don’t get to judge my situation. "
Ooh, let me grab the popcorn. It's so much more fun when they try to justify it  |
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"Don't believe it makes them more discreet at all as if they are capable of lying and stabbing their own partner in back then they are quite easily capable of doing it to random people on here!
Doesn't matter what cowardly sob story they have, they can't be trusted.
Avoid like the plague!
Cowardly? How ignorant are you? You don’t get to judge my situation. "
But if you/others aren't doing it behind their backs and have permission etc then we see no issue with that. |
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