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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My fuck buddy and I tryed anal sex, its my first so i am inexperianced aswell, it hurt her lots, i used a condom and lots of lube,
i understand it would probably hurt the first few times, but weve tryed it a few times and still hurts, is their anything that can be used or should be done that i we didnt do i.e anal numbing that would help? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i find differe t positiona help me like if its doggy it hurts more on my back it doesnt as much , and warming ur arse up dirst helps fee fingers inside while being licked out gets me really going and relaxed x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You should just take your time do it slow. Well your profile name says it all. Sometimes that is the reason why it hurts.
Just ease yourself in slowly til your both comfortable, communicate and have a good time.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i find differe t positiona help me like if its doggy it hurts more on my back it doesnt as much , and warming ur arse up dirst helps fee fingers inside while being licked out gets me really going and relaxed x"
so probably best not to start with doggy?
and warm her ass up by licking and fingering?
should you clean/douche before anal? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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Firstly douche always for cleanliness. Use plenty of lube like Liquid Silk. Durex Play is often too tacky. Use one finger gently and slowly building up to more over a period of time. Perhaps slip in a small dildo or butt plug and play with pussy and clit at the same time. For actual penetration more lube. Ease in slowly and don't just ram in and hammer away. If you want more idea of what it feels like get her to do it to you. Then you will have a better understanding of what works and what causes pain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always knock before you go in (if you get my drift) Its a real tender area there,so it has to be a softly softly approach.And ALWAYS talk to your partner to make sure all is ok.
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"but is it normal to have pain on anal sex? i guess an ass wasnt made for a dick ramming it :S lol
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Ok how about I meet you to test that theory. I'll use lube then ram my largest dildo into you and see if its painful.
If that is how you treat a friend then how in earth do you treat women you've only just met? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well I've done it a few times now sometimes it hurts and other times it doesn't obviously bigger the cock more it hurts, the best anal I had was when he entered me doggy very slowly after using lube, and easing in very slowly then instead of ramming he gently went around in a grinding motion, felt amazing to be honest and only time I've really enjoyed anal, I have tried poppers doesn't do too much I didn't think, but I do like to be rimmed before hand he he  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?"
Maybe try a blow up doll to practice on if you need your partner not to feel what you are evidently intent on doing regardless. |
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"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?"
I just thought that.
If after lots of lube, building up to it and patience and relaxation it's still painful/making her gag etc then you might have to face it that she can't do it, some people just can't. Concentrate on other things you can do that are pleasurable for both off you. You might find that in a few weeks or months once the pressure is off her to do it then she will relax and it will come naturally.
And numbing her ass is a crazy idea, pain is the bodies way of telling you to ease up! You don't want her tearing! Ouch!! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?
Maybe try a blow up doll to practice on if you need your partner not to feel what you are evidently intent on doing regardless."
Try rohypnol , this should cause enough numbness for you to do what you like with her.
I on the other hand like my partner to feel the things we are doing together and most importantly to enjoy them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?
I just thought that.
If after lots of lube, building up to it and patience and relaxation it's still painful/making her gag etc then you might have to face it that she can't do it, some people just can't. Concentrate on other things you can do that are pleasurable for both off you. You might find that in a few weeks or months once the pressure is off her to do it then she will relax and it will come naturally.
And numbing her ass is a crazy idea, pain is the bodies way of telling you to ease up! You don't want her tearing! Ouch!! X"
when i say numbing, i was talking about the lube you by from shops like ann summers, for anal sex,, anal lube that slightly numbs the ass..nothing crude that ive made or got from a doctor to numb her ass! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi - it usually hurts if the guy just tries to push his way in - the opening isn't meant to open inwards, and that's what hurts! It's like trying to push a door open the wrong way...
Just push gently at the opening, and then get her to push out, as if she's trying to go to the loo...
Give her full control and go slowly, and she should just slowly open easily and she'll be able to slide back onto your nice firm cock...
Any pain at all and stop! Wait a while and try later.
There's more than one part of the opening, and the inner part is very delicate and sensitive, because it can rip if you just force it to stretch too quickly. Never use anything that numbs the pain - the pain is there for a reason!!!
Just go slowly, give her control, and she'll slowly stretch - then it's a lovely feeling once it's inside you!!!
I love it - just can't say no!
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"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?
I just thought that.
If after lots of lube, building up to it and patience and relaxation it's still painful/making her gag etc then you might have to face it that she can't do it, some people just can't. Concentrate on other things you can do that are pleasurable for both off you. You might find that in a few weeks or months once the pressure is off her to do it then she will relax and it will come naturally.
And numbing her ass is a crazy idea, pain is the bodies way of telling you to ease up! You don't want her tearing! Ouch!! X
when i say numbing, i was talking about the lube you by from shops like ann summers, for anal sex,, anal lube that slightly numbs the ass..nothing crude that ive made or got from a doctor to numb her ass! lol"
Yeah I know what you meant I've seen it in there. I still think that it's a crazy product. If you can get it in there without numbing stuff I think you should give up trying. Lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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yeah im seeing her tonight, think ill let her try 1 thing at a time obviously, she wants to try anal, so perhaps somthing like having some oral sex, getting her horny wet and relaxed, give her some intercourse..obviously not cum because ill be finished :D lol.. and squeeze lots of lube on her ass and let her all most of the work :d |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"yeah im seeing her tonight, think ill let her try 1 thing at a time obviously, she wants to try anal, so perhaps somthing like having some oral sex, getting her horny wet and relaxed, give her some intercourse..obviously not cum because ill be finished :D lol.. and squeeze lots of lube on her ass and let her all most of the work :d"
What a lucky girl.  |
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"yeah im seeing her tonight, think ill let her try 1 thing at a time obviously, she wants to try anal, so perhaps somthing like having some oral sex, getting her horny wet and relaxed, give her some intercourse..obviously not cum because ill be finished :D lol.. and squeeze lots of lube on her ass and let her all most of the work :d"
Sounds delightful...  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"well what wud u be doing then? u tell me what a plan would be thats nice and a way to try somthing we both want to try"
try a finger, then 2 and then work up to a smaller dildo, then and only then try your big cock... take your time |
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"well what wud u be doing then? u tell me what a plan would be thats nice and a way to try somthing we both want to try"
It's not that. It's just the way you've written it, it just reads funny. 'Give her some intercourse' lol.
I'm sure it's not the case but from the way you type it it seems like you are way more into this than she is, it's hard to communicate what you mean by just typing it out. I sometimes type things and delete them coz it sounds nasty/sarcastic/funny when I don't want it to be x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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sure no way meaning it rude or anything, just genuinly wanting advise i do have trouble making sence, in a clean sensible way rather than it sounding rude or somthig, my bad |
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"sure no way meaning it rude or anything, just genuinly wanting advise i do have trouble making sence, in a clean sensible way rather than it sounding rude or somthig, my bad"
 softly, gently and slowly. I'd def try a finger or two and maybe a small dildo or something first. But I have met people that literally cannot do it and if you are VWE you just might have to face that you can't x |
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Ask her to lie on her side with her knees bent - it's the position doctors use when doing a rectal exam.
It has the added bonus that you can have eye contact so you can communicate better.
As everyone else has said, lots of lube, the silicon stuff is great, and warm it up with fingers, your tongue if you fancy it and possibly a toy - but use a soft coated toy and be aware that internally it curves/bends so no ramming!
You will have to be rock hard - anal doesn't work if he's a little soft - and go really slowly till you've worked all the way in and let her choose the pace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone recieving anal should have douched first out of self respect and respect for their partner too.
Also take it easy, use plenty of lube and finger/s first then, when you have the end of your cock in, stay still, let her get used to it and let her continue with any moving.
If that fails........get a guy with a smaller cock to smash her back doors in! 
XXXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My fuck buddy and I tryed anal sex, its my first so i am inexperianced aswell, it hurt her lots, i used a condom and lots of lube,
i understand it would probably hurt the first few times, but weve tryed it a few times and still hurts, is their anything that can be used or should be done that i we didnt do i.e anal numbing that would help?"
u just have to be patient and go really slow at the start,she will mite used to it tho sum girls just dont like it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if it hurts, then maybe you need more lube, go slower.. little by little, and she needs to relax and open the anus, if you rush her, it'll slam shut and shove you out in the freezin cold, and hurt her!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say for me it's all about my mind. If I'm in the mood I can take a cock in my arse with a little gentle easing. Yet other times I can't even get a finger in
So sometimes it's not about the physical. |
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I have two words for you - passion and communication!! Take it from guy who understands this and has made women cum from anal sex! My claim to fame, lol...just joking.
As said previously, start with normal sex, get your partner relaxed, maybe give her what she wants - orgasms and be unselfish!!
Then lots of lube, one finger and in my experience not more than one.. Lots of lube and communication, kissing, touching and then the tip of your cock. Don't push suddenly! Should be gradual, lots of lube, and as said before, let her push out like she is in the loo whilst you push gently. It's like a choreography, lol!!and when you finally get in, stay there momentarily and let her move. Use lots of lube and then enjoy. But it should always be gentle, not hard! Remember it's not about you, but her! And if it hurts, stop ASAP.
Hope you both enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry but im sat here almost wetting myself reading this guys threads and the replies from fellow forumites.
Having spent most of today tidying and getting bits ready for tomorrow ive had a real good giggle.
My only question is ... Is he for real ? xx
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