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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental"
I think you're entitled to feel as you feel.
Everyone does swinging differently and if that doesn't suit you, you're well within your rights to say, "no thank you, we'll pass".
It's all about having fun and if something doesn't feel like fun, why do it? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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There's nothing wrong with feeling like that in the slightest. Likewise, if someone wants to be greedy. It's just not compatible with how you do things.
It's very much a not for me thing for various reasons but I get why some people are very much for it. |
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It's tricky. I totally understand your feelings but they are also their own person who has the right to do what they want too.
Provided they are respectful, clean and genuine you have no right to ask more.
For example, if they were to meet and not broadcast it would that be OK? If they had just run a marathon and were tired?
Where is the cut off? |
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental"
I've been in a queue before at a club for a particular guy. It doesn't bother me in the slightest.
However, that's the way my brain is wired and how I keep my feelings tightly guarded.
I understand that not everyone is like this. Sex for them is very much a deep emotional thing and I would say to anyone don't have sex that makes you feel bad before during or after for any reason.
Boundaries and communication are key.
Also swinging is not about being greedy.
Cringe at anyone who says this. There's a reason why there are special club nights for "greedy"/"gangbang" people. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental"
Not just that but I would be questioning their attitudes towards their own sexual health and then towards mine.
I don’t do quick hook ups for a reason, and have no desire to meet anyone who doesn’t take the risks with STI’s seriously. |
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Some people have a really high sex drive. I don't think it would bother me in the least so long as they were focused on me during our time together. Same as if they put up a meet request after we'd met. Fill your boots!  |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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At a club or party I would assume that a guy will be fucking multiple people during the night and have no problem with this.
A 1on1/threesome/foursome is different for me. I want a guy with a full tank who can go for hours so if I was his second (or subsequent) meet of the day and I knew about it then I would - and I have based on experience - send him packing. |
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental
Not just that but I would be questioning their attitudes towards their own sexual health and then towards mine.
I don’t do quick hook ups for a reason, and have no desire to meet anyone who doesn’t take the risks with STI’s seriously."
People can have many partners and as long as there practicing safer sex, it doesn't really matter, the risk is minimal.On the other hand someone can unsafe sex with one partner and the risk greatly increases..
In short it's not how many, it's what you do..
OP I think it's fine to respect differences and say how you feel. |
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental"
He was still up for meeting so I don't really see why it would matter what he does with the rest of his day.
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental"
Were you thinking of it as a fuck and go or had you put some serious effort into developing a relationship with him to make sure you are compatible before you do the deed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental"
100% agree with you as I’d do the same  |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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i would not want to meet a guy who already had a meet that day and for no other reason than ill not be getting 100% from him ..
its physically different for a woman we could go all day if we have the horn but a guy wont and thats the only reason.. when i meet a guy i want a fully charged battery |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d be worried about catching something cos you don’t know if they’re using protection. I’d decline it too. Also seems tacked on instead of doing it a different day
At least they’re honest though but you’re not obligated to meet |
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I agree, I wouldn't meet them either. I've not been meeting since I've been back but when I was meeting on my previous profile it was something I planned with the other person over a few weeks and as it got closer the excitement builds up, hoping the guy is as excited as me. On the day of the meet while I am showering and getting ready the thought of him with another woman as I dress to meet him would dry me up like an arabs sandal.
Same with a meet straight after being with me, it would make me feel like I hadn't satisfied him. Nope not for me at all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What if the guy had had a wank that morning?  "
Bit different from fucking someone else then fucking me a few hrs later, alot of guys wank before a meet im not silly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if we have a meet arranged and then you see that persons status asking for meets in the daytime of the same day and you question it, then get told, “oh I'm still up for meeting you guys as well I'm just greedy, thats what swinging is about”
Are we wrong to say no thanks?
Makes us feel second best or “in a queue” lol
Genuine question non judgemental
I think you're entitled to feel as you feel.
Everyone does swinging differently and if that doesn't suit you, you're well within your rights to say, "no thank you, we'll pass".
It's all about having fun and if something doesn't feel like fun, why do it?"
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