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“You can use me as you want”
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By *inklers OP Man
over a year ago
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If a meet said to you that you could do anything you wanted with them or use them as you like, what would you do?
Not sure if this is lack of fantasies or imagination on their part or just that they are happy for you to fulfil your fantasies with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a meet said to you that you could do anything you wanted with them or use them as you like, what would you do?
Not sure if this is lack of fantasies or imagination on their part or just that they are happy for you to fulfil your fantasies with them "
Be afraid, because that is a huge statement to make and really needs some negotiation before moving forward.
But maybe that's just me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would take it as ‘use whichever hole you want’ but that could just be me, as I’m always cautious with pushing anything beyond peoples boundaries unless I’m told specifically to do something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d need to be convinced we both had, and respected, safe words. Consent is everything
Isn’t them saying use me as you want consent?"
It very well could be, but if they changed their mind or it went too far I’d want to know |
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"Yup, it’s just smacks of lack of imagination or more probably just desperation/take anything they can get. Would be a no from me I’m afraid "
That's how it reads to me.
Said in the midst of passionate sex is slightly different though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d need to be convinced we both had, and respected, safe words. Consent is everything
Isn’t them saying use me as you want consent?"
I think it's best to establish Informed Consent, rather than just assuming consent has been given! |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I’d need to be convinced we both had, and respected, safe words. Consent is everything
Isn’t them saying use me as you want consent?"
I've had a couple of meets where there were 'no limits' and the discussions and negotiation around hard limits, consent and most importantly safety were lengthy to say the least.
Use me as you want isn't consenting to every act yiu can imagine it's consenting to every act they've considered and the 2 are unlikely to match |
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"If a meet said to you that you could do anything you wanted with them or use them as you like, what would you do?
Not sure if this is lack of fantasies or imagination on their part or just that they are happy for you to fulfil your fantasies with them "
They would be in for a shock when I had them round to wash up! |
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This thread just reminded me of something.
Years ago, I was seeing a girl. I’d been working late, alone at the studio, and she called round - a little d*unk and a lot horny. We ended up upstairs, where there was a little chillout room with a sofa. I had her bent over the sofa, and was fucking her from behind, slowly. I was leaning forward, my head beside hers, and she turned to whisper in my ear: “You can put it anywhere, you know.”
It didn’t change what I was doing. I didn’t suddenly pull out and ram it up her arse instead, or anything daft like that. It was just a very sexy moment. And it’s a hot memory.
So thanks OP, for triggering that. |
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"If a meet said to you that you could do anything you wanted with them or use them as you like, what would you do?
Not sure if this is lack of fantasies or imagination on their part or just that they are happy for you to fulfil your fantasies with them "
I would say that but add "within the set boundaries". There are always boundaries. Mrs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say they are trying to please you, everyone has boundaries and limits. Respect and understanding is important between both parties, then you can talk about acting out fantasies and such like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a meet said to you that you could do anything you wanted with them or use them as you like, what would you do?
Not sure if this is lack of fantasies or imagination on their part or just that they are happy for you to fulfil your fantasies with them "
Your probably making to easy for them. |
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