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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been discussing a full swap, but we want to take it at a pace we're both comfortable at. We have done soft stuff before and have really enjoyed it.
We've had the idea of finding a patient and understanding couple who wouldn't mind having a timed swap of something like 5 minutes. Long enough to know how it feels for each other, but not long enough so that there's no end in sight if one of us is getting jelly. Obviously, if we're really not enjoying it, we'd both just stop straight away. That's a given. After the five minutes, soft play / own partner stuff resumes 
Question... is this actually a crazy idea? Not seen anyone try this before, but feels like it might work well for us as an entry (pun intended) into fully swapping. All this is assuming we can find a mutually attracted couple who would be up for it.
Is this an okay idea? Any other suggestions? |
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Depends on what you mean by full swapping if you are in the same room it's pretty easy and relaxed in different rooms might be the same if you mean at different places with different partners would suggest only doing this with couples you feel a good connection with |
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"Depends on what you mean by full swapping if you are in the same room it's pretty easy and relaxed in different rooms might be the same if you mean at different places with different partners would suggest only doing this with couples you feel a good connection with"
Same room. Separate room didn't even occur to us. That's definitely not for us atm. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"We have been discussing a full swap, but we want to take it at a pace we're both comfortable at. We have done soft stuff before and have really enjoyed it.
We've had the idea of finding a patient and understanding couple who wouldn't mind having a timed swap of something like 5 minutes. Long enough to know how it feels for each other, but not long enough so that there's no end in sight if one of us is getting jelly. Obviously, if we're really not enjoying it, we'd both just stop straight away. That's a given. After the five minutes, soft play / own partner stuff resumes
Question... is this actually a crazy idea? Not seen anyone try this before, but feels like it might work well for us as an entry (pun intended) into fully swapping. All this is assuming we can find a mutually attracted couple who would be up for it.
Is this an okay idea? Any other suggestions? "
yes 5 minutes to find out if one of yous is getting jelly don't do it at all if you think your partner will be jealous  |
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"We have been discussing a full swap, but we want to take it at a pace we're both comfortable at. We have done soft stuff before and have really enjoyed it.
We've had the idea of finding a patient and understanding couple who wouldn't mind having a timed swap of something like 5 minutes. Long enough to know how it feels for each other, but not long enough so that there's no end in sight if one of us is getting jelly. Obviously, if we're really not enjoying it, we'd both just stop straight away. That's a given. After the five minutes, soft play / own partner stuff resumes
Question... is this actually a crazy idea? Not seen anyone try this before, but feels like it might work well for us as an entry (pun intended) into fully swapping. All this is assuming we can find a mutually attracted couple who would be up for it.
Is this an okay idea? Any other suggestions? yes 5 minutes to find out if one of yous is getting jelly don't do it at all if you think your partner will be jealous "
How can you possibly know how you’ll react until you’re in the moment. You can be as confident as you like that you’ll not be jealous but when it’s actually happening it could be a different story. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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We may be a bit far away and a bit too far up the cuddly scale (but we can write proper Englishings) for you guys, but we could offer a half-stop secenario....I (Bry) don't play but you (as a couple) are a perfect match for Char....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We may be a bit far away and a bit too far up the cuddly scale (but we can write proper Englishings) for you guys, but we could offer a half-stop secenario....I (Bry) don't play but you (as a couple) are a perfect match for Char....
(Bry)"
Thanks Bry. Excellent Englishings, but you're right about the distance and we're after a fully full swap... albeit only 5 minutes' worth |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Is this an okay idea? Any other suggestions? yes 5 minutes to find out if one of yous is getting jelly don't do it at all if you think your partner will be jealous
How can you possibly know how you’ll react until you’re in the moment. You can be as confident as you like that you’ll not be jealous but when it’s actually happening it could be a different story. "
Spot on (in our opinion). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is this an okay idea? Any other suggestions? yes 5 minutes to find out if one of yous is getting jelly don't do it at all if you think your partner will be jealous
How can you possibly know how you’ll react until you’re in the moment. You can be as confident as you like that you’ll not be jealous but when it’s actually happening it could be a different story.
Spot on (in our opinion). "
Sounds like something for us to get to in the future great thinking guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We can help you out, but we maybe inclined to take the battery out of the stopwatch 
The O’s x"
Lol Yeah with Jake and Becky i think we'd be tempted to use a stopwatch with a battery that was just about to die  |
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I’m assuming the soft swap stuff you have done up to now has included touching, maybe oral with hubby/wife of the couples you have met. If that’s the case and no signs of jealousy then I can’t see why one of you would all of a sudden get jealous. I think it would already be there.
If it’s a nerve thing, rather than the timer thing I’d try and make it more fun. Like a game of dares that stops when anyone wants it to. I bet you could find another couple up for that |
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Is this to see if you do get jealous or because you know you will and are guaging how low you can ensure the feeling?
All you can do is put the question to prospective meets and see if they agree. We go into any situation with the agreement that if one from any couple says stop we all stop but we've never had a pre agreed time limit. |
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We're not full swap but we've found the best thing (for us) to deal with jealousy is for both of us to be involved in everything. In your case, this could be taking soft play one step further. You're both bi-curious so that can open up more group play options.
Becky could be kissing the other lady whilst wanking jake before sliding his cock in her? Jake could do the same with the other guys cock to Becky from behind. I feel something like this would be a good half way step between full soft and full swap. You're not fully separated so you're not 'watching them with another person'.
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The problem you have with the 5 min thing is that in that 5 mins everything could be fine then 10,20 even 30 mins in something might happen it might not even be anything major but it might make you take a step back and then jealously sets in .
You need to find a couple that you are totally comfortable with and also who understand it’s your first time and this might happen.
In our early days we had slight signals it could be something like a squeeze of the hand just to let each other know that one of us wasn’t comfortable .
If you find the right couples they will be totally understanding of your situation. |
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We havnt swapped at all yet but have decided to go all in and full swap! Our view is to experience everything and then talk about it afterwards. Having said that if a couple suggested what you have suggested that wouldnt be an issue at all for us. I guess most couples would be respectful of your boundaries. Good luck and hope you find what you are looking for xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been discussing a full swap, but we want to take it at a pace we're both comfortable at. We have done soft stuff before and have really enjoyed it.
We've had the idea of finding a patient and understanding couple who wouldn't mind having a timed swap of something like 5 minutes. Long enough to know how it feels for each other, but not long enough so that there's no end in sight if one of us is getting jelly. Obviously, if we're really not enjoying it, we'd both just stop straight away. That's a given. After the five minutes, soft play / own partner stuff resumes
Question... is this actually a crazy idea? Not seen anyone try this before, but feels like it might work well for us as an entry (pun intended) into fully swapping. All this is assuming we can find a mutually attracted couple who would be up for it.
Is this an okay idea? Any other suggestions? "
No need for timer, it never works, just agree a codeword if one of you isn't happy. You will be fine though all couples are normally respectful especially the more experienced ones. Stay clear of clumsy beginners to start with though. |
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In my opinion code words aren't useful. Make it clear to each other and the people you meet that 'stop' means exactly that. It's unambiguous, easily understood and let's face it, a code word means exactly the same and nobody can claim later that they didn't know what you meant or forgot what the word was. |
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"It seems a bit too exact to expect others to reasonably fit in with
Haha yeah, totally. I think we're looking for the impossible with this one. "
I don’t know I reckon with the right couple you’d be fine! Someone who’s perhaps experienced and happy with soft swapping so you could all go back to that type if it’s too much! Maybe arrange a little phrase between you all. |
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