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So, Single Guy, Can Accommodate, Plenty Of Face Pics, Detailed Profile, Advice Needed
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I have done my best to provide a detailed profile, posted plenty of face and body pics, given a detailed description on my profile bio. Basically done all the things I was recommended to do when I posted a thread asking for feedback on my profile.
I know someone with lumps and bumps and wobbly bits isn't, everyone's cuppa of tea, but I am what I am, and have no intention of going to a gym, ever.thats just not me. I'm just wanting an honest opinion from ladies and couples as to where I'm still going wrong on here. Is my profile off putting? Is it my body that is off putting? |
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I’d advise that you need two things:
1: Perseverance
2: A reality check/ attitude adjustment
Specifically with regards to point 2, you need to accept that there’s no guarantees to using a site like this. By sheer numbers, single men far outnumber the other groups on here that they are often searching for (women & couples). So right off the bat, odds are not in your favor.
That said, you get what you put in (most of the time). A lot of it comes down to knowing how (and when) to advertise yourself properly, and being in the right place at the right time.
Finally, just try and be a part of the community. Chat in the forums/ chatrooms, etc. attend a socisl or two. Make some friends. The meets may come as a result.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could maybe smile in a couple of your photos? I don't know why, but for some reason men have a aversion to smiling on here haha Might not help, but worth a go. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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It's tough, no denying that. I think your best bet is to attend clubs or group socials.. then you can show your personality in person then too. It's also a great way to make new friends for sure 
Good luck bud  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could honestly have the most perfect profile in the history of FAB, but on this site it really boils down to luck of the draw for a few reasons.
1) Men outnumber the women on FAB by a factor of something like 100 to 1, but I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was actually WAAAAAY more than that.
2) Because we outnumber women so immensely, you can imagine how bombarded the women on this site get with messages, there's been numerous times where I've thought I didn't have a chance with someone after sending a message or two, only to get a reply back some time later apologising saying that my message/s simply got lost in the hundreds of other messages they had been receiving.
Asking people to review your profile means you are are going to find people picking up on trivial things to critique that actually have no sway on whether or not you will land a date/meet. These profile reviews people dish our are insignificant... unless of course you're pictures are of you in an SS Uniform and your description is an essay on how the Third Reich was the greatest thing since sliced bread, but I've looked at your profile and I don't see any SS Uniform OR Nazi propaganda, so honestly, I see nothing wrong with it what so ever.
So simply put, the reason you're struggling is because of the reason I said above, competition is rife because of the vast, vast majority of the FAB population being one sided and made up of us blokes! |
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Club are 100% the way forward now. I don’t meet off here anymore I only attend clubs. Got sick of crap meets where guys only wanted a quick fuck or was all about them ect. At the clubs you get to socialise and mix with so many people. It’s never a guarantee you’ll get to play but by meeting more people there is more off a chance. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
where your going wrong is simple your not allowing the fact that you are one of many 100/200 and maybe more per woman that makes it very hard for guys on this scene..
there is simple not someone for everyone and with so few women and couples its means most men wont get a look in ...
advice will not = meets ...someone wanting to meet you does that so imaginge lining up with say 100 men and theres one woman whos going to pick her meet just one that 99 disapointed men ..
then factor in how many couples and women dont meet via the site (clubs/socials only) then those couples and women who only come here to chat and not forgetting how many fake women and couples profile there are run by men wanting wanking material then then the women and couples are spreading thin .... but out of those that are left that do meet might meet only once a month or once every three months or be happy with a regular guy/guys and as you'll see the pool of women and couples is getting smaller and smaller..
oh and add to that couples that only meet couples and women and women who only meet other women and couples and the pool becomes a paddling pool with a sea of men as choice ..
so its very very hard for men for some impossible that the nature of the scene not just fab everywhere is the same ....its swinging not sec on a plate |
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Nothing wrong with your pics! Please don't put yourself down because the vast majority of people aren't looking for chiseled - except maybe the "attractive couples" with a detailed bullet point list 
For what it's worth (and I don't believe for a second this would impact on you getting meets) I noticed you repeat yourself a couple of times in your profile - Xeno x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could maybe smile in a couple of your photos? I don't know why, but for some reason men have a aversion to smiling on here haha Might not help, but worth a go. "
This. Most pics we see of guys they aren't smiling. People want to connect with nice people. Smiling shows warmth and that you're approachable. Not smiling looks moody and unapproachable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Smiling shows warmth and that you're approachable. Not smiling looks moody and unapproachable. "
Just like the way Ted Bundy smiled? Most Serial killers all have a repetitive trait, and that's excessive smiling.
But seriously, I honestly couldn't care less whether someone smiled or not, sometimes people actually look miles more attractive by intentionally not smiling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simply put swinging is not the golden ticket to easy sex. As a couple we get a huge volume of messages day in day out, from guys who either don't read our profile, or expect insta meets, or quite simply send the most mundane of messages. The few decent messages we get are often lost in amongst all these other messages. |
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"I shall say this again. You need to be a gold member for a full year ( no gaps ) to receive your vagina conveyor belt.
The mr "
What!!!! Been on here three years no gaps. Where is our vagina conveyor belt!!!!!
Op personally I think your profile is fine I did think when I looked photos of you smiling would be nice.
As others have said it’s a numbers game being in the right place at the right time can sometimes be all it takes.
Maybe have a look at your messages and try to improve on those might help get your foot in the door so to speak.
Good luck and don’t give up Op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This site is more of the hub of the online social side of swingers, full of chat and questions to answer. I wouldn’t look at it as the only place to find someone who might like to have sex with you.
But it can happen if you are lucky enough to get talking to people and trick them into likening you.  #theyknowwho *a joke |
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"I’d advise that you need two things:
1: Perseverance
2: A reality check/ attitude adjustment
Specifically with regards to point 2, you need to accept that there’s no guarantees to using a site like this. By sheer numbers, single men far outnumber the other groups on here that they are often searching for (women & couples). So right off the bat, odds are not in your favor.
That said, you get what you put in (most of the time). A lot of it comes down to knowing how (and when) to advertise yourself properly, and being in the right place at the right time.
Finally, just try and be a part of the community. Chat in the forums/ chatrooms, etc. attend a socisl or two. Make some friends. The meets may come as a result.
Good luck."
Have to agree with the attitude readjustment bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done my best to provide a detailed profile, posted plenty of face and body pics, given a detailed description on my profile bio. Basically done all the things I was recommended to do when I posted a thread asking for feedback on my profile.
I know someone with lumps and bumps and wobbly bits isn't, everyone's cuppa of tea, but I am what I am, and have no intention of going to a gym, ever.thats just not me. I'm just wanting an honest opinion from ladies and couples as to where I'm still going wrong on here. Is my profile off putting? Is it my body that is off putting? "
You are trying to cover all the bases which just makes you sound desperate. Try talking about what turns you on and what sort of person you would like to meet. Leave room for the other person to have to ask questions, as it stands you have answered them all up front. It's like dating, men try to hard and become boring, be mystical. |
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"Simply put swinging is not the golden ticket to easy sex. As a couple we get a huge volume of messages day in day out, from guys who either don't read our profile, or expect insta meets, or quite simply send the most mundane of messages. The few decent messages we get are often lost in amongst all these other messages. "
I always used to send well thought out detailed messages after reading a profile twice to make sure I hadn't missed anything, but after seeing all my messages just deleted unread I changed tack and now just send a wink. I look at it as testing the water to see if a couple are interested without wasting time sending well written messages only to see them not even looked at. If I don't receive a wink back, at least I havnt wasted time putting so much effort into a detailed message. |
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