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not bothered by looks ...

By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

so this seems to be a regular thing being said ...not bothered by looks ... anyone anything anywhere .... so my question is are you someone that looks for what attracts sexually or are you someone who really dont care and its all fun no matter what ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need a physical and mental connection. Maybe not connection but a definite attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Physical attraction is a must

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By *kyblue1878Couple over a year ago

Southport

There has to be an attraction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"so this seems to be a regular thing being said ...not bothered by looks ... anyone anything anywhere .... so my question is are you someone that looks for what attracts sexually or are you someone who really dont care and its all fun no matter what ??

I'm bothered by looks and often get called shallow on here cause of it.

But surely people want to be physically attracted to people they intend on having sex with?

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By *he ass man 666Man over a year ago

paradise city

Got to be an attraction for me, not one definitely look I’d go for but find different people attractive in different ways

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I need to find my partners physically attractive, but what I find attractive can vary.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There has to be a connection in my opinion. I think if there is a mental connection as well as physical then it can improve the experience for both. Makes it more fun too.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Everyone is bothered by looks, some people’s idea of attractiveness is what changes!

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By *hristopherd999Man over a year ago

Brentwood

Most who say that aren't being honest

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By *pstanding CitizenMan over a year ago

Nottingham

A connection yes, but not necessarily always attraction... And it's nice to have a bit of fun now and fun

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

"I need a physical and mental connection. Maybe not connection but a definite attraction. "

totally this i need sexual attraction and i need it both ways as well as mental connection nothing complicated just fun and understanding

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

A mental connection and a nice fun naughty personality, but hygiene is very important!

Don’t judge on looks

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Physical attraction all the way for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personality goes further than looks for me but I can find beauty is most people if I don't I wouldn't be able to perform

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

There has to be physical attraction. Doesn't matter how cool or compatible someone is if you can't bear to look at them.

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By *ipppyMan over a year ago

Poole

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shame you have an upper age limit if 60. All fun is good but prefer an attraction of some description. It’s not any port in a storm!

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

Looks are important to me. I wouldn't want to sleep with someone I didn't find physically attractive. But that attraction comes in many forms.

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

Physical attraction is a must for me , I want and need to lust after the person I am considering playing with

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

shame you have an upper age limit if 60. All fun is good but prefer an attraction of some description. It’s not any port in a storm!"

its not a shame at all thats my age limit it used to be 64 but the amount of men who lied about there age who were clearly alot older was very high so i reduce it i also brought the age up from 24 to 30 after finding out that 18.19 year olds where also lying about their age so sorry not a shame it is what it is for a reason

people have limits they stick to they have there reasons no point in moaning about that its not going to change

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By *amesBeelzebubMan over a year ago

norwich

For me there has to ne a physical attraction but the more I like someone and their company the more attractive I find them.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

There has to be an attraction for me, both physical & personality, I can't kiss a face I don't want to look at or spend time with someone I'm not comfortable talking with.

Mrs

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By *atcoupleCouple over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

It's personality and what kind of person they are that matters. If there is a connection on that basis then wahay!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

shame you have an upper age limit if 60. All fun is good but prefer an attraction of some description. It’s not any port in a storm!"

A shame for who?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I need to find my partners physically attractive, but what I find attractive can vary."

Yep, TentacleBrat nailed it. That’s how I feel too.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

Physical attraction of done form. That can be the entire face body etc equally it can be a specific aspect that is enough

If I was looking to date someone then the mental compatibility would eventually overtake the physical after initial attraction

I mean I am sure a good few people have been in big group sex scenarios in clubs / dark play areas and can’t really remember what the other person fully looked like , I know I have a few times

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By *lutandhubbyCouple over a year ago

west midlands

Personality goes further than looks with us. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find very few men ( who would be interested in me)physically attractive enough to have sex with on first sight. However intelligence and good conversation often makes me change my mind.

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

"Physical attraction of done form. That can be the entire face body etc equally it can be a specific aspect that is enough

If I was looking to date someone then the mental compatibility would eventually overtake the physical after initial attraction

I mean I am sure a good few people have been in big group sex scenarios in clubs / dark play areas and can’t really remember what the other person fully looked like , I know I have a few times

nope i can tell you 100% no one has ever had a free ride and ive had a couple gangbangs but they were totally hand picked by me i cannot have sex with someone thats not sexually attrative to me ...been to clubs where quite often i wont play because no one is on my radar male or female ....i wont use dark rooms or glory holes

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No,there has to be a real attraction for me to consider a meet.I'd rather not bother otherwise ,this is why I rarely meet anyone nowadays.

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

"Personality goes further than looks with us. xxx

i think most look for Personality as well but are you saying that if you were not sexually attracted you would still play ? not picking a fight just generally very interested

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

"Personality goes further than looks with us. xxx

Glad I’m not the only one

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

God no, has to be attraction on multiple levels

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

"Physical attraction of done form. That can be the entire face body etc equally it can be a specific aspect that is enough

If I was looking to date someone then the mental compatibility would eventually overtake the physical after initial attraction

I mean I am sure a good few people have been in big group sex scenarios in clubs / dark play areas and can’t really remember what the other person fully looked like , I know I have a few times

Hence I said a good few people and not all

I don’t use those rooms but some clubs are very dark In areas especially fetish ones or some private parties

All have to roll how we enjoy it I guess. Generally I prefer a simple 1 on 1 meet in a hotel for a couple hours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are generally talking utter shite when they say this.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

"People are generally talking utter shite when they say this.

In your opinion x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's rare for me to look at someone and think damn he/she is fine. Rod was the first person in years that I was attracted to before he even opened his mouth.I can appreciate a good looking person but it's their personality that does it for me the majority of the time. Luckily we're a good match.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are generally talking utter shite when they say this.

In your opinion x "

I'm not saying personality doesn't count, but you need the physical attraction as well.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Has to b a physical attraction x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

Right and that can be a thing from a simple big ass / pair of tits / a guys dick shape etc. some people don’t need an overall attraction just one part to trigger off and able to bang away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wasn't persuaded by anyone saying that.... and then I joined Fab. It became apparent that for every woman, no matter how they look, there is a guy that would fuck her.

I need physical attraction, and I need them to not look, sound, or act thick.... that includes their messages and profile. That applies to men, women and couples. We do not want to get naked with stupid people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We genuinely look for people who we can connect with. Laughter, confidence and adventure. Push the fun xxx nothing else matters. Sorry one thing. Won't play with anyone same age or younger than our kids. But that doesn't count...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as the person is nice I'm happy. Looks are secondary to personality

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By *ornycougaWoman over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Physical attraction is essential - face and body. I cannot believe the number of guys (not bashing guys here - just a personal observation) who are looking to meet on the basis on pics of below the neck only. For all they know I could have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

and to add im even more picky with women so its not a guy thing ... attraction is the first step once pass that then we can work on personality and mental connections so its not only attraction alot of hot (to me) people dont make it past the message stage or after the first meet

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By *rlandoMan over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Chemistry and attraction is important, thats not about looks, until you meet them you won t know ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry but if you don't find someone attractive what are the chances that you would even respond to their initial message in order to find out what their personality is like???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I call bullshit, there's no way someone would shag someone unattractive. Just desperate.

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

As long as the person is nice I'm happy. Looks are secondary to personality "

ok so whats ''nice''

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

please dont private me that 9 just blocked in one swoop keep it to the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh there definately has to be an attraction there or it an absolute no go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Physical attraction is essential - face and body. I cannot believe the number of guys (not bashing guys here - just a personal observation) who are looking to meet on the basis on pics of below the neck only. For all they know I could have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp"

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it men saying it?

Cause if so I think there's your answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Scary movie taught me you just need paper bags for those situations!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

How can you tell if you're attracted to a personality or there's a connection until you're face to face?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can you tell if you're attracted to a personality or there's a connection until you're face to face? "

From the way they come across on fab

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

She can be DDG, but if her voice grates me, or there's no feeling of chemistry in action, or I feel that she's ignoring me etc, then I'm not interested.

When the sparks' gone, it's gone.

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

"How can you tell if you're attracted to a personality or there's a connection until you're face to face? "

How did pen pals cope with this before photos were common place?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"How can you tell if you're attracted to a personality or there's a connection until you're face to face?

From the way they come across on fab

It's quite easy (in my opinion) to be quite different on line than in person

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"How can you tell if you're attracted to a personality or there's a connection until you're face to face?

How did pen pals cope with this before photos were common place?"

The percentage of penpals who met and had sex was probably quite small I reckon.

I'm not saying it's not possible. I am saying it's not possible for me because I've seen too many people be very different on line.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Physical attraction is a must

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have in the past met some people that I wasn't initially attracted to but when I got to know them they became more attractive to me. But usually there has to be both physical attraction and someone I can get on well with.

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By *ornycougaWoman over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

Young lady?! Been a while since I was called that, you devil!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can you tell if you're attracted to a personality or there's a connection until you're face to face?

From the way they come across on fab

It's quite easy (in my opinion) to be quite different on line than in person "

I'm a little less irritating in real life so I think you're spot on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

Young lady?! Been a while since I was called that, you devil!

Weren't you literally called it yesterday by someone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

He's right they don't, I've looked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

He's right they don't, I've looked. "

Fab and bearded looks fab and is bearded so I think you'll just have to do with him. If he's not too busy fucking a car or something

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never liked labels. But keep getting told I'm Pansexual. And agree with that, based on my understanding of it.

Which I believe is what this chat is about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Attraction is a must

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm physically attracted to the vast majority of women, so no, looks aren't important to me.

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By *alleyDaveMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"A mental connection and a nice fun naughty personality, but hygiene is very important!

Don’t judge on looks"

This 100% for me too. A fantastic personality and a great, dry sense of humour (I'm old school when it comes to humour), are the biggest turn ons for me.

Sadly though these days I think too much is placed on body type for a lot of people.

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By *alleyDaveMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"It's personality and what kind of person they are that matters. If there is a connection on that basis then wahay!!"

Totally agree

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By *entBarryUKMan over a year ago

Ashford

This site is all about the physical attraction first and then hopefully the personality attraction comes later. I have to have a connection first, usually personality/wit, because I don't fancy people who I don't get on with. The more fun and confident you are, the more of a connection we are likely to have.

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By *inkyguy12Man over a year ago

my own little world

I must say I do find a person that can turn my brain on is what gets my attention first then looks second, so if they have a well written profile makes them stand out to me

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By *ot - CoupleCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

Has to be a physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in the ‘I’m not into looks’ gang. I’m demisexual so a mental/emotional connection is more important to me. Physical attraction is secondary to that x

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By *ttis669Man over a year ago

I've noticed that there has to be an attraction for me, however that attraction fluctuates, and is often triggered by the connection, or some feature about someone. My attraction to people varies from person to person with their personality tbh, so I guess for me it's not all about looks, but yes I have to be attracted to them mentally!

I've been hugely attracted to people that I never thought were good lookong before I spoke to them, and massively offcut by people after meeting despite thinking they were good looking!

Sometimes it can be the smallest thing, like the way they smile, or their confidence, or even their dress sense!

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By *xeter_lad19Man over a year ago

exeter

For me there has to me some attraction but I get far more turned on by personality and mental connection.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple over a year ago

Portstewart

Need to have mental connection and a social to see if there are sparks looks wouldn’t be at the top of the list. Yes it helps but not everyone is a GQ or Victoria’s Secret model and we know that.

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman over a year ago

Midlothian

I don't really care about body type. Most faces are attractive to me if the smile is approachable and friendly. Anyone can be attractive with a warm smile and good chat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't really care about body type. Most faces are attractive to me if the smile is approachable and friendly. Anyone can be attractive with a warm smile and good chat.

Well said totally agree with you x

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By *unnyman84Man over a year ago

maidstone

"I don't really care about body type. Most faces are attractive to me if the smile is approachable and friendly. Anyone can be attractive with a warm smile and good chat.

Sorry what did you say?? I was too busy looking at your tits

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By *unnyman84Man over a year ago

maidstone

"Need to have mental connection and a social to see if there are sparks looks wouldn’t be at the top of the list. Yes it helps but not everyone is a GQ or Victoria’s Secret model and we know that."

I’ve got ADHD and I bet you wouldn’t give me the time of day for having that

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By *reeneggsandsamMan over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Everyone is different, physically and emotionally, that's the point.

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By *yorks4couplesMan over a year ago

doncaster

Met people who was instantly attracted too then soured, slso met people who grew on me all about timing id say but if the attraction stays always a bonus

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

I’ve got ADHD and I bet you wouldn’t give me the time of day for having that"

Eh??

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman over a year ago

Midlothian

Sorry what did you say?? I was too busy looking at your tits"

I said your username is a fallacy.

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By *urrey Dave 69Man over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey

For me to play with someone there doesn’t have to be a physical attraction but there can’t be a physical revulsion. I suppose the easiest way to describe it is that I don’t like extremes, too fat, too old, too skinny, too tall, too small, very bad skin condition, bad breath etc. Attitude and personality are the most important factors but there still is a need for some level of physical connection.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan over a year ago

Bradford

It doesn't matter to me how physically attractive you are .

I'm not interested in fucking you

Unless I've got a meeting of minds

First and your willing to engage in conversation to find out what we both desire inoder to have a for filling experience for both of us.

I may be desperate for sex not having any for a while now .

But without the terms and conditions met above I ain't doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I need a physical and mental connection. Maybe not connection but a definite attraction. "

100% this....cant fuck for sake of it. Needs to be bith of the above.....coming from me the Shrek lookalike

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personality is alot more attactive than looks. you could be stunning but if your up your own arse and judgemental you wouldnt be attractive.

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By *TG3Man over a year ago

Dorchester

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I care about it all I want a person I like who looks and smells great and who has a great personality

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By *rettyflamingoWoman over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

There has to be an attraction there for me , whether that be physically or by the personality and the nature of the exchange of conversation.

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By *rzinthehouseMan over a year ago

Edmonton

I don't care about looks it's about the personality then the sex is great. Not that I'm anything to sing about lol I'm bit more cuddly and that def doesn't help me but yeh for me it's the mental stimulation above all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't care about looks it's about the personality then the sex is great. Not that I'm anything to sing about lol I'm bit more cuddly and that def doesn't help me but yeh for me it's the mental stimulation above all."

You have a brilliant smile and you're a good looking bloke.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m in the ‘I’m not into looks’ gang. I’m demisexual so a mental/emotional connection is more important to me. Physical attraction is secondary to that x"

I think demisexuality is a lot more common than people realise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have to be presentbale, nice personality and make a connection. That said it would be nice to get a chat too.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple over a year ago

Portstewart

I’ve got ADHD and I bet you wouldn’t give me the time of day for having that"

You having adhd would have nothing to do with it and the reason would be that you can't provide what both hub and myself are looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personality goes further than looks with us. xxx

Same here x

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By *eard and BoobsCouple over a year ago

Portstewart

I’ve got ADHD and I bet you wouldn’t give me the time of day for having that

Eh??"

Exactly it has nothing to do with and ailments you have its if you can or can't provide what we are looking for why change multiple things we are and aren't looking for just to make someone else happy ffs. Boobs has ms and you don't see us blaming that for people's decisions lol. And the couple who we quoted are both very yummy looking

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

attraction is not one look ? sexual attraction for me is deffo not one type of person or body size i have quite a wide range for attraction and its not all attraction thats just step one most guys fail at step two the messaging /chatting the amount of hot guys (hot to me) that get nowhere when we start talking is high ..

also just from this thread alone messages have been sent to me along the lines of well we all cant have 6 packs and big dicks guys ..i rarely go with a guy who has a 6 pack or looks like a model/gym bunny very rare indeed in fact if i have it would have been via a club not via here ..

see its the classic oh shes slim shes looking for ... for what lol you dont know me lol im into everyday type guys not the 6 packs that you keep assuming i am gosh so many insecure guys that feel they have to message me assuming into what they think im into lol but you are all so so wrong

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By *luefire2012Man over a year ago

Bucks

Sex appeal to me isn't a particular look or body shape etc.

It's in the little mannerisms, the eyes, can be in the lumps and bumps, it's way more complex than a shallow 'I only want X type'

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By *23RouteCouple over a year ago

Huddersfield

Not bothered . My wife likes to be blindfold, so as she says , ‘I won’t know’ !

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By *ikesEmBigMan over a year ago

Herts

I couldn't play with someone I didn't fancy

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By *lex46TV/TS over a year ago

Near Wells

Half the people I have sex with, I don't even know what they look like until a few minutes before the sex. It adds to the anticipation.

The connection starts when their cock is in my mouth

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By *luemermaidWoman over a year ago

southwest

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

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By *hiregirl76Woman over a year ago

Scotland

For me I need to have both a physical and mental attraction to a guy before any fun can take place. I've been back on the site for a little over a year now with no meets since my return as I'm yet to come across anyone that I click with.

Looks are important but not the be all and end all. I need to feel that connection when our personalites align. Oh and lack of red flags helps too!.

On a side note, when I see meets posted on the local updates where the poster id looking for "anything anywhere" it makes me feel a bit sick, I make a private note as a definate no.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

There's got to be something that you find attractive, might not necessarily be looks though, could be the sound of their voice for example. Just needs to be that je ne sais quoi!

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

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I notice a lot of women who look beautiful are often highly unpleasant to others. Especially on this site like their looks give them.some kind of entitlement.

The other side of the coin is that average lookingbfor want.of a.better word are far nicer in personality and that makes them beautiful in a much more meaningful way. So for me looks are and never have been an issue. If anything I woukd actually be a lot more wary of a woman with so asked model looks.

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By *riental_brit_studMan over a year ago

London

I've worked with a few women who have been average looking but by their lovely charming personalities really won me over. In fact when I've been around them I get the horn massively and can feel my cock tingle as we chat. And yes I have masturbated over them in very naughty scenarios.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I notice a lot of women who look beautiful are often highly unpleasant to others. Especially on this site like their looks give them.some kind of entitlement.

I'd be mortified if I met a guy on here and he thought I was 'average' and only wanted to meet me cause pretty girls are mean

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

It's worth noting that not every woman finds Ryan Reynolds attractive.

Every guy I've met on here regardless of anything have been absolute 10/10s in my eyes

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

I find people can be attractive for any number of reasons but the main one is attitude I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel that it’s definitely the case that women are meant to not be fussed by looks. There’s that old tired (untrue) trope that men are more visual than women, so women are expected to be sexy but men make less effort with their looks then get shirty when women expect more than a personality and a penis.

It’s bs and it makes men lazy imho. I want a man who looks nice and takes care of himself. I don’t want men getting all petulant, being “Oh give me a chance, I have a nice personality, #bekind”. Wine don’t get the advantage of expecting their personality to carry them, we’re expected to take care of our looks.

For me, a nice face is paramount. Use skincare, get a haircut, dress sexy, make an effort.

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By *arry monk40Man over a year ago

Telford

Any port in a storm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

And this is the big misunderstanding, men seem to think there’s only one way for them to be good looking. Do you think all women have to look like [actress name]? Of course not. But men will say “oh I don’t look like [actor]” so not bother to look after themselves, then get shirty when women expect physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

I wouldn't say no to Ryan Reynolds

However there are plenty of physical attributes that make someone irresistible in my eyes regardless of anything else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is true but on the other hand all us blokes don’t look like Ryan Renolds

It’s always about the personality as well and you seem like a funny intelligent individual Young lady so yes younger blokes will que round the block

I wouldn't say no to Ryan Reynolds

However there are plenty of physical attributes that make someone irresistible in my eyes regardless of anything else "

Absolutely! I don’t even mention body type. Being able to use skincare and get a nice haircut is looks-agnostic.

I have two FWBs, thru have vastly different body types (one is twinky, one is chubby) but both have lovely faces, dress wonderfully and, yes, have sparkling personalities so I feel proud to walk into a room with one on my arm. A crinkly, grizzled guy in 20 year old pants his mum bought for him, who thinks moisturiser is something women use and cuts his hair with kitchen scissors? No thanks.

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

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I notice a lot of women who look beautiful are often highly unpleasant to others. Especially on this site like their looks give them.some kind of entitlement.

I'd be mortified if I met a guy on here and he thought I was 'average' and only wanted to meet me cause pretty girls are mean

That was not the point t I was trying to make.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Question I have for you, how come you blocked me today after I read your profile and sent you a perfectly nice message? Why block me instead of just replying with no thanks?

Oof.

Why continue trying to contact someone who has made it clear they don't wish to be contacted by you?

I’m not trying anymore I’m just very interested to know why someone is that rude that they block someone after one polite message rather than either ignore the message or reply with a polite no."

If a woman replies "no" it means they may get abuse. It also means the single man mail filter won't work in the future.

So it's easier to just block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There has to be an attraction "

Yes absolutely, there has to be some attraction there !

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By *ewisbi76Man over a year ago

west edinburgh

The consensus of opinion here is that looks and attraction are important ....

...meanwhile over on fabguys the majority of guys are hooking up without exchanging long chats or even photos, often turning up to a gloryhole or darkroom where they'll ever see the other person they're fucking, or perhaps agreeing to a group meet with no idea who else will be there.

Interesting the difference between men and womens approaches to sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There has to be some sort of physical attraction there but personality and demeanour also makes a person attractive to me. I don’t base it solely on looks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have to have a certain amount of attraction but clicking personality wise is very important with us

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Looks matter to me, connection matters to me. And to some extent the two are intertwined. A killer smile and bright eyes often are reflective of great character and personality. That is hot for example. And I know this is more a psychological factor but your more I get to know someone the more or less I find them physically attractive the more or less I connect with them.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we need connection and attraction or it ain't happening.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Looks matter to me, connection matters to me. And to some extent the two are intertwined. A killer smile and bright eyes often are reflective of great character and personality. That is hot for example. And I know this is more a psychological factor but your more I get to know someone the more or less I find them physically attractive the more or less I connect with them."

I often don’t notice women at first then become friends and fancy them like crazy & understand how I didn’t to begin with.

I spent 6 weeks working with someone once and had no interest until her final few days.

Here is often different , initial attraction yes but I don’t believe it. It is mostly just primal

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

i work with a lady at work not stunning,, but as a beautiful smile lovely teeth and her voice so sexy,,she does make me feel horny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The consensus of opinion here is that looks and attraction are important ....

Interesting the difference between men and womens approaches to sex. "

Those men might feel differently if they were meeting women for sex, I don’t know.

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

Looks are definitely a part of the equation for me. Yes i could fuck someone i didn’t find aesthetically pleasing, but i wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much as with someone i found physically attractive.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"The consensus of opinion here is that looks and attraction are important ....

Interesting the difference between men and womens approaches to sex. "

Some men maybe but I don't meet anyone without chatting for a while and even then it will always be a social only with no exceptions.

Like a lot of men I'm very fussy who I get naked with hence why despite having 60+ veries across different profiles during my 6 years here only 7 of those resulted in play meets.

I know exactly who I have met and have no interest in changing my approach.

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By *rMonkeyMan over a year ago

Somewhere

Has to be an attraction so looks are important. Personality has to be there as well.

No amount of either can make up for a lack of the other.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"The consensus of opinion here is that looks and attraction are important ....

Interesting the difference between men and womens approaches to sex.

Some men maybe but I don't meet anyone without chatting for a while and even then it will always be a social only with no exceptions.

Like a lot of men I'm very fussy who I get naked with hence why despite having 60+ veries across different profiles during my 6 years here only 7 of those resulted in play meets.

I know exactly who I have met and have no interest in changing my approach. "

Just to add, I have said no many more times than I've said yes on here for many reasons including location, age, attitude but mostly lack of attraction.

I'm well aware of the nature of this site but sex is well down my list of priorities and sex for the sake of it is in itself not attractive.

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By *rying2niteMan over a year ago

Egremont

Attraction is great, but when you look like me, you can't afford to be fussy !

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

It's definitely a combination of mental and physical attraction for me. I don't get far if either is missing quite honestly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally not bothered by looks

As long as those looks fit within certain boundaries!

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By *rying2niteMan over a year ago

Egremont

"It's definitely a combination of mental and physical attraction for me. I don't get far if either is missing quite honestly. "

You have the advantage of being female, therefore you can afford to be a bit more choosy.....MOST men (not all) will happily stick their dick in any woman if the chance is offered

A Roger Melly would term for it is the "full cuntal lobotomy", simply put, it's when a woman exposes her vagina to a man, enticing him to perform a sex act on her, and ALL reason and logic goes out the window as the "hairy brain" takes over !

What can i say....us men are simple creatures!

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man over a year ago

Wirral

There has to be chemistry and a connection,looks don't make the person attractive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's definitely a combination of mental and physical attraction for me. I don't get far if either is missing quite honestly.

You have the advantage of being female, therefore you can afford to be a bit more choosy.....MOST men (not all) will happily stick their dick in any woman if the chance is offered

What can i say....us men are simple creatures!"

Aah makes us feel so special. Love to be having sex with a man and not know if he actually finds me attractive or is just happy to stick his dick in something.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"It's definitely a combination of mental and physical attraction for me. I don't get far if either is missing quite honestly.

You have the advantage of being female, therefore you can afford to be a bit more choosy.....MOST men (not all) will happily stick their dick in any woman if the chance is offered

What can i say....us men are simple creatures!

Aah makes us feel so special. Love to be having sex with a man and not know if he actually finds me attractive or is just happy to stick his dick in something. "

It's a really heartwarming thought isn't it? Let's not give men too much credit here, they're basically ruled by their dick and incapable of you know... deciding to only have sex with people they're attracted to. That would be absurd.

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By *opking99Man over a year ago

Wales

I agree with much of what has been written. But there has to be a connection and spark. I find intelligence and someone who is articulate can be better than just finding someone absolutely gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's definitely a combination of mental and physical attraction for me. I don't get far if either is missing quite honestly.

You have the advantage of being female, therefore you can afford to be a bit more choosy.....MOST men (not all) will happily stick their dick in any woman if the chance is offered

What can i say....us men are simple creatures!"

Awesome, I'm going to get a dicking this week!!

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

"It's definitely a combination of mental and physical attraction for me. I don't get far if either is missing quite honestly.

You have the advantage of being female, therefore you can afford to be a bit more choosy.....MOST men (not all) will happily stick their dick in any woman if the chance is offered

What can i say....us men are simple creatures!"

Have you ever wondered WHY some women are so picky. Because we know we are a piece of meat to some men where any old hole will do.

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

somerset

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I notice a lot of women who look beautiful are often highly unpleasant to others. Especially on this site like their looks give them.some kind of entitlement.

I'd be mortified if I met a guy on here and he thought I was 'average' and only wanted to meet me cause pretty girls are mean

me too i want guys to want me as i want them ..and i find it interesting when a guy says hot women are horrible but average are nice is it a case of they cant handle rejection so call them horrible instead and how must that average woman feel knowing shes just a avrage person not nice at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No attraction causes the dick to act like a tortoise head

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By *allsendmaleMan over a year ago

Wallsend

A Mental connection takes priority over looks for me.

I’ve slept with people of all ages, size / appearances and I've found each person attractive in their own way.

I wouldn’t just jump into bed with anyone though, there would need to be some kind of compatibility on personality and interests for it to work.

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

How did pen pals cope with this before photos were common place?

The percentage of penpals who met and had sex was probably quite small I reckon.

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Depends how big the pen_is

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By *yorks4couplesMan over a year ago

doncaster

All about a balance looks are nothing if your not into it. But no amount of personality could distract me if they was ugly. No oil painting myself but one way or the other theres surely got to be abit of attraction both ways

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By *ampWithABrainWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Instant delete for me that, either they’re lying or they don’t give a shit about where they go both of which are massive turn offs.

What you’re attracted to can vary and personality can go a long way too. I like intelligent people who can hold a decent conversation and who can intrigue me. But I have had to admit I do tend to have physical types I prefer too which until recently I was somewhat unaware of.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the cock hardens I'm in

Fabs got to clicky liker le chambra. Snob city

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

I have to be sexually attracted to someone, but looks probably play a minimal part in that.

Alice and I often point someone out (in movies, tescos, etc.) and say there's "something about them" that really turns us on.

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By *ames250122Man over a year ago

Worcester

Definitely look for what attracts sexually, though physically appearance is only a small part of it. Character and mind first and always a bigger attracter for me personally xx

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By *amieLDN22Man over a year ago

London

For me looks and personality go hand in hand. If you're stunning but your attitude stinks then its a complete turn off. And vice versa, if the girl is less attractive to most but we connect on a deeper level then she's my ideal woman. However, this site encourages the animalistic side in all of us. Its strictly looks first for most women on here. If you're a single man and average looking this place is a hard struggle.

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By *ikilovesCCouple over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

What the person is like is more important than how they look

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know I'm ugly or at best average looking but where I lack in looks I sure do more make up in through my personality, wit and intelligence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to be sexually attracted to someone, but looks probably play a minimal part in that.

Alice and I often point someone out (in movies, tescos, etc.) and say there's "something about them" that really turns us on. "

This is how we feel about it too x

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"I need to find my partners physically attractive, but what I find attractive can vary."

I can’t give a better answer than this. There has to be an attraction mentally and physically. But different things can attract me to different people. I think we all have that ‘ohhh they’re hot’ moment and then it’s a progression from there based on profile and exchanging of mail.

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By *hristopherd999Man over a year ago

Brentwood

It's not true

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Needs to be an attraction then connection and chemistry as I need to feel that I'm not just enjoying it but feeling sexually aroused by looking at them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know I'm ugly or at best average looking but where I lack in looks I sure do more make up in through my personality, wit and intelligence"

You're a good looking man. Don't let it get you down if you get no replies on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s very subjective, one’s “attractiveness” is another’s “not my type”. I suppose it depends upon the beholders moral ethic and if they just want sex regardless whom they play with.

Personally there needs to be an element of physical attraction and the others personality.

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By *eeshelleTV/TS over a year ago

Marlow

Im more into what a guys cock looks like, rather than what its attached to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pumpkin needs an attraction, which can be physical or mental, and needs some kind of connection, and it’s all about the meet. She’s had great connection on here that has fallen completely flat in person and gone nowhere, and vice versa, and there is always the chance that they change their mind about her upon meeting too.

Side note… if someone messages us/her and their profile says they will ‘meet anyone/do anything’ it smacks of desperation and isn’t particularly complimentary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pumpkin needs an attraction, which can be physical or mental, and needs some kind of connection, and it’s all about the meet. She’s had great connection on here that has fallen completely flat in person and gone nowhere, and vice versa, and there is always the chance that they change their mind about her upon meeting too.

*** Side note… if someone messages us/her and their profile says they will ‘meet anyone/do anything’ it smacks of desperation and isn’t particularly complimentary ***"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Physical attraction of done form. That can be the entire face body etc equally it can be a specific aspect that is enough

If I was looking to date someone then the mental compatibility would eventually overtake the physical after initial attraction

I mean I am sure a good few people have been in big group sex scenarios in clubs / dark play areas and can’t really remember what the other person fully looked like , I know I have a few times

Exactly for example in a group play orgy you may only need to find the cock or pussy attractive as the face attached to it is busy with someone else lol

I'm sure those who use glory holes (both side of door) don't give a scooby what the person's face looks like as they ain't going to see it anyway.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

Personality is far more important but anyone who says looks don’t come into it isn’t being honest with themselves.

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By *lugoneMan over a year ago

rathmicheal

I find that I am attracted to people who are different and not afraid to express themselves no matter what.

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By *elix SightedMan over a year ago

Cloud 8

Whether on fab or out there in the big scary world, I need to have that initial physical attraction. With no other information about that person it’s all I have to go on.

I don’t have a type, although there are certain attributes I tend to consistently find appealing.

However, once I’m past that initial attraction and we’re talking, there has to be substance. I don’t seek immediate chemistry because that can take time, but I need to feel engaged. Then, attraction becomes about more than just looks. Do I want to spend time with this person? Do they make me feel good about myself?

Then - and only then - do they get a chance of meeting Percy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know I'm ugly or at best average looking but where I lack in looks I sure do more make up in through my personality, wit and intelligence

You're a good looking man. Don't let it get you down if you get no replies on here.

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I think you're just that to be nice but thank you. Nah I won't people who dont respond to my messages get me down, I can take rejection

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By *ycallMan over a year ago

Dorking

Attraction is a must but for me that doesn’t just have to be based on physical beauty, personality also plays a huge part.

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By *heron212Man over a year ago

London

Physical attraction is a must.

Otherwise?

It's giving desperation.

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By *hubster2016Man over a year ago

An attraction and connection to get the best thrill is key

Only not many if any women around me (TA area) attractive As I’m large

And not a reality tv buff type

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Physical attraction and a mental connection is very important to me, without either of those I wouldn't play with someone

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