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I want a lover, is that so wrong on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

The last regular I had was exactly like this.

An whether it was swinging or not, it was really good.

If its what you're after, go for it

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By *it of fun cplCouple over a year ago

village between York and Hull

MrsH is looking for exactly the same, not just sex but going off and having fun. MrH works crazy hours so something better to do than sit and watch TV.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

See to me the key is in the name. To me a fuck buddy can be all the original poster has said.

A lover to me implies feelings. Fuck buddy is a friend that you do friends stuff with but also have nsa sex.

Cali

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"See to me the key is in the name. To me a fuck buddy can be all the original poster has said.

A lover to me implies feelings. Fuck buddy is a friend that you do friends stuff with but also have nsa sex.

Cali"

Agree. My FB comes over we have take away and watch a movie etc, text each other regularly to see how we are doing but we are free to see others when we want x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't that a boyfriend?

I would think there are better places to find one than here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't want a lover, I just need a friend"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Isn't that a boyfriend?

I would think there are better places to find one than here!"

Agree with this, but good luck Charlotte.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree - I've done the swinging thing and it's time in my life to want a bit more now.

Not a partner, but a greater degree of friendship than I've allowed up to now.

Do whatever feels good to you, and use this site as you want. Fabswingers is a tool, we pay for it, so it's entirely up to us how we use it and what we choose to seek... just so long as we don't abuse anybody's sensitivity along the way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lovers usually come with strings. If you're not into all the tangled web weaving stuff then probably best sticking as you are, otherwise someone will play the exclusivity card and the other might lay down the joker instead.

There might be someone who can be a lover and do NSA at the same time, but they might be a tad rare.

Good luck though in your quest

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we both have taken lovers and must say it works very well for us xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have the same hence friend with benefits as opposed to fuck buddy as we go to the cinema, out to lunch, don't always have sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Isn't that a boyfriend?

I would think there are better places to find one than here!"

Not necessarily, as I have said, my friend and I meet up for lunch, go to the cinema etc and don't always have sex. Neither of us is looking for the boyfriend/girlfriend bit, more a companion to do things together as its more fun than by yourself. If either of us found someone we wanted to take the relationship further with then we would no longer meet, though we might remain friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we go away for separate weekends with our lovers xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My fbs all get treated to nights out and cinema and pubs n zoos and ice skating and sometimes I buy them gifts . I think fbs are like Cali says whatever you want them to be. I've never had a fb that I just knock on their door and fuck n go. No point to that. They are friends that also fuck.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

Same here if I'm honest. Would suit me fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we go away for separate weekends with our lovers xx"

Omg really. I thought I was open minded lol. I won't spend the night with even a single person lol

Guess if it works for you though. I couldn't cuddle up or spend the night with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we go away for separate weekends with our lovers xx

Omg really. I thought I was open minded lol. I won't spend the night with even a single person lol

Guess if it works for you though. I couldn't cuddle up or spend the night with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with.

Cali

I was about to say I am clearly doing something wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we go away for separate weekends with our lovers xx

Omg really. I thought I was open minded lol. I won't spend the night with even a single person lol

Guess if it works for you though. I couldn't cuddle up or spend the night with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with.

Cali

My friend and I have been away for a long weekend as well as stayed in hotels overnight, plus stayed onsite when we have been to Gems. Don't particularly see its wrong, both he and I love cuddling and sex for breakfast too

Besides it makes sense when, for example Gems is a very long way from us, much safer to stay and get some rest than drive home in the early hours

I also stay at his at weekends too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go visit friends but separate beds. But then I think for singles it's different. However if I was in a couple. I can't see why I would want to spend night away from the man I love to spend it with some guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I go visit friends but separate beds. But then I think for singles it's different. However if I was in a couple. I can't see why I would want to spend night away from the man I love to spend it with some guy.

Ah gotcha now, no not sure if I was a couple, I could either, would miss my man too much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "
i want a lover also from fab

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By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

I am best friends with a couple I met swinging. As I mentioned else where I live with them. As in a pay rent kind of way, not a poly way. I used to have regular sex with them, until real life got in the way. We still do have sex, just not as often as we used to.

I've been on holiday with the male half of the couple, while his wife stayed at home, because she couldn't time off work. I've also spent weekends away with the female half whilst he stays at home.

Some people find it weird, but it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah gotcha now, no not sure if I was a couple, I could either, would miss my man too much

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I'm single now but never ever spent the night with a guy lol it's just once sex is done what then. I just leave lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am best friends with a couple I met swinging. As I mentioned else where I live with them. As in a pay rent kind of way, not a poly way. I used to have regular sex with them, until real life got in the way. We still do have sex, just not as often as we used to.

I've been on holiday with the male half of the couple, while his wife stayed at home, because she couldn't time off work. I've also spent weekends away with the female half whilst he stays at home.

Some people find it weird, but it works for us. "

I met a single guy from here, he also meets up with a couple, they go away on holiday together and have sex, like triple decker best friends/fuck buddies

Really nice lot too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah gotcha now, no not sure if I was a couple, I could either, would miss my man too much

I'm single now but never ever spent the night with a guy lol it's just once sex is done what then. I just leave lol x "

Bit difficult to do that when he drives

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make it one of the "rules" on you profile.

"any guys who contact must be willing to show me a good time outside of the bedroom as well as in, just in case you don't know what that is, that means dinner, a movie, and walk though town all leading up to mindblowing sex, must also be able to hold a meaningful conversation too.

Fuck and runs need not apply, I'm only intending to meet those who are up for meeting on a regular basis who can keep their emotions in check"

Or something along those lines.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get bored of people to easy, i very rarely meet people more than once, and even if i do after 2 or 3 meets ive had enough of them. i think my attention spans to short, i think thats why i prefer to be single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get bored of people to easy, i very rarely meet people more than once, and even if i do after 2 or 3 meets ive had enough of them. i think my attention spans to short, i think thats why i prefer to be single

You get bored after one meet? Wow how can someone bore you so quick, how much can you learn about someone in just a few hours.

I don't think It's you having a short attention span It's probably you end up meeting some very boring people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You get bored after one meet? Wow how can someone bore you so quick, how much can you learn about someone in just a few hours.

I don't think It's you having a short attention span It's probably you end up meeting some very boring people.

I think its just because i perfer to meet new people, once i have met someone i have met them and its time to move on, i have met guys in the past regular and i have found men i have met off here get complacent sexually after a few meets, the last guy i met a few times was great when we first started meeting but after a few meets he just got lazier and lazier to the point he just wanted a blow job and a shag, so i stopped meeting him, i have found people tend to put their best efforts into the first meets as they want to impress and maybe get a offer to meet again so i tend to just stick to the first meets where they make a effort

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder if that's my problem. Lol gwen meet regular though. But it's the whole after sex stuff I find odd. Although I don't mind socialising but just not in bed. In fact I prefer not to get under the covers with a fuck.

I think we are getting really off topic though lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think we are getting really off topic though lol"

im a bit like that, i never know what to do or say to people after we have finished playing so i tend to get dressed and leave, i never know wether the guys thinking ....ok you can piss off now and dont want to over stay my welcome so i tend to just go

I find the whole swinging thing a bit of a mind fuck to be honest, i just work on the basis they only want a shag and act accordingly

Its so much easier when your a couple i think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

go for it ...

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By *ady4ladyWoman over a year ago

liverpool

Wondering, if you did meet someone on here and started a 'relationship' would you be wanting to 'swing' as a couple? or would you then just want a regular relationship?

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By *imjohnCouple over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"Isn't that a boyfriend?

I would think there are better places to find one than here!"

It depends on when she meets a lover if he to is a swinger or would like to swing with her.

Meeting a vanilla guy & asking him to swing would probably freak him out & ruin the relationship.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I guess I want the same but not expecting it on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sorta understand OP...however , heres the issue... I believe most people seeking this become the jealous possessive types and theres many of those around...despite saying the exact opposite.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

There are a few on here who certainly like the idea of a 'relationship lite' type of arrangement. I know I would

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are a few on here who certainly like the idea of a 'relationship lite' type of arrangement. I know I would

See in theory I like the idea. But I worry about people moving goal posts. I had this once before and after a few months he wanted me to stop meeting others.

But I still worry about over nights lol I would end up talking then reading when they were asleep.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

are we sharing costs involved in this type of friendship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just a fuck would be nice not fussy really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are we sharing costs involved in this type of friendship"

I'd share costs regardless lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I once had a girlfriend off here who used to stay at mine every weekend loved it we use to go out holding hands and much more it was great while it lasted and would do it again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That would work for me too, I have been on my own for a very long time, I don't really want anyone living with me now, it would drive me insane, but I would like a lover, someone to share all the fun things with, dinner, days out, a closeness you don't get with a regular meet, but without being in each others pockets, someone I could cherish and have a fondness for, but not be in love with, avoiding the hurt....wether I could keep control of my feelings, well, who knows if you don't try. In the mean time, I'm happy doing what I'm doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It seems like there is quite a few who are wanting this too, not just me, but it is interesting that some treat their FB's this way as well so its just a name then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""I don't want a lover, I just need a friend"

lol x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"It seems like there is quite a few who are wanting this too, not just me, but it is interesting that some treat their FB's this way as well so its just a name then?"

Pretty much. As long as the friendship and treats out go both ways then call it what you want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only thing about a lover is the feeling aspect,ie,if ur married can be a real killer on both of ye,

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Funny i was having a cnversation with a guy ive been seein around 7 years now, not sure what we where saying but i mentioned to him that in all the time ive known him he had never stayed over. His response was, you have never asked me. It had never entered my head that he would want to.

Ive had other guys stay over I get confused when people say there fb but are free to meet others. What makes just one person a fb, to me i see a few different guys that ive known for ages but to me they are all equal. I swing because i like variety otherwise id just stick with the one person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It seems like there is quite a few who are wanting this too, not just me, but it is interesting that some treat their FB's this way as well so its just a name then?"

if promising exclusivity, then its a relationship no matter how else its dressed up.That includes going on meets together and shag other people.

If its all free and no strings regular meetups thats a FB...and there is no need to ask or give permission to the FB if they want to play with someone/people on their own.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"There are a few on here who certainly like the idea of a 'relationship lite' type of arrangement. I know I would

I am very happy with the two I already have, although there's space in my life for a third.

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

nope - that is dating

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I think there has to be clarity on what people want (in general) and what they hope to get out of a swing site, both of which can be very different.

Yes, nothing wrong with wanting a relationship of some form, and nothing wrong with wanting to shag the universe as far as swinging goes - but the danger is when people come on a swing site looking for a relationship: you're walking into a polygamous arena for the hope of someone who wants monogamy just as yourself - what I tend to find is the one that wants the monogamy then ends up resenting the other party for being polygamous (as far as multiple sexual partners is concerned).. on a swing site.

And yes, I was on the receiving end of this so broke ties with that person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's exactly what I want a FB fun buddy x

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"That's exactly what I want a FB fun buddy x"

fuck buddy

friends with benefits

now

fun buddy!

ooooooph talk about NSA lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

I have someone I do all this with (except the clubs) but to me that is an fb.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd like a relationship but maybe not the best place for it. If it happens great, if not ..... Have fun anyway

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

Nothing wrong with wanting that at all. A few people on fab who have met have ending up becoming lovers. Telling people on your profile you are looking for a lover will hopefully attract a suitable man who is also looking for a lover.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think theres a lot of people who come on here looking for a relationship, if you want a relationship and to swing as a couple to me its the ideal place to look, people say this is supposed to be no strings, but where in the rules does it say you cant look for more on here? surely if you want a swinging relationship this is the best place to look as you both know up front where each other are into, its got to be better than finding someone outside of swinging then dropping it on them that your into this

Its not what im looking for, i have no interest in a relationship at all but for those who are and wanting to carry on swinging id say this is the idea place to look

Some people are so anal about people looking for love on here, if its not affecting you why would you care what others are looking for

and ewhat does it matter if some want to find love on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for all your replies

It certainly has helped me decide, yes, I want a lover who I can swing with and No, I'm not in the wrong place.

Fab will do me just fine. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for all your replies

It certainly has helped me decide, yes, I want a lover who I can swing with and No, I'm not in the wrong place.

Fab will do me just fine. X

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. You and me both Hun good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And good luck in your search too XX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds perfect to me Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That would work for me too, I have been on my own for a very long time, I don't really want anyone living with me now, it would drive me insane, but I would like a lover, someone to share all the fun things with, dinner, days out, a closeness you don't get with a regular meet, but without being in each others pockets, someone I could cherish and have a fondness for, but not be in love with, avoiding the hurt....wether I could keep control of my feelings, well, who knows if you don't try. In the mean time, I'm happy doing what I'm doing

I live with you and drive you insane anyway ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want what I perceive to be a lover, rather than a FB.

Id like a fun times out, meals theater etc plus playing with couples and going to clubs etc.

Im sure there are guys that want a lover and not just a fb??

Is this swinging too? "

This is what I describe a friend with benefits, I would say a lover is someone you have feelings for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree I like the idea of having a relationship with some one that is into swinging to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I live with you and drive you insane anyway ha ha

Lmfaooooo you've hardly been here

besides you don't do big man hugs

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By *igerstyle2k2Man over a year ago

Oxfordshire

I'm all for being lovers with someone, be it a single lady or a couple, it's just finding someone who is willing to be that person.

A lot of people are after lovers on here but we all have our own personal preferences. With that said as long as I get on with the person, can have a laugh with them, nice conversation and not take things too seriously then I can't see why we can't have some regular fun and become lovers.

I'm available and on the lookout for people to have some fun times with, and if we both agree, then why not lovers.

Finding people to meet on here now seems pretty darn difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't need to have someone with me in order to go out to eat, see a film, go to theatre, go on holiday etc., etc., as I can, and enjoy, doing all these activities on my own.

I go to the likes of Chams on my own.

I enjoy going out to have a bite to eat with my playmate in order to break the day up and to refuel.

I have no intention of swinging as a couple with other couples, ever.

I don't have the time or energy to invest in a relationship, don't want to live with anyone, and value my independence highly.

Therefore, I don't need a lover, just playmates for sexy fun and frolics, as and when I feel like it.

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I think theres a lot of people who come on here looking for a relationship, if you want a relationship and to swing as a couple to me its the ideal place to look, people say this is supposed to be no strings, but where in the rules does it say you cant look for more on here? surely if you want a swinging relationship this is the best place to look as you both know up front where each other are into, its got to be better than finding someone outside of swinging then dropping it on them that your into this

Its not what im looking for, i have no interest in a relationship at all but for those who are and wanting to carry on swinging id say this is the idea place to look

Some people are so anal about people looking for love on here, if its not affecting you why would you care what others are looking for

and ewhat does it matter if some want to find love on here

In my time I've seen people (men and women alike) who flat out will not "meet" anyone if they can't establish a relationship with them.

I've seen people who will not meet anyone that meets (ie, only looking for them and no one else, oh well).

And then there's those that give the impression once in a relationship they still meet others (together or toherwise) but then turn nasty (in some case arguing in public/socials) when the other shows sexual interest in someone else ie "You're here with me, what are you looking at him/her for?"

I guess this is where the (silly) question "Does your partner let you play with others?" come from that I hear so many times at different socials.

Its as if once you have a significant other, all ideas of playing with anyone else go out the window: I don't see that as what swinging is about, but also need to clarify that this is different from those who have formed happy relationships over the course of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm here for what I want. I accept that others are here for what they want.

If I was looking for a partner the chances are I would find someone via here. But I certainly wouldn't be looking

But then I wasn't looking for my former master when I signed up to a car forum. I was just looking for some info on my new car. Yet against all odds I found the most amazing man. So say what you are looking for. As there is always going to be someone for everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not what im looking for, i have no interest in a relationship at all but for those who are and wanting to carry on swinging id say this is the idea place to look

Some people are so anal about people looking for love on here, if its not affecting you why would you care what others are looking for

and ewhat does it matter if some want to find love on here

hear hear.. words i was trying to put into a sentance and u hit it on the head

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not what im looking for, i have no interest in a relationship at all but for those who are and wanting to carry on swinging id say this is the idea place to look

Some people are so anal about people looking for love on here, if its not affecting you why would you care what others are looking for

and ewhat does it matter if some want to find love on here

I go through phases, one day I deffo want no strings play mates only, then other times I want someone to make a home-cooked meal for, look out the window for, and snuggle in bed all night with...... usually I'm over that by the time I wake again.

But you never know where love might slap you round the chops .... here is as good as ASDA's as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh Im not looking for love, or even want it but I do want the respect and closeness that comes with a relationship. The knowing each others body so well that just a look or a gentle touch sets each other on fire! You cant get that with a one off meet.

Yes I will play with others too, while 'he' is watching or 'he' will join in but then I always did want the best of both worlds lol

Plus Im greedy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love to be your lover,i am not looking for loads of meets but great sex and a good laugh,xxxx

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

" The knowing each others body so well that just a look or a gentle touch sets each other on fire! You cant get that with a one off meet.

Yes I will play with others too, while 'he' is watching or 'he' will join in but then I always did want the best of both worlds lol

Plus Im greedy

I think I have some of this with my friend....the way he looks at me, or touches me is just amazing.

We see each other once a week, neither of us are looking for love.

I have my teenage son to go out for meals, to the cinema etc and I will visit clubs on my own.

Think its more friendship I'm after, as I've lived alone too many years and no one has ever slept over, even when I had a fb for 5 years.

Good luck in your search xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not what im looking for, i have no interest in a relationship at all but for those who are and wanting to carry on swinging id say this is the idea place to look

Some people are so anal about people looking for love on here, if its not affecting you why would you care what others are looking for

and ewhat does it matter if some want to find love on here

In my time I've seen people (men and women alike) who flat out will not "meet" anyone if they can't establish a relationship with them.

I've seen people who will not meet anyone that meets (ie, only looking for them and no one else, oh well).

I guess this is where the (silly) question "Does your partner let you play with others?" come from that I hear so many times at different socials.

On the other hand when I have been to clubs and parties with my fwb, I have wanted to play with someone but felt uncomfortable about doing so as I think he might feel left out, for me, its about both of us having fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we go away for separate weekends with our lovers xx"

I would never do this but if it works for you then fine, but it could be quite a risky thing.

I can imagine singles perhaps getting together and going away, but for a couple to go away separately with the male/female of another couple then no that is something I absolutely wouldnt agree to.

But then I dont even text men who we may play with. I never have their numbers, its Chris who texts to say we are on our way etc, that is all we use someone elses number for and we never send sexy or romantic type texts to other people.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Nothing wrong with what you want we're all here for different things and as long as you're clear in your own mind and honest with everyone else I can't see a problem. Good luck and I hope you have fun finding what you want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't you think for a lot of singles years swinging no strings fun it can like most things get boring... Sex that has no feelings and can be hit or miss meeting new people all the time ...people at times look for more .. I think its normal people wishing to feel and get to know people makes for better sex and friends .. and lovers. Maybe some happy no getting close and when this is all new its like being a kid in sweaty shop but after 5/10/15 years its like most things can get boring if not with the right people.

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Its not what im looking for, i have no interest in a relationship at all but for those who are and wanting to carry on swinging id say this is the idea place to look

Some people are so anal about people looking for love on here, if its not affecting you why would you care what others are looking for

and ewhat does it matter if some want to find love on here

In my time I've seen people (men and women alike) who flat out will not "meet" anyone if they can't establish a relationship with them.

I've seen people who will not meet anyone that meets (ie, only looking for them and no one else, oh well).

I guess this is where the (silly) question "Does your partner let you play with others?" come from that I hear so many times at different socials.

For us (at the risk of sounding 'wrong') we don't see the point of going out to clubs and parties to (only) play with each other: it reinforces the idea "once a couple, no more playing with others" which is not the idea in our minds. We live together so have our fun when we want,.. then there's time for others.

In short, its a coin toss which one of us tells the other to "buzz off, go have fun xxx"

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I'm single.

Currently I have a lodger who I met through swinging. His marriage has ended and he is homeless so he's dossing at mine until he moves into his new place. We are friends who do stuff together and occasionally shag too.

I also have one other man who doesn't live locally to me but when we are together, we eat out, do a bit of shopping, smooch, shag and sleep. We get on really well and I enjoy the time we spend together. If we hadn't met swinging, we may be in that position of meeting, liking each other and then trying to sort out some sort of awkward relationship under the assumption that we are a 'couple'. We're not, we are friends who fuck and I like it that way.

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By *ap AdgeMan over a year ago

Wirral

Hi nothing better than having a nice time together and weekend breaks too have always enjoyed having a bit of. Relationship with fab ladies. Much nicer. Paul

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm single.

do u have any rooms going?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm single.

any rooms going?

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"I'm single.

any rooms going?"

That's twice you've asked now. Are you going to be cold and surviving on soup this Christmas?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm single.

any rooms going?

That's twice you've asked now. Are you going to be cold and surviving on soup this Christmas?"

I asked twice but separately..i like lodging-hopping

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

Ok, I'll clean out the shed for you. See ya later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, I'll clean out the shed for you. See ya later. "

I wouldnt describe ur pussy as a shed!!!!

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Ok, I'll clean out the shed for you. See ya later.

I wouldnt describe ur pussy as a shed!!!!"

Yep, best you don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have been known to spoil some woman i have chatted to and met from here.

nice hotel, dinner, champagne and treat them like girlfriends for the short time we are together.

i always get the 'no one treats me like this' at some point during and i find that sad and ask myself has the art of being a gentlemen vanished or does no one now have the time to spend doing something nice?

of course they are strangers until you meet but i take my time,discover about them via chat,phone calls etc and then work out what sort of women they are and what they like.

yes it costs money to do it now and then but the way she feels is worth it and of course i feel good for it.

most of them still stay in contact by text or phone calls.

would i get into a relationship with someone i met from here?

did once but wont again. prefer to stay good friends and meet just now and then to keep that friendship smiling.

works better for me that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See to me the key is in the name. To me a fuck buddy can be all the original poster has said.

A lover to me implies feelings. Fuck buddy is a friend that you do friends stuff with but also have nsa sex.

Cali"

Agree with Cali on this one - specially the bit about the addition of feelings..

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