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Our first visit - true story.
We were driving to the club, it was raining and the heavens opened. We walked into the club looking like wet rats, we were so nervous we were bricking it. During our newbie tour it was surreal to see a couple having sex in a room. We were so nervous we just played with each other in a room, which was still exciting as someone could have walked in.
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We went on the promise that we could just watch and if Aurelia didn't like it we'd go home.
Doors opened at 10 and, me being me, we where there on the dot.
As a result we were the only people there for almost two hours and, after the obligatory tour, we just sat dranking the wine we took whilst watching the porn on the TVs.
After midnightish others started arriving so we started walking around the various play rooms watching but too nervous to do anything.
We saw a bit of fucking and guys walking around dick in hand and almost went home.
Instead we went into a lockable dark room to have a quick fuck together in private.
Before long an arm appeared through a hole in the wall and tried to grab Aurelia. She let out a little scream in shock but then a cock appeared through a lower hole.
She said what do I do with it so we started to wank it until it shot it's load on the floor.
After that another came through and I looked at her and said you might as well. I then guided the cock into her and she fucked it. Then another and another etc etc.
We were in there over an hour and she fucked every cock that came through.
It was our first swinging experience so were in a shocked state in the taxi back to the hotel but once there we started fucking straight away and only managed 30 minutes sleep that night |
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"Our first visit - true story.
We were driving to the club, it was raining and the heavens opened. We walked into the club looking like wet rats, we were so nervous we were bricking it. During our newbie tour it was surreal to see a couple having sex in a room. We were so nervous we just played with each other in a room, which was still exciting as someone could have walked in.
Now we absolutely love club visits "
I bet you a very popular at a club |
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I recently had my first club experience. Firstly I was pretty nervous, I went alone but with knowing some fab friends would be there. It was an organised social at a club from 7-9 then the club opened for all at 9. The social was great vibes of chatting and clothed, around 10ish women started to dress down to lingerie and men clothed unless play time. I didn’t fully experience every part of the club but would feel more comfortable next time. I drove so that I could leave at any time if it wasn’t for me but in hindsight would have loved a large wine! I did enjoy some playtime in the dungeon, a guy did ask if he could join in and was no hassle when we said no. I was aware some guys were watching but I was too into the moment to really pay any attention to them and they were quiet, respectful and not too close. I’m glad I went and will absolutely go back! |
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over a year ago
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"Our first visit - true story.
We were driving to the club, it was raining and the heavens opened. We walked into the club looking like wet rats, we were so nervous we were bricking it. During our newbie tour it was surreal to see a couple having sex in a room. We were so nervous we just played with each other in a room, which was still exciting as someone could have walked in.
Now we absolutely love club visits "
Oh wow! Hey as long as you enjoyed yourselves and we’re comfortable I guess that’s all that matters |
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"I recently had my first club experience. Firstly I was pretty nervous, I went alone but with knowing some fab friends would be there. It was an organised social at a club from 7-9 then the club opened for all at 9. The social was great vibes of chatting and clothed, around 10ish women started to dress down to lingerie and men clothed unless play time. I didn’t fully experience every part of the club but would feel more comfortable next time. I drove so that I could leave at any time if it wasn’t for me but in hindsight would have loved a large wine! I did enjoy some playtime in the dungeon, a guy did ask if he could join in and was no hassle when we said no. I was aware some guys were watching but I was too into the moment to really pay any attention to them and they were quiet, respectful and not too close. I’m glad I went and will absolutely go back! "
Aww that’s good, I’m glad people were respectful with you |
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First time I went was with my wife, we went with a couple that we met the night before, we ended up with a different couple in a private room then later on we went in another room with a single guy and a single women after that the wife asked if I minded if she went back in with the single guy again and asked If I wanted to watch I said go for it but really regret not going in to watch, after that night we didn't bothered with private meets anymore unless we had played with them previously. |
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Two firsts really. One as a single and one with my other half.
My first was alone. I was curious and wanted to expand my experience of the scene. So one Saturday I found a club not too far away. I discussed my plans on the forums and was encouraged to go by people on the forum including some who would be there. So the afternoon I booked a hotel room near by and was off on the train.
I was absolutely nervous as hell. But I also went with the theory the only way to do a thing is to do it. My social anxiety was through the roof as I tried to play it cool. I found it really hard settling in, socialising with strangers in a strange environment is difficult. But just kept introducing myself and talking to folk. Simple as that. Hit and miss as we can't be for everyone and not everyone is looking single guys. I ended up sat with a lady and we got talking. Turns out she'd been talking to me on the forum. We had a great time.
The first time as a couple was to the same club. It was My Girls first time at a club but I had the benefit of knowing the lay of the club and being familiar with it. So I'm leading the way to the front door all cool and she's bricking it. I literally had to shove her through the door. However within about 30 mins and couple of drinks she was completely like a duck to water. It was clear clubs were very much for her. We networked, made some new freinds, had a few laughs and our first soft swing experience with a couple.
Never looked back since. |
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"First time I went was with my wife, we went with a couple that we met the night before, we ended up with a different couple in a private room then later on we went in another room with a single guy and a single women after that the wife asked if I minded if she went back in with the single guy again and asked If I wanted to watch I said go for it but really regret not going in to watch, after that night we didn't bothered with private meets anymore unless we had played with them previously."
First time I went without the wife though was a completely different experience and I did leave a little deflated, someone had asked me to promise them that I wouldn't play with anyone else until I had played with them, we never ended up playing which is fine but she could have let me know she wasn't going to get round to it so I could have at least made a little bit more of an effort with others. |
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Keeping a close eye on this thread, got my first ever experience on Friday at abfabs. Hoping I don't become a walking/Wanking zombie! Although as long as I can get a Cola with ice and a slice, I'll happily chat away to whoever will listen |
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I was going to chameleons in the midlands for someone's birthday.
I was meeting people I knew there but I was arriving there alone.
I was terrified.
The first thing I saw when I got there didn't fill me with hope either. I was about 25 at the time and I was greeted by about 15 men in the 70s sat around in towels (the dress code).
However I went upstairs and started to see couples and women of various ages being social, being naughty and just having a good time.
I met the people I knew there about 15 mins later and had a very eye opening experience throughout the night.
Highly highly recommended if it's still even half as good as it was the last time I went. |
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We had talked about it for years, then we were seeing a concert in Brum and she googled any clubs and booked in. We were scared sh1tless when we walked in. Had a few drinks that we brought with us and managed to play a bit. Wife got felt up quite a bit. But it broke the ice and we went back a few times. We have even tried clubs abroad. |
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We have been to clubs in Scotland, England and abroad.
For us they are perfect. You get to see others, talk to them and decide if you want to go further.
Other times you don't even need to talk. |
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"We've been to a club 3 times now and each time it was so incredibly quiet.
We just don't understand where everyone is?!
We just want to have some fun with others but have had no luck whatsoever. "
It depends where and what week night you go. I find that organised club event nights are popular and usually busy, such as Halloween, or Christmas party nights. |
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"We've been to a club 3 times now and each time it was so incredibly quiet.
We just don't understand where everyone is?!
We just want to have some fun with others but have had no luck whatsoever.
It depends where and what week night you go. I find that organised club event nights are popular and usually busy, such as Halloween, or Christmas party nights."
I suppose its horses for courses but I wouldn't always say busy (or too busy) is good. Sadly in my experience it's more random than numbers alone. Sometimes it's not about being busy or not busy. Just about the right people that you just vibe happening to be there at the right time. Have on occasion meet awesome people on quiet nights and then on some busy nights not meet anyone who me/we just hit it off with. And personally I not like it too busy and too noisy.
However there are some clubs where your always guaranteed to have a fair few in even at queit times. |
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Keeping tabs on this one. Very curious to try but feel single guys are a plenty on here. Are clubs more accepting to single guys? Wouldnt say nervous but im very easily distracted and would wsnt to hold up a conversation at first |
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We visited liberty elite just after lockdown and it was a social only night so we felt it would be a good way to dip our toes without any commitment. As expected we thought the club was amazing and everyone there was really nice.
We’ve been going as often as we can ever since. |
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"Keeping tabs on this one. Very curious to try but feel single guys are a plenty on here. Are clubs more accepting to single guys? Wouldnt say nervous but im very easily distracted and would wsnt to hold up a conversation at first"
I have finally plucked up the courage to take myself to my first ever club visit this Friday, nervous on a different level, as a single guy I've focused on the negative comments which I really shouldn't have, but I need to get this visit in/out of me. Will be on the softies Incase it's not for me, but the curious in me needs to be tamed. |
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Must have been about 8 years, was more a spa but in the evening became a swingers club. First time was a Saturday daytime, just to get used to being naked, then started going to the evening events. Benn to quite a few clubs since, must admit was very nervous first time, now it’s just like a normal evening out |
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"Keeping tabs on this one. Very curious to try but feel single guys are a plenty on here. Are clubs more accepting to single guys? Wouldnt say nervous but im very easily distracted and would wsnt to hold up a conversation at first
I have finally plucked up the courage to take myself to my first ever club visit this Friday, nervous on a different level, as a single guy I've focused on the negative comments which I really shouldn't have, but I need to get this visit in/out of me. Will be on the softies Incase it's not for me, but the curious in me needs to be tamed. "
howd it go? Or u mean next fri? |
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Definitely going to keep tabs on this…
37 year old guy buy part of a couple with an incredibly attractive 23 year old (lucky guy I know!)
My worry is that we’ll get a lot of attention because she’s stunning which isn’t a worry but could be overwhelming for a first time.
After reading another thread about the “wanking dead” the last thing I want is a load of guys she’s not interested in following her / us around. What’s the etiquette in that situation?
She’s more in to the idea of a girl and we both like the idea of a couple.
It will likely be cupids or townhouse we go to. Any advice welcome! |
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"Must have been about 8 years, was more a spa but in the evening became a swingers club. First time was a Saturday daytime, just to get used to being naked, then started going to the evening events. Benn to quite a few clubs since, must admit was very nervous first time, now it’s just like a normal evening out"
can imagine its quite an eye opener at first need to go.
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"Must have been about 8 years, was more a spa but in the evening became a swingers club. First time was a Saturday daytime, just to get used to being naked, then started going to the evening events. Benn to quite a few clubs since, must admit was very nervous first time, now it’s just like a normal evening out can imagine its quite an eye
opener at first need to go. "
Sure was, soon got in the swing so to speak lol |
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"Must have been about 8 years, was more a spa but in the evening became a swingers club. First time was a Saturday daytime, just to get used to being naked, then started going to the evening events. Benn to quite a few clubs since, must admit was very nervous first time, now it’s just like a normal evening out can imagine its quite an eye
opener at first need to go.
Sure was, soon got in the swing so to speak lol"
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over a year ago
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Well you will as a single man pay double the price of couples. Unless it is a greedy girl night and even then you are likely to be ignored and spend hours being bored out of your mind and treated like a parasite and wander around like a Zombie.
Of however ypu go to a social or go to meet someone there you will have a magical time.
Be open to talk to anyone who is friendly to you and it will be good.
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"Must have been about 8 years, was more a spa but in the evening became a swingers club. First time was a Saturday daytime, just to get used to being naked, then started going to the evening events. Benn to quite a few clubs since, must admit was very nervous first time, now it’s just like a normal evening out can imagine its quite an eye
opener at first need to go. Wouldnt know where to start but sure id love it. Wouldnt want to storm in without being respectful though obvs.
Sure was, soon got in the swing so to speak lol"
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"Well you will as a single man pay double the price of couples. Unless it is a greedy girl night and even then you are likely to be ignored and spend hours being bored out of your mind and treated like a parasite and wander around like a Zombie.
Of however ypu go to a social or go to meet someone there you will have a magical time.
Be open to talk to anyone who is friendly to you and it will be good.
Best of luck "
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Our 1st visit opened our eyes to the club scene, instead of Mtv it was hardcore porn on the big screen and the bar staff were almost topless, from blowjobs on the dance floor to seeing couples shagging in public rooms it was all surreal to us, a great introduction but the bottom line is clubs are what you make them, great to socialise, but you can find what you want. |
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My first club visit was such an anti climax to the build up of nerves and anticipation leading up to walking through that front door. Sure, there were people dressed down, but the place had the atmosphere of a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, instead of how I imagined what a Friday night in a swingers club might be…..  |
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"Keeping tabs on this one. Very curious to try but feel single guys are a plenty on here. Are clubs more accepting to single guys? Wouldnt say nervous but im very easily distracted and would wsnt to hold up a conversation at first
I have finally plucked up the courage to take myself to my first ever club visit this Friday, nervous on a different level, as a single guy I've focused on the negative comments which I really shouldn't have, but I need to get this visit in/out of me. Will be on the softies Incase it's not for me, but the curious in me needs to be tamed. "
You never know until you try but definitely go with an open mind |
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Then you will get fabbers telling you, you just went on the wrong night etc. Go with your gut feeling. It's very expensive night out for single man unless the club just down the road for you. I spent alot of money on clubs to find out they're not at all for me. I was getting fed up of the timewasters on fab and people kept saying clubs is the way forward. When i went, it was alot worst than being on fab lol. So definitely go with a open mind and be prepared to spend money finding out |
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"Definitely going to keep tabs on this…
37 year old guy buy part of a couple with an incredibly attractive 23 year old (lucky guy I know!)
My worry is that we’ll get a lot of attention because she’s stunning which isn’t a worry but could be overwhelming for a first time.
After reading another thread about the “wanking dead” the last thing I want is a load of guys she’s not interested in following her / us around. What’s the etiquette in that situation?
She’s more in to the idea of a girl and we both like the idea of a couple.
It will likely be cupids or townhouse we go to. Any advice welcome! "
Id advise a couple going for 1st time, to go on a Saturday to most clubs as they tend to be couples nights & a limited number of single males there.
Saturdays are generally more chilled, depending on the club
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My first was a club in Horsham which is no longer there. I met à woman on line who was very much into the scene. She invited me to the club on a Wednesday night.
It was very quiet except for a handful of single guys and a few couples.
She showed me round and when we got to the dungeon we ended up fucking over a table.
It was the first time I have fucked being watched and I discovered my love of it. Spent the rest of the evening in the pool or fucking on one of the public beds. Great experience.
Shame of it she moved away soon after and we never repeated it. Didn’t go back with someone else for 10 years but that’s another story
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A lovely gentleman took me to my first club on our first meet.
It was amazing and he was so lovely. We are still good friends all these years later; I even spilt my drink on him haha. |
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"Then you will get fabbers telling you, you just went on the wrong night etc. Go with your gut feeling. It's very expensive night out for single man unless the club just down the road for you. I spent alot of money on clubs to find out they're not at all for me. I was getting fed up of the timewasters on fab and people kept saying clubs is the way forward. When i went, it was alot worst than being on fab lol. So definitely go with a open mind and be prepared to spend money finding out "
I was one of those that said you went on the wrong night, even for me it was way too busy and I love going there, I was just lucky that night that I had taken someone with me so spent most of the night in play rooms with her, also living only 35 minutes down the road I've been able to become a bit of a regular and have gotten to know plenty of people so I've always got people there to just chat to and dance with if no one on the particular night takes my fancy, I do stand by what I said though, that had you gone on a different night you might have had a better time |
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"Then you will get fabbers telling you, you just went on the wrong night etc. Go with your gut feeling. It's very expensive night out for single man unless the club just down the road for you. I spent alot of money on clubs to find out they're not at all for me. I was getting fed up of the timewasters on fab and people kept saying clubs is the way forward. When i went, it was alot worst than being on fab lol. So definitely go with a open mind and be prepared to spend money finding out
I was one of those that said you went on the wrong night, even for me it was way too busy and I love going there, I was just lucky that night that I had taken someone with me so spent most of the night in play rooms with her, also living only 35 minutes down the road I've been able to become a bit of a regular and have gotten to know plenty of people so I've always got people there to just chat to and dance with if no one on the particular night takes my fancy, I do stand by what I said though, that had you gone on a different night you might have had a better time"
What you’ve basically done here is confirm what I’ve said (and usually been berated for) many times; clubs are for couples.
I’m not ‘fortunate’ enough to live close enough to one to become a regular, but I have visited 7 as a single guy, to a total of 17 times, so nobody can say I didn’t give clubs a fair go. I would never recommend to a mate, to visit a club as a single guy. There are rarely any single ladies in (I walked out of both La Chambre and Atlantis Evolution to be asked by guys hanging round outside if there were any women in, to which I replied “Why do you think I’m leaving?”), and although you can watch sexy fun happening live in front of you, being a bystander you may as well be sat at home watching porn for free…..
Clubs can be fun, there’s no doubting that, but it’s much more enjoyable as a couple 
Someone mentioned my ‘mantra’ the other day, so here it is; if you’re looking for cock in a club, go to a club. If you’re looking for pussy, take one with you.  |
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"Then you will get fabbers telling you, you just went on the wrong night etc. Go with your gut feeling. It's very expensive night out for single man unless the club just down the road for you. I spent alot of money on clubs to find out they're not at all for me. I was getting fed up of the timewasters on fab and people kept saying clubs is the way forward. When i went, it was alot worst than being on fab lol. So definitely go with a open mind and be prepared to spend money finding out
I was one of those that said you went on the wrong night, even for me it was way too busy and I love going there, I was just lucky that night that I had taken someone with me so spent most of the night in play rooms with her, also living only 35 minutes down the road I've been able to become a bit of a regular and have gotten to know plenty of people so I've always got people there to just chat to and dance with if no one on the particular night takes my fancy, I do stand by what I said though, that had you gone on a different night you might have had a better time
What you’ve basically done here is confirm what I’ve said (and usually been berated for) many times; clubs are for couples.
I’m not ‘fortunate’ enough to live close enough to one to become a regular, but I have visited 7 as a single guy, to a total of 17 times, so nobody can say I didn’t give clubs a fair go. I would never recommend to a mate, to visit a club as a single guy. There are rarely any single ladies in (I walked out of both La Chambre and Atlantis Evolution to be asked by guys hanging round outside if there were any women in, to which I replied “Why do you think I’m leaving?”), and although you can watch sexy fun happening live in front of you, being a bystander you may as well be sat at home watching porn for free…..
Clubs can be fun, there’s no doubting that, but it’s much more enjoyable as a couple
Someone mentioned my ‘mantra’ the other day, so here it is; if you’re looking for cock in a club, go to a club. If you’re looking for pussy, take one with you. "
All just depends on whos there on the particular night you go and what they are looking for, but after going by myself and with my wife I do prefer to go by myself and do what I want when I want, but then I have only ever been to one club so it could be completely different going somewhere else that I hadn't been before. |
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It does depend on the club.
Went to one that was being raved about.
Me and my then partner left after 15 mins
It was a creepy/seedy vibe
Glad we checked it out on our own before agreeing to go with the other couple as our meet |
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Go to your chosen club, chat to everyone, as a single male don’t follow couples or ladies unless invited as it’s rude and intimidating, or sit there playing with yourself. Remember no means no, just be nice and don’t expect sex, if it happens it’s fantastic, if not it’s not a problem. I have this attitude and I enjoy clubs immensely. |
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