Just got stood up, it is so infuriating. I was at the property and buzzed up but no answer. Waiting outside the front door and communicating through fab, she said she couldn’t see me despite standing outside her door and using the buzzer. Just a big wind up! |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!"
This I would love to see, been stood up loads of times but never actually at the door |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!"
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over. |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over. "
Would agree with you on that. |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that. "
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done. |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that.
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done."
Why should the site be responsible?
I've never had a no show in 6 years here and never been one.
If it's happening regularly then maybe look at the common denominator and change how you vet those you choose to chat to or arrange to meet.
Abuse of a naming and shaming option isn't just a risk, it's a certainty. You only have to look at all the whinging statuses and forum posts every day.
It's your own responsibility to look for red flags and the site shouldn't have to hold anyones hand. |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over. "
This is exactly why it's against site rules to name and shame |
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"Just got stood up, it is so infuriating. I was at the property and buzzed up but no answer. Waiting outside the front door and communicating through fab, she said she couldn’t see me despite standing outside her door and using the buzzer. Just a big wind up!"
You will get banned for naming and shaming. All you can do is report the profile to admin and let them deal with it. Next time, just meet in a public place, no expectations and with plan B if it doesn't happen. I never had no shows but plenty of men saying they meet then using excuses not to turn up or just ghosting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!"
'Glint will happily go to meet a stranger for sex in the middle of the night'.
Like that? |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that.
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done.
Why should the site be responsible?
I've never had a no show in 6 years here and never been one.
If it's happening regularly then maybe look at the common denominator and change how you vet those you choose to chat to or arrange to meet.
Abuse of a naming and shaming option isn't just a risk, it's a certainty. You only have to look at all the whinging statuses and forum posts every day.
It's your own responsibility to look for red flags and the site shouldn't have to hold anyones hand. "
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that.
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done.
Why should the site be responsible?
I've never had a no show in 6 years here and never been one.
If it's happening regularly then maybe look at the common denominator and change how you vet those you choose to chat to or arrange to meet.
Abuse of a naming and shaming option isn't just a risk, it's a certainty. You only have to look at all the whinging statuses and forum posts every day.
It's your own responsibility to look for red flags and the site shouldn't have to hold anyones hand. "
Excellent advice.
My first five meets on here I got stood up. I was completely unprepared, as I'd never experienced that on any other site, but I figured 5 different guys all behaving the same way was more than a coincidence.
Changed how I screen (much more conversation up front, socials first, never "meet now " or meet someone who is in a local hotel for the night) and I can't claim to never get stood up any more but it's a real rarity now.
The guys who complain about jumping through hoops just to get laid are largely the same guys who are likely to stand me up, so it all works out well for me. |
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There's a lot of fake profiles on here unfortunately. Some like swapping messages, some will give a false address to send someone to. Hope you can learn from it |
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We’re starting to learn the red flags now but have been stood up more times than actually met up successfully. I guess some people just have no respect or get off on wasting peoples time and money. (No issue with changing mind at any point, just would appreciate letting us know before we put in the time/effort/money and get stuck waiting around). |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i cannot remember the last no show its been years ..but then i have a strict process of picking my meets so im 99.9% sure they are really in the first place ..
is it not telling that most being let down are guys ? why is that ?? dealing with fake people ie men runing women/couples profiles or are people just that cuntish ??? to waste others peoples time ..
if its alaway happening then the problem is you and your picking process for a meet ie if its too good to be true or too easy to arrange then 99% not going to be real |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!"
People on this site alone can’t agree on the definition of a timewaster. A name and shame system would absolutely be abused, particularly by people who feel even the least bit slighted by someone else on here. |
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By *avenvalCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
We were messed about so much we gave up we simply put a meet today up and alter our status to tell people what time date and club we are going to if people turn up that's good if they don't there are always plenty of people to play with in the club. |
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"We were messed about so much we gave up we simply put a meet today up and alter our status to tell people what time date and club we are going to if people turn up that's good if they don't there are always plenty of people to play with in the club."
This, 100% |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Are u sure it was a woman you were talking to op ?
Sadly many fake profiles will pretend to be a fem/couple & waste others time.
Not that many women would give their address out late night to a stranger to be honest.
I only ever meet socially first in a public place ,if they stand me up I've only wasted half an hour and had a drink.
On fab if it seems too good to be true ,it usually is.Report the profile to admin op though. |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that.
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done.
Why should the site be responsible?
I've never had a no show in 6 years here and never been one.
If it's happening regularly then maybe look at the common denominator and change how you vet those you choose to chat to or arrange to meet.
Abuse of a naming and shaming option isn't just a risk, it's a certainty. You only have to look at all the whinging statuses and forum posts every day.
It's your own responsibility to look for red flags and the site shouldn't have to hold anyones hand. "
Nobody is asking anyone to hold anyone's hand , the OP just wanted the person he was meeting to turn up and meet him like was said , that's all , it's not about anyone having to hold anyone's hand , Fab is full of Timewasters and ghosters, if a person says they will turn up they should and not waste a person's time . |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that.
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done.
Why should the site be responsible?
I've never had a no show in 6 years here and never been one.
If it's happening regularly then maybe look at the common denominator and change how you vet those you choose to chat to or arrange to meet.
Abuse of a naming and shaming option isn't just a risk, it's a certainty. You only have to look at all the whinging statuses and forum posts every day.
It's your own responsibility to look for red flags and the site shouldn't have to hold anyones hand.
Nobody is asking anyone to hold anyone's hand , the OP just wanted the person he was meeting to turn up and meet him like was said , that's all , it's not about anyone having to hold anyone's hand , Fab is full of Timewasters and ghosters, if a person says they will turn up they should and not waste a person's time ."
The op is asking for a naming and shaming option on the site which is never going to happen because it will be abused to the nth degree.
If the site really is full of timewasters and ghosts that makes them even easier to spot in advance so there should never take be a problem.
There are thousands of members here and the vast majority have little or no experience of timewasters.
It's only those who are refusing to change their own approach that have to tell the 5% of fabbers who use the forums how rules should be changed to suit them.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome and blaming the site for that then yes you are expecting your hand held. |
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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago
Romford |
What a shame for genuine people, we got let down again last night, no contact whatsoever after weeks of chatting. We’re finding the ratio 70/30 for genuine/not genuine. Annoying thing for anyone is that you go to the trouble and time of making sure you look your best for that person and it’s all for nothing. |
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"What a shame for genuine people, we got let down again last night, no contact whatsoever after weeks of chatting. We’re finding the ratio 70/30 for genuine/not genuine. Annoying thing for anyone is that you go to the trouble and time of making sure you look your best for that person and it’s all for nothing. "
What were you chatting about for weeks? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The ghosting and being stood up thing is also, partly, how people interact online. I've experienced a lot of it from women on dating apps who change their mind or get anxious and then (I assume) find it too stressful to actually say so. It's crap, but unavoidable when the stakes are so low. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
ghosting
['g??st??]
NOUN
the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication:
therees no ghosting on fab unless your in some type of long term connection ie friendship or relationship its yet another word that gets misused on here .. a stranger who stops talking is not ghosting |
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"Sorry to hear that. Seems to be a common theme happened to me too recently
There should be a name and shame section!
Worst idea ever. It's too easy to abuse. Every minor disagreement or a bruised ego and your name is plastered all over the site with the professional complainers taking it over.
Would agree with you on that.
There is that risk but on behalf of everyone that has been victim of this, something has to be done.
Why should the site be responsible?
I've never had a no show in 6 years here and never been one.
If it's happening regularly then maybe look at the common denominator and change how you vet those you choose to chat to or arrange to meet.
Abuse of a naming and shaming option isn't just a risk, it's a certainty. You only have to look at all the whinging statuses and forum posts every day.
It's your own responsibility to look for red flags and the site shouldn't have to hold anyones hand. "
There you go! |
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