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so tempted to stop being nice
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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but i wont - but honestly - a wink and a friend invite - too young - out of area - both straight - our profile clearly states what we want - did i delete no - i sent a thanks for the wink and invite but youre not for us as youre too young etc but have fun xxxx
they blocked us -
just a bit of a moan - keeps happening i know as i keep reading about it - what a waste of time - they didnt look like they had _iewed us but they may have so didnt mention that  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I never respond to winks from people who are evidently unsuitable for me. I just delete. And I delete every unsolicited friend invite. Might as well have my face pics on public if I accepted every friend invite. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"I never respond to winks from people who are evidently unsuitable for me. I just delete. And I delete every unsolicited friend invite. Might as well have my face pics on public if I accepted every friend invite."
Same here. Although I do try to reply to decent messages I dont reply to winks or random friends invites |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"Could they of blocked you so that you dont show up in their search in the future, therefore they wont bother you again?
I know its not nice, but maybe they didnt mean it to be rude.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Could they of blocked you so that you dont show up in their search in the future, therefore they wont bother you again?
I know its not nice, but maybe they didnt mean it to be rude.
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yes they might have - no message before or after so left guessing haha - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could they of blocked you so that you dont show up in their search in the future, therefore they wont bother you again?
I know its not nice, but maybe they didnt mean it to be rude.
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That's what I do, not intended as rude gesture just a time saving one  |
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"Could they of blocked you so that you dont show up in their search in the future, therefore they wont bother you again?
I know its not nice, but maybe they didnt mean it to be rude.
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Good point "
I think that's the reason too (jumping on the agreeable bandwagon). My profile says no winks but I still get them. It's a sign of interest I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I htink you are being far too nice sending a message from a wink or frinds invite to people that don't interest you
How do you have the time? concetrate your engergies on those that do interest you as you can bet that the wink and invite came from someone that did'nt take the time to look at your profile properly and probably forgot they sent it within a matter of minutes,why give them your time and effort with a response  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I htink you are being far too nice sending a message from a wink or frinds invite to people that don't interest you
How do you have the time? concetrate your engergies on those that do interest you as you can bet that the wink and invite came from someone that did'nt take the time to look at your profile properly and probably forgot they sent it within a matter of minutes,why give them your time and effort with a response "
cos im nice like that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I htink you are being far too nice sending a message from a wink or frinds invite to people that don't interest you
How do you have the time? concetrate your engergies on those that do interest you as you can bet that the wink and invite came from someone that did'nt take the time to look at your profile properly and probably forgot they sent it within a matter of minutes,why give them your time and effort with a response
cos im nice like that "
That clearly shows |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Carry on being nice, most people I've come across on the forum are.
It would be boring without the aggro gang tho lol  "
cant help it tis the way im made - yes we need the knobheads to hang loose over |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Carry on being nice, most people I've come across on the forum are.
It would be boring without the aggro gang tho lol
cant help it tis the way im made - yes we need the knobheads to hang loose over "
You rang ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't sending a wink just an indication that the sender can't be bothered to send a proper message? Personally, if a profile is of interest I take the time to write a message, and while I don't mind receiving winks, I would rather those people also took the time to write a message too. Not attacking those who do send winks just stating a personal POV.  |
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Winks are fine, I get winks off men even tho I am looking for a fem. I see it that they are just liking the pics or the profile. No harm done.
Messages on the other hand drive me mad, ........ obviously not even read my name never mind profile
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Winks are fine, I get winks off men even tho I am looking for a fem. I see it that they are just liking the pics or the profile. No harm done.
Messages on the other hand drive me mad, ........ obviously not even read my name never mind profile
I can see how that would be annoying. I never message anyone if I don't fit what they state what they are looking for on their profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a wink is a good way of showing interest in somebody and is an easy way to 'break the ice' if you like. It can be a bit intimidating writing a message to someone you like the look of the first time, so a wink is an easier way to find out if the interest is mutual. Its easier to accept a wink being ignored, than it is to see your email get deleted straight away!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a wink is a good way of showing interest in somebody and is an easy way to 'break the ice' if you like. It can be a bit intimidating writing a message to someone you like the look of the first time, so a wink is an easier way to find out if the interest is mutual. Its easier to accept a wink being ignored, than it is to see your email get deleted straight away!!
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Having a message deleted doesn't bother me. I understand that profiles generally only contain an outline of what people are looking for, so there are still many reasons why I may not fit the bill. C'est la vie!  |
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We've just been blocked by someone as well...lol, sent a pleasent enough msg, they read it and blocked us  , ah well, we'll grab our gear and head out on another cryptozoology hunt, a bi fem's been spotted in the himalayas |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've just been blocked by someone as well...lol, sent a pleasent enough msg, they read it and blocked us , ah well, we'll grab our gear and head out on another cryptozoology hunt, a bi fem's been spotted in the himalayas "
That'll be the extremely rare bi fem yeti. Ok as long as you don't mind a hairy bush etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't worry about things like that.
How do you know you were blocked, you must have tried to look at their profile, why do that if you'd sent a message saying no thanks.
People are allowed to use the site as they wish, they simply didn't want you _iewing or contacting them further, but as you messaged them declining their interest, surely it doesn't matter one bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if i walked past you in the street and winked at you , how would you feel , i think a wink is a harmless way to say that you like what you se ,
and if you get a wink back or a message its a bonus
ive had a few winks and its always nice to get a wink aspecialy from someone you like to look of to |
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We had been chatting to a couple by email and had accepted friend request.
They finally got round to emailing us face pictures and we decided that they were not for us.
Sent a nice email back to them saying they were not for us and have since been removed as friends!
Up until that point we were perfectly happy to be friends as they said they go to and organise parties and had already invited us on a few occasions.
Some people just dont handle rejection and aometimes its not all about the shagging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have blocked you because you didnt reply. No issue we do that so we don't bother trying again. Plenty of other people out there happy to meet us, move on. |
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"but i wont - but honestly - a wink and a friend invite - too young - out of area - both straight - our profile clearly states what we want - did i delete no - i sent a thanks for the wink and invite but youre not for us as youre too young etc but have fun xxxx
they blocked us -
just a bit of a moan - keeps happening i know as i keep reading about it - what a waste of time - they didnt look like they had _iewed us but they may have so didnt mention that "
What's your problem?
YOU have a profile setting out what YOU want. Poeple contact you who obviously haven't read your profile. YOU waste time replying to them then moan about it.
Who's wasting who's time? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i dont consider being nice and polite as wasting time to be fair - it was obvious they hadnt read our profile and hadnt messaged us or anything - and im not THAT bothered - its been explained that some folk block so as not to make same mistake twice - i can just delete but choose not to as i feel a bit rude doing that - we get a lot of looks and winks and i dont reply to those - but have been in touch with some people of those lists when we have looked through them together as a couple -
im not going to get all agressive as i dont see the point - i was just making a point and said right near the beginning i was over it - just had a little moan - that was all - stay happy people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - you have to get it well and truly into your heads that the 'Block Button' is a tool - no more, no less.
It is NOT a judgement on YOU. Some people can and do use it in a way which can be interpreted as callous, ruthless even. But at the end of the day, it is ONLY a tool.
Don't worry about it - move on...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can I have a moan here please
I don't like it when women / couples , put on there status updates that there sick of been let down and sick of timewasters etc !
I clearly go out my way to give them a nice message and they just delete without even so much as a reply or even looking at you !
That's my rant over , opinions on that please if you don't mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I have a moan here please
I don't like it when women / couples , put on there status updates that there sick of been let down and sick of timewasters etc !
I clearly go out my way to give them a nice message and they just delete without even so much as a reply or even looking at you !
That's my rant over , opinions on that please if you don't mind "
Just a point with your user name: if you contact someone you are effectively calling them a BBW and a MILF and they really might not appreciate that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you winked 5 days ago thats all "
I thought we had mailed as well. Never mind you are not interested and we don't take it personally in the slightest. Just move on POF. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I have a moan here please
I don't like it when women / couples , put on there status updates that there sick of been let down and sick of timewasters etc !
I clearly go out my way to give them a nice message and they just delete without even so much as a reply or even looking at you !
That's my rant over , opinions on that please if you don't mind
Just a point with your user name: if you contact someone you are effectively calling them a BBW and a MILF and they really might not appreciate that!"
I agree I don't mind the term BBW as I use it myself but cannot stand the phase MILF or anyone that uses it! So a message from u would end up deleted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but i wont - but honestly - a wink and a friend invite - too young - out of area - both straight - our profile clearly states what we want - did i delete no - i sent a thanks for the wink and invite but youre not for us as youre too young etc but have fun xxxx
they blocked us -
just a bit of a moan - keeps happening i know as i keep reading about it - what a waste of time - they didnt look like they had _iewed us but they may have so didnt mention that "
i dont see why ppl should have to remain nice...if i get winks and invites off ppl who clearly are not what im looking for i just delete them, same goes for messages...it just means others are chancing their arm by sending them and im sure they don't give two hoots! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"you winked 5 days ago thats all
I thought we had mailed as well. Never mind you are not interested and we don't take it personally in the slightest. Just move on POF."
not been given a chance really especially as i cant see your profile but im really not that bothered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you winked 5 days ago thats all
I thought we had mailed as well. Never mind you are not interested and we don't take it personally in the slightest. Just move on POF.
not been given a chance really especially as i cant see your profile but im really not that bothered "
don't be influenced....need more like you ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"you winked 5 days ago thats all
I thought we had mailed as well. Never mind you are not interested and we don't take it personally in the slightest. Just move on POF.
not been given a chance really especially as i cant see your profile but im really not that bothered don't be influenced....need more like you ! "
if you mean us - thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you winked 5 days ago thats all
I thought we had mailed as well. Never mind you are not interested and we don't take it personally in the slightest. Just move on POF.
not been given a chance really especially as i cant see your profile but im really not that bothered don't be influenced....need more like you !
Whilst it may seem nauseous and cheesy, it was sincerely aimed at you. Polite, respectful, not ranting and taking the time where possible to reply
if you mean us - thank you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol and no it wasn't a preamble to asking to meet lol....just be nice.....too many people far too angry on here....isn't this site meant to be about having fun not pathetic squabbling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well chuckles to self as profile says no single men - sorry couldnt help myself "
I know ! I peek at profiles who post, so fully aware. Just expressing an opinion about nicer folk.....now ill stop praising you as you're of no use to me lol......joke ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well chuckles to self as profile says no single men - sorry couldnt help myself
I know ! I peek at profiles who post, so fully aware. Just expressing an opinion about nicer folk.....now ill stop praising you as you're of no use to me lol......joke ! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love random friends invites!
I have great fun waiting til they're asleep - accepting - taking a peek at their frinds only pics - and then deleting and if needs must - blocking!
I do warn folk on my profile so feel no guilt!
Everyone else - i'm nice to! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well , this is def not e-harmony in here.
Peace and goodwill to all...... pleeeease .
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????? i think this has all been quite lovely with an odd exception - was just about to post something long those lines |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i declined a couple a week or so ago with the line .....'can i politely decline, but not for me'........ and as a reply i was called a hooker and an alley cat.....plus a few other choice words.......
wtf??
next time just block and be damned as why be nice
i did report but lets see what happens
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"i declined a couple a week or so ago with the line .....'can i politely decline, but not for me'........ and as a reply i was called a hooker and an alley cat.....plus a few other choice words.......
wtf??
next time just block and be damned as why be nice
i did report but lets see what happens
x"
An 'alley cat'?
First time i've heard that as an insult!
Obviously been watching 'Top Cat' too much! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i declined a couple a week or so ago with the line .....'can i politely decline, but not for me'........ and as a reply i was called a hooker and an alley cat.....plus a few other choice words.......
wtf??
next time just block and be damned as why be nice
i did report but lets see what happens
x"
Did better than us as you just ignored our message. Sheesh that must put us ever lower on desirability we don't even merit a ten second in composition message!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i declined a couple a week or so ago with the line .....'can i politely decline, but not for me'........ and as a reply i was called a hooker and an alley cat.....plus a few other choice words.......
wtf??
next time just block and be damned as why be nice
i did report but lets see what happens
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Did better than us as you just ignored our message. Sheesh that must put us ever lower on desirability we don't even merit a ten second in composition message! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i declined a couple a week or so ago with the line .....'can i politely decline, but not for me'........ and as a reply i was called a hooker and an alley cat.....plus a few other choice words.......
wtf??
next time just block and be damned as why be nice
i did report but lets see what happens
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Did better than us as you just ignored our message. Sheesh that must put us ever lower on desirability we don't even merit a ten second in composition message!
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I am being sarcastic but the point is there are some holier than thou people on here who are no better than the people they are complaining about.
For avoidance of doubt we always reply. |
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