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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Hey ladies, we and our fantastic guy's know that us girl's get the lions share of attention here.. Our gorgeous partner's bluntly, receive little attention or appreciation by comparison, while they in many cases, as we understand, look after the admin etc..
So the question, how have/do you readdress the balance?
Facilitating your Fella's fantasies? Showing your appreciation etc?? Y xx |
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
Gleam Street |
All I can do is metion him on my profile and state that I'm happy to chat to anyone he's talking to...
It seems to have worked so far, but then, we've kept our single profiles rather than a couples one |
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"Hey ladies, we and our fantastic guy's know that us girl's get the lions share of attention here.. Our gorgeous partner's bluntly, receive little attention or appreciation by comparison, while they in many cases, as we understand, look after the admin etc..
So the question, how have/do you readdress the balance?
Facilitating your Fella's fantasies? Showing your appreciation etc?? Y xx"
My husband only bobs in and out of Fab, he never bothers with the forum but replies to the odd message. So it’s me who does all the admin.
We’ve never considered that it’s unbalanced, it just works for us 
Our fantasies are the same so Fab is largely a means to an end. He’s happy - of that I am very sure  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Hey ladies, we and our fantastic guy's know that us girl's get the lions share of attention here.. Our gorgeous partner's bluntly, receive little attention or appreciation by comparison, while they in many cases, as we understand, look after the admin etc..
So the question, how have/do you readdress the balance?
Facilitating your Fella's fantasies? Showing your appreciation etc?? Y xx
My husband only bobs in and out of Fab, he never bothers with the forum but replies to the odd message. So it’s me who does all the admin.
We’ve never considered that it’s unbalanced, it just works for us
Our fantasies are the same so Fab is largely a means to an end. He’s happy - of that I am very sure "
Great! x |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"All I can do is metion him on my profile and state that I'm happy to chat to anyone he's talking to...
It seems to have worked so far, but then, we've kept our single profiles rather than a couples one"
We play as a couple and trust me he'd not struggle, I'd just like to make a few meetings more about him.. x |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"When its the male half of the couple profile sorting the admin etc. 9 times out of 10 its timewasting/fake!! I think thats why people dont give as much attention! Very sad really!! "
We're in the 10% then.. neither statement applies  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"We both have access to the account, we only meet together, I do most of the 'fabmin', but when people completely ignore him in messages etc then it's a block from us
Vix x "
Utterly!!! It's an annoyance at least. X |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I (Cherry) do all of the admin/messaging for us! He sees everything and we discuss all.
He's happy for me to get attention, he enjoys it too, at the end of the day, he knows I'm his! "
Same here! And D enjoys totally, the question was more about anything us ladies have instigated to make our men feel center of attention for a change.. x |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Here, here I'll be interested to know also  x
Mr here ... It truly peeves me when we get MSG's and it's clear from the outset that either the male or female half of the couple are more interested in the Mrs. Now, don't get me wrong I find this a huge compliment as I'm sure she does but it's a couples account to which we both have access. Perhaps we need to amend our profile and have a Mr & Mrs pic instead? That might help?"
Mr here, Y has just shown me her post. I'm so going to show my appreciation for her thoughts shortly!!! Yes mate, the disregard of our relationship from many is unsettling sometimes, but we knew that'd be the case really, didn't we?  |
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"Mr here, Y has just shown me her post. I'm so going to show my appreciation for her thoughts shortly!!! Yes mate, the disregard of our relationship from many is unsettling sometimes, but we knew that'd be the case really, didn't we? "
Yes mate it certainly is and kinda knocks the confidence at times. But you're right it was never going to be the other way around we'll make some profile and pic changes to see if that helps. If it persists we'll just block them like someone suggested.
I'll leave you be to sort Y out  |
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"When its the male half of the couple profile sorting the admin etc. 9 times out of 10 its timewasting/fake!! I think thats why people dont give as much attention! Very sad really!!
We're in the 10% then.. neither statement applies "
Same as us... single males seem to get upset when they can't talk to the female immediately  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I don't get any more attention then the Mr, I wouldn't like it if that were the case, but we only share pics of us both so I guess what's why.
Mrs "
And great pictures they are too!! The post was really more about treat's you have or are looking to 'spoil' your fella..
Organising a unicorn or 2 , surprising with a club trip etc, etc  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"When its the male half of the couple profile sorting the admin etc. 9 times out of 10 its timewasting/fake!! I think thats why people dont give as much attention! Very sad really!!
We're in the 10% then.. neither statement applies
Same as us... single males seem to get upset when they can't talk to the female immediately "
We have single men filtered atm, didn't for a while and it got tiring..
Yes though when any chat almost ignores the presence of D, he has commented "just checking I'm invited too?" Or something akin. In hindsight when the initial flattery has passed he has been completely just..
Really interested in way's us girls have shown appreciation for their compersion and sometimes patience Making it all about him for once.. x |
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We both use and admin our page equally, I, Jack, am happy for Sam to receive the majority of the attention although I do get a bit occasionally mainly from other bi men.
What I do find slightly annoying is messages addressed only to Sam, those tend to either get ignored or receive a sarcastic reply.
Great thread idea tho |
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We’ve tried to make our profile equal but I enjoy C getting the attention…she looks incredible
I get plenty of attention from C and we’ve been lucky enough to meet some fantastic people who respect our boundaries so I get plenty of enjoyment from those too.
C’s always looking to tick off my fantasies as well as hers and also the people that join us, so I don’t need any special singling out - this lifestyle works for us both already
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The worst is when you get a message from a guy that just says stuff like…hey babes, hi gorgeous, or I wanna fuck you etc etc. no effort, no thought of hubby, no chance of getting anywhere near us….yuk. |
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I think that the fact most of the responses have been nothing to do with what the female half of the couple does for their partner is an answer alone. Well done Op for raising this and I commend your respect, love and equality in your relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We share the load but for us what seems to work is he does the heavy lifting at first sorting the fakes from the genuine, then I tend to pick things up and by the time we’re properly chatting to anyone we’re both involved so it flows. Honestly depends on the day though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am working on fulfilling some fantasies though to be fair, got a couple of ideas for his birthday this month to balance the books a bit. Between us ladies, it works for me too though |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I think that the fact most of the responses have been nothing to do with what the female half of the couple does for their partner is an answer alone. Well done Op for raising this and I commend your respect, love and equality in your relationship. "
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