Hi all, we are new to the scene but talking about dipping our toe in with a club. Just wanted to get a steer on if it would be frowned upon to go and socialise even if nothing sexual happens? We think for our first time it would just be nice to go for a drink, flirt and chat and possibly no more on that visit. What’s people’s thoughts? Be kind to us haha |
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"Hi all, we are new to the scene but talking about dipping our toe in with a club. Just wanted to get a steer on if it would be frowned upon to go and socialise even if nothing sexual happens? We think for our first time it would just be nice to go for a drink, flirt and chat and possibly no more on that visit. What’s people’s thoughts? Be kind to us haha "
Thats exactly our thoughts, we don't want to just fuck, but get to know a friend group we can have regular fun with. |
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Going with no expectation of doing anything is probably the best, healthiest way to approach your first time.
It can be a bit overwhelming if you build it up in your head as being something specific, or having a plan, first up.
We had our first club night for years recently. The intention was to essentially have an 'adult-themed' but 'normal' night out.
If all we did was have a drink, a dance, speak to some people and/or watch other people having fun, and got turned on before going back to the hotel and just fucking each other, then it's a good night already.
As it was, we had great fun and ended up playing anyway.
Do a bit of research and find the right club for you, and a themed night is generally a decent way to go. It's just a naughty fancy dress night then  |
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"Hi all, we are new to the scene but talking about dipping our toe in with a club. Just wanted to get a steer on if it would be frowned upon to go and socialise even if nothing sexual happens? We think for our first time it would just be nice to go for a drink, flirt and chat and possibly no more on that visit. What’s people’s thoughts? Be kind to us haha "
It's totally normal just to go to socialise and for me the nights where I just go to socialise and dance with friends on the dancefloor, chill in the hot tub and meet new people is just as fun as when I hit it off and play with someone, being from Bedford I'd highly recommend Jaydees it's such a sociable club with no expectations and you don't even have to dress down if you don't want to, I think it's a newbie night a week on Saturday it would be perfect for you. Nick x |
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I actually rarely play when visiting a club; I love a chat and a flirt see who is around. I love the social side to it all . It's definitely not frowned upon. Go you will enjoy yourselves I'm sure. There is absolutely no pressure to do anything. |
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