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By *thfloor OP Couple
over a year ago
Hove |
Specifically when you've arranged a meeting, do you still withhold your phone number?
Twice in recent months I've met with a man and we didn't exchange numbers, before or after. This has never happened to me before so not sure what to make of it, if anything. Is it common? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Nope I don't give out my number before I meet anyone. And actually after I rarely give my number out. It's never been an issue with anyone I've met and if it ever is an issue they can just move on to someone else if they want. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"We always exchange numbers it's kinda suspicious if they don't "
We have to exchange numbers for a meet, especially if they are going to be coming into our home. It's not just trying to work out the serious people from the time wasters but also a safety thing. So we do think the same, Suspicious. If you are genuine and respectful what have you got to hide. Wouldn't exchange straight away as we like to chat to see if we are going to hit it off, if so an exchange of numbers and meet. Don't get us wrong we have had people waste our time and had their number, just an extra thing to block but never had a problem   |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
ive never given my phone number out ive never used a app for meets and ive never given any emails out i do everything via fab (if fab related) and it works very well if the other person is not happy thats fine too i just move on because they are not getting it ..
yes i know you can block
yes i know you could have a swing phone
but i dont need |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I think it's healthy to seperate some form of life from our kinky fab side and a phone number is an obvious way of doing so.
There's apps and this site to communicate without someone being able to call you spontaneously while busy at work or with friends/family.
I wouldn't give mine out and I'm not even a sexy woman who naturally I assume are more at risk from being bombarded on the phone |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"We always exchange numbers it's kinda suspicious if they don't "
Why is it suspicious.My friend on here exchanged her number with a guy she met. She decided she didn't want to meet him again and ended up with her number all over groups and was getting phone calls day and night from random men on here thinking it was okay.She also had another guy ring her for months off numerous numbers begging her to meet him again after she met him for a coffee once. So for those reasons alone I won't share my number with people I don't know well.If it means some people don't want to meet me that's fine. It doesn't mean that I'm a time waster or disingenuous it just means I value my privacy.And before anyone says why don't I get a second phone for fab simple answer is because I don't want one I'm not that invested in here to want or need a second phone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t give out our phone numbers because fab is separate from our day to day normal life. We use our phones to contact family , friends and for work. Our kids also use our phones and it’s much easier to log out of here and clear our search history, rather than risking a text or phone call coming through randomly. |
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I don't meet anyone who invites me to their home for a first meet. They don't know me so if they are content to invite a complete stranger into their home with no concern for personal safety they aren't people I want to meet.
The same applies to phone numbers.
I've been here long enough to know that phone numbers, like all personal info are used as currency around here.
Once again, anyone happy to share phone numbers without having met socially are not people I'm interested in meeting.
Blame it on the site or personal experience but I am more suspicious of those who don't think of the consequences of having strangers in their home or of sharing phone numbers.
I have more respect for those who don't do either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve met people that don’t exchange numbers. Although I prefer to at least have some sort of communication off Fab, even if it’s just used in an emergency situation. Where you can’t get on fab, or they’re not frequently on and you need to get in touch prior meeting / travelling there. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I don't meet anyone who invites me to their home for a first meet. They don't know me so if they are content to invite a complete stranger into their home with no concern for personal safety they aren't people I want to meet.
The same applies to phone numbers.
I've been here long enough to know that phone numbers, like all personal info are used as currency around here.
Once again, anyone happy to share phone numbers without having met socially are not people I'm interested in meeting.
Blame it on the site or personal experience but I am more suspicious of those who don't think of the consequences of having strangers in their home or of sharing phone numbers.
I have more respect for those who don't do either."
Everyone has their way of how they make fab work. We wouldn't criticise or judge anyone for the way they do things. We definitely wouldn't invite a complete stranger into our home, we'd have had to have met for a social |
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"We always exchange numbers it's kinda suspicious if they don't
Why is it suspicious.My friend on here exchanged her number with a guy she met. She decided she didn't want to meet him again and ended up with her number all over groups and was getting phone calls day and night from random men on here thinking it was okay.She also had another guy ring her for months off numerous numbers begging her to meet him again after she met him for a coffee once. So for those reasons alone I won't share my number with people I don't know well.If it means some people don't want to meet me that's fine. It doesn't mean that I'm a time waster or disingenuous it just means I value my privacy.And before anyone says why don't I get a second phone for fab simple answer is because I don't want one I'm not that invested in here to want or need a second phone.
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It could be suspicious in that it could be a male trying it on or it could be worse like a girl having a group of people organised to attack and Rob the person there meeting. I know it's probably a small chance but still it's still a chance |
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By *thfloor OP Couple
over a year ago
Hove |
Thank you everyone for your replies, it has given me perspective - I didn't realise this was so common! I'm updating my understanding that withholding a number is not shady 
I understand safety concerns, however when someone's already invited you in their home/body that's more exposure than chucking them a number. I totally discounted the desire for a hard cut-off - I don't need to compartmentalise to that level so I had a blind spot. |
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"I have a play phone just for randoms . Turn it off and throw it in a drawer until I need it to verify a person etc "
I have the same thing! it's great for security, safety and keeping your "real" world separate from your naughty one. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I have a play phone just for randoms . Turn it off and throw it in a drawer until I need it to verify a person etc
I have the same thing! it's great for security, safety and keeping your "real" world separate from your naughty one. "
This is our real life, everything we do in our life is real, no difference to us going out on a biker weekend or a swinger weekend. Never understood this thing about seperate things in life. Your life is your life and if your into swinging it's part of your life. We love our life and are proud of it and love all our friends in it |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"It could be a difference of using fab as a sex site or a swingers site. We don't look for random, for us about the swinging lifestyle "
been in this swinging lifestyle for nearly 30 years never give my number out never used a app fab is fine |
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Exactly this. If you’re all hitting it off and all genuine why wouldn’t you exchange numbers or apps etc. Single people especially guys, if you are unwilling to give your number after we have communicated and feel a connection for what we are looking for, then you have just failed!! Get your ego and bulls£@t self fulfilling prophecy out of here. You’re just the extra not the main attraction. If you want to be main bring something else besides yourself to the table. It’s why single guys are off the table. Funny how single women understand this without ego, self importance and want to prove dominance. I’m to important to give you my number lol keep dreaming  |
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"Exactly this. If you’re all hitting it off and all genuine why wouldn’t you exchange numbers or apps etc. Single people especially guys, if you are unwilling to give your number after we have communicated and feel a connection for what we are looking for, then you have just failed!! Get your ego and bulls£@t self fulfilling prophecy out of here. You’re just the extra not the main attraction. If you want to be main bring something else besides yourself to the table. It’s why single guys are off the table. Funny how single women understand this without ego, self importance and want to prove dominance. I’m to important to give you my number lol keep dreaming "
So how do you explain the number of single women who post regularly on the forums and can confirm they have zero interest in being the extra as you put it?
What has refusing to hand out a phone number got to do with ego?
I see a bigger ego issue among those who have little or no respect for those they are meeting and see them just as numbers.
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Mr gives his to guys for WhatsApp chat, then creates a group chat with Mrs and the guy. Mrs number is never displayed or given out. If guys aren't happy with that arrangement then it goes no further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's enough communication platforms that exchanging numbers isn't necessary. I've never given my number out with people I've known for nearly 10 years let alone before we've met |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't give out my number until after Ive met someone a few times and feel really comfortable with them. I use here and Kik to keep in touch and make arrangements |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My personal view on it is I'd happily give my number out IF
1-we both seemed happy and comfortable chatting with each other and that they MAY be a chance of meeting
2-prove to the person I was chatting with that I was A real and B genuine
3-only if the person I was chatting with wanted it and I was happy to
I would never just give it out straight off like I've seen on here |
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"Exactly this. If you’re all hitting it off and all genuine why wouldn’t you exchange numbers or apps etc. Single people especially guys, if you are unwilling to give your number after we have communicated and feel a connection for what we are looking for, then you have just failed!! Get your ego and bulls£@t self fulfilling prophecy out of here. You’re just the extra not the main attraction. If you want to be main bring something else besides yourself to the table. It’s why single guys are off the table. Funny how single women understand this without ego, self importance and want to prove dominance. I’m to important to give you my number lol keep dreaming "
LMAO the air must be different up in that ivory tower. Do let us know when you come back down to earth. And reality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did use to give my number but to meany time waste
And now can get on line anywhere so if they don't show they lose out and someone else get a nice time if I like |
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