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I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step? |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?"
How romantic are you! How will you wrap it? |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
How romantic are you! How will you wrap it?"
With bows and ribbons and a little bottle of lube on the side..  |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
How romantic are you! How will you wrap it?
With bows and ribbons and a little bottle of lube on the side.. "
Some say romance is dead........but you sir are a Romeo! |
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"Make sure u get her lube as well as the butt plug. Lovehoney has a good range."
Thank you, was thinking something small as a starter but do let me know what size you think would be best. And just for my benefit, does a butt make vaginally sex more pleasurable? |
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"Does she actually want to try?? If so then yes xx
She is nervous and I don't want to pressure her so wanted something that would be a taster without any pressure"
You don't want to pressure her so you've decided to start buying her toys to start her anal training.
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"Does she actually want to try?? If so then yes xx
She is nervous and I don't want to pressure her so wanted something that would be a taster without any pressure
You don't want to pressure her so you've decided to start buying her toys to start her anal training.
Ok "
I haven't bought anything yet, was seeking some advice. It isn't something she has said no to so was interested to hear views. Sounds likeyou feel its a bad idea. |
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"Does she actually want to try?? If so then yes xx
She is nervous and I don't want to pressure her so wanted something that would be a taster without any pressure
You don't want to pressure her so you've decided to start buying her toys to start her anal training.
Ok
I haven't bought anything yet, was seeking some advice. It isn't something she has said no to so was interested to hear views. Sounds likeyou feel its a bad idea. "
I would not take much notice op some just......well you know |
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"Does she actually want to try?? If so then yes xx
She is nervous and I don't want to pressure her so wanted something that would be a taster without any pressure
You don't want to pressure her so you've decided to start buying her toys to start her anal training.
Ok
I haven't bought anything yet, was seeking some advice. It isn't something she has said no to so was interested to hear views. Sounds likeyou feel its a bad idea.
I would not take much notice op some just......well you know "
Some just what? |
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"Does she actually want to try?? If so then yes xx
She is nervous and I don't want to pressure her so wanted something that would be a taster without any pressure
You don't want to pressure her so you've decided to start buying her toys to start her anal training.
Ok
I haven't bought anything yet, was seeking some advice. It isn't something she has said no to so was interested to hear views. Sounds likeyou feel its a bad idea.
I would not take much notice op some just......well you know
Some just what?"
Just take everything so very seriously! |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?"
If you want to introduce her to pleasurable anal play then start with rimming and gentle finger (singular) don't give her a butt plug for goodness sake. If she's up for you showing her how it can feel good then start there. If she's not sure she will enjoy anal and feels nervous I can't think how you think a butt plug will help. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
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"Make sure u get her lube as well as the butt plug. Lovehoney has a good range.
Thank you, was thinking something small as a starter but do let me know what size you think would be best. And just for my benefit, does a butt make vaginally sex more pleasurable?"
Make sure you get water based lube if you buy a silicone toy. Never use silicone based lube with them as they'll deteriorate.
LH do a huge selection - we've tested loads for them. There's a few in the black Friday sale too.
Personally I'd recommend a slim stainless steel one. Easy to clean and you can also then use silicone based lube (which lasts longer than water based).
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?"
Why don't you get 2 butt plugs 1 each. |
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"Thank you Colonel. The joys of the Forum. You ask for some advice and get jumped on, but that's the Froum jungle for you."
It’s a harsh place but just take it with a pinch of salt and move on...... |
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"Thank you Colonel. The joys of the Forum. You ask for some advice and get jumped on, but that's the Froum jungle for you."
At no point did i 'jump' on you.
You asked for opinions and I gave you one. |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
If you want to introduce her to pleasurable anal play then start with rimming and gentle finger (singular) don't give her a butt plug for goodness sake. If she's up for you showing her how it can feel good then start there. If she's not sure she will enjoy anal and feels nervous I can't think how you think a butt plug will help. "
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
If you want to introduce her to pleasurable anal play then start with rimming and gentle finger (singular) don't give her a butt plug for goodness sake. If she's up for you showing her how it can feel good then start there. If she's not sure she will enjoy anal and feels nervous I can't think how you think a butt plug will help. "
Thank you, very helpful advice. The reason I was thinking of it was I thought it might be a fun present that could get a conversation going in a light hearted way. |
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"Make sure u get her lube as well as the butt plug. Lovehoney has a good range.
Thank you, was thinking something small as a starter but do let me know what size you think would be best. And just for my benefit, does a butt make vaginally sex more pleasurable?
Make sure you get water based lube if you buy a silicone toy. Never use silicone based lube with them as they'll deteriorate.
LH do a huge selection - we've tested loads for them. There's a few in the black Friday sale too.
Personally I'd recommend a slim stainless steel one. Easy to clean and you can also then use silicone based lube (which lasts longer than water based).
A"
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
Why don't you get 2 butt plugs 1 each."
That's a great idea |
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"Thank you Colonel. The joys of the Forum. You ask for some advice and get jumped on, but that's the Froum jungle for you.
At no point did i 'jump' on you.
You asked for opinions and I gave you one."
All good, I was looking for some advice, you gave your view assuming I'd already made a decision. Let's all be friends. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
If you want to introduce her to pleasurable anal play then start with rimming and gentle finger (singular) don't give her a butt plug for goodness sake. If she's up for you showing her how it can feel good then start there. If she's not sure she will enjoy anal and feels nervous I can't think how you think a butt plug will help. "
As an alternative view, some would suggest every person is different. I have known a number of women that I have got into anal training by themselves without rimming and or fingering and started with a small butt plug and worked up.
As someone said on another thread, people can be quite brutal on people asking an honest question or asking for advice. I take the view it is better people ask and tap into the wide range of knowledge held by Fabsters. People giving advice or giving an opinion should do so being fair. As someone into kink we want newbies to ask questions and get educated so they can play safely and with consideration. Someone new to a practice should not feel they will be shot at if they put their heads above the parapet for asking a question. |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
If you want to introduce her to pleasurable anal play then start with rimming and gentle finger (singular) don't give her a butt plug for goodness sake. If she's up for you showing her how it can feel good then start there. If she's not sure she will enjoy anal and feels nervous I can't think how you think a butt plug will help.
As an alternative view, some would suggest every person is different. I have known a number of women that I have got into anal training by themselves without rimming and or fingering and started with a small butt plug and worked up.
As someone said on another thread, people can be quite brutal on people asking an honest question or asking for advice. I take the view it is better people ask and tap into the wide range of knowledge held by Fabsters. People giving advice or giving an opinion should do so being fair. As someone into kink we want newbies to ask questions and get educated so they can play safely and with consideration. Someone new to a practice should not feel they will be shot at if they put their heads above the parapet for asking a question."
Thank you Zensual, a great post and much appreciated |
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"I have a FB who has never tried anal. I was thinking of buying her a small tasteful butt plug as a Xmas present as a starting point. Ladies, is this something that you would think would be a good first step?
If you want to introduce her to pleasurable anal play then start with rimming and gentle finger (singular) don't give her a butt plug for goodness sake. If she's up for you showing her how it can feel good then start there. If she's not sure she will enjoy anal and feels nervous I can't think how you think a butt plug will help.
As an alternative view, some would suggest every person is different. I have known a number of women that I have got into anal training by themselves without rimming and or fingering and started with a small butt plug and worked up.
As someone said on another thread, people can be quite brutal on people asking an honest question or asking for advice. I take the view it is better people ask and tap into the wide range of knowledge held by Fabsters. People giving advice or giving an opinion should do so being fair. As someone into kink we want newbies to ask questions and get educated so they can play safely and with consideration. Someone new to a practice should not feel they will be shot at if they put their heads above the parapet for asking a question."
fab is a recreational sex site and should be treated as such. Unfortunately some participants take it far to seriously and sometimes go a little over the top!
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Personally, I absolutely hate plugs.
Fingers, yes. Tentacle dildos, very yes. Cocks, fuck yes.
But plugs? Annoying, static, just sit there feeling uncomfortable and weird without any actual stimulation? Fuck that noise. Dries me right up.
The first time I tried a butt plug I was put right off anal for over a year. And I already knew I liked anal. |
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"Personally, I absolutely hate plugs.
Fingers, yes. Tentacle dildos, very yes. Cocks, fuck yes.
But plugs? Annoying, static, just sit there feeling uncomfortable and weird without any actual stimulation? Fuck that noise. Dries me right up.
The first time I tried a butt plug I was put right off anal for over a year. And I already knew I liked anal."
she is still in the mindset that it's for shitting! And is worried about pain so I'm taking I very slow. Would love to hear how ladies get over that initial pain. |
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"Have started with some lube and gentle fingerings. Not sure it will progress further but let's see. Her pussy was very wet when I was playing with her arse which was a good sign."
I struggle with these posts.
Firstly does your friend know you are discussing intimate details on a recreational sex site? Secondly why not speak to your partner and embark on the journey together? |
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"Have started with some lube and gentle fingerings. Not sure it will progress further but let's see. Her pussy was very wet when I was playing with her arse which was a good sign.
I struggle with these posts.
Firstly does your friend know you are discussing intimate details on a recreational sex site? Secondly why not speak to your partner and embark on the journey together?"
Lots of very experienced people on here so just looking for advice, people discuss all aspects of sex on the forums and can be really helpful. |
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"Have started with some lube and gentle fingerings. Not sure it will progress further but let's see. Her pussy was very wet when I was playing with her arse which was a good sign.
I struggle with these posts.
Firstly does your friend know you are discussing intimate details on a recreational sex site? Secondly why not speak to your partner and embark on the journey together?"
I agree with this. If she wanted anul im sure she would ask. I love rimming,and do this oftern but nothing like full anul as i know she doesnt like it. You so need to talk to her first. Sorry opp |
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"Have started with some lube and gentle fingerings. Not sure it will progress further but let's see. Her pussy was very wet when I was playing with her arse which was a good sign.
I struggle with these posts.
Firstly does your friend know you are discussing intimate details on a recreational sex site? Secondly why not speak to your partner and embark on the journey together?
I agree with this. If she wanted anul im sure she would ask. I love rimming,and do this oftern but nothing like full anul as i know she doesnt like it. You so need to talk to her first. Sorry opp"
no need to apologise. Good advice, we have of course talked about it, and I've been with other ladies who have really enjoyed anal, but if it's not for her that will be totally fine |
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" she is still in the mindset that it's for shitting! And is worried about pain so I'm taking I very slow. Would love to hear how ladies get over that initial pain."
The first time I had normal sex was more painful than the first time I had anal.
As long as you're relaxed and enjoying yourself and the build up is done right it doesn't have to hurt at all. Unfortunately most people tense up at the thought so half the work is the frame of mind, but a good few orgasms beforehand help with that. |
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" she is still in the mindset that it's for shitting! And is worried about pain so I'm taking I very slow. Would love to hear how ladies get over that initial pain.
The first time I had normal sex was more painful than the first time I had anal.
As long as you're relaxed and enjoying yourself and the build up is done right it doesn't have to hurt at all. Unfortunately most people tense up at the thought so half the work is the frame of mind, but a good few orgasms beforehand help with that."
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I have trained many an arse. Genuinly thinking of doing it as a service. Some people can leave the first session able to take a standard size cock others need longer sessions with homework. I find this very sexy so hit me up if interested. To be clear this is not me selling anything I just love to do this on men, women, trans |
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By *ornycougaWoman 41 weeks ago
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"I have trained many an arse. Genuinly thinking of doing it as a service. Some people can leave the first session able to take a standard size cock others need longer sessions with homework. I find this very sexy so hit me up if interested. To be clear this is not me selling anything I just love to do this on men, women, trans "
No one who sent me on my way with "homework" would be going anywhere near my arse  |
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"I have trained many an arse. Genuinly thinking of doing it as a service. Some people can leave the first session able to take a standard size cock others need longer sessions with homework. I find this very sexy so hit me up if interested. To be clear this is not me selling anything I just love to do this on men, women, trans
No one who sent me on my way with "homework" would be going anywhere near my arse "
that's fine, it's not homework for punishment. But your arse is a muscle and you need to stretch it, some people have tighter than others. If you are super tight being shown how to massage it everyone now and again isn't going to really help, it will just tighten again. When I say homework I mean instructions on which size plug and toys to use, how often and when to move up a size. To enjoy anal (unless you get of on pain) for some it takes a lot of plugging to get to being able to take a cock easily. But once there god it's heaven |
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By *ornycougaWoman 41 weeks ago
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"I have trained many an arse. Genuinly thinking of doing it as a service. Some people can leave the first session able to take a standard size cock others need longer sessions with homework. I find this very sexy so hit me up if interested. To be clear this is not me selling anything I just love to do this on men, women, trans
No one who sent me on my way with "homework" would be going anywhere near my arse that's fine, it's not homework for punishment. But your arse is a muscle and you need to stretch it, some people have tighter than others. If you are super tight being shown how to massage it everyone now and again isn't going to really help, it will just tighten again. When I say homework I mean instructions on which size plug and toys to use, how often and when to move up a size. To enjoy anal (unless you get of on pain) for some it takes a lot of plugging to get to being able to take a cock easily. But once there god it's heaven "
I was joking. I have actually tried anal once or twice before (that's sarcasm btw) so didn't need the patronising explanation |
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"I have trained many an arse. Genuinly thinking of doing it as a service. Some people can leave the first session able to take a standard size cock others need longer sessions with homework. I find this very sexy so hit me up if interested. To be clear this is not me selling anything I just love to do this on men, women, trans
No one who sent me on my way with "homework" would be going anywhere near my arse that's fine, it's not homework for punishment. But your arse is a muscle and you need to stretch it, some people have tighter than others. If you are super tight being shown how to massage it everyone now and again isn't going to really help, it will just tighten again. When I say homework I mean instructions on which size plug and toys to use, how often and when to move up a size. To enjoy anal (unless you get of on pain) for some it takes a lot of plugging to get to being able to take a cock easily. But once there god it's heaven
I was joking. I have actually tried anal once or twice before (that's sarcasm btw) so didn't need the patronising explanation"
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