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What type of person annoys/frustrates you the most on the swinging scene?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know there’s so many annoying things that people say or do on the scene, but for us it’s the amount of pushy people, when you politely say no thanks, and they keep asking constantly, and then offer £, it frustrates me!!  |
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People who ask if you have more photos and they have none!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People who ask if you have more photos and they have none!
Mrs "
couldn’t agree with this more also!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who have clearly not bothered reading your profile
Friend requests with no chat
No photos on profile
Lazy messages
No shows
Turning up d*unk
Lies on profile
People who have no clue about consent
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By *redzMan
over a year ago
liverpool |
People with no pics/profile info wants a meet 5 in 5 mins time, probably outdoors not taking no for an answer |
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By *redzMan
over a year ago
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Yeah the face pics with first message mob.
The couple's who give constant updates on what they are doing together.
The women who grow an ego and let the attention go to their heads.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People whose profile basically consists of a huge load of dos and dont’s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People that don’t get the hint when you haven’t replied to their first message that a second or a third isn’t going to go any better |
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Arrogant or excessively over-eager people. |
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People who don't read profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who say they are "professional" or talk in their bio in the 3rd person....
Get in the sea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's people who think cause they're on a swinging site that it's appropriate to send vulgar overly sexual messages, men who think that every woman wants to be dominated/tied up/blind folded etc
And the most annoying is those who think that because its a 'sex site' thar anyone should just have sex with anyone just to get their end away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and people who are photo verified who accuse you of being fake cause you're not photo verified even though you're meet verified
(Happened alot before fab suspended my account and FORCED me to photo verify) |
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Anyone posting a disclaimer at the bottom of their profile and actually believes somewhere out there a university is actually conducting some sort of study on fab and may use their photos.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it's people who think cause they're on a swinging site that it's appropriate to send vulgar overly sexual messages, men who think that every woman wants to be dominated/tied up/blind folded etc
And the most annoying is those who think that because its a 'sex site' thar anyone should just have sex with anyone just to get their end away "
this one i absolutely agree with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Random friend requests with or without dick pics attached.
Profiles with just dick pics... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you notice sexy couples or singles and they turn out to be a million miles away so frustrating  |
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Fabbers who are the font of all knowledge.
Ones who think their way of swinging is the only way and everyone else is inferior.
Single guys who moan incessantly about not being able to get a meet... who have a shit profile, no pics etc. Whinging is not attractive.
I will stop there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Specifically when I was on here as a couple on a photo verified profile with pics and meet verified by over 40 other accounts and fully aware of the issues of "fake" profiles on here so will cut some slack but it would irk us when we'd get a silhouetted profile with no green flag, no pics, no veri's and an empty friends list ask: "Are you real???" |
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The ones who think because your on here means their entitled to sex with you.
The meet now people.
The men who send cock in my inbox.
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
The ones that invite men to gang bangs it will be a couples profile clearly the man messaging and they'll say looking for a group of men to fuck me as if it's the woman messaging and then say but you HAVE.to be sucked by the bloke or some shit fuck off it's just a way to get men over for the bloke to suck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who don’t read profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crude messages...ick. |
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Those that post on forums whining about single men and “advising” them what they should and should not be doing. |
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People who don't read profiles before messaging and anyone cheating on their partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friend invite from hidden profiles with no prior contact.
Had one earlier, someone from Doncaster, so not even local to me, just had the invite appear. |
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Needy people who put comments on their status to get attention. I don't have time for that nonsense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who send lazy messages, or ask questions that could easily be answered by just reading the profile. When you point this out to them, they reply that they knew this but were just trying to break the ice 
People who can't spell or have poor Grammer.
Men who message frequently to tell you how horny they are. Just why??!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People (mainly guys) who log off mid conversation after asking a question, and then don't log back in for several days.
I understand real life happens - with guys probably the wife is around - but it's still frustrating.
It's like having a conversation in the days of dial up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's people who think cause they're on a swinging site that it's appropriate to send vulgar overly sexual messages, men who think that every woman wants to be dominated/tied up/blind folded etc
And the most annoying is those who think that because its a 'sex site' thar anyone should just have sex with anyone just to get their end away "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People (mainly guys) who log off mid conversation after asking a question, and then don't log back in for several days.
I understand real life happens - with guys probably the wife is around - but it's still frustrating.
It's like having a conversation in the days of dial up.
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A gentleman friend of mine left the site for this reason. He said he liked to get a good flowing conversation going, but others just left mid conversation 
I just thought it was him being overly invested, but maybe not. |
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"hey how are you?"
"I'm fine thanks"
"wanna meet?"
"No thanks"
"why not?"
"Because I'm not an idiot, a prostitut or desperate" |
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The profiles who send obvious copy/paste messages. One guy accidentally copied the date and time stamp at the bottom of the message when he sent it to us. We've also had the exact same message from a couple 3 times over the past year or so. |
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People who think the messaging system is like some form of chat rather than think of it like email. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who ask if you have more photos and they have none!
Mrs "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who have clearly not bothered reading your profile
Friend requests with no chat
No photos on profile
Lazy messages
No shows
Turning up d*unk
Lies on profile
People who have no clue about consent
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's people who think cause they're on a swinging site that it's appropriate to send vulgar overly sexual messages, men who think that every woman wants to be dominated/tied up/blind folded etc
And the most annoying is those who think that because its a 'sex site' thar anyone should just have sex with anyone just to get their end away "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone posting a disclaimer at the bottom of their profile and actually believes somewhere out there a university is actually conducting some sort of study on fab and may use their photos.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabbers who are the font of all knowledge.
Ones who think their way of swinging is the only way and everyone else is inferior.
Single guys who moan incessantly about not being able to get a meet... who have a shit profile, no pics etc. Whinging is not attractive.
I will stop there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who don't read profiles before messaging and anyone cheating on their partner."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unreliable people.
Egotistical people.
People who let you down.
People who don't communicate clearly.
People who don't respect boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men who don't read profiles and think that every woman on here wants sex with men. |
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People with big demands.
People answer you with one or two words.... rrrrrrrrr blood boiling |
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How I am beautiful, sexy and amazing but when I respectfully decline their offer, suddenly I am a fat ugly cunt and they wouldn't touch me with someone else's dick |
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"People with big demands.
People answer you with one or two words.... rrrrrrrrr blood boiling "
I get so many messages that I tend to answer with only a few words to see if the guy has anything about them and actually wants to start a conversation. The onus is on the person who sent the first message as far as I am concerned |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone posting a disclaimer at the bottom of their profile and actually believes somewhere out there a university is actually conducting some sort of study on fab and may use their photos.... "
The disclaimer ones make me smile. They put in their profile they're "100% discreet" as they "don't want family/friends to find out" and then put a disclaimer that they're willing to go into a court case where everything they do will be made public...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men who don't read profiles and think that every woman on here wants sex with men. "
SPOILERS...you mean they don't   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How I am beautiful, sexy and amazing but when I respectfully decline their offer, suddenly I am a fat ugly cunt and they wouldn't touch me with someone else's dick"
I get this too. I find it hilarious
I could write a book using messages I've received on here over the years |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One word answers! How can you strike up a conversation when in response to a question, you get only a one word answer!
People like this can be such hard work I just ignore them.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One word answers! How can you strike up a conversation when in response to a question, you get only a one word answer!
People like this can be such hard work I just ignore them.."
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The people who message and want to meet.
When we politely decline we are suddenly fakes.
If they thought we were fakes why are they messaging in the first place? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
People who take advice, comments and opinions on forum posts as personal insults.
The whole point of forums is for people to give opinions and views on questions asked.
Chances are they may well be different to yours. That's life!
A
*oh. And the people that send messages asking to meet just because you're logged on in the early hours as you can't sleep. |
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What really gets us irked is that when we get messages 95% think that it's only boo who replies to them we both have the mobile site and will sit beside each other while both on the site and take it in turns to answer mails unless when we get a message from someone looking to interact with a particular one of us usually single ladies gets answered by me(boo) while hub will just let me he will usually take care of the single males messages and if there rude or "I wanna show your wife what a real cock can do) types just get blocked as that's not what we are here to experience. We are always as polite as possible to everyone unless we have to put someone in there lane again lol hope everyone is well and has a fantastic day |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
Uttoxeter |
People who don't wash or are not in my opinion clean enough for meets. Soap, water and smelling nice isn't too much to ask for is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men, Feminists and in general people who just can't be bothered to read your profile before messaging. |
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The men that just join and think they’ll be knee deep by lunchtime!
People who lie. Swinging is about being open and honest and so there’s no need for it.
The people who deliberately come on FAB to antagonise.
K
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men who put a name that sounds as if they are a couple and then show a female in their profile as well.
Are they ashamed of who they are? |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
Most people annoy me, the swinging scene is no different to that!
So arrogance and entitlement are the main 2, like all people In life. Specific to here is vulgarity, those who objectify other people and thos who force their kinks on to others |
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People that ask for a face picture, I have one on my friends page so if they want to see it they are more than welcome to add me. If they don’t like what they see they can just unfriend, easy. |
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When they ask you to put effort in your first message and attach a pic and then just delete without even replying WTF
I understand they may be overwhelmed with messages but surely if someone has taken the time and effort to read and respond to you please reply back with a simple no thank you
Courtesy |
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"When they ask you to put effort in your first message and attach a pic and then just delete without even replying WTF
I understand they may be overwhelmed with messages but surely if someone has taken the time and effort to read and respond to you please reply back with a simple no thank you
Courtesy "
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"Yeah the face pics with first message mob.
The couple's who give constant updates on what they are doing together.
The women who grow an ego and let the attention go to their heads.
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I assume you mean the women who realise the are on high demand and don't need to reduce their standards to get a shag? |
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People with big demands.
People answer you with one or two words.... rrrrrrrrr blood boiling
I get so many messages that I tend to answer with only a few words to see if the guy has anything about them and actually wants to start a conversation. The onus is on the person who sent the first message as far as I am concerned
I know sometimes conversation can die out but at the start of one its a big no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's bi guys who aren't really bi
They are basically trying to get involved with threesomes to get to the woman but in reality they won't actually touch another guy
Also people who just delete messages I try to write a decent message if I send one and to just delete it without a polite no is frustrating.
I get you get bombarded but that can be demoralising. |
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People who feel compelled to message you to start an argument. Either don't message, or say something nice. |
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Hi
How’s u
W u u 2
Wanna meet
THIS TYPE OF INTRO BOILS MY PISS!!! |
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People I'm most frustrated with in the swinging scene right now... Ourselves  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single guys that moan they can't get a meet when they have zero pics on there profile and there bio reads "fill later"
One word messages.
Asking for pics when they have none. |
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Those that don't turn up for a meet or ghost you at last minute after chatting for days |
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FAKES
POINTLESS CONVO’s
LAST MINUTE DROP OUTS
GETTING FOLLOWED AROUND IN CLUBS |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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another one from us. you get asked what you’re into so you give a decent account of the things you’re looking for and what you’re into
the response you get is always:
‘yh me too’
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‘same’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"another one from us. you get asked what you’re into so you give a decent account of the things you’re looking for and what you’re into
the response you get is always:
‘yh me too’
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‘same’"
Yeah that's super frustrating
Doesn't tell you anything at all really as it feels like they are jus tagreeinf to get a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not being photo verified, it’s quick and easy, what’s the problem.
Profile silhouettes, at least be bothered to put a picture on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's people who think cause they're on a swinging site that it's appropriate to send vulgar overly sexual messages, men who think that every woman wants to be dominated/tied up/blind folded etc
And the most annoying is those who think that because its a 'sex site' thar anyone should just have sex with anyone just to get their end away "
Exactly this we had a guy be completely vulgar from the first message then when told no … I’m jealous of the size of his cock….. I’m seriously get a grip |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples who claim they enjoy the social side and enjoy the build up, then their second message is can you meet tonight we want to fuck.
No names, likes, dislikes etc just can you meet to fuck.
No thank you bye x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah the face pics with first message mob.
The couple's who give constant updates on what they are doing together.
The women who grow an ego and let the attention go to their heads.
I assume you mean the women who realise the are on high demand and don't need to reduce their standards to get a shag?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah the face pics with first message mob.
The couple's who give constant updates on what they are doing together.
The women who grow an ego and let the attention go to their heads.
I assume you mean the women who realise the are on high demand and don't need to reduce their standards to get a shag?"
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Arrogant, rude people who think they're better than everyone else.
Desperate single males who try to push their way into things.
Single males who see me chatting to a female member of staff at a club and then asking me "does she fuck"? |
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People who clearly haven't communicated between themselves what their boundaries are and people who are unsure of what they want on a meet. |
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Men who message without a face pic. Assuming mrs would fuck anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it |
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Arrogant, entitled single men who think women will drop their knickers because they sent a message saying ‘Hi, how are you’ |
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People who send friend request without pics themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who beg in their status or hint and certain things.
There’s always a status asking for a free lift for a 50 mile drive or the classic ‘so skint, eating beans and can’t pay rent’ status.
Add to that the profiles who want to sell you their videos etc. Drives me up the wall. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Females and couples who demand a face pic of you before they are prepared to even chat. And refuse to send one to you. I cannot have facepics on my profile due to my job |
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"Hypocrites
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All types of hypocrites in all walks of life annoy me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profiles that are blank. No photos and not much of a bio, asking how can they improve their profile or get replies |
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People whose bios insist on a lengthy, interesting messages and that won’t respond to one-liners….
That then email you “hi” |
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‘Fill in later’ No pictures and asks if I’m available
I’m not desperate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who just stop chatting for no apparent reason..... so rude |
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"I know there’s so many annoying things that people say or do on the scene, but for us it’s the amount of pushy people, when you politely say no thanks, and they keep asking constantly, and then offer £, it frustrates me!! "
Being neurodivergent, I technically don't like people. They will always do something to annoy/put me off/trigger/disappoint/abandon me. That's also technically not their fault as objectively I realize that most people are completely unaware that they are doing this to me or others. (I do it to others unintentionally too)
So I just have to put up with it and wear my mask when I need to get something from people. I try my best to be honest with people about my odd behavioral traits and if they then want nothing to do with me that's fine. They are entitled to like who they like.
Then I go home, hide my phone, disconnect, unmask and hide myself under my weighted blanket for a couple of days.
One thing I won't put up with is any kind of abuse or coercion. That and too many high-risk or zero-pleasure activities. Those are where my lines are solidly drawn. |
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Nothing bothers me that much on here, I just ignore it and move on. I don't care enough about it all enough to get worked up.
People who don't respect my time will always piss me off though on here or anywhere else. But that's only relevant to the few I would arrange a meet with. |
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"I know there’s so many annoying things that people say or do on the scene, but for us it’s the amount of pushy people, when you politely say no thanks, and they keep asking constantly, and then offer £, it frustrates me!!
Being neurodivergent, I technically don't like people. They will always do something to annoy/put me off/trigger/disappoint/abandon me. That's also technically not their fault as objectively I realize that most people are completely unaware that they are doing this to me or others. (I do it to others unintentionally too)
So I just have to put up with it and wear my mask when I need to get something from people. I try my best to be honest with people about my odd behavioral traits and if they then want nothing to do with me that's fine. They are entitled to like who they like.
Then I go home, hide my phone, disconnect, unmask and hide myself under my weighted blanket for a couple of days.
One thing I won't put up with is any kind of abuse or coercion. That and too many high-risk or zero-pleasure activities. Those are where my lines are solidly drawn."
Yeah same, I'm ADHD Autistic. I mask when needed but it's always weird watching people go through the motions of socially conditioned behaviour. It can be a huge turn off too when someone isn't aware of their own behaviour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Easy ....."have you got kik / snapchat. ."
Or the wink and a friends invite
Both just shout out " i got some pics of a ex and ive made a couples profile up " |
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Attention seekers. It’s hard enough to get in a conversation as a guy, and when it becomes clear after chatting a while that it’s the attention that is wanted rather than following through, it’s frustrating as hell. |
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"I know there’s so many annoying things that people say or do on the scene, but for us it’s the amount of pushy people, when you politely say no thanks, and they keep asking constantly, and then offer £, it frustrates me!!
Being neurodivergent, I technically don't like people. They will always do something to annoy/put me off/trigger/disappoint/abandon me. That's also technically not their fault as objectively I realize that most people are completely unaware that they are doing this to me or others. (I do it to others unintentionally too)
So I just have to put up with it and wear my mask when I need to get something from people. I try my best to be honest with people about my odd behavioral traits and if they then want nothing to do with me that's fine. They are entitled to like who they like.
Then I go home, hide my phone, disconnect, unmask and hide myself under my weighted blanket for a couple of days.
One thing I won't put up with is any kind of abuse or coercion. That and too many high-risk or zero-pleasure activities. Those are where my lines are solidly drawn.
Yeah same, I'm ADHD Autistic. I mask when needed but it's always weird watching people go through the motions of socially conditioned behaviour. It can be a huge turn off too when someone isn't aware of their own behaviour."
I have BPD with autistic and sensory processing traits. I'm also a double trauma survivor. When I'm not mentally stable, I am a complete asshole and definitely need to be locked up for my own good and the good of others.
Luckily, I have been stable for about 6 years and I intend to stay stable. Every now and again the asshole tendencies slip out but it's minimal and usually when I get distressed/overwhelmed at work. Then I just pop in the loo for a bit and take a prescribed sedative. My managers know so they do make reasonable adjustments.
I do get people on Fab asking why I'm being weird or difficult but I have to let them know look it's not intentional it's because I'm triggered or unregulated or just having some sort of sensory confusion.
That's why I put in my profile I need someone who is patient.
None of this stuff is easy and I'm the person living with it every day. I can't imagine what it's like for others looking in. |
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over a year ago
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As above mentioned, people obsessed with if you have Snapchat. I'm nearly 40, not 14 |
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"As above mentioned, people obsessed with if you have Snapchat. I'm nearly 40, not 14 "
Lol! I only have one Snapchat friend....it's my sibling who is 9 years younger. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When people preach they don't do something and then you find out they really do.
Like people saying they aren't pushy when they are.
Or don't like receiving pics of a certain nature but send them themselves.
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"Attention seekers. It’s hard enough to get in a conversation as a guy, and when it becomes clear after chatting a while that it’s the attention that is wanted rather than following through, it’s frustrating as hell. "
Lol! In my head we are all here for attention....it's just that what that attention means is something different for everyone. Lol!
I don't spend ages chatting and I do put it in my statuses that I have 100 unreplied messages and I'm busy actually doing things in real life. Lol!
I'm not an online chat bot. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I can read, basically ppl don’t like ppl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah the face pics with first message mob.
The couple's who give constant updates on what they are doing together.
The women who grow an ego and let the attention go to their heads.
I assume you mean the women who realise the are on high demand and don't need to reduce their standards to get a shag?"
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People we send face pics to, but then go quiet. (Thats fine, we're not everyone's type), but then wink every few weeks.
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No shows. Timewasters. Fakes.
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'I'd do the Mrs' messages. |
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"When people preach they don't do something and then you find out they really do.
Like people saying they aren't pushy when they are.
Or don't like receiving pics of a certain nature but send them themselves.
T"
Oh that just sounds like chaotic vibes and......firm boundaries are needed with that one if you play with them.
But to be fair not everyone tells the full truth on Fab for very obvious reasons.
For example I don't put anal on my profile because some men think that's an invitation to fist my tight ass...no thanks to the fist. I'm thinking one finger or two. Lol!
My profile says not looking for men but that's because I've closed my message filters so I don't get inundated with 50% time wasters. |
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"From what I can read, basically ppl don’t like ppl "
Lol! That's what I said. People generally give me the ND hee-bee-jee-bees. Lol!
I just have to give myself a 2-hour pep talk before a meet. Lol! or work...or support group..or going to the supermarket on the bus...or driving just about anything I can't do alone. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me |
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"Yeah the face pics with first message mob.
The couple's who give constant updates on what they are doing together.
The women who grow an ego and let the attention go to their heads.
I assume you mean the women who realise the are on high demand and don't need to reduce their standards to get a shag?
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Lol! standards? what are those...Lol! Oh yeah. Not to do anything that makes me mentally unstable, unsafe and un/in-secure.  |
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"Me"
Lol! this is true no one can piss me off like myself. ugh. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me
Lol! this is true no one can piss me off like myself. ugh. Lol! "
im the cause of my own success and downfall i cant blame others for that |
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Men who message asking for pics or to meet, having not read the clear message that I'm not into men lol
Also people who are cheating on their partners or significant others. I can't stress enough how importance honesty is and the consent of everyone involved. |
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Oh my goodness, so much enthusiasm for this thread!
Just read it with a check-list - tick, tick, tick.
Hope everyone's good meets & experiences make up for the above! |
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"Men who message asking for pics or to meet, having not read the clear message that I'm not into men lol
Also people who are cheating on their partners or significant others. I can't stress enough how importance honesty is and the consent of everyone involved."
Commiserations as I discovered there are more trash men than women on these sites and apps. 134 women in 5 miles to over 300 men and those are just the straight/bi/Trans ones. I imagine even less gay/lesbian women. |
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Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum. "
Before anyone asks, it is not me |
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People who want face pics with a message but have no pics on their profile |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"People who say they are "professional" or talk in their bio in the 3rd person....
Get in the sea! "
Inverted snobs with an inferiority complex who complain about "professional" without really understanding the implications of why people state it in a profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretentious people and all the idiots who ruin it for the genuine people |
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum. "
Lol! I can't with those ones. |
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum.
Before anyone asks, it is not me "
Lol! |
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"People who say they are "professional" or talk in their bio in the 3rd person....
Get in the sea!
Inverted snobs with an inferiority complex who complain about "professional" without really understanding the implications of why people state it in a profile. "
I know I shouldn't be giggling about all of this because I've been called all of the above and occasionally thought it about myself.
"snob"
"Professional"
"inverted"
"introverted"
"inverted"
"inferior"
"complex"
"middle class"
"Daily Mail reader"
"Guardian reader"
I do like "get in the sea!" as an insult
I like getting in the sea...only when it's warm though....The Irish sea this time of year...probably not.
Play nice. |
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum. "
Oh boy... |
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"Pretentious people and all the idiots who ruin it for the genuine people"
I think I've been called all three here too
Pretentious( I think American fruit tea is not "real" tea. True argument with the sibling)
Idiot (by several rude customers at work)
Genuine (some point on my Fab meets)
I'm getting too old and forgetful to care really. One of the few perks of aging. You forget more and you care less. |
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"I know there’s so many annoying things that people say or do on the scene, but for us it’s the amount of pushy people, when you politely say no thanks, and they keep asking constantly, and then offer £, it frustrates me!! "
Who are these people offering £, we have electric bills to pay |
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Time wasters. By far the most frustrating thing. |
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People who use the word "females". Not swinger specific. I just hate it. |
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum.
Oh boy..."
Lol! I call it "how men talk themselves out of pussy and 101 other ways to deny yourself sexual healing"
P.S I do not work for Sydney University. Lol! |
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum.
Oh boy...
Lol! I call it "how men talk themselves out of pussy and 101 other ways to deny yourself sexual healing"
P.S I do not work for Sydney University. Lol!"
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"I know there’s so many annoying things that people say or do on the scene, but for us it’s the amount of pushy people, when you politely say no thanks, and they keep asking constantly, and then offer £, it frustrates me!!
Who are these people offering £, we have electric bills to pay "
I think I'm too old and stuck in my ways for a sugar daddy. lol! |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
People who falsely build things up or themselves up. Just be honest for god sake   |
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That 99.9 % of interest is from guys |
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"Men who want to meet but then chicken out/blow out and block you, but then continue to make complimentary remarks to you, or about you, on the Fab forum.
Oh boy...
Lol! I call it "how men talk themselves out of pussy and 101 other ways to deny yourself sexual healing"
P.S I do not work for Sydney University. Lol!
I imagine it's when bravado gets a reality check and you have to back up the talk with action."
Specifically why I spend less time talking online. lol! Boy, you better give up the goods or deliver the goods. I do not need to spend 5 weeks negotiating the goods contract!
When I get tired of arranging meets, I just put in my status "I'm going to the club, see you there" and see who turns up. lol! If no one turns up highly likely I will have a play with a club regular. |
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As mentioned in our profile - people who mention ad nauseam No Single Males, No Single Males, and just in case you didn`t understand - No Single Males. FFS. Just go to the filters and block single males. How difficult can it be? It`s not rocket science. |
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"That 99.9 % of interest is from guys "
commiserations...
it's 134 women to 300+guys...then half the female profiles are fake or sex workers.
also if you have a look that bi or gay guys like......then.....yeah....close your message filters to men...That's what I do and I was born with a vagina. |
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"As mentioned in our profile - people who mention ad nauseam No Single Males, No Single Males, and just in case you didn`t understand - No Single Males. FFS. Just go to the filters and block single males. How difficult can it be? It`s not rocket science."
I was on Fab for 5 years before I found out I could block all the men from messaging me. lol!
It's been brilliant ever since. Lol! |
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1.Pushy people.
2.abusive when you say no to a meet.
3. Timewasters.
4.arrogance.
5.pic collecters and keyboard wankers.
6. Pic stealers. We had people use our pics on other sites. |
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"Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it "
This ..
One night in a hotel we set up a couples meet and three couples replied very quickly.
All three, after chatting, came out with different excuses of why the missus couldn't come along .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a complete lack of linguistic ability is the biggest turn off. I’m into all shapes, sizes & ages but jeez, decent spelling and not being boring isn’t hard!
Also, timewasters/photo chasers! |
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"One word answers! How can you strike up a conversation when in response to a question, you get only a one word answer!
People like this can be such hard work I just ignore them.."
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"Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it
This ..
One night in a hotel we set up a couples meet and three couples replied very quickly.
All three, after chatting, came out with different excuses of why the missus couldn't come along .
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That’s excruciatingly obviously fake and it amazes me these idiots keep trying. Good call out. We don’t usually have that issue as we don’t meet regularly with people outside of clubs anyway at the moment but it’s absolutely ludicrous that people still try this shit like they’re the first to say it. |
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People who message asking for a meet today, but then go off line(before you get chance to ancer) for 3/4 days what's that all about lol |
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"People that don’t get the hint when you haven’t replied to their first message that a second or a third isn’t going to go any better"
This one exactly . I have a person at the moment has sent me 23 messages now in 14 days lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People with no self-awareness or understanding of what’s attractive or not.
Some of the personal hygiene I’ve seen on photos here is shocking and I have no idea how people don’t realise that it’s not a good look to have smeg or sore chafed skin. |
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over a year ago
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"Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it
This ..
One night in a hotel we set up a couples meet and three couples replied very quickly.
All three, after chatting, came out with different excuses of why the missus couldn't come along .
That’s excruciatingly obviously fake and it amazes me these idiots keep trying. Good call out. We don’t usually have that issue as we don’t meet regularly with people outside of clubs anyway at the moment but it’s absolutely ludicrous that people still try this shit like they’re the first to say it."
We get these all the time! You'll have to meet the guy first and the female will join on the second meet. How dumb do these people think couples are. |
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People who don't respect preferences x |
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"Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it
This ..
One night in a hotel we set up a couples meet and three couples replied very quickly.
All three, after chatting, came out with different excuses of why the missus couldn't come along .
That’s excruciatingly obviously fake and it amazes me these idiots keep trying. Good call out. We don’t usually have that issue as we don’t meet regularly with people outside of clubs anyway at the moment but it’s absolutely ludicrous that people still try this shit like they’re the first to say it.
We get these all the time! You'll have to meet the guy first and the female will join on the second meet. How dumb do these people think couples are. "
The three couples thing got a little sinister later.
We'd turned all three dreamers down , enjoyed each other and later went down for a meal in the hotel restaurant.
Later one of the single/couples messaged us describing what we were eating.
We left Fabs but should of reported him .
We never let on where we actually are until we are absolutely sure the person/persons are legit. |
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"later went down for a meal in the hotel restaurant.
Later one of the single/couples messaged us describing what we were eating."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people asking for "tips" or for you to pay for their site supporters fee. a month is only a fiver so not exactly breaking the bank and its not like you HAVE TO subscribe to anything, you just pay each month IF you choose too.
it couldn't be any simpler or stress free |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Those with an exaggerated sense of entitlement or superiority.
Gbat |
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People who are so up there own arse they think they are in a position to give complete strangers advice. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
Those with “Make your first message interesting”. So you think of something put it together giving them more than one “In” to continue the conversation in the same vein or diversify & get back.......
“I know” or similar.
WTF are we supposed to do with that?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No face pics in friends gallery. I like to look at requests when they’re offline then delete haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No face pics in friends gallery. I like to look at requests when they’re offline then delete haha "
what if they have face pics in public pics ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No face pics in friends gallery. I like to look at requests when they’re offline then delete haha
what if they have face pics in public pics ? "
Well of course that’s okay |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No face pics in friends gallery. I like to look at requests when they’re offline then delete haha
what if they have face pics in public pics ?
Well of course that’s okay "
I was only messing lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No face pics in friends gallery. I like to look at requests when they’re offline then delete haha
what if they have face pics in public pics ?
Well of course that’s okay
I was only messing lol"
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
"Specifically when I was on here as a couple on a photo verified profile with pics and meet verified by over 40 other accounts and fully aware of the issues of "fake" profiles on here so will cut some slack but it would irk us when we'd get a silhouetted profile with no green flag, no pics, no veri's and an empty friends list ask: "Are you real???" "
Yes... This ... Is ... Annoying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No face pics in friends gallery. I like to look at requests when they’re offline then delete haha "
I do this too.. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
"People who message asking for a meet today, but then go off line(before you get chance to ancer) for 3/4 days what's that all about lol "
Those are married fantasist men. |
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"Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it
This ..
One night in a hotel we set up a couples meet and three couples replied very quickly.
All three, after chatting, came out with different excuses of why the missus couldn't come along .
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Grim. |
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Pissed up Fabstraight guys asking "wot u in2," ,"cn u cum round n suck mi," "howz u m8"? |
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"I think a complete lack of linguistic ability is the biggest turn off. I’m into all shapes, sizes & ages but jeez, decent spelling and not being boring isn’t hard!
Also, timewasters/photo chasers!"
Cackle...I use Grammarly on my laptop because I'm a poor typer and my neurodivergent brain likes to skip and swap letters and numbers around.
I'm not articulate at all naturally. It's all a mask.
I can't be boring with my brain but I can be too much for some people. |
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"People that don’t get the hint when you haven’t replied to their first message that a second or a third isn’t going to go any better
This one exactly . I have a person at the moment has sent me 23 messages now in 14 days lol "
More grim. |
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"People with no self-awareness or understanding of what’s attractive or not.
Some of the personal hygiene I’ve seen on photos here is shocking and I have no idea how people don’t realise that it’s not a good look to have smeg or sore chafed skin."
Most grim... |
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"Couples profiles who message then all of a sudden the mrs don’t want to anymore but mr is still up for it
This ..
One night in a hotel we set up a couples meet and three couples replied very quickly.
All three, after chatting, came out with different excuses of why the missus couldn't come along .
That’s excruciatingly obviously fake and it amazes me these idiots keep trying. Good call out. We don’t usually have that issue as we don’t meet regularly with people outside of clubs anyway at the moment but it’s absolutely ludicrous that people still try this shit like they’re the first to say it.
We get these all the time! You'll have to meet the guy first and the female will join on the second meet. How dumb do these people think couples are. "
Lol! |
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"People who message asking for a meet today, but then go off line(before you get chance to ancer) for 3/4 days what's that all about lol
Those are married fantasist men."
Or any saddo who's finished his wank and takes 3/4 days to get the horn again. |
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over a year ago
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"People who message asking for a meet today, but then go off line(before you get chance to ancer) for 3/4 days what's that all about lol
Those are married fantasist men.
Or any saddo who's finished his wank and takes 3/4 days to get the horn again."
hahaha. this one made me laugh |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Ones that I should fancy but I just don't |
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Later one of the single/couples messaged us describing what we were eating.
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Super creepy |
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