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Is swinging a fat game?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok, bad title, but is it? A search of our local area codes for women who have been verified genuine shows that for each postcode used (which gives us a large radius around cambridgeshire), 8/10 of the top hits describes themselves as "curvy" or "fabulous".

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck with this one! think you may need it lol...

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good luck with this one! think you may need it lol..."

lol. he sure is gonna need it.

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By *aninthemiddleMan over a year ago

caerphilly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

True, just like in live you can't state a preference that discriminates against size can you.

But it's still a fact, anyone is welcome to search around the EA postcodes.

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By *nfieldishCouple over a year ago

Enfield

Just a thought....it's usually older people that are comfortable enough with themselves to consider swinging......perhaps it's harder to keep the figure trim .....

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By *nfieldishCouple over a year ago

Enfield

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X "
curvy = fantastic bum in this case

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Nothing like a bit of trolling on Saturday morning.

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By *aninthemiddleMan over a year ago

caerphilly

Fool your going to get eaten alive for thislol x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X curvy = fantastic bum in this case

Aw, thanks!!

xxx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Fool your going to get eaten alive for thislol x"

Bahahahahhaha!! I'm just settling down with my popcorn. Would you like some? X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Didnt you know that fatties come on here cause they cant get a shag anywhere else, add that to guys will sleep with anything

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By *ub bbwWoman over a year ago

oldbury

Well talking as a fatty why shouldn't we have fun if we are confident and happy enough with ourselves to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I also class myself as curvy I've got the bum boobs and hips x

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By *ub bbwWoman over a year ago

oldbury

"Fool your going to get eaten alive for thislol x

Bahahahahhaha!! I'm just settling down with my popcorn. Would you like some? X "

Is it salty or sweet? Second thoughts best not as I'm a fatty lol

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I do think it has become a scene where the larger lady is becoming more comfortable with herself, more confident with their body and willing to explore her sexuality further... and that is good to see...

maybe that stems from years and years of not feeling good and the pressure being placed on women to be 'slim to be attractive'

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Well talking as a fatty why shouldn't we have fun if we are confident and happy enough with ourselves to. "

just don't move near the OP or you'll become a statistic! Lol x

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By *ub bbwWoman over a year ago

oldbury

"I do think it has become a scene where the larger lady is becoming more comfortable with herself, more confident with their body and willing to explore her sexuality further... and that is good to see...

maybe that stems from years and years of not feeling good and the pressure being placed on women to be 'slim to be attractive'"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Fool your going to get eaten alive for thislol x

Bahahahahhaha!! I'm just settling down with my popcorn. Would you like some? X

Is it salty or sweet? Second thoughts best not as I'm a fatty lol"

Pfffft... My bum is comfy to sit on, bit more squidge won't do it any harm lol x its the toffee butterkist one x

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By *ub bbwWoman over a year ago

oldbury

"Well talking as a fatty why shouldn't we have fun if we are confident and happy enough with ourselves to.

just don't move near the OP or you'll become a statistic! Lol x "

Oh dear heaven forbid I'm too special for that or at least that's what people tell me lol

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By *ub bbwWoman over a year ago

oldbury

"Fool your going to get eaten alive for thislol x

Bahahahahhaha!! I'm just settling down with my popcorn. Would you like some? X

Is it salty or sweet? Second thoughts best not as I'm a fatty lol

Pfffft... My bum is comfy to sit on, bit more squidge won't do it any harm lol x its the toffee butterkist one x "
pass the bowl that stuffs lush

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

maybe that stems from years and years of not feeling good and the pressure being placed on women to be 'slim to be attractive'"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs Artful is a size 14-16 which I believe is an average size for women.

Everyone is different, everyone has their own unique body shape, so therefore everyone should be taken for who they are.

Unfortunately, society and fashion is fickle and we all get judged on appearance and not personality.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

Again so soon?

Why are so many people obsessed with other peoples profiles? If you have preferences then fine, live by them, but must we all be subjected to you telling us in such a disrespectful manner?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Again so soon?

Why are so many people obsessed with other peoples profiles? If you have preferences then fine, live by them, but must we all be subjected to you telling us in such a disrespectful manner?

And it's interesting how no one ever starts up a 'we don't like skinny/slim' people. When a vast majority of profiles I see have mention of preferring curvy girls!! X

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By *ub bbwWoman over a year ago

oldbury

"Again so soon?

Why are so many people obsessed with other peoples profiles? If you have preferences then fine, live by them, but must we all be subjected to you telling us in such a disrespectful manner?

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By *aninthemiddleMan over a year ago

caerphilly

Could do with a bucket of butterkist now nice for breakfast lol x

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By *ransylvesterTV/TS over a year ago

Close enough for fun!

A bad title you say but one you specifically used and thought about for the effect you know you would get and desired.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pass me the popcorn, I've had no brekkie.

The best comment I ever heard in a club was by a slim 40 ish year old woman who said, "I can't believe they let fat people into clubs" to which my response was, "Yes and they even let us have sex!" before telling her husband that he might want to keep her on a lead!

The way I see it, as a lady with a big bum, is why shouldn't those of us with wobbly bits be allowed to swing. I think it does come down to the fact that society is getting bigger but also I think its because women (and men) are feeling more confident in themselves. Being overweight doesn't have the stigma that it used to.

My point to the OP is if you don't like the profiles of ladies who aren't "slim" then move along and look at someone else's. It'd be boring if we were all the same wouldn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women of a larger nature may feel easier and more confident online as oppossed to traditional means of hooking up. Think op may be right in terms if numbers tho. The moat verified seem the largest. Maybe it speaks about their promiscity!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, we get it, you don't like fat women and you don't think we have any right to enjoy ourselves, to get laid, or to breathe the air of the beautiful people.

You've stated a fact based on empirical evidence. What's the question? Why are there more larger ladies on here? It might well take significant study to answer that and be the basis of a thesis or three. My question is, it's a fact, why does it matter why? It's how it is. Take it or leave it.

This thread is just another of your fat shaming posts.

If you don't like larger ladies, don't play with them but you'll have to choose from the remainder, (assuming they are interested), be that a majority or a minority.

Just another post singling out fat women in order to try to make us feel bad about ourselves. Boring. Try banging a different drum for a while.

You're entitled to your preference but you're not entitled to act like everyone should be expected to fit it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Makes me so angry to hear people who are not a size 0 classed has a "fatty" and just because someone may be slim and beautiful it sure dosnt make them beautiful inside and I would rather go for a good person than a ugly inside one

I mean only dogs like bones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Threads like this remind me of Shallow Hal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wish it was as easy for a fat bloke to get laid as it is a fat bird

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

The op is well known for starting anti fat threads, i would prefer to be fat than have there attitude. However each to their own.

Maybe they messaged a fattie at some point and was turned down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The op is well known for starting anti fat threads, i would prefer to be fat than have there attitude. However each to their own.

Maybe they messaged a fattie at some point and was turned down"

Raflmaoooooo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The op is well known for starting anti fat threads, i would prefer to be fat than have there attitude. However each to their own.

Maybe they messaged a fattie at some point and was turned down"

I'd rather be ugly on the outside than ugly on the inside!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it."

Indeed I am slim, never had any weight issue but not a bag of bones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, bad title, but is it? A search of our local area codes for women who have been verified genuine shows that for each postcode used (which gives us a large radius around cambridgeshire), 8/10 of the top hits describes themselves as "curvy" or "fabulous".

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?"

HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ALL THE GOOD LOOKING, NICE, THIN PEOPLE IN CAMBRIDGESHIRE HAVE BLOCKED YOU SO THEY DONT SHOW UP IN YOUR SEARCHING! PEOPLE ARE VERY SELECTIVE YOU KNOW!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Again so soon?

Why are so many people obsessed with other peoples profiles? If you have preferences then fine, live by them, but must we all be subjected to you telling us in such a disrespectful manner?

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

op, you ain't all that either, people like you make me sick....get bullied at school did you? I could single out some bad points about you but that would be rude, so i keep to myself. if you insist on being antagonistic perhaps you would be better joining a site purely for the beautiful swingers that obviously believe you should be a part.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Delusions of grandeur, never fails to amuse me greatly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I describe myself as curvy, size 12-14 which is under UK average, don't consider myself "fat" as you term it.

Hope you don't age and suffer middle aged spread.

Another poster hit it spot on, tends to be older people using the site, people who are confident with their body size.

Out of curiosity what clothing size to you class as "fat"?

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By *msmithWoman over a year ago

bristol

"Threads like this remind me of Shallow Hal.

Aww, watched this ages ago.. Need to watch it again..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wish it was as easy for a fat bloke to get laid as it is a fat bird

I'd do you

Signed 'fat bird in leeds'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

Indeed I am slim, never had any weight issue but not a bag of bones

I don't think it's meant as an insult to you Julie, though I understand how hurtful it is.

Fat women, in general, are tired of being judged, excluded and insulted. We're greedy, we're lazy, we smell, we're disgusting...

I think a lot lash out at the critics without realising that the words don't just target those that prefer slim women but often the slim women themselves as well.

As a fat person, always being told that thin is the ideal we don't measure up to, I think it's easy to forget that being criticised and judged can also hurt those who are slim, and how we are told we should be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Makes me so angry to hear people who are not a size 0 classed has a "fatty" and just because someone may be slim and beautiful it sure dosnt make them beautiful inside and I would rather go for a good person than a ugly inside one

I mean only dogs like bones

So the OP degrades fat people as he liked to call them, and you think it's fine to slate slim people? I am slim but I have never been called a bone

Perhaps people should look at themselves before judging others.

Everyone, be in tall, short, fat or thin. Have a right to enjoy themselves surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it."

Is that what you thought I did ? Trust me you got me so wrong

what I pointed out was fat/slim old or young who cares .. To a lot of people including myself its inside that counts !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wish it was as easy for a fat bloke to get laid as it is a fat bird

I'd do you

Signed 'fat bird in leeds'

'ang on there then, I'm just gettin' me bike out

I might be a bit leaner by the time I get there though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh dear should have kept my mouth shut

I was warned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X "
I am same size as you xx i am not fat ... curvy as hips and tits and bum ..

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I describe myself as curvy, size 12-14 which is under UK average, don't consider myself "fat" as you term it.

Hope you don't age and suffer middle aged spread.

Another poster hit it spot on, tends to be older people using the site, people who are confident with their body size.

Out of curiosity what clothing size to you class as "fat"?"

I don't think you can class any clothing size as fat..... well maybe a size 35. A 4ft 11 person who is size 14 would look larger than a 5ft 11 size 14 person.

Bodies are bodies and most of them can be very beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

Is that what you thought I did ? Trust me you got me so wrong

what I pointed out was fat/slim old or young who cares .. To a lot of people including

myself its inside that counts !!! "

I am going to apologise for my comment, as I probably read it wrongly and thought you were having a go at slim people.

I think that there are people out there care to much about the packaging and not what's on the inside... At the end of the day if everyone was a perfect shape/size wouldn't that be boring?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh dear should have kept my mouth shut

I was warned.

You may not have intended it but "only dogs like bones" was pretty insulting to slim ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh dear should have kept my mouth shut

I was warned.

You may not have intended it but "only dogs like bones" was pretty insulting to slim ladies."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The best comment I ever heard in a club was by a slim 40 ish year old woman who said, "I can't believe they let fat people into clubs" to which my response was, "Yes and they even let us have sex!" before telling her husband that he might want to keep her on a lead! "

Lm(fat)ao!!!!

I'd of shown the husband why us 'fatties' are allowed to have sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wish it was as easy for a fat bloke to get laid as it is a fat bird

I'd do you

Signed 'fat bird in leeds'

'ang on there then, I'm just gettin' me bike out

I might be a bit leaner by the time I get there though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

Indeed I am slim, never had any weight issue but not a bag of bones

I don't think it's meant as an insult to you Julie, though I understand how hurtful it is.

Fat women, in general, are tired of being judged, excluded and insulted. We're greedy, we're lazy, we smell, we're disgusting...

I think a lot lash out at the critics without realising that the words don't just target those that prefer slim women but often the slim women themselves as well.

I know not a direct insult Kinky

However I agree with your post, the OP is out of line, I just don't like these threads that then are defamatory towards slimmer women as an insult back.

I vary between a size 0- size 2, but regardless of my size I am who I am and believe no one has the right to judge or chuck about insults as it is hurtful and uncalled for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know the op nor have i seen any of his other threads.

People are getting bigger, not just in the UK.

Im a size 12 atm, so I consider myself curvy. (post pregnancy weight still)

I think we get loads of abuse for asking someone very large to try and slim.

We have to accept they can be as large as they like etc.

Being so very overweight shouldn't be praised; the long term health issues are not good.

Im not anti fat but i wouldn't let myself get over a size 14.

I know that's personal choice but the human body was not designed to take the weight people put upon it.

Replacement knees/hips for young people who chose junk food over sensible food costing the nhs/tax payer Millions a year.

I already have medical problems, that are associated with 'fat people' & I've never been above a size 14.

I wouldn't wish that on anyone else's & I simply do not understand why people think being so obese their lives in danger, is good/ should be respected or even praised.

Just my pennies worth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bodies are bodies and most of them can be very beautiful

Mine isn't beautiful but at any given point in time, it's the one I have.

There's a lot more to me than my body and my physical appearance though, fortunately. And that I like.

Still, the OP is getting what he wants, again. Attention and a reaction.

It must be a sad way to be to have to insult people to get any attention, and to have so little joy in life that baiting others becomes entertainment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The op is well known for starting anti fat threads, i would prefer to be fat than have there attitude. However each to their own.

Maybe they messaged a fattie at some point and was turned down"
I look at it like this ......... no of us are the same here ... and good thing ... god life be boring as hell if all a size 12 .. if your happy with your size that the only thing you need to care about ... to hell with others and what thay say ... you have to feel happy in own skin ...This fat and thin thing on fab gets on my tits .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

Is that what you thought I did ? Trust me you got me so wrong

what I pointed out was fat/slim old or young who cares .. To a lot of people including

myself its inside that counts !!!

I am going to apologise for my comment, as I probably read it wrongly and thought you were having a go at slim people.

I think that there are people out there care to much about the packaging and not what's on the inside... At the end of the day if everyone was a perfect shape/size wouldn't that be boring?

That's what I meant and the last bit was aimed @ the OP not anyone else. Anyone who took offence I too apologise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

End of the day we are all people with feelings .No matter of size . And we all like different things.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Bodies are bodies and most of them can be very beautiful

Mine isn't beautiful but at any given point in time, it's the one I have.

There's a lot more to me than my body and my physical appearance though, fortunately. And that I like.

the original question was about body type though and I genuinely believe that everyone has beauty about their body, you look great to me and yes...beautiful! (I'm staright btw that's a genuine compliment

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?"

Not entirely sure why you were searching single fem profiles as according to your profile you're looking to meet just men? Was it purely to find something to poke fun at as it doesn't affect you and who you play with?

Women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful, just in different ways. Why focus on something you don't like when you can focus on the things that you do like? Is it because the things you do like won't cause offence?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would also described myself as curvy. I have an hour glass figure size 10 (depending on the shop eh girls 8 in one 12 in another) but I wouldn't call myself slim as I big hips which means I have a bum to match but a slim waist and wouldn't say I'm fat either xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know the op nor have i seen any of his other threads.

People are getting bigger, not just in the UK.

Im a size 12 atm, so I consider myself curvy. (post pregnancy weight still)

I think we get loads of abuse for asking someone very large to try and slim.

We have to accept they can be as large as they like etc.

Being so very overweight shouldn't be praised; the long term health issues are not good.

Im not anti fat but i wouldn't let myself get over a size 14.

I know that's personal choice but the human body was not designed to take the weight people put upon it.

Replacement knees/hips for young people who chose junk food over sensible food costing the nhs/tax payer Millions a year.

I already have medical problems, that are associated with 'fat people' & I've never been above a size 14.

I wouldn't wish that on anyone else's & I simply do not understand why people think being so obese their lives in danger, is good/ should be respected or even praised.

Just my pennies worth."

I'm not asking anyone to praise being overweight, just accept them for who they are and don't use insults to try to shame them into changing.

Some larger ladies don't want to be slimmer. That's their choice. No need to praise it, just accept it.

Of the ones who do want to change, which do you think will best help them do it; belittling them and insulting them to make them want to change, or accepting them as they are, not destroying their self esteem and empowering them to succeed?

Bullying is often seen as a justified means of "helping" someone be better, or improve themselves. It rarely works and usually leads to more problems. To change, people need to want to and to be supported to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I describe myself as curvy, size 12-14 which is under UK average, don't consider myself "fat" as you term it.

Hope you don't age and suffer middle aged spread.

Another poster hit it spot on, tends to be older people using the site, people who are confident with their body size.

Out of curiosity what clothing size to you class as "fat"?

I don't think you can class any clothing size as fat..... well maybe a size 35. A 4ft 11 person who is size 14 would look larger than a 5ft 11 size 14 person.

Bodies are bodies and most of them can be very beautiful

I have no issue with people's sizes, I'm curious to know what the OP deems as fat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

personality .. confidence are the key and no matter of size ..

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?"

I have a few of which you I think are not going to like a couple....

1) good for them.....

2) maybe there are a lot of ppl out there who look past size and those people may well have cracking personalities that keep people wanting to meet them

3) verification isn't the be all and end all... Like all things in life take with a pinch of salt

4) ooh something about books and covers you may like to be reminded of.....

In ending firebomb/trolling posting is about as least a personality trait I find attractive.... Going out to deliberately upset ppl isn't nice....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Yes it is. You can either live with it and keep searching for the beautiful people, accept it and embrace it or leave the site and see if there are more beautiful people elsewhere.

Either way, your repetitive anti fat people posts aren't gonna change anything, the fatties aren't going to go on a diet just because you don't like them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

SAME SHIT DIFFERENT DAY LOL

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By *andtsurreyCouple over a year ago

Torbay

Well as the title says it's a great game for me. I can lay down on my comfy bed with me legs up in the air .... Couldn't get that down the gym could I ?!

T xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mrs Artful is a size 14-16 which I believe is an average size for women.

Everyone is different, everyone has their own unique body shape, so therefore everyone should be taken for who they are.

Unfortunately, society and fashion is fickle and we all get judged on appearance and not personality.

Absolutely and far too much pressure to lose weight, not for me thanks, happy at a size 12 anything less and I look ill

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By *ady4ladyWoman over a year ago

liverpool

HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ALL THE GOOD LOOKING, NICE, THIN PEOPLE IN CAMBRIDGESHIRE HAVE BLOCKED YOU SO THEY DONT SHOW UP IN YOUR SEARCHING! PEOPLE ARE VERY SELECTIVE YOU KNOW!

After reading the whole thread I reckon this answer wins the gold medal lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X curvy = fantastic bum in this case

I'll second that and just fab'd the pic aswell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im blaming all these fat threads for making me fat.....its all this sitting down sharing popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im blaming all these fat threads for making me fat.....its all this sitting down sharing popcorn

"
well you better SExorcise , lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know the op nor have i seen any of his other threads.

People are getting bigger, not just in the UK.

Im a size 12 atm, so I consider myself curvy. (post pregnancy weight still)

I think we get loads of abuse for asking someone very large to try and slim.

We have to accept they can be as large as they like etc.

Being so very overweight shouldn't be praised; the long term health issues are not good.

Im not anti fat but i wouldn't let myself get over a size 14.

I know that's personal choice but the human body was not designed to take the weight people put upon it.

Replacement knees/hips for young people who chose junk food over sensible food costing the nhs/tax payer Millions a year.

I already have medical problems, that are associated with 'fat people' & I've never been above a size 14.

I wouldn't wish that on anyone else's & I simply do not understand why people think being so obese their lives in danger, is good/ should be respected or even praised.

Just my pennies worth."

Fair point you're making....

BUT.

Isn't this site about having fun & exploration of fantasies & desires??

I know for a fact, a lot of 'fatties' (including myself, [to a point]) have gained confidence in themselves, through this site. Threads like this, only stand to knock this confidence.

Its been mentioned The OP is known for starting anti-fat birds threads. This poses the obvious question 'why is the OP still here if the fems here, are not to taste?'

In response to the quote: there are lots of 'slim' people health issues that cause the NHS huge bills. But no-one is shaming the slim people for that.

So surely, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, old, young. we all have the right to feel good, sexy, beautiful and when we fancy it damn dirty

Damned the expense, to an already knackered NHS

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By *anSusieCouple over a year ago

Midlothian

"Oh dear should have kept my mouth shut

I was warned.

You may not have intended it but "only dogs like bones" was pretty insulting to slim ladies.

+ to the men who like them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I honestly don't get why it's ok to be down on fat people because it's "unhealthy".

Plenty of slim people have poor diets and do no exercise. Many smoke (and some won't quit for fear of weight gain). Many drink. All unhealthy things but because they're not fat, it's ok.

Some fat people exercise regularly and some are fitter than a lot of slim people. But because they're fat, they're unhealthy.

I'm nearly 40. I've been fat for 20 years or so, on and off. My diet is poor, my sleep pattern is dreadful, I currently do little exercise and my c.v. fitness is dire, (all offers of personal training from tall, athletic men to my inbox please!

). BUT I've only had raised blood pressure once in my life, when I was in hospital and quite poorly. My cholesterol levels are good. I have a few health issues but in general, I'm pretty darned healthy.

There are slimmer people who are less healthy than me, but as the fat person, I'm the one who gets the "unhealthy" tag.

Would I be healthier slimmer? Probably, unless I develop an eating disorder trying to get there. Would I have a lower risk of developing various health conditions? Undoubtedly. Is it as straightforward as "being fat is bad because it's unhealthy"? No, it's not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it is. You can either live with it and keep searching for the beautiful people, accept it and embrace it or leave the site and see if there are more beautiful people elsewhere.

Either way, your repetitive anti fat people posts aren't gonna change anything, the fatties aren't going to go on a diet just because you don't like them!

It makes more likely to dig my heels in and refuse to change actually, in a "who are you to judge me? Fuck you, I'm just great as I am" kind of way.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

There are clubs and parties for everything. Get yourself onto one of those lists where like-minded people judge whether someone is good enough to enter their club. You might find you are too old at 40+ but that's their preference and their right to choose.

I don't know whether swinging is a fat game or not. I have met all shapes and sizes. The descriptors don't really help as I have met many an "athletic" man carrying a 9 month pregnant tummy. If that's how they choose to describe themselves who am I to argue? They may be running and jumping and tossing things around all the time but still have a big tum.

I describe myself as short, fat and old and get told that I am putting myself down. I'm not - I am just trying to use unambiguous language. Those options are not available on the descriptors so I translate them to curvy, my height and actual age and that is what comes up on the search.

I've been skinny and I've been fat. The shape and size I am now is all the matters if you want to meet me. I didn't know about swinging when I was skinny so, for me, it is a "fat game" as I've only been playing it as a fat person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I honestly don't get why it's ok to be down on fat people because it's "unhealthy".

Plenty of slim people have poor diets and do no exercise. Many smoke (and some won't quit for fear of weight gain). Many drink. All unhealthy things but because they're not fat, it's ok.

Some fat people exercise regularly and some are fitter than a lot of slim people. But because they're fat, they're unhealthy.

There are slimmer people who are less healthy than me, but as the fat person, I'm the one who gets the "unhealthy" tag.

I was trying not to be nasty and bring this thread into a healthier debate than the OP's original 'swingings a fat game'

I'm sorry if you took it personally.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?"

Fatty bashing again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

Is that what you thought I did ? Trust ome you got me so wrong

what I pointed out was fat/slim old or young who cares .. To a lot of people including

myself its inside that counts !!!

I am going to apologise for my comment, as I probably read it wrongly and thought you were having a go at slim people.

I think that there are people out there care to much about the packaging and not what's on the inside... At the end of the day if everyone was a perfect shape/size wouldn't that be boring?

That's what I meant and the last bit was aimed @ the OP not anyone else. Anyone who took offence I too apologise "

Queen is a very goid friend of mine and wouldn`t intentionally insult anyone, I think what she said has been taken the wrong way, like she said its not all about a persons body size x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I honestly don't get why it's ok to be down on fat people because it's "unhealthy".

Plenty of slim people have poor diets and do no exercise. Many smoke (and some won't quit for fear of weight gain). Many drink. All unhealthy things but because they're not fat, it's ok.

Some fat people exercise regularly and some are fitter than a lot of slim people. But because they're fat, they're unhealthy.

There are slimmer people who are less healthy than me, but as the fat person, I'm the one who gets the "unhealthy" tag.

I was trying not to be nasty and bring this thread into a healthier debate than the OP's original 'swingings a fat game'

I'm sorry if you took it personally."

Thank you for clarifying. I'm not so much taking it personally as responding from personal experience.

Fat does not necessarily mean less healthy than slim.

For a given individual, slim is likely to be healthier but it doesn't work when comparing different people.

And as I said, I don't expect anyone to be praised for being fat. Not being insulted is not the same as being praised.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body type is a very sensitive subject. I'm going to make a point which hopefully sets out how I feel succinctly.

Julie is a sexy, slim beautiful lady who many men (and women) find incredibly sexy.

I have been told I am a sexy, curvy beautiful lady who many men (and women) find incredibly sexy.

We have different body types. We are different but yet both sexy. If we were all the same wouldn't the world be a boring place.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"I honestly don't get why it's ok to be down on fat people because it's "unhealthy".

Plenty of slim people have poor diets and do no exercise. Many smoke (and some won't quit for fear of weight gain). Many drink. All unhealthy things but because they're not fat, it's ok.

Some fat people exercise regularly and some are fitter than a lot of slim people. But because they're fat, they're unhealthy.

There are slimmer people who are less healthy than me, but as the fat person, I'm the one who gets the "unhealthy" tag.

I was trying not to be nasty and bring this thread into a healthier debate than the OP's original 'swingings a fat game'

I'm sorry if you took it personally."

Some 'healthier debates' come across as a little sanctimonious though. Unfortunately, I feel yours came across that way. You've never allowed yourself to get above a size 14? Commendable in the extreme. Us lesser, weak willed mortals, who care nothing for our health or the financial state of the NHS, clearly cannot say the same.

As for the OP's title and opening comment - inflammatory in the extreme and the sad act hasn't even been back to qualify it. But what is the opinion of a prejudiced idiot worth? Nothing in my book so I can't be bothered to get even remotely wound up by it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here's something to make us all laugh, the lurkers of the forums.

I have been offered a beer belly to see if that would break me.

Shall I accept the challenge?

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here's something to make us all laugh, the lurkers of the forums.

I have been offered a beer belly to see if that would break me.

Shall I accept the challenge?

Lol"

Yes, offer them your famous viper gripping thighs! Hehe

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X curvy = fantastic bum in this case

I'll second that and just fab'd the pic aswell

Aw thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I consider myself chubby lady thou I'm told I'm curvy and get lots of guys emailing me because of my body! I like sex but I live busy work life and this seems to me the right way of getting what I want. I've never done swinging, went to my first party this week which was good, I've observed but next time I want to play and join in, and for this reason I'm on here. I'm open and honest about how I look and if somebody doesn't like it he doesn't have to talk to me, I don't make him to.

I have low self confidence thou because of this type of guys who says that big women shouldn't have sex..... But then it's his lost as big women on here know what they want and know what to do if he doesn't want great sex he shouldn't be here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here's something to make us all laugh, the lurkers of the forums.

I have been offered a beer belly to see if that would break me.

Shall I accept the challenge?

Lol

Yes, offer them your famous viper gripping thighs! Hehe

Now that sounds fun! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I mean only dogs like bones

It makes me angry too, but there's really no need to insult slim women in retaliation. I'd like to see acceptance and respect for all sizes.

If something or someone isn't to your taste, move on. There's no need to single anyone out for scrutiny and judgement.

I'd like to be slimmer. I am working on becoming slimmer. Right here and now, I am who and what I am. Take it or leave it.

Is that what you thought I did ? Trust ome you got me so wrong

what I pointed out was fat/slim old or young who cares .. To a lot of people including

myself its inside that counts !!!

I am going to apologise for my comment, as I probably read it wrongly and thought you were having a go at slim people.

I think that there are people out there care to much about the packaging and not what's on the inside... At the end of the day if everyone was a perfect shape/size wouldn't that be boring?

That's what I meant and the last bit was aimed @ the OP not anyone else. Anyone who took offence I too apologise

Queen is a very goid friend of mine and wouldn`t intentionally insult anyone, I think what she said has been taken the wrong way, like she said its not all about a persons body size x"

Thank you hunnie x glad you get me xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here's something to make us all laugh, the lurkers of the forums.

I have been offered a beer belly to see if that would break me.

Shall I accept the challenge?

Lol

Yes, offer them your famous viper gripping thighs! Hehe

Now that sounds fun! Lol

Can I watch?!? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X "

Agree theres a big difference

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

curvy - (of a woman's body) having a large bosom and pleasing curves; "Hollywood seems full of curvaceous blondes"; "a curvy young woman in a tight dress"

bosomy, busty, buxom, curvaceous, full-bosomed, sonsie, sonsy, well-endowed, stacked, voluptuous

shapely - having a well-proportioned and pleasing shape; "a slim waist and shapely legs"

Taken from an online dictionary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I also think it is down to individuals to self identify their body type. I class myself as curvy (this does not mean I want people to publicly agree or disagree with me) because I have boobs, a waist and hips. I know I am not slim, I know I am "fat" but I identify as curvy. It is down to the individual to choose their body type on here. I have clear full body pictures on my profile which shows what I look like - I don't shy away from it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

I read something yesterday that said people from Cambridge are having more sex than anyone else in the country

Seems a lot of people from that area are having a huge amount of fun regardless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Another dig and the inevitable upset it causes - why , so pointless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read something yesterday that said people from Cambridge are having more sex than anyone else in the country

Seems a lot of people from that area are having a huge amount of fun regardless

What?! Us fatties should know our place! How disgusting!

Outraged of Basingstoke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when i used to get messages from men who had pictures of slim fit women on their profiles it sometimes put me off a bit, but now it doesnt bother me and doesnt seem to bother them either. :-

as long as they are nice people.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I'm playing the fat game.

I'm gigantic as my health made me go from a size 8 to a 24, but recently lost 4 stone and I'm now a size 18-20. Still not ideal, but sadly its impossible to exercise for me, even my physio refuses to give me light exercise.

I'd like to rant forever, but I'll get a ban and previous comments have already been words of wisdom.

Shame the OP hasn't returned to the thread. Is it to deliberately wind people up????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a strange thing to say...larger people arent diseased!! Some of the sexiest best lovers ive been with have been larger ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?"

Thoughts? Yes, I have one.

What are you getting out of posting a thread like this, when you are supposedly only looking for men and male-only couples?

Don't really see the point you are trying to make (if there actually is one) other than to shout 'Look at all the fat birds who live near us!!!' which is YOUR problem and certainly not theirs...

So what if a lot of people, who the medical profession dismiss as over-weight or obese, have the confidence to put up a profile on here and enjoy their sexuality just as much as anyone else?

Is that hurting you? No. You have a choice not to meet such people, just as they have the choice to stay with the body size/shape they have - specially if they are comfortable with it.

and

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another dig and the inevitable upset it causes - why , so pointless

Grrrrrrrrrrr!!!

and

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The one thing i have always liked about swingiong is theres someone for every, men and women, fat and thin, black and white, religulous and none religulous, we all swing

The thing i have also liked about swinging, more so in club is people are accepting of others, lots of larger ladies go to clubs and dress in such a way they wouldnt have the confidance to anywhere else, because most swingers are mature adults and dont judge

Of course you will always get some who do, but thats just life

The nation on a whole is getting bigger but there are still plenty of slim ladies on here, just talk to them if thats your preference

Also what you call big is subjectional. what you look at and think is large others may see as average

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ALL THE GOOD LOOKING, NICE, THIN PEOPLE IN CAMBRIDGESHIRE HAVE BLOCKED YOU SO THEY DONT SHOW UP IN YOUR SEARCHING! PEOPLE ARE VERY SELECTIVE YOU KNOW!

After reading the whole thread I reckon this answer wins the gold medal lol"

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ALL THE GOOD LOOKING, NICE, THIN PEOPLE IN CAMBRIDGESHIRE HAVE BLOCKED YOU SO THEY DONT SHOW UP IN YOUR SEARCHING! PEOPLE ARE VERY SELECTIVE YOU KNOW!

After reading the whole thread I reckon this answer wins the gold medal lol"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am clinically obese according to the BMI indices and really should be dead of a heart attack any day soon.

Mr M

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meh, there are people of all shapes and sizes on here, plenty of fit, gym toned bodies on here too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing i have always liked about swingiong is theres someone for every, men and women, fat and thin, black and white, religulous and none religulous, we all swing

Of course you will always get some who do, but thats just life

The nation on a whole is getting bigger but there are still plenty of slim ladies on here, just talk to them if thats your preference

Also what you call big is subjectional. what you look at and think is large others may see as average"

totally agree NN

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are clubs and parties for everything. Get yourself onto one of those lists where like-minded people judge whether someone is good enough to enter their club. You might find you are too old at 40+ but that's their preference and their right to choose.

You're right on one thing there Lickety - STOP putting yourself down!

You sparked a memory/feeling in me with something you said in there. My introduction to swinging was when I was 24, slim, VERY fit (passed a Royal Marines fitness test - oh yes!) and - some would say then - fairly handsome.

My 'introduction' to swinging was servicing a number of bored, fairly wealthy ladies in Essex thanks to the Mum of my then GF. Did those ladies (in their 40's to 50's then) want me for 'me'? Of course they didn't. They just wanted a slim, fit young guy to make them feel good for a few hours.

My point being: Did being a young, slim, fit guy who could fuck hard and make a 40+ bored housewife feel good about herself help ME with how I felt about MYSELF...?? No, it most certainly did not. The shoe was on the other foot.

Swinging isn't about how good you look - it's how it makes you AND your partner(s) feel INSIDE. And sometimes, you get the right 'feeling' with someone who may be the complete antithesis of how YOU look - it's a sexual thing, not a visual thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Voluptous women are God's great gift! Stand clear men, this ones for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am going to throw a hand-grenade in.. there IS an element of truth to what the OP has said.

I can only speculate why that should be.. the age of the participants (none of us 40 somethings are in the shape we used to be in no matter how hard we try) and the opportunity that some of the larger people may have to find some action through the 'usual channels'.

Hardly a problem though, each to their own. I am sure this preference argument has been on here somewhere before...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"curvy - (of a woman's body) having a large bosom and pleasing curves; "Hollywood seems full of curvaceous blondes"; "a curvy young woman in a tight dress"

bosomy, busty, buxom, curvaceous, full-bosomed, sonsie, sonsy, well-endowed, stacked, voluptuous

shapely - having a well-proportioned and pleasing shape; "a slim waist and shapely legs"

Taken from an online dictionary "
yes thats me , lol xx love some of them words .. buxom, stacked, voluptuous ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im a big lady, make no secret of the fact and opted for ample as body type but there are plenty of guys who find how I look attractive and make reference to my curves, and plenty who also find the person I am equally attractive, if someone looks at our profile and doesnt like what they see so what, each to his own.

I havent read the whole thread so forgive me if this point has already been made but Im curious to know whether the OP did the same search on men - how many men on the site describe themselves as athletic but have photos that clearly prove otherwise.

We are all what we are - take it or leave it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im a big lady, make no secret of the fact and opted for ample as body type but there are plenty of guys who find how I look attractive and make reference to my curves, and plenty who also find the person I am equally attractive, if someone looks at our profile and doesnt like what they see so what, each to his own.

We are all what we are - take it or leave it"

Honestly, men are not quite so bad (i know, surprise, right) with it being more like 5/10.

We'd like to thank you all for the replies, and especially the many who PM'd us thanking for actually saying what they were thinking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a big part of this is what people perceive as fat. Although the UK average dress size is now a 14 that doesn't mean that the average person isn't overweight. It just means that society on average are eating more and doing less (exercise). I've seen many profiles where a women has classed herself as curvy and they have been far from fat. But I've also seen a lot that class themselves as average or curvy and they have been hugely overweight.

It all comes down to peoples perception and also what they're comfortable with. There are people that are overweight and are comfortable with the word fat when refering to someone that's overweight but I guarentee there are people that have took offence to the original post and those that followed that referred to people overweight as "fat".

I have to agree with the the original poster that its the same for where I am. The larger percentage of women from my area are overweight. I'm not having a dig at anyone or speculating why this is the case, it just is.

At the end of the day there are all types of people of all shapes and sizes. If you don't like someone's profile then just move on and chat to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"how many men on the site describe themselves as athletic but have photos that clearly prove otherwise.

We are all what we are - take it or leave it"

Got to agree with this. When I notice this I wonder if the person that described themself as athletic (but is clearly not) either

A. Ticked the wrong box by accident

B. Is trying to decieve people (poorly)

C. Has a misconceived perception of themselves.

?????

I suppose that it once again comes down to peoples perception of what Athletic looks like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fool your going to get eaten alive for thislol x

Bahahahahhaha!! I'm just settling down with my popcorn. Would you like some? X "

Me too lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For my height i should be at least 2 stone lighter than what I am. I consider myself fat and would love to be slimmer. . but just cant seem to stop putting food in my gob

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe that stems from years and years of not feeling good and the pressure being placed on women to be 'slim to be attractive'"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For my height i should be at least 2 stone lighter than what I am. I consider myself fat and would love to be slimmer. . but just cant seem to stop putting food in my gob

If youre fat then you have a good photographer

Unless it's the male half posting which in that case put the camera down and start burning off those calories

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe that stems from years and years of not feeling good and the pressure being placed on women to be 'slim to be attractive'

Swinging is a real boost to girls who lack confidence in their bodies. Almost like a very fun form of therapy !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe that stems from years and years of not feeling good and the pressure being placed on women to be 'slim to be attractive'

Swinging is a real boost to girls who lack confidence in their bodies. Almost like a very fun form of therapy !"
Do you know your so wright in saying that. xxxx

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By *r_TrojanMan over a year ago

In The North

These sort of threads as far as I am concerned really don't serve any purpose except for being flamebait... so no offence to the OP, if you dont like fat people, no need to start threads slating them even if you disguise the topic as a point of discussion..

I hate the word fat anyway... Prefer, curvy and voluptuous etc... and seeing as I got a big ass, yeah I said, if get to spank a nice curvy ass and she gets to spank mine, we good

SO where the curvy, voluptuous ladies at???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For my height i should be at least 2 stone lighter than what I am. I consider myself fat and would love to be slimmer. . but just cant seem to stop putting food in my gob

If youre fat then you have a good photographer

Unless it's the male half posting which in that case put the camera down and start burning off those calories

female half speaking..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there is definitely a higher number of

over weight people vs slim athletic on here

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By *nteressanteMan over a year ago

Manchester

Personally size (within reason) is not an issue for me, can appreciate a woman with curves as much as a slender girl.....for me the connection and the chemistry is much more cerebral.

It does amuse me however when I read some of thr profiles of the more BBW type (hate that phrase btw you're not automatically beautiful just cos you're big)some of whom have even contributed on here, who insist on the "more muscley type".......can you imagine a portly chap with a generous raunch paunch stipulating in his profile he's only looking for sylph like ladies with big tits? He'd be laughed out of the place. It does seem the weight prejudice only applies one way

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like curvy in a woman, toned in a man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The op is well known for starting anti fat threads, i would prefer to be fat than have there attitude. However each to their own.

Maybe they messaged a fattie at some point and was turned down

I'd rather be ugly on the outside than ugly on the inside!"

Same here, you can do things to amend the outside, but the inside is the bit that cant be changed.

Personally, it is the full package that does it for me, curves, lumps, bumps, muscles, etc etc etc so long as it all belongs to a beautiful person.

Attraction always starts from within, and no matter how good looking a person is, if they have an ugly personality or attitude, then I could never, ever consider them a beautiful person.

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

I list myself as curvy, people probably think i'm fat.......ted

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Personally size (within reason) is not an issue for me, can appreciate a woman with curves as much as a slender girl.....for me the connection and the chemistry is much more cerebral.

and yet you often see it in real life...ok, i guess money might have something to do with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every fake profile is a skinny model type woman

Never seen a fake profile who have put up pics of a larger lady

Naturally these fake profiles are just for dirty talk or pic collecting and never meet so it appears as though larger girls are more likely to meet, when simply as a percentage there are very little fake larger girl profiles

My $0.02

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There should be another option for bodies....... WHALE

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

"There should be another option for bodies....... WHALE "

killer whale, sleek, fast, plays with its food before it eats it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There should be another option for bodies....... WHALE

killer whale, sleek, fast, plays with its food before it eats it

thats me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didnt you know that fatties come on here cause they cant get a shag anywhere else, add that to guys will sleep with anything

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I've never shagged a fridge so I don't sleep with anything am I normal

Ps bbws rule

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't it simple? If you don't like what you see move on to the next profile ? We're all different, fat,thin, old, young ?

Why start a thread created just to upset and or annoy a particular group of people? Maybe we are more prevailent on here because we're all real people comfortable enough with our bodies to enjoy a healthy sex life?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"There should be another option for bodies....... WHALE "

and people wonder why larger ladies get defenssive??

what a very childish and hurtful comment

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Every fake profile is a skinny model type woman

Never seen a fake profile who have put up pics of a larger lady

My $0.02"

i've never seen a fake profile full stop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There should be another option for bodies....... WHALE

and people wonder why larger ladies get defenssive??

what a very childish and hurtful comment"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i just think it attracts alot more of what society would deem the "average lookers"

mr and mrs average get the most action onhere because the attraction is there

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Personally size (within reason) is not an issue for me, can appreciate a woman with curves as much as a slender girl.....for me the connection and the chemistry is much more cerebral.

yep agree with this...there are rather a lot of single females on here punching well above their weight "no pun intended" in terms of what they want...

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"i just think it attracts alot more of what society would deem the "average lookers"

mr and mrs average get the most action onhere because the attraction is there"

Yep theres probably many on here and other sites that couldn't buy a shag with anyone other than there own partners in the vanilla world...

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By *insfordcoupleCouple over a year ago

winsford cheshire

While we understand that society as a whole is getting fatter, there does seem to be an imbalance, at least in these counties, of fat to slim women.

Thoughts?"

You dont know what your missing out on with the bubbly personality people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I love a woman with a fuller figure but I also love a good personality. I also detest threads being disrespectful hurtful and thoughtless to other peoples feelings!!!!

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By *cotsman76Man over a year ago

EDINBURGH

i think we may have simply found ourselfs a troll!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

I don't think it's a dig at fat people. In my opinion the Op is stating what he believes to be a fact and asking if anyone else thinks the same.

I agree with him that if you look at the single women in your local area on the search that most of them are overweight. When I say agree with him I mean that most of the single women in the area I live are.

But then I guess that doesn't mean a lot when the national average dress size is a 14 and when you say that most people say "14 isn't overweight". For a woman that's 6' that may be true but for most women that are 5'6 or below then I'm pretty sure that a size 14 would put them into the overweight catagory.

Does that make them a bad person? Of course not! Does that make them less attractive? To some yes. Does it make them MORE attractive? To others YES.

I think most people would like to be a couple of lbs lighter if they were honest. Don't get hung up on every thread that mentions "fat" or "overweight". I was in the skinny (and I mean really skinny) cattegory for a long time. I decided to do something about it because I wasn't happy that way.

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By *amps37Woman over a year ago

Southsea

Im a size 18 n ive never been happy with my body since having 4 kids! I hated my body! Since being on the swinging scene I have become alot happier n more comfortable with myself. I see many different body shapes n sizes n we r all truely beautiful. Swinging has def made a huge impact in my life n im so glad that I started.....i may not be to everyones taste, but hey, not everyones mine lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say as a man I don't want to have sex with a woman who has a body shape similar to mine. I wonder sometimes about the real sexual orientation of men who like skinny boyish girls....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im a size 18 n ive never been happy with my body since having 4 kids! I hated my body! Since being on the swinging scene I have become alot happier n more comfortable with myself. I see many different body shapes n sizes n we r all truely beautiful. Swinging has def made a huge impact in my life n im so glad that I started.....i may not be to everyones taste, but hey,

not everyones mine lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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im the same after having 5 kids my ex used to put me down saying no one would like me.i lefted after 20years joined fab and have now the confidiance

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

I don't think it's a dig at fat people. In my opinion the Op is stating what he believes to be a fact and asking if anyone else thinks the same.

Does that make them a bad person? Of course not! Does that make them less attractive? To some yes. Does it make them MORE attractive? To others YES.

Well said that man

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

Nobody said all slim women were beautiful but they don't give themselves a tag to they ?

When have you ever hear SBW ?

When i said about pulling in the real world where did i mention fat people ?

I didn't because i was generalising ...

If your happy with how you are why get so wound up over a thread just ignore it ?

Responding the way most of you do can mean only one thing .. Maybe your more insecure than you make out ?

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

Nobody said all slim women were beautiful but they don't give themselves a tag to they ?

When have you ever hear SBW ?

When i said about pulling in the real world where did i mention fat people ?

I didn't because i was generalising ...

If your happy with how you are why get so wound up over a thread just ignore it ?

Responding the way most of you do can mean only one thing .. Maybe your more insecure than you make out ?

Oh and btw i never feel the need rant and rave to justify anything about myself on a forum,so no insecurities here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *reyyaMan over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I'm described on my profile as curvy but by no means am I 'fat' I'm a 12-14 with boobs, bum and hips. That's what I class as curvy. Curvy doesn't mean fat! X "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

how come you been looking on info bout local women in your area, when ya profile states ya just after men!?? whats the point in this thread??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fat, thin, slim, curvy, fabulous, who cares. Why can't we stop labelling people, regardless of size and shape and just have a bloody good time.

I understand people's preferences and differences but why the need for such vitriol?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"i never feel the need rant and rave to justify anything about myself on a forum"

I'm in agreement with you on this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

The second B was originally boned as in big boned women and it was used to describe taller women with a buxom figure. The Be for beautiful was more recent picked up by women who wished emphasise the nature of their look. If thats how they _iew themselves thats totally acceptable as its their _iewpoint. Others many not agree but thats their choice too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

But if a skinny lass was to put on their profile im a skinny beautiful woman they would be slated for being vain and full of themselfs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol bloody hell, will we ever see judgement day when there will be no more insulting 'fat' threads.

Honestly the cries of 'why do women say BBW, they shouldn't be allowed to use the second B. Of course it goes to say that all slim people are facially attractive aren't they!

Or there's the old faithful 'they wouldn't be able to pull in the real world'.

Its always the same few couples coming out with these comments too.

I wonder why these same group of people feel the need to abuse on these threads. Wouldn't be anything to do with insecurity would it?

Nobody said all slim women were beautiful but they don't give themselves a tag to they ?

When have you ever hear SBW ?

When i said about pulling in the real world where did i mention fat people ?

I didn't because i was generalising ...

If your happy with how you are why get so wound up over a thread just ignore it ?

Responding the way most of you do can mean only one thing .. Maybe your more insecure than you make out ?

Well I dont know where the term BBW was coined from. Id never heard of it until I joined this site. No idea who started it. I never use that term to describe myself but im not defined but a set of initials.

Id also like to ask you why you have come to the conclusion that I am wound up. I am not and I dont feel this thread relates to me in any way.

I am simply stating that every time a BBW thread is started, there are a certain few people who always feel the urge to post on them and become abusive. Albeit hiding that abusive behind select words.

I couldnt give a damn about anyones size and I dont care what people call me or describe my body as, I am never ever going to come into contact with these people, so its hardly going to influence me is it. I challenge things, not because I feel its a personal afront, but because I dislike bullying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apologies for the errors in grammar, I havent got my glasses on and my brain in working quicker that my fingers can type

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why do people think fat women are more fun?

slim women are just as capable of being funny,and they look better naked as a bonus

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"why do people think fat women are more fun?

slim women are just as capable of being funny,and they look better naked as a bonus"

oh dear oh dear!

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By *els_BellsWoman over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"why do people think fat women are more fun?

slim women are just as capable of being funny,and they look better naked as a bonus"

And some people wonder why larger build women take offence at threads/posts like these.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

swinging is a game that clearly gives everyone an option.

if like me this has been ur sole means of experiencing it so far then there is a clear demographic associated with it

just cant hide from that fact

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