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Do you think it’s wrong
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol |
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles "
Yes fully agree with you. Too easy for people to fake who they really are on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At face value yes, it is wrong. Everyone has different circumstances and I am not here to judge. Not my bag but people use this site for variety of different reasons. |
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Obviously it's wrong. How do they expect people on here to believe that they'll have respect for them when they don't even respect their own partner!
What makes us laugh is the ones that claim they're honest because they admit! |
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There's a difference between what is helpful, would widely be appreciated and what Fab encourages to be in a profile. It's totally a personal choice what each user decides to put.'Fill in later' is the most that you'll get from many clueless people 
Fab could ask about the relationship status of users, as a required field to be completed. I think it would be helpful.
But the quality and value of what's added is likely to be very questionable for many people. This doesn't mean that it wouldn't be a good site change though.
It's up to each of us to seek the information that we want, prior to engaging sexually with others. The onus remains with us, to only proceed with our acceptance of this responsibility. Those who deceive fully hold responsibility for that though. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol"
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"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
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For me it's timewasting as from my experience, they tell you way into getting to know them phase. I rather see it on their profile |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"At face value yes, it is wrong. Everyone has different circumstances and I am not here to judge. Not my bag but people use this site for variety of different reasons. "
yes I get advice on where to shop for summer clothes Now |
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"Obviously it's wrong. How do they expect people on here to believe that they'll have respect for them when they don't even respect their own partner!
What makes us laugh is the ones that claim they're honest because they admit!"
This!!!  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Obviously it's wrong. How do they expect people on here to believe that they'll have respect for them when they don't even respect their own partner!
What makes us laugh is the ones that claim they're honest because they admit!
This!!! "
this |
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We’ve had one guy talk the single game but when it came to trying to organise a social we were told it would have to be after 11 at night. So we asked out right was he married and if so did his wife no and he said yes he is and no she didn’t so we politely said not for us as it’s not our thing.
We do understand that there may be many many reasons health/work/no sex ect but it’s just not for us. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
The ones who admit it on their profile are at least giving others a choice about if they want to get involved or not .
Years ago I spoke to a bloke for a while ,he hadn't mentioned a partner & said he was single when asked ,but days later confessed he wasn't.
I found that really irritating as I'm not into attached men and state it on my profile.He still tried to persuade me to meet,but it was a big no from me.
I can often get a gut feeling if someone's being dishonest and any chat would go no further.
The ones that really make my skin crawl are those who make no mention of a wife ,then want to make her swing or set her up with a meet from here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s usually pretty damn obvious.
No public pictures “because of my job”, shadow avatar, can’t accommodate etc etc.
yeh yeh it may be true by why should we take a chance in some righteously angry woman kicking a hotel door in? |
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By *iss Kink OP Woman
over a year ago
North West |
"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
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Chatting for a bit? I think they should disclose right away so you have the choice of whether to continue |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
Chatting for a bit? I think they should disclose right away so you have the choice of whether to continue "
Or you could ask straight away and find out for yourself .That's what I've always done .
It's not up to anyone else on here to decide what others should have on their profiles as far as I'm concerned anyhow.It is their profile and their choice. |
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By *iss Kink OP Woman
over a year ago
North West |
"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
Chatting for a bit? I think they should disclose right away so you have the choice of whether to continue
Or you could ask straight away and find out for yourself .That's what I've always done .
It's not up to anyone else on here to decide what others should have on their profiles as far as I'm concerned anyhow.It is their profile and their choice."
If I’m in any doubt I ask I just don’t think people should be misleading |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
Chatting for a bit? I think they should disclose right away so you have the choice of whether to continue "
Also they should pass those profiles by, who don't want to meet attached people . |
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"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
Chatting for a bit? I think they should disclose right away so you have the choice of whether to continue
Also they should pass those profiles by, who don't want to meet attached people ."
Yep. We state it on our profile but we still get messages and winks from men who are playing away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab could ask about the relationship status of users, as a required field to be completed. "
People would just lie. I once found my buddies wife claiming to be single on a dating app. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or you get the couples profile saying only the male half meeting today bit of a red flag that one"
There seems to be a lot of these profiles.
I make it clear I'm married on my profile. If that's not for you fair enough, just like I don't message anyone who says they don't want to meet attached/married that's their choice aswell.
I personally cant understand why people bother lying on here. Hopefully everyone is actually an adult, we all have our own kinks, fantasies and we are all basically looking for the same thing why bother with the stupid lying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles "
Well my bios respectful  |
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I'm upfront and honest about my situation on my profile, and that my partner consents to what I do.
That gives the reader the choice to either be interested, or move on and find another profile more suited to their preferences. |
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"The ones that really make my skin crawl are those who make no mention of a wife ,then want to make her swing or set her up with a meet from here ."
My thoughts exactly. It's a safe bet that this "wife" doesn't even exist. Very cringeworthy and devious. |
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"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol"
Not quite sure it’s just the men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol
Not quite sure it’s just the men "
I concur |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I think they don't have to put anything on their profile they don't want to put on there.
I do think they should tell someone when they are chatting for a bit or if asked about it the truth if they are in a relationship or married.
Chatting for a bit? I think they should disclose right away so you have the choice of whether to continue "
Isn’t that glaring obvious? |
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"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol
Not quite sure it’s just the men
I concur "
Completely agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can't stand people who cheat. Had a guy round for a social one evening (told us he was single of course) Suddenly says he wishes his wife would get involved in swinging! Out the door he went. |
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"There's also a double standard, if a woman's profile states she is a "hotwife" and hubby knows. Guaranteed 100% of the time nobody questions it. "
This isn't referring to folks playing with consent, from the sounds of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's also a double standard, if a woman's profile states she is a "hotwife" and hubby knows. Guaranteed 100% of the time nobody questions it. "
But a hot wife is a wife who isn’t playing away, she’s playing with her husbands consent and encouragement.
Very different to cheating. |
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"There's also a double standard, if a woman's profile states she is a "hotwife" and hubby knows. Guaranteed 100% of the time nobody questions it.
But a hot wife is a wife who isn’t playing away, she’s playing with her husbands consent and encouragement.
Very different to cheating. "
But we only have their word for it, isn't that exactly the sane point as above? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's really annoying to know they don't disclose this on their profile as not everyone wants to play with attached guy "
Yes, but even if they claim to be single they are sometimes lying, so what is on a profile sadly doesn't prove much. |
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By *insationCouple
over a year ago
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles "
We find lots of single women, majority in fact, state that are single, but can never accommodate....Red flags |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's also a double standard, if a woman's profile states she is a "hotwife" and hubby knows. Guaranteed 100% of the time nobody questions it.
But a hot wife is a wife who isn’t playing away, she’s playing with her husbands consent and encouragement.
Very different to cheating.
But we only have their word for it, isn't that exactly the sane point as above?"
Just ask to speak to the husband on the phone for confirmation, problem solved.
A hot wife is not the same as cheating on your other half.
The post above refers to those who don’t state in their profile that they’re married or have a partner, someone labelling themselves a “hot wife” is literally telling you they’re attached. |
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"Obviously it's wrong. How do they expect people on here to believe that they'll have respect for them when they don't even respect their own partner!
What makes us laugh is the ones that claim they're honest because they admit!"
Exactly this. Whatever their excuses for doing so it’s just shows complete lack of respect for the ones they supposedly love, as well as their selves, putting both their mental and physical health at risk. Yes sometimes honesty isn’t always the best policy for some but in a lot of cases it is so people can make the appropriate decisions for themselves to either walk away or carry on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles
We find lots of single women, majority in fact, state that are single, but can never accommodate....Red flags"
Probably they don't want a stranger to know where they live!! Some men just turn up at all hours demanding a fuck. |
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By *iss Kink OP Woman
over a year ago
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles
We find lots of single women, majority in fact, state that are single, but can never accommodate....Red flags"
Many women have children and I for one wouldn’t let any strangers into my home ever! |
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles
We find lots of single women, majority in fact, state that are single, but can never accommodate....Red flags
Many women have children and I for one wouldn’t let any strangers into my home ever! "
2nd this! |
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles "
People lie to get what they want  |
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Married or not if a profile says not interested in single guys. Why pretend you are a couple? We have had two ‘couples’ message and once we say the females can speak first they no longer reply
Move on… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol"
Not all men on here are like that...those that aren't, know that they get found out and if they are really looking for something regular, better to be upfront from the start  |
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Yes you see it a lot and I do think guys should be up front about it. I make it quite clear that I am married but we don’t often swing together.
I find it the same as the guys whose profiles say they are straight but they keep messaging me to meet them.
If you can’t be honest on your profile then what else are you lying about? You rely a lot on trust in swinging so to find someone is not being truthful is a big red flag in my opinion. |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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There are loads of questionable or bad behaviour on Fab and on profiles. Only way to deal with it is to be clear on what you are looking for and ask questions/get a feel and be prepared to walk away.
Some of our bugbears:
1) Single female profiles looking for couples but then it turns out they are a couple and only meet couples together (so not a single female).
2) Couples profiles where, miraculously, only the male is available or in town right now!
3) Single male profiles who want to meet couples but it is very quickly clear they really only want to meet your wife not actually have a MFM (straight).
Men and women not declaring they are married is going to happen. We just ask. It isn’t really a moral judgement for us, more a case of wanting to avoid drama and hassle. |
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I've sat come to the conclusion that a very large number of people on here are lying in some way. Whenever I make contact with someone I assume they could be fake and look for signs that they are genuine rather than the other way round. I may well have lost out on playing with some genuine people because of this approach but I don't like being lied to. Honesty is the best policy. |
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People have all sorts of reasons for doing things.
I have met with women who are married/engaged/in a relationship. I ask that people are upfront about this kind of thing, so I know what I am potentially getting involved in.
I don't judge them for making whatever choice they make (as I said, they have their reasons). Frankly, it's none of my business and not my problem. |
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"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol"
They only do that cos women won’t sleep with them if they are truthful;-) |
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"That people don’t put on their profile they are married or have a partner. I see so many posts from men saying I want wife to do this or that. But no mention on their profiles "
Do I think it’s wrong? Absolutely.
Is it going to stop people from being untruthful? Absolutely not |
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By *zlakMan
over a year ago
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Is it wrong to lie? Of course it is! But saying its a red flag if a single guy or woman cannot accommodate doesn't always mean they are married or have a partner.
I don't accommodate for one because my children live with me and i don't want ramdom strangers in my house.
But alot of people do lie and it will never stop. |
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"I always state from the start,that I'm married and she doesn't know I'm on here.
Would love people to say it's a polite no, but 99% just block or delete. "
What’s the difference? If they say no, you’re done with them. If they block you, you’re done with them. Surely it doesn’t matter if they reply or not…? If they’re blocking you, you’d move on and know that if you forgot who they were, you’d not have to waste time messaging them again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always state from the start,that I'm married and she doesn't know I'm on here.
Would love people to say it's a polite no, but 99% just block or delete.
What’s the difference? If they say no, you’re done with them. If they block you, you’re done with them. Surely it doesn’t matter if they reply or not…? If they’re blocking you, you’d move on and know that if you forgot who they were, you’d not have to waste time messaging them again "
This. I never understand people who beg for a response, a block or a delete is a response. It doesn’t get anymore direct than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men lie to get laid, it's a sure as the sunrise, sunset and taxes.
They're married when it suits and single when it suits. I assume most men are married on here, and then judge after that lol"
There are plenty of women too who aim to look single on all platforms to gain attention |
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